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  1. You make some interesting points, but I think I agree with StrictGent that human beings are rarely one thing or the other. I certainly do think that people fall in various places along the scales that you mention, but I don't think it's so neat and binary. I know you recognize that they are not necessarily mutually exclusive in one category or the other but I'm not convinced they are even related. I think a person could 100% have a punishment fetish and 100% having a spanking fetish too. I commend your desire to categorize to help people find compatible partners, but I think each of our relationships with spanking is so unique and individual that it's hard to put it in a bucket and slap a label on it.
  2. A fresh cut willow switch. I love hairbrushes but I got my first switching a few weeks ago and yikes it's awful.
  3. I am open-minded to a lot of things, but there are a couple off the top of my head that I can think of as hard limits: - No Safe-word (At least until there is a well established relationship). - Serious bleeding & marks that go beyond some minor bruises and welts. - Submission that goes beyond a discipline type relationship (i.e. Master/Slave). As a switch spanko, I am neither a submissive nor a dominant - but rather a spanker or spankee. - Sexual acts mixed with spanking. - Humiliation & degrading language that goes beyond the embarrassment of a bare bottom spanking.
  4. I have always preferred the spanker to do the taking down of pants and baring, both when I am the spanker and spankee. It is such an emotional rush and surrender of power when the spanker slowly lowers the underwear and bears the bottom.
  5. I was terrified of anyone finding out, but it turns out that sharing with a few close friends was one of the best things I did. Not saying I advertise it or want my extended family to know, but it is nice to not have to hide certain things from your closest friends.
  6. I was much more of a spankee when I was younger but its evened out as I've gotten older and developed much more of a desire to spank. I'd say I'm probably about 60/40 on the sub side. And yes, if I found the right person I would absolutely want to switch roles with them. It just hasn't happened in my (admittedly limited) experience.
  7. Not sure I agree 100% with this. I think things can be plenty complete when you are on one side in a particular relationship. There are certain people who I am more naturally submissive too, and others who I would rather spank. It doesn't always have to go both ways. A lot of which side I prefer has to do with age and personality for me. Does that make me not a true switch?
  8. A very interesting topic. As Chawsee noted, the archetype disciplinarian has 1 or 2 implements, not a bag full of them. I can see why if your interests in spanking are limited to disciplinary spanking you might not need or want as many. But there is something to be said for having multiple different options to choose from, both from a sensation point of a view and also from a role-play point of view for those who enjoy role play. Besides, I may only need one of each, but I want more! In my collection I have about a dozen wooden hairbrushes, a bath-brush, a wooden spoon, a belt, two Miss Rose Paddles, and a lexan paddle. I can echo what the others have said about Etsy being the place to go to buy handmade paddles. The two Miss Rose paddles I have are absolute works of art, and I have never heard anyone say anything negative about her work. I definitely favor 2 or 3 of the brushes and the Miss Rose paddles, but they have all had some use.
  9. It changes for me - between different hairbrushes! The sensation is virtually identical to a small lightweight paddle, but there is some sort of deep emotional connection with a hairbrush for me. I certainly enjoy different types of implements, but if I could only choose one for the rest of my life it would definitely be a wooden hairbrush.
  10. Well said! Completely agree. I love switching, whether with the same person or someone else and I don't really care whether someone has a problem with that. In my opinion, as long as everything is 100% consensual, there is no right or wrong when it comes to a spanking relationship. Let people do what works for them!
  11. I've both been spanked and spanked with the wooden spoon. The experience all depends on exactly what kind of spoon it is, but in general very stingy, applied to a small surface area, and if it is heavy enough often has resulted in bruises. Spoons can be brutal - a lot of people think they aren't as severe as a hairbrush, but I have not found that to be the case because of the smaller surface area and longer handle. As for position, best used otk, and best used after a warm-up...unless it is for punishment.
  12. I've used soap in the mouth, writing lines, and corner time as both a bottom and top. They all have their own advantages and disadvantages. I love the head space that soap gets me in - it really brings me back as a childish punishment. And although the actual experience it is not necessarily a lot of fun, the emotions it evokes for me are incredible. As for lines, there is nothing exciting about them whatsoever. Which I guess is the point, because they make an excellent punishment. Corner time, especially when combined with a spanking, adds to the overall experience. It's a childish punishment that evokes some of the same emotions that soap does for me, and really makes you focus on the spanking.
  13. I've been spanked with pillows under my hips before. Usually with the belt or other longer implements that can't easily be used otk, but I've also been spanked with the brush in this position. As to being able to maintain the position, I've found it fairly easy and its probably my second favorite spanking position after otk. It's comfortable for both the spanker and spankee and therefore easy to maintain for a long spanking. As much as I love otk, it is just not always practical to spend a lengthy amount of time in that position and lying over pillows can be an excellent alternative. And as you mention, the pillows help raise the butt and present it which makes it better than just lying on the bed.
  14. Thank you for posting this - it is an incredibly fascinating thread and its forced me to think deeply and challenge my thoughts on this repeatedly. I think I finally have some fully thought-out ideas on this. By way of background I am a straight male and I am almost exclusively interested in spanking with women. I have spanked a man before, but it felt kind of strange to me for reasons I can't really identify, and I am not sure I would allow a man to spank me. First, there are a lot of other things where people have gender preferences for what the other person is that are not necessarily sexual activities. For instance, both men and women may have a preference for a certain gender of doctor, but no one would argue that going to the doctor is a sexual activity. Is their gender preference driven by their sexuality? Maybe - maybe not. Some straight men won't see a female urologist, but some don't want to see a male urologist. There is a similar phenomenon with regards to massage therapists - about 85% of all massage therapists are women. I would bet a good portion if not a majority of the population has a gender preference for their massage therapist, but that's not a sexual activity. I think its safe to say most men prefer a female massage therapist. What do these all have in common? They are situations where people are in various levels of undress and exposing private body parts to someone else in a position of trust. Often they are more comfortable doing so with someone of a particular gender, whether that be someone of the same gender they are attracted to or the opposite. I think there is something to be said for an analogy with spanking. The spankee is removing clothing in a vulnerable position and trusting the spanker, and there are many reasons why they might prefer a particular gender (or not). This doesn't even address the potential emotional arguments that could be made as well. From a point of view of a straight male, there is kind of a biological need to compete/ assert dominance with other men that just isn't there with a woman. I won't generalize too much here, but I know that I would hesitate to show weakness or vulnerability in front of a man where I might not have that same hesitation in front of a woman. I think back to my childhood and my relationship with my parents - there is almost no way I would have cried in front of my dad. But that is not quite true with my mom. I think that is driven by the societal vision of a tough "real" man, since I knew if I cried in front of my dad I would be told to tough it up and "take it like a man". I am trying not to generalize too much, but I don't think women have the same fears and societal pressures about gender norms in this particular way, and that's why they are more comfortable being spanked by other women. Anyway, spanking can be sexual and someone's reasons for preferring one gender over another may be driven by sexual considerations, but I think there are also a lot of other reasons why people might prefer one gender over the other.
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