BlackSATX
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Question for all you Straight Guys
BlackSATX replied to Melissa'sBottom's topic in General Spanking Discussion
I have always considered my self to be an equal “opportunity” Spanker. I will spank anyone I am comfortable being around after I have had a chance to get to know them. The Spanko lifestyle does not just appeal to the straight man or woman, the fit, the rich, the successful, but to people from all walks of life. A person’s sexuality should not matter, but their character is another question, take a few minutes to get to know the person you’re going to spank or be spanked by; are they giving off vibes that you do not like? Time to move on! -
Feeling like my old self again... Just feeling good!
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I'm so happy to read this! Welcome back, @BlackSATX! I've truly missed you!
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@BlackSATX, hope you are well. Haven't heard from you in a long while. Been thinking about you.
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It's been a year since we first met in person, sir! Wow! I wanted to take the time to thank you for all you've done to help me in my journey to a better me. As we continue on this journey I do hope to make you proud of me more often than not. With our conflicting job hours since I've changed jobs, I do hope we can find time to meet....since there are still things needing to be dealt with.
Again, thank you for a great year of meeting my discipline needs, sir!
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Based on your profile here, I noticed today is your birthday, Mr.BlackSATX! ??? Well, I brought some mariachis to sing you "Happy Birthday"! I do hope you're enjoying your day ?
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Yes, you are correct with that statement at least for me; having been in the BDSM lifestyle the Sado/Masochist link is always in the background and it does provide a check on the punishment I am willing to give out. I know the line and when it is crossed...the effects I have seen of some punishment to me is more along the lines of a Sado/Masochist relationship. I think there are sadist tendencies in some ER, and masochist in EE; to me the difference is knowing where that line (abuse) is and not going beyond it. Sorry, can't really get my thoughts together on this one as self examination o
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I think a lot of Spankers' (er) have a problem to be honest about a question of this nature. I have wrestled with answering this question when ask of me on several occasions, because I have to actually examine my reason behind liking to give spankings. Yes I can dress it up with wanting to help someone meet there goals and improve themselves as a person...and that is a big part of it. But, why when I have not giving a spanking in a while, do I go on the hunt for a willing butt to spank? I have come to the conclusion it is something I want/need as much as the spankee. It is the need that is ha
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How to keep your head up
BlackSATX replied to Colonel Cokernel's topic in General Spanking Discussion
Be yourself, I feel that is the most important thing, then when you meet someone they see you as you are and can check off all your plus and minus boxes and accept you as you truly are or move on. No I am not saying to blurt out your interest in the first five minutes but I am saying if the topic come up do not shy away from it. Lets face the facts there are not many people who are looking for a 24/7 DD relationship, life has a way of getting in the way of that! I mean unless you both are willing to put in the desire and energy to make it work it will not. You are young, live life! Walk -
I have had a few spankee's request to be restrained and wanted a very severe spanking. I do think this type of spanking is edging towards the BDSM world, and yes I know there is a lot of spanking going on in BDSM but I think it is a different mindset. It is a bit tricky to keep to a purest attitude about spanking as spankers and spankees run the full range of interest with different needs. I always use my judgment on the severity of a spanking and I demand the use of a safe word when using restraints. In the sessions I have used them I do feel it did add to the intensity for both me and the s
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Hi Rose, Welcome to the Forum, I think you will find their are some friendly folks here willing to offer you their take on just about any and everything to do with spanking. As to your situation it is not uncommon for someone (your husband) to think of spanking as a couple of swats on the rear while engaging in sex. As you have discovered he is most likely not a Spanko and spanking for him could have a sexual connotation. Talk to him about your need for discipline and get his agreement on you finding a disciplinarian if possible before venturing out too far. Take a few minutes to go thro
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I think the major difference between a leader and a manager is how they accomplish the task in front of them. A manager is more concerned with the resources to get the job done, the leader is concerned about the people doing the job. Granted that is a very simplified response but I think it is the core of what leadership and management is all about...I will also add my view is shaded from doses of leadership and management training in the military but I found those basic tenets to apply in everyday life as well. As a manager my job is to insure you have all the resources you need to accom
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Spanking as a substitute for sex
BlackSATX replied to AfterGeometry's topic in General Spanking Discussion
As a spanker I have noticed that some spankees seem to get aroused from a spanking. I do think the position of the spankee has a lot to do with it. I have noticed more arousal when the spankee is over my lap. I now change the spankee's position to one less intimate if I sensed the squirming is more from arousal than the heat from my hand; being honest it is hard to not become aroused too when you have an aroused spankee on your lap. As to your question, a substitute for sex, no I do not think so. I will say for some it is a definitely a warm up for sex. -
Hello Caxmia, A big Texas size welcome to the Forum. You will find a treasure trove of experienced spankers and spankees here, you will also find some who motivation is to questionable. Just remember to trust your instinct, go slow and seek advice when you come to that fork in the road. A note on advice, get more than one or two opinions and then decide which works for "you."
