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Rand E

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About Rand E

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  • Birthday 03/31/1972

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  1. I've been married for 25+ years. My wife and I are a long-term spanko switch couple from before we were married, and I always thank God I found her. So, my experiences with spanko dating are a bit, well, dated. So, take my musings with a grain of salt - as you should with any advice from internet sites. I never took the head-on direct approach. I found dates in about the same way as vanilla folks do, but I paid a lot of attention to any signs of an interest in spanking. I also found that many of the gals I dated, even absent any real outward signs, found it fun and sexy to experiment
  2. Rand E

    Subspace

    i feel like I've tried every style and level of spanking from fun to pleasure to pain to punishment. I still have no clue about sub-space. As intriguing as the concept is, I don't think it will ever happen for me, so I just had to stop trying for it and put it on the back-burner. Not only that, but my wife was starting to think I was getting obsessive about it. Frankly, she thinks the idea is a bit strange. I'm not giving up spanking by any means, so maybe, one day, it will just happen for me. In the meantime, I will be patient and keep an open mind.
  3. My wife and I follow the 4 D's structure on our disciplinary rules, especially Dishonesty. But I think you have to really look at the circumstances to determine whether a lite is severe, or even important. The simple fact is, you don't owe everybody the whole truth and nothing but the truth. I'm not that concerned about white lies and minor deceptions between my wife and me. But there are situations where lying is clearly a big transgression, and on those occasions where it results in discipline, I don't think either of us had any misconceptions about the seriousness of it or the need for
  4. Well good for you! Your dom behavior, and his sub behavior, they both sound really good. It's awesome that he came around to this on his own. I would take it easy and let this first experience sink in. He may punish you dozens of times before he comes around to thinking about submission again, but the die is cast. Thanks for sharing. And you MUST keep us posted.
  5. Sorry to hear you are having a bit of a dry spell. I understand completely. I'm being patient and waiting to see what happens next for my wife and me. Hopefully, we get back in the groove soon. But whatever happens, or doesn't, I am dedicated to our marital relationship. I hope yours is solid. That's what matters.
  6. When my wife and I started doing DD - after many years of being a spanko switch couple - the stark difference between being in a spanking relationship and being in a DD relationship took some getting used to. There were many times when we had disciplinary sessions where neither of us was even remotely in the "mood" for it. That is as it should be. But it's also very challenging. When you have a conflict going, feelings are hurt, and you are tense and defensive, it's hard to submit, even when you know you are in the wrong. The best advice I can offer would be to wait until there is a
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