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  1. I have not yet met anyone from this site - although I've met several from Spankingtube (who would have thought?) and Fetlife.
  2. My solution in the past has been to play some music at a decent volume. I know some people use the TV, but I find that distracting. If you have a decent playlist (especially of instrumental) music and you play it at a moderate volume it will definitely make it harder to make out the individual spanks. That's probably 90% of what you need to do. Also as was suggested above, don't do it at 1 in the morning. People will complain about any noise at that hour and its disrespectful to your neighbors to play loud music then anyhow. If you are really dedicated you can hang blankets or other
  3. Ideally yes, you wouldn't have to choose. But the reality is that partners make lots of sacrifices for each other in a relationship. That might be one of them - and maybe that need is met some other way.
  4. I suppose I probably could, but I would prefer a long term relationship where we are able to switch. If you forced me to choose, I guess I'd probably choose being the spankee, but I'd still have an itch to spank someone.
  5. I am a straight guy and I have spanked other men, although it is far from my preferred gender for a spanking partner. As long as we are explicit that there will not be anything sexual, I don't have a huge issue with doing it. That said, my experience is a lot of men looking for M/M are looking for something more sexual or they are looking for a "daddy/son" relationship which I am not into doing at all.
  6. Great question - and I think it depends on the type of spanking. For more "fun" spanking, then no it's not as nessecary. But it is an essential part of getting into the head-space required when receiving a spanking for me. I don't think it needs to be continuous for the entire time either, but I have a hard time being spanked without it present at all. I wasn't 100% sure how I felt about scolding since it used to feel a little "weird" to me, but it only took one bad experience to convince me. I once was spanked by a woman who ruined the entire experience by laughing at my pain and m
  7. I'll diverge from the majority here and say I think it is completely acceptable to engage in spanking after the social consumption of alcohol. For me it depends on the context of the scene and who I am with. If I am meeting someone for the first time or engaged in a more serious scene, it might not fit as well. But between established partners, especially with more fun spanking scenes, I think drinking responsibly can add to them. Whether a person chooses to do so or not is an entirely personal choice, but having 2 or 3 drinks certainly does not remove their ability to consent. I'm no
  8. Obligatory disclaimer: This is not legal advice, so please don't take it as such. It is just provided for informational purposes only. On the legality of paying someone for a spanking, the short answer is it depends. Every jurisdiction has slightly differently worded statutes for prostitution, and slightly different interpretations of those statutes. After a cursory search I was not able to find any cases from anywhere where someone had been convicted of prostitution for engaging in spanking or BDSM activities, and the majority of cases dealt with whether other sexual acts (besides sex
  9. A couple suggestions for anyone looking for an old fashioned wooden hairbrush. First, check ebay out periodically, I've bought a few antique hairbrushes on Ebay from the UK that are exactly what one is looking for in a spanking implement. Just can sometimes be a little pricey. I also will echo what others have said about Etsy. I'll also link to two other brushes I have that have worked very well for me through the years. The first is actually a bath-brush, but it is short handled (10 inches) and feels far more like a hairbrush. https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0018OVKQ0?pf_rd_r=TB09
  10. You make some interesting points, but I think I agree with StrictGent that human beings are rarely one thing or the other. I certainly do think that people fall in various places along the scales that you mention, but I don't think it's so neat and binary. I know you recognize that they are not necessarily mutually exclusive in one category or the other but I'm not convinced they are even related. I think a person could 100% have a punishment fetish and 100% having a spanking fetish too. I commend your desire to categorize to help people find compatible partners, but I think each of ou
  11. A fresh cut willow switch. I love hairbrushes but I got my first switching a few weeks ago and yikes it's awful.
  12. I am open-minded to a lot of things, but there are a couple off the top of my head that I can think of as hard limits: - No Safe-word (At least until there is a well established relationship). - Serious bleeding & marks that go beyond some minor bruises and welts. - Submission that goes beyond a discipline type relationship (i.e. Master/Slave). As a switch spanko, I am neither a submissive nor a dominant - but rather a spanker or spankee. - Sexual acts mixed with spanking. - Humiliation & degrading language that goes beyond the embarrassment of a bare bottom s
  13. I have always preferred the spanker to do the taking down of pants and baring, both when I am the spanker and spankee. It is such an emotional rush and surrender of power when the spanker slowly lowers the underwear and bears the bottom.
  14. I was terrified of anyone finding out, but it turns out that sharing with a few close friends was one of the best things I did. Not saying I advertise it or want my extended family to know, but it is nice to not have to hide certain things from your closest friends.
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