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  1. Until recently, I have had kids living at home or visiting often so all my implements have been packed up in toy bags. I would like to let the whips and leather implements hang vertically so I am think about building a wall cabinet for that purpose. But they will not be in plain sight. Even though I am "out" to a lot of people, that would be pretty awkward to explain to the others.
  2. This is something that can be learned as someone becomes more comfortable in the ER role. Or it may be a role she will never assume the way you want her to. There is a big difference between enjoying spanking someone and having a "take charge" personality. She may just enjoy watching your ass turn red (because that's kinda sexy).
  3. There are resources out there that rate pain level for different implements, but I don't think that's going to help you with your question. If you don't want the heavy bruising, stay away from heavy implements like bath brushes, thicker paddles, etc. Something like a belt, riding crop, yardstick, flyswatter, etc. might give you the sting you want without marking you up too much. I have made some whips/floggers out of thin plastic strands from a hobby store that sting like crazy but don't leave lasting marks. To make one, all you need is a wooden dowel and some strong tape - I like hockey tape because you can twist it into a strand and spiral it to make a grip. Even easier to make - get two of the large paint sticks from Home Depot and glue them together to to minimize the likelihood of them cracking. Or wrap them with tape if you don't have glue and clamps. Good luck, and let us know how it goes.
  4. You might have more luck posting in the Ohip Spankos group:
  5. Spanknutt


    Wow 🙂
  6. Spanknutt


    Very nice 🙂
  7. Spanknutt


    Nice spankable bottom 🙂
  8. Spanknutt


    Wow, nice work by somebody!
  9. When I do discipline, it is usually short and sweet. With longer sessions (an hour or more) that are more for stress-relief or just for fun, I am always sweaty and exhausted afterward. If I am using a heavy implement like a flogger, my shoulder is usually a little sore the next day too. 😂
  10. I have a T-shirt showing Bugs Bunny spanking Ms. Bunny. I wore it once to a walk with some kinky friends at a public park but I had a jacket on to hide it from the vanillas.
  11. At a party once, we positioned two EEs at a time on spanking benches, facing each other. The ERs rotated around them in a circle and spanked each for one minute before giving way to the next ER. We had a blast.
  12. First, I think you have to clarity what type of spanking you are referring to. I have spanked many women over the years, a couple for discipline, but most just for fun or because they were masochists and craved the sensation. A couple of those women I had sexual relations with, but with most I did not. But I am a hard-wired spanko. That means spanking thoughts cross my mind every single day. After a few years of being strictly a spanker, I have experimented on the receiving end with a small number of partners I trusted and felt close to. A lot of it was just fun and games - sports bets, roll the dice for spanks, draw Easter Eggs out of a basket with "sentences" in them, etc. Although it hurts a little, it was not super intense. But taking my pants down in front of a woman is absolutely "sexy" even when it is not sexual and that makes it exciting. It took me a while to get comfortable with the concept - to be able to confess that I wanted to try it because ERs are "not supposed to do that." In fact, in many cases, switches are looked down upon as not being worthy spankers - that's total B.S. At the end of August, I had two women friends over and let them give me my birthday spanking with paddles I made for them. We drank a little wine, ate dinner and then they did the deed. I think all 3 of us would say we had a great time. One time I did get it pretty harshly. I told a spanking partner I wanted to re-enact a paddling I should have received, but got out of in middle school. I have told this story here before so I won't go into detail, but we agreed to 10 licks per cheek with a wooden paddle and she really laid them on. It was all I could do to get through it. But I enjoy a challenge and afterward I felt a sense of accomplishment and I felt closer to her. Another time, I did a self-directed spanking role-play via video with a friend. Did it hurt a little? Sure. Was it fun and sexy? Damn right. I suspect we will do it again.
  13. I have a play partner I have been spanking for 15 years. I have been working with my EE for weight management for 6-1/2 years. These are both regular things. There are others I have know a long time where there is spanking from time to time. I let 2 women give me my birthday spanking this year, one of them I have known for 14 years.
  14. I have never broken one, other than when I attached them to a a wooden block to make a "triple cane." That put a lot of stress a the attachment point. I have given a lot of them away and no one has ever told me they broke.
  15. Humanizing yourself and showing a facial pic are two different things and it depends upon whether you have anything to lose. There are professions (education, for example) where there are codes of conduct in place and you can lose your job if you are too free with your profile. This happened to two teachers I know from Fetlife and the are now black-balled in that profession. Even if you have your photos set to "friends only" on a site, just because someone is your friend today doesn't mean they will be tomorrow and anyone knows how to take a screen shot. I have another friend who was in a relationship that didn't work out and the guy sent a link to her Human Resources Director. She worked in health care and had to sign a code of conduct agreement, even though she had taken her profile down. There are vindictive people in the world. Again, if you have nothing to lose, then be as free as you want to be.
  16. If it is an important, non-negotiable part of a relationship for you, then it needs to come out right away. If you wait too long and someone becomes attached to you before you tell them, then they are going to feel like they have been misled (and they will have been). I have dabbled on vanilla dating sites over they years and even on those I am pretty clear about it. There are subtle ways to do it - for example, one of my profiles used to say "If you enjoyed 50 Shades, then we might have something in common." Similarly, even on a first date, you could say something like "The movie 50 Shades was on last night. Have you ever seen it?" Almost everyone seen the movie or read the book. "What did you think about it?" That would be a safe way to try to introduce the topic and your date's response would tell you whether to continue down the path.
  17. Kellyanne Conway - for lying. The implement doesn't really matter as long as it hurts. 😈
  18. I was in the grocery store and there was a man and a woman (they were not a couple) in the check-out line next to mine. I'm not sure what triggered the conversation, but I overheard them talking about getting the switch growing up, sitting on cushions, etc. I have shared this one before - many years ago, at my brother's wedding reception there was a band playing. I came into the room to listen to the band. I realized I was standing in front of some women and blocking their view. I turned around, apologized, and stepped to the side. One of the woman said, "That's ok, I'll spank you later." I kind of laughed and then she said it again "I'll spank you later." I hadn't "come out" as a spanko back then so nothing became of it. I wonder now what would have happened if I had said "your place or mine?" I was working in the restaurant industry many years ago and on New Year's Eve one of our waitresses got so drunk after her shift that she could barely walk. I told her she couldn't drive and that I would let her sleep at my place and bring her back in the morning for her car. In the morning, she was still very hungover and got sick. Then she told me she had been a very bad girl and I should spank her. She said it a couple of times. I knew her boyfriend so I figured it was best to leave that one alone.
  19. I'm thinking it is probably intentional.
  20. I was drinking wine on the front porch with my next-door neighbors, a late 60's couple, a while back. She was teasing him and he said "when was the last time I beat your ass?" She replied "the last time I let you." With respect to your experience, I would have had a heck of a time not saying something more direct. I understand the need to keep it professional, but it might have started a great conversation.
  21. For me, it's not about "technique" so much, as getting the EE in the right headspace. We start be reviewing performance vs. goals or expectations. I work with someone for weight management and I keep a spreadsheet where I log her daily diet and exercise. When it comes time for a "discussion," it leaves no room for argument because everything has been documented. Of course, she still tries to protest her way out of it, but she knows it's not going to work. When I do discipline, the licks come pretty hard and fast with no warm-up. The sessions are short, usually a couple of minutes or less, but that's all it takes. Afterward, I give her a hug, we talk about how she can do better, and we usually have a glass of wine. After a while, she usually goes into the bathroom to look in the mirror and then comes out to show me the marks. The type of spanking you described with a gradual build-up is more what I do for a stress-relief spanking. I start out slowly with a hand spanking, then progress through a number of implements, ramping the intensity up and down and playing off of her reactions. These can go on for a long time, often an hour or more.
  22. I used to put a lot of work into the preparation, making sure everything was just right. I have been doing it so long now that I just kind of wing it and let it come as is comes. Sometimes improvising is the best part. But it is still exciting. Every time.
  23. I hang out with a kinky crowd so most of my friends know my EE gets spanked. In fact, when people see us together and ask what the nature of our relationship is, I tell them I'm her Disciplinarian.
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