I have never had an issue, TV or radio on or shower is always good for loud implements also asking for a secluded area if possible. Where I go is like a suite with 2 doors to block noise
My ex used to say spank me till I am weak. That meant to almost a state of bliss, maybe even subspace so she could lay there and just be held. and everything on the inside be out
I have met a few people from here over the years but it certainly is a painstaking process most of the time. All you can do is try and be patient and hope something clicks