I feel that I can only respond well to the last question. I used to feel that something was very wrong with me. Then I learned that I was not alone, and that revelation changed my life. At that time, however, I thought it was just a kink or a feitsh, and perhaps it is. But in my mind, I truly believe being a spanko is my sexuality...that I was born this way. Spanking is the only thing that sexually arouses me. I say that even though I do not expect sex with any spankins I ever give or receive. In fact, in some ways sex with the actual spanking would be a turn off for me.