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If you are an ‘EE you have probably experienced that helpless feeling when the pain is so intense that your brain is on fire and starts flooding you with rapid thoughts.  It always seemed like my brain was trying to find some way to exit the pain and that the longer the pain persisted, the faster it went.  
 

Once I got to this state, because of the level of panic and fear, it became very difficult to do anything that would help.  For me, the key was avoiding getting to this state.   

There are some strategies I have used to endure spankings that may help you.  The ones I used depended on the context and severity and my attitude toward the ‘ER.  
 

1. Adopt an angry mindset. If I can get to an angry mindset, I find that I can tolerate a lot more.  I would breathe aggressively and forcefully and even snarl and growl right from the beginning, before the first blow landed. This got me through one where skin was ripped off of me.  In the beginning the ‘ER said, “I’m going to need you to breathe slower so you don’t hyperventilate.”  I said “I’m doing what I need to do to get through this.”  Your relationship with your ‘ER may make it hard for you to get into this headspace, but otherwise it can help.

2. Use “pain acceptance” strategies. 
Here it is key to stop your brain from drifting into a narrative about what is happening.  Pain is often intensified by the narrative we create around it.  It is counterintuitive, but focus on the pain by imagining you are breathing in and out of the areas where the blows are landing.  Note the details like a curious observer, e.g., the area over which the pain extends, thud versus sting, how the pain radiates after each blow.  The trick is not to get caught up in thinking about these things, just observe them from a sensory standpoint. Don’t create a running narrative in your head.  Just sense and notice.  I have used this in the hospital when pain gets really bad also.  I like this technique, but it can be hard to do if the ‘ER overwhelms you.

3. Dissociate.  Pain needs your brain.  If your brain is somewhere else, you won’t feel the pain.  There are different ways to do this. One is to imagine yourself watching the spanking from above as an observer.  Then, imagine yourself pulling away until the scene of your spanking gets smaller and smaller until you are no longer there.  Another way is to just imagine yourself somewhere else doing something.  Make it participatory so you start talking to whomever you are envisioning.  I talk to my first dog.  Not only does this help with spankings, but it can help with really overwhelming pain of other types.  I used it in the ER (the hospital kind) when my bladder came close to rupturing.  It didn’t eliminate the pain, but it did help.

If you are an ‘EE you have probably experienced that helpless feeling when the pain is so intense that your brain is on fire and starts flooding you with rapid thoughts.  It always seemed like my brain was trying to find some way to exit the pain and that the longer the pain persisted, the faster it went.  
 

Once I got to this state, because of the level of panic and fear, it became very difficult to do anything that would help.  For me, the key was avoiding getting to this state.   

There are some strategies I have used to endure spankings that may help you.  The ones I used depended on the context and severity and my attitude toward the ‘ER.  
 

1. Adopt an angry mindset. If I can get to an angry mindset, I find that I can tolerate a lot more.  I would breathe aggressively and forcefully and even snarl and growl right from the beginning, before the first blow landed. This got me through one where skin was ripped off of me.  In the beginning the ‘ER said, “I’m going to need you to breathe slower so you don’t hyperventilate.”  I said “I’m doing what I need to do to get through this.”  Your relationship with your ‘ER may make it hard for you to get into this headspace, but otherwise it can help.

2. Use “pain acceptance” strategies. 
Here it is key to stop your brain from drifting into a narrative about what is happening.  Pain is often intensified by the narrative we create around it.  It is counterintuitive, but focus on the pain by imagining you are breathing in and out of the areas where the blows are landing.  Note the details like a curious observer, e.g., the area over which the pain extends, thud versus sting, how the pain radiates after each blow.  The trick is not to get caught up in thinking about these things, just observe them from a sensory standpoint. Don’t create a running narrative in your head.  Just sense and notice.  I have used this in the hospital when pain gets really bad also.  I like this technique, but it can be hard to do if the ‘ER overwhelms you.

3. Dissociate.  Pain needs your brain.  If your brain is somewhere else, you won’t feel the pain.  There are different ways to do this. One is to imagine yourself watching the spanking from above as an observer.  Then, imagine yourself pulling away until the scene of your spanking gets smaller and smaller until you are no longer there.  Another way is to just imagine yourself somewhere else doing something.  Make it participatory so you start talking to whomever you are envisioning.  I talk to my first dog.  Not only does this help with spankings, but it can help with really overwhelming pain of other types.  I used it in the ER (the hospital kind) when my bladder came close to rupturing.  It didn’t eliminate the pain, but it did help.

If you are an ‘EE you have probably experienced that helpless feeling when the pain is so intense that your brain is on fire and starts flooding you with rapid thoughts.  It always seemed like my brain was trying to find some way to exit the pain and that the longer the pain persisted, the faster it went.  
 

Once I got to this state, because of the level of panic and fear, it became very difficult to do anything that would help.  For me, the key was avoiding getting to this state.   

There are some strategies I have used to endure spankings that may help you.  The ones I used depended on the context and severity and my attitude toward the ‘ER.  
 

1. Adopt an angry mindset. If I can get to an angry mindset, I find that I can tolerate a lot more.  I would breathe aggressively and forcefully and even snarl and growl right from the beginning, before the first blow landed. This got me through one where skin was ripped off of me.  In the beginning the ‘ER said, “I’m going to need you to breathe slower so you don’t hyperventilate.”  I said “I’m doing what I need to do to get through this.”  Your relationship with your ‘ER may make it hard for you to get into this headspace, but otherwise it can help.

2. Use “pain acceptance” strategies. 
Here it is key to stop your brain from drifting into a narrative about what is happening.  Pain is often intensified by the narrative we create around it.  It is counterintuitive, but focus on the pain by imagining you are breathing in and out of the areas where the blows are landing.  Note the details like a curious observer, e.g., the area over which the pain extends, thud versus sting, how the pain radiates after each blow.  The trick is not to get caught up in thinking about these things, just observe them from a sensory standpoint. Don’t create a running narrative in your head.  Just sense and notice.  I have used this in the hospital when pain gets really bad also.  I like this technique, but it can be hard to do if the ‘ER overwhelms you.

3. Dissociate.  Pain needs your brain.  If your brain is somewhere else, you won’t feel the pain.  There are different ways to do this. One is to imagine yourself watching the spanking from above as an observer.  Then, imagine yourself pulling away until the scene of your spanking gets smaller and smaller until you are no longer there.  Another way is to just imagine yourself somewhere else doing something.  Make it participatory so you start talking to whomever you are envisioning.  I talk to my first dog.  Not only does this help with spankings, but it can help with really overwhelming pain of other types.  I used it in the ER (the hospital kind) when my bladder came close to rupturing.  It didn’t eliminate the pain, but it did help.

If you are an ‘EE you have probably experienced that helpless feeling when the pain is so intense that your brain is on fire and starts flooding you with rapid thoughts.  It always seemed like my brain was trying to find some way to exit the pain and that the longer the pain persisted, the faster it went.  
 

Once I got to this state, because of the level of panic and fear, it became very difficult to do anything that would help.  For me, the key was avoiding getting to this state.   

There are some strategies I have used to endure spankings that may help you.  The ones I used depended on the context and severity and my attitude toward the ‘ER.  
 

1. Adopt an angry mindset. If I can get to an angry mindset, I find that I can tolerate a lot more.  I would breathe aggressively and forcefully and even snarl and growl right from the beginning, before the first blow landed. This got me through one where skin was ripped off of me.  In the beginning the ‘ER said, “I’m going to need you to breathe slower so you don’t hyperventilate.”  I said “I’m doing what I need to do to get through this.”  Your relationship with your ‘ER may make it hard for you to get into this headspace, but otherwise it can help.

2. Use “pain acceptance” strategies. 
Here it is key to stop your brain from drifting into a narrative about what is happening.  Pain is often intensified by the narrative we create around it.  It is counterintuitive, but focus on the pain by imagining you are breathing in and out of the areas where the blows are landing.  Note the details like a curious observer, e.g., the area over which the pain extends, thud versus sting, how the pain radiates after each blow.  The trick is not to get caught up in thinking about these things, just observe them from a sensory standpoint. Don’t create a running narrative in your head.  Just sense and notice.  I have used this in the hospital when pain gets really bad also.  I like this technique, but it can be hard to do if the ‘ER overwhelms you.

3. Dissociate.  Pain needs your brain.  If your brain is somewhere else, you won’t feel the pain.  There are different ways to do this. One is to imagine yourself watching the spanking from above as an observer.  Then, imagine yourself pulling away until the scene of your spanking gets smaller and smaller until you are no longer there.  Another way is to just imagine yourself somewhere else doing something.  Make it participatory so you start talking to whomever you are envisioning.  I talk to my first dog.  Not only does this help with spankings, but it can help with really overwhelming pain of other types.  I used it in the ER (the hospital kind) when my bladder came close to rupturing.  It didn’t eliminate the pain, but it did help.

If you are an ‘EE you have probably experienced that helpless feeling when the pain is so intense that your brain is on fire and starts flooding you with rapid thoughts.  It always seemed like my brain was trying to find some way to exit the pain and that the longer the pain persisted, the faster it went.  
 

Once I got to this state, because of the level of panic and fear, it became very difficult to do anything that would help.  For me, the key was avoiding getting to this state.   

There are some strategies I have used to endure spankings that may help you.  The ones I used depended on the context and severity and my attitude toward the ‘ER.  
 

1. Adopt an angry mindset. If I can get to an angry mindset, I find that I can tolerate a lot more.  I would breathe aggressively and forcefully and even snarl and growl right from the beginning, before the first blow landed. This got me through one where skin was ripped off of me.  In the beginning the ‘ER said, “I’m going to need you to breathe slower so you don’t hyperventilate.”  I said “I’m doing what I need to do to get through this.”  Your relationship with your ‘ER may make it hard for you to get into this headspace, but otherwise it can help.

2. Use “pain acceptance” strategies. 
Here it is key to stop your brain from drifting into a narrative about what is happening.  Pain is often intensified by the narrative we create around it.  It is counterintuitive, but focus on the pain by imagining you are breathing in and out of the areas where the blows are landing.  Note the details like a curious observer, e.g., the area over which the pain extends, thud versus sting, how the pain radiates after each blow.  The trick is not to get caught up in thinking about these things, just observe them from a sensory standpoint. Don’t create a running narrative in your head.  Just sense and notice.  I have used this in the hospital when pain gets really bad also.  I like this technique, but it can be hard to do if the ‘ER overwhelms you.

3. Dissociate.  Pain needs your brain.  If your brain is somewhere else, you won’t feel the pain.  There are different ways to do this. One is to imagine yourself watching the spanking from above as an observer.  Then, imagine yourself pulling away until the scene of your spanking gets smaller and smaller until you are no longer there.  Another way is to just imagine yourself somewhere else doing something.  Make it participatory so you start talking to whomever you are envisioning.  I talk to my first dog.  Not only does this help with spankings, but it can help with really overwhelming pain of other types.  I used it in the ER (the hospital kind) when my bladder came close to rupturing.  It didn’t eliminate the pain, but it did help.

In honor of summer and shorts season, let's talk about thighs.

Tops: Do you spank the thighs or do you reserve swats for the bottom's bottom only? How far down do you go? 

Bottoms: How do you feel about swats to the thighs? How far down is far enough?

If you are an ‘EE you have probably experienced that helpless feeling when the pain is so intense that your brain is on fire and starts flooding you with rapid thoughts.  It always seemed like my brain was trying to find some way to exit the pain and that the longer the pain persisted, the faster it went.  
 

Once I got to this state, because of the level of panic and fear, it became very difficult to do anything that would help.  For me, the key was avoiding getting to this state.   

There are some strategies I have used to endure spankings that may help you.  The ones I used depended on the context and severity and my attitude toward the ‘ER.  
 

1. Adopt an angry mindset. If I can get to an angry mindset, I find that I can tolerate a lot more.  I would breathe aggressively and forcefully and even snarl and growl right from the beginning, before the first blow landed. This got me through one where skin was ripped off of me.  In the beginning the ‘ER said, “I’m going to need you to breathe slower so you don’t hyperventilate.”  I said “I’m doing what I need to do to get through this.”  Your relationship with your ‘ER may make it hard for you to get into this headspace, but otherwise it can help.

2. Use “pain acceptance” strategies. 
Here it is key to stop your brain from drifting into a narrative about what is happening.  Pain is often intensified by the narrative we create around it.  It is counterintuitive, but focus on the pain by imagining you are breathing in and out of the areas where the blows are landing.  Note the details like a curious observer, e.g., the area over which the pain extends, thud versus sting, how the pain radiates after each blow.  The trick is not to get caught up in thinking about these things, just observe them from a sensory standpoint. Don’t create a running narrative in your head.  Just sense and notice.  I have used this in the hospital when pain gets really bad also.  I like this technique, but it can be hard to do if the ‘ER overwhelms you.

3. Dissociate.  Pain needs your brain.  If your brain is somewhere else, you won’t feel the pain.  There are different ways to do this. One is to imagine yourself watching the spanking from above as an observer.  Then, imagine yourself pulling away until the scene of your spanking gets smaller and smaller until you are no longer there.  Another way is to just imagine yourself somewhere else doing something.  Make it participatory so you start talking to whomever you are envisioning.  I talk to my first dog.  Not only does this help with spankings, but it can help with really overwhelming pain of other types.  I used it in the ER (the hospital kind) when my bladder came close to rupturing.  It didn’t eliminate the pain, but it did help.

Tops: Do you lecture / scold during the spanking - or just before / after? How would you describe your scolding technique?

Bottoms: How much scolding or talking do you want / need to hear during the spanking? Is there anything you don't want to hear?

Switches: Answer whichever pleases you... or both.

When you sass your ER one too many times....

When you sass your ER one too many times....

What terms do you prefer?

• Top / bottom, Spanker / Spankee, Dom / sub, little, etc. 

What do you like to be called? Your name, Sir, Master...something else?

I am a bottom (part-time brat); I like Top and bottom best. But, based on chat convo last night, others prefer ER/ee.

What is one thing you remember most from your first (adult / consensual) spanking? 

I would love to hear your first-timer story.

To follow up with @KentuckyGuy's question on my last post... do you prefer panties down or all the way off?

Unfortunately, I am really sick and I am dealing with physical health issues. I hope no one worries I am doing my best to get better. Happy Mother's Day to all the mother's.

Today's question is an easy one... do you prefer a traditional belt or a leather strap? If a belt - do you double it up (as in the drawing) or wrap it around your hand for a single-tail effect? If a strap, what style? What position is your favorite for the belt or strap?

One of the things I like most in the realm of spanking is variety. I don't really have many set conceptions of how it should be (always on the bare, always OTK, always whatever). I don't think a spanking, or supplemental activities like corner time or mouthsoaping, must always be done a certain way. The only requirement for me is that it is always safe, sane, and consenual. Do you prefer variety or are certain aspects of spanking an "always"?

Happy Easter to all the spankos out there!...I hope everyone has time to spend it with family and friends!  God Bless!!

Here I am at nearly age 50 muddling through Final Fantasy 14.  Given that I grew up on Pitfall on Atari and Donkey Kong on ColecoVision, I must say, I am not the worst White Mage.  But, my interest surely peaked as I was trying to prepare myself for the next dungeon when I saw an upcoming skill which peaked my interest - Disciple of the Hand.  Sounds about right.

Here I am at nearly age 50 muddling through Final Fantasy 14.  Given that I grew up on Pitfall on Atari and Donkey Kong on ColecoVision, I must say, I am not the worst White Mage.  But, my interest surely peaked as I was trying to prepare myself for the next dungeon when I saw an upcoming skill which peaked my interest - Disciple of the Hand.  Sounds about right.

Going to give up different things each month to save some money. I will go back to them after the month and then pick something else. Starting with alcohol as of today, so going until March 15 alcohol free.

About to get buried in snow??????!!

Its FRIDAY!!!! I KNOW THOSE THAG WORK THROUGH THE WEEK ARE EXCITED. ANYONE HAVE FUN PLANS FOR THE WEEKEND?

The Dr is breaking the rules and allowing me a compassionate visit today. Only I can visit but better that 1 of us can go in.

Thanks for the cookies

Hope everyone has a fantastic weekend. Stay safe.