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  1. I am about to get hell from 1/2 the community that knows me...but you guys are the only ones I know to ask advice from. Long story short... My husband and I started the open marriage about 5 months ago. About a month into it he called it off. I stopped...for a minute. Then I had a really rough day and called up an old friend. That is when I got that spanking that I posted about previously. The one with the bruises. I told my husband about it and he asked for a divorce. At first I was devistated. Begged him for another chance. Told him I could be better. Now, he is telling me he is willing
  2. Seems like my last post had been removed...but I didn't recieve any notification regarding what i did wrong. Are pictures not allowed?
  3. Oh it wasn't the belt that made me cry....it was just a mixture of all of it.
  4. He used a couple different things...finished with a belt.
  5. Well...I am sorry i offended you. I had assumed this was an acceptable forum to share these kinds of things. I will see if I can edit the header to warn of a picture.
  6. Happy medium, for sure. The first was very light and I would like to continue to incorporate that, but I think as far as punishments go...a happy medium would be sufficient. I like marks, but I like a little more sugar in my cup of tea.
  7. Really? Is it that bad!?! This is a newer play partner...2nd time we have played together. The first wasn't nearly as severe. This definitly wasn't fun...I sobbed. I mean, technically I was being punished...but it lost the fun somewhere during it. We connect really well and Id like to play with him again, but how do I tell him to take it down a level without sounding...weak or needy.
  8. I appreciate the feedback and yes, I have only been a member of the site for a year, but my husband and I have been trying to make this work for 9 years. This isn't something that just happened overnight. There is more than just the spanking...that is just the portion I choose to talk about here. Again, I definitly appreciate the insight. That is why I post.
  9. LOL gator...yea, it's a leap. I tend to jump quickly. My husband was totally onboard with the idea and we have alot of rules regarding it. If it gets messy, we will stop. Knowing our relationship, I think it will work well. I guess we will just have to see how it goes.
  10. Hi! It's been a little while since my last post. My husband and I have had a lot of back and forth and he recently decided to try things my way. Needless to say, it didn't work. It actually didn't work for either of us because it just felt like some dynamic was missing with him spanking me. After a lot of talks and realizing that we love and truat each other, we decided to open our marriage a little. We obviously have some rules...the main one being dont ask, dont tell as long as the other is being safe. Another one being no vaginal sex since we don't want any accedental babies. I guess I
  11. I dont think my husband understands the difference between punishment and sexual spanking. You all know this is new water for him....and I get that but, over the weekend I went out to grab some things for dinner. I got side tracked with my sister in law...and we went shopping for about 3 hours. I dont think my husbands ever been more upset with me. He was soo mad when we got home. I got the scolding of a lifetime and was certain I would be payong for it that night...but nothing. I finally asked him about it...i attached his response. Im not really sure how to handle this one...
  12. Im pretty sure my inbox is full and thats why noone can send me messages...lol...I have no idea how to delete messages. So much for being considered tech savvy. I wont even share what I do for a living because I would look pretty silly for not being able to figure it out
  13. Oh goodness...IT HAPPENED last night! We talked back and forth all day yesterday and he knew I was upset. He kept reassuring me that he did want to do it and had just been tired. I didn't believe him. I made a seriously snarky comment about how long dinner was taking and he just kind of looked at me and let it go. Before bed, he held my chin and looked directly at me and told me to go wait in the bedroom. I almost had a panic attack. I went and waited....and waited. It felt like FOREVER. I think that was the worst part. He eventually showed up and had me lay on the bed over a pillow. You can
  14. I am now laying in bed at 1 am...wide awake, feeling anxious and needy and upset. Number 1 happened. He acted like we never discussed anything, went about our night like normal. No mention of anything. I finally built up the courage and told him what I was expecting and he laughed and said he was feeling generous. Umm..sounds like an excuse. Now I am even more frustrated then before because I feel like he wasn't honest with me. I am guessing he didnt know how to start the whole thing but I dont really know how to help him with that...help!!
  15. I did bring that part up. When we originally talked, I told him that sometimes I might cry and thats ok. I told him to think of it as him giving me something I need versus thinking of it as him hurting me. Im just hoping it isnt awkward when I get home. I honestly have no idea how this is going to play out.
  16. As a follow uo to my failed attenpt post...I did it, again. I actually laid it all out there like I had in the past. I told my husband exactly what I wanted. His response scared me. He was 100% totally on board. I asked him what changed and he said he did. He told me he opened his mind a bit and knew I needed more. He may have also mentioned being tired of my mouth and my reckless spending but that is neither here nor there...haha. We talked for a while about it and it was so normal and natural that I really do believe he is on the same page. A very small part of me is regretting this thoug
  17. Well, I have had the conversation multiple times and he knows I want it, but I dont think he realizes just how serious I am about the discipline. Its funny, but I just got off the phone with him and it went like this - Him - you need anything from the store? Me - nope Him - do we need toilet paper Me - nope, dont think so Him - well can you check? Me - we dont (didnt actually check lol) Him - ok....if I get home and we are out, I'm gonna beat your ass. ( he laughed) Me - promise? Him - laughs, yea, and I mean it in the serious way Anyways....we talk like this alot, he just doesnt a
  18. Fyi the convo is posted backwards. Read the 2nd one first
  19. I just had to share my failed attempt. I attached part of this morning conversation with my husband. Could I have been anymore obvious?!?! Lol...*shakes head in defeat*
  20. This is completly unrelated to spanking, but I'm seeking some unbiased advised so I figured here would be as good a place as any. My husbands sister and her husband recently asked me to be a surrogate for them. I already have my own children and don't plan on having more, so I said yes. This isn't something that's happening tomorrow, but it is near future and I'm starting to freak and have doubts. I'm so terrified that it will leave me with an empty hole after I have to give the baby to them. I'm trying to go into this with the mindset that it's not my child, I am just helping create a famil
  21. Long time no posting....but I need to share! My husband and a I had some friends over last weekend (totally normal for). We were outside playing beer pong, and I made a snippy comment to my husbands friend who I was playing against. (This friend is super close with me and over almost every weekend) he replied to my comment with...."knock off the attitude young lady". I'm sure my face flushed and I almost had to go inside because I didn't know how to react. Any normal person would have just laughed but not me! That sentence about threw me to my knees. Anyone else had something like this happe
  22. Hope everyone is doing well! I'm actually wondering if anyone talks with a councilor or therapist and how and if you have brought up spanking. I'm going to be meeting with someone just for general issues but spanking is a huge part of my psyche. I'm afraid if I don't bring it up, I won't be getting much benefit from my therapist...but at the same time I dont want to just come out and be like...So yea I have this obsession with being spanked.
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