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Everything posted by selfsp12

  1. For me getting spanked is quite emotional. That is part of the benefit for me and part of why it is such powerful experience. Spankings for me are for stress relief. It helps me get my emotions "in order", and "wrap by head" around what I'm feeling, and I deal with them subconsciously while the spanking is in progress.
  2. I just happened to be coming from the doctor before going home to my fate. The spanking was for a bunch of things, and I'll definitely remember each and every one (of the things, and spanks).
  3. As I left the doctor's office and headed to my car, I felt myself start to walk slower. I knew I had a long and hard spanking coming when I got home. I felt anticipatory dread. As I drove i was unsure if I wanted traffic to push it off, or no traffic to get it started and finished sooner. My stomach had butterflies, and I felt a certain tickle in my tushy, like I was already starting to feel the initial effects. I arrived home, I knew the routine. Right upstairs, get the 'toys' that would be used, and get undressed. In position, and 25 long minutes later, with a break the spanking was over, and I was very sore. Fifteen minutes with a hand paddle with holes and two bath brushes (ow, ooooch) About a 10 minute break and 5 minutes with the belt (really ouch). My bottom was quite warm and was deep red with white splotches on the sit spots, and other splotches elsewhere. Sitting was going to be memorable for a long time to come, even clenching my cheeks hurt. The spanking was over, and no words had been said, none were needed.
  4. To my understanding, if it is not mutually consenting and without any form of coercion, it is assault or abuse and would be illegal (at least in the NE).
  5. I have never been able to spank myself to tears. I'd like to experience it at some point. However, since self-spanking does provide the emotional release I need, a good sound spanking is still quite effective.
  6. I'm late returning to this party. I was spanked as a very young child, at the time i think I acted to be spanked to get attention since I knew (on some level) that I was an unwanted child. By 4 I was adopted, wanted and loved, and never spanked. Much later in life when stress and anxiety become over whelming, this want, desire, need came up. Over time I got good at and found it helpful and pleasurable. My wife knows in some part of her that I like this, but she will not help and does not acknowledge it. After over 30 years of marriage, that is ok.
  7. Even if the EE in question, likes being spanked in general. A hard punishment spanking (with some surrounding formality - as agreed to) may be enjoyed on one level, but still not liked and therefore be the catalyst @EnglishSpanker referred to,
  8. My spanking bucket list; 1. get a good hard real (as versus self) spanking; a long hand more mild hand spanking, like 30 minutes or so A hard belt spanking a nice sound brush spanking. rinse and repeat as often as possible.
  9. I am grateful to have the meditation method that I have, even if it is a pain in the butt.
  10. There has been a lot of drama and a lot of stress in my house recently. I don't like drama but invariably get pulled into the middle with a target on my front and back, just waiting for the bullseyes to be scored. This morning I took the opportunity for a good, sound, hard spanking. My mind cleared and moved into the moment. Each spank hurt, but the only sound was the ouch that ensued with each one. The only thought was not how long it will continue or if it will hurt, it was where precisely on my bottom will it land. That incredible interplay of pain and pleasure that brings total relaxation. Afterward I lay down enjoying the lingering pain and the cool air, and the huge relief. The drama was worked out, but even if it reoccurs I have the formula to relax.
  11. I understand that. My wife is not into spanking. Which might be good, because if she was I'd probably never sit again.
  12. What do you do after a good hard self spanking? Do you finish and go back to what you were doing before,? Sit on a hard surface to continue the experience? Stand or lay down and rub to enjoy the head space your are in or diminish the sting? Admire your handiwork? For me I like to lay down and rub my bottom as it keeps me in the relaxed head space for longer. Any other post spanking routines?
  13. Seems like mostly general porn, which personally I'm not interested in. i prefer just spanking with no sexual/porn type content in the videos. Anything else anyone can reccomend?
  14. I self spank because I like to be spanked, or to be more precise, feel of a good sound spanking. The general term for that is a self-spanker. What if you, is this a thing, self spank because you like to give a spanking and you are the only one you can give it to?
  15. I had one spanking, some years ago, where sitting and walking were quite uncomfortable. Today after a hard session with a wood paddle or bath brush, I can feel the discomfort and have a desire to squirm, but I can sit. I like that feeling as it is a physical and sensory reminder of the spanking and how I felt then.
  16. Not to go off topic, but I don't think spanking would be addictive unless it adversely impacted your day to day life. I love a good spanking, but I can go without even if I want one.
  17. For my two sense I think spanking is important, and I agree with most of what was said here. For me though I would apply it to stress relief spankings. I personally would not accept a punishment or discipline spanking. To me the idea of a nice loooong hand spanking would be wonderful, longer then you could do with an implement. The sound the feel is so so much more personal.
  18. 100% agree. Any change requires the 100% desire to change (not need, desire). Anything else, such as spanking I see as an enabler working along with that desire.
  19. So I stand, undressed, my back to the mirror with paddle in hand. I do two types of self spanking. In reality the spankings are identical as is the end result. What differs is the head set going into the spanking. The first is for stress relief and anxiety reduction. The second is what I call maintenance. A maintenance spanking is to help me avoid getting stressed or anxious by helping me clear my head and stop the churning thoughts. However, truth be told it is a much because I enjoy a good sound spanking. The fact that that enjoyment yields a positive besides enjoyment is a double benefit. Do you have spankings for different reasons, and which ones have a real enjoyment factor to them?
  20. I thought I'd formally introduce myself here. I am a male self-spankee. I spank myself as I have a stong desire and need to be spanked and I enjoy it. I find it incredibly relaxing. I view myself as the spankee, and unfortunately my wife is not at all into spanking. It's either do without, or DIY.
  21. For the first time a bought a purpose made spanking paddle with holes. Can't wait to try it out.

    1. rubyredd


      I hope you enjoy it!

    2. selfsp12


      Oh. I think I'm going to like holes. It light, .4in bamboo but with a good sting that lasts longer afterwards then similar implements (hairbrushes). Different type of sting, maybe due to the holes?

  22. A heavy wooden bath brush can be tough, but it is also one of my favorites. I enjoy the thud and deep sting, and the sound is great. That's me, my bum may have other thoughts.😁
  23. I'm sure I'm not the only one here (at least I hope not) who likes the physical spanking itself in addition to the result. Whether you are spanked for guilt relief, behavior modification, stress relief, fun, etc., do you like the physical spanks or just the result, and if so why? I'm not sure why I like the spanks, I know why I like the result and even though the spanks are key to achieving those results; I don't have to like them, but I do. What about you?
  24. @Chawsee Well said. I found mine later in life, but not for discipline but stress relief. A spanking for either makes total sense to me. What I have accepted, but still find odd, is that I like and enjoy filling that need for a stress relief spanking as DIY. Finding that part of me later in life, already married for many years, left me with no other alternative but self-spanking. I really like, and it really works but I don't always understand the pain and pleasure dichotomy. @danadares I am definitely not a sadist or a masochist and the very idea of either bothers me, as to me anyway it implies a need beyond the spanking which could go too far if circumstances are not set for complete consenuality and safety. I am probably in a different boat also because I crave and need them enough to do it myself.
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