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redzonedefense_F last won the day on August 5 2019

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  • Birthday 10/28/1971

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  1. It’s time to step away 

    (Apologies to Amethyst_Moon.  I was not intending to be redundant.)

    I wouldn’t feel right leaving without saying goodbye.  If you know me, you understand that life has been challenging.  But, that is likely not to change and not the reason I am stepping back.  I’ve lost something along the way and it’s disconcerting to feel as if I am no longer myself, not as I would like to be to be of use, anyway.

    Thank you to all of you who encouraged a welcoming community, shared your thoughts and experiences and lifted each other up.  Thank you to the friends I’ve known since my time on another site, wide-eyed and tentative.  Thank you to those that expressed appreciation for something I posted or thoughts I shared.  I hope it helped.  Thank you to those who took the time to speak not only about our shared interest but about life outside of it.  Thank you to those with whom I shared a special connection.  Whatever label we ascribed each other, thank you for your time and for your friendship.  If you broke my heart, thank you for the life lesson.

    Life is hard.  Please try to be there for each other.  Your act of kindness may be what makes the difference.

    One of my life goals was to leave this world a little better than you found it.  I tried, done what I know how to do, given what I have to give.  And it will either mean something or it won't ... but I tried.


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    2. goodboy_will


      I enjoyed our times together Red (Heather).  I wish you the best and I think that you have been and are a Great Lady.  Take care.

    3. Jaded


      Sorry to see you go.  Although we never chatted, I always enjoyed your forum responses and status updates the most. I’m sure we were going through different things, but your status updates always hit home for me.  They were just what I needed to see some days.  I respect your outlook on things.  I know you will be missed here.  Wishing you all the best for the future.  

    4. Detroit Pete

      Detroit Pete

      Long may you run Red.

  2. Welcome! Good for you for seeking out information. You thought ahead more than I did. I was not always a spankee, but that was how I started out. I had always had a fascination and felt that spankee was the right road for me, at the time, Since i was fresh off the turnip truck, I didn't know what I didn't know and had a few less-than-memorable/awkward first times. A few thoughts: - Most of us have an idealized notion of what that first time will be like or who it will be with. Do your best to have reasonable expectations. You'll both be interacting this way for the first time, regardless of how seasoned the other person may be. - Take your time and speak with a lot of people. If you feel a connection with someone, ask a lot of questions. - Agree to meet publicly for coffee or some such first. - Start with a basic session as far as what is used, positions, etc. If you are a spanker, you have to have practice. If you are the spankee, you'd likely be better building up tolerance slowly rather than something intense that might put you off of the whole idea. Don't try to accomplish everything in one visit. No way to know how painful it will be until you try. If you start out with a cane, as opposed to a hand spanking on zero tolerance, probably so. - If you are the spanker, start much the same way. It is not safe to start swinging implements right off. Get to know the other person's tolerances and preferences, the way your spanker should do with you. I would suggest starting with the post "So you're going to get a spanking." It is, I believe, under Spanking Safety and Advice, There are lots of replies and people adding their thoughts. Best of luck. Have fun and be safe!
  3. Good for you for taking a stand! Hopefully, this will not only put him on notice with you but lessen the likelihood that he will keep this up with others. Bravo!
  4. Screen spline, several lengths braided or looped or both. Cheap and effective.
  5. Pardon. Your -visiting- a professional.
  6. Perhaps encourage her to come here, speak to others who understand and can perhaps explain better. Would she be willing to consider your a professional?
  7. So sorry for your loss, dear. May the company of those that loved him as you did and memories shared bring you comfort.
  8. "The idea that some lives matter less is the root of all that's wrong in this world."

    -Dr. Paul Farm

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    2. sweetpea
    3. braatman


      Excellent observation, however this is not something that has reared its ugly head over the past few years.  In the Old Testament book of Ecclesiastes, it is written that “There is nothing new under the sun.”

    4. redzonedefense_F


      I hear your point, braatman,

      Regardless of when it started, my point is, why has it not ended?

  9. Why I'd Be Kicked Out Of The Scooby Gang

    Shaggy:   Zoinks!

    Scooby:   Ruh Roh!

    Daphne:   Jeepers!

    Velma:     Jinkies!

    Me:          Well, ****!


    1. ukspanko


      I work with a Velma ( with slightly longer hair ) lookalike. She's really funny, her socks keep falling down...


    2. redzonedefense_F


      Don't you hide her glasses!  ;)

  10. At no point was that said or intimated. Given the private, personal and intimate nature of the interactions, it is a far more slippery slope. Are people more likely to experience others attempting to take liberties? Yes. No one is saying it is right or deserved, ever.
  11. Saw this the other day -

    me:  I'm actually happy right now.

    life:  LOL!  One sec.

  12. "No matter what people tell you, words and ideas can change the world."

    - Robin Williams

    1. AfterGeometry


      For the worse and for the better, unfortunately 

    2. Justanothergirl


      Yes, they absolutely can! So we must choose ours carefully.

  13. "I like old bookstores, the smell of coffee brewing, rainy day naps, farmhouse porches and sunsets.  I like the sweet, simple things that remind me that life doesn't have to be complicated to be beautiful."

    - Brooke Hampton 

  14. Focus on what's gone right. Keep your mind on the reason for the goals ... who your priorities are truly for and who they benefit.
  15. "If you don't let your past die,

    then it won't let you live."

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