sillygirl

I thoroughly enjoyed this! I have never really been a fan of age-play, but I could 100% get on board with this scenario. Heck! Where’s this cabin? Sign me up! 😉 I’m thrilled for the sequel.

I have had MANY conversations with my therapist about spanking. I said from the get-go that I consider spanking to be a need I have, that it is not exactly attached to my sexuality, and that I do not fit nicely on the BDSM tree. (A previous therapist always insisted on explaining it away as a sexual fetish.) I also explained that having this need has always felt shameful for me, and confusing. Yet in no way do I feel like I need to be punished. I was very clear about that. Now, I have a superb therapist! We have an amazing therapeutic relationship. When I told her “it’s a need” she w

Today during a maintenance spanking, my ER stopped immediately when she saw a mark on my bottom consisting of red spots. She’s very concerned because she does not know what it is. We both know impact play can and often does leave marks. But during maintenance, she’s good about warmup, so we often avoid marks. (Well, most marks; I bruise like a peach.) We have dealt with bruises and general redness, but this one was new us. Are there marks that are dangerous? When should we be concerned?

I was just asking these questions earlier this week! I’m so glad you started this thread. I got good answers from this cool video by Princess Kelley May: I have never traveled with implements yet so I do not know much. But I LOVE the idea that belts and hairbrushes might be overlooked as innocent by airport security. There’s nothing innocent about implements.

Yes! I believe this with my whole heart. Respect is earned. If it has been earned, it doesn’t need to be demanded. If it has not been earned, then demanding it is an exercise in futility. That being said, I can see where differing opinions of respect might create a conflict. For instance, my wife does not consider playful bratting to be disrespectful. And it’s not, because at my core, respect is my guiding star. However, another top might feel very disrespected if I refuse to submit the first time to a spanking I deserve. If I do that with my wife, she gets “toppier” and I inevitably sli

Not if you’re a brat. 😜

I’m a brat. Bratting is as distinct and dependent on people’s dynamics as anything else in the spanko world. Some brats do defy and deliberately use disrespect as part of their dynamic (consent is key here). I’m much too silly to do anything that scary. My bratting looks like… *sneaky smile* and “I don’t know…” when I DO know. For some, that would be considered disrespectful, for me it’s just asking for a spanking without having to ASK for a spanking (which I hate to do!)

And yet, sometimes “me” is the appropriate word to use, as in “Please do not spank Spud and me!” Although, as you now know, “me” is not always appropriate, as in “Spud and I do not deserve a spanking!” See? Super easy, right? Not confusing at all! 😜

Yay! Because during the whole spanking, I kept thinking about Claire in the guest room.

Thank you so much! We would love that so much.

Hi, Spanker friends! My wife is trying to learn how to use new implements. She does not want to hurt me—or at least not unintentionally 😉—but she’s new to the scene and looking for help. Where can we watch tutorials or read about correct procedures of implement use?

Thank you so much for starting this post! I have always self-identified as a bit of a masochist, because I like a little pain with my pleasure. It adds to the pleasure for me. But I have also always placed my spanking need in a completely different category—it was never about the pain for me. Only recently have I discovered that the power dynamic of spanking appeals to me. In that case, I suppose the D/s is what I enjoy about spanking. There is an element of excitement to “being handled” when I by no means need to be handled in my life; I’m a grown-@$$ woman. That being said, I

This is superbly uncalled-for. A spanking fetishist on either side of the paddle is NOT remotely similar to someone whose job it is to execute a person in the name of law. A hangman is neither judge nor jury. I have had a lot of respect for your interpretation of events in this thread, but please be careful of your metaphors. Being a spanko is tough enough in a world that demonizes us; we do not need to demonize each other. Consent is key. Few people being executed CONSENT. But spankers and spankees consent. Non-consent is not permitted in this forum.

I was never spanked as a child. But I loved pretend games like “house” where there was a spanking element and I got to play the naughty kid. So… I’ve always been a spankee, despite my angelic childhood. 😉

I relate to this a lot. I start out as a brat, usually, but turn submissive quick when things get going.