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  1. Therapists who are most likely to understand your needs, take them seriously, and view your interest in spanking as a positive instead of a negative would be members of AASECT (American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists). I had a tremendously positive experience with an AASECT therapist.
  2. It's always unwise and often just plain wrong to view what one individual (regardless of their qualifications) has to say as an example of what Group X believes. I don't know any muslim man or woman who would not consider non-consensual striking as anything other than abuse. I know there are people who hold contrary beliefs but I know I can't logically generalize about them as "muslims" any more than I could about "christians" or "Americans." As others have said here, let's focus on what is good or bad practice (that is, in this case, consent or non-consent) and leave aside labels.
  3. LOL after Botchan did such a supreme job of explaining the "real" interests and needs of the author of the NY Times article, that author, Jillian Keenan, went on to write a book that most of us would regard as being a very accurate reflection of what it means to be "into" spanking. The book, Sex and Shakespeare, is an absolute must-read if you consider that spanking (giving or receiving) is a part of who you are. As for the claim that Keenan is "in denial" I might point out that she has a very devoted following on Twitter precisely because she isn't afraid to talk about her spanking fetish in
  4. Late 50's M, in Connecticut, very experienced in the various roles that spankers are called upon to play, including Mentor, Daddy, Disciplinarian, and Dominant. I have provided quite a few "first spankings" over the course of my career, and am happy to explore at your pace and according to your needs. Presently seeking women only. Will consider nearby areas of MA, NY, and RI. Your response will NOT result in the demand that you present yourself for an immediate spanking. I believe a spanking relationship is something that develops when two people take the time to discuss their interests,
  5. I've used online discipline with a number of women over the years. For some it has been very helpful. I do believe that if a person brings to it a feeling that this is what they want and need, it is far more likely to be successful. Like just about anything, what you can get out of something is proportional to what you put into it. I'm certainly open to inquiries from anyone who wants to discuss further.
  6. Hello everyone! I'm a 58 year old man in Connecticut with many years of experience as a spanker. While I have tried a lot of different styles, roles, and implements over the years, I have found that I am most well-suited for giving paternal disciplinary or disciplinary-style spanking. Not every woman who wants this type of spanking necessarily thinks of her spanker as "daddy," but I believe it communicates something important about how I approach the task. You may have made up the bad behavior that you need to confess in order to get your bare bottom warmed, but it is also quite possible
  7. I've known some folks who spank professionally to present themselves as "life coaches," and from what I have been told some are actually very good at it. But I suspect there is a reason they use that term and not "counselor" or "therapist."
  8. Hm. I know this may seem a controversial position, but I am of the mind that, having grown up with kinks that are not generally accepted in society, and that have made socializing and meeting people who share my needs challenging, I am going to take people wherever they are for whomever they claim to be. If a person's experience is that online play has not been meaningful for them, I would accept that at face value and suggest they probably don't want to do that. If their experience is that online is either what they must do because they have no alternative, or because they are new to thi
  9. I think there are some cultural prejudices that often make older spankers want younger spankees and vice versa, but it shouldn't be that hard for people to get past. On the other hand, I know a lot of spankees correlate age with experience, and that's not altogether unreasonable. But for young(er) spankers that just means they need to convey the degree of self-control and care that comes from experience.
  10. Agreed. But I have a question that came up recently to which I have no immediate answer. There are folks who may like (or may dread) the texture and "feel" of leather on their bottom but who would prefer their spanker use a non-animal (i.e., non-leather) product. Does anyone know of reputable shops that sell leather-like implements?
  11. Where are the spanking parties in New England? I would like to attend one of them.

    1. Switchspanker_CT


      look up NESS in Massachusetts or "the Society" in Hartford CT  (Society is BDSM oriented but friendly to spanking)   

      If you can get to NYC there are a couple spanking-oriented groups there:  SCONY (spanking club of ny), TES (the eulenspiegel society), "Paddles" night club, and SSNY (spanking society of new york)   I'm sure there are more as well as private parties you can get invited to if you meet people through these organizations. 

      Have FUN!!!

  12. I am looking for a gentleman to give me a disciplinary spankings on the bare. I live in CT. Can you help me with this. I need it. 

  13. Hi all, I'm in my mid-50's, Connecticut-based and with many years of experience giving spankings. Though I've explored extensively, my focus is on discipline-styled spankings - the kind that a daddy or caring adult authority figure would naturally provide to a girl who feels she is out of control and needs to be reined in. Please feel free to contact me if you are interested or if you just want to explore your needs and discuss them. I am especially god at moving at an appropriate pace and giving newbies plenty of opportunity and help in finding their way.
  14. A number of years back there was a Boston-based organization (NESS) that would hold several spanking parties a year. Is NESS still around? Is anyone aware of any similar spanking-focused social groups or parties?
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