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Colonel Cokernel

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Colonel Cokernel last won the day on October 8 2020

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  1. I kind of like spanking being an underground thing and discretion being normalized. I generally think that fetishes and kink should be private and not out in the open. I don't think badly of anyone who chooses to show their face or thinks its important to be out of the closet for a kink. But the inevitable consequence of more and more people being open in spanking communities would be more and more people being open in broader society. And anything that gets too out in the open gets idealized and then commodified, corporatized, has its rules worked over by mainstream culture, and then loses its magic. Also, I accept myself as someone who is going to be always be a spanko but I don't think people in my personal and professional life need to accept me as a spanko, or even need to know about it. It would feel like pushing it on people anyway. Many people have peculiar interests and fetishes like dressing up in furry costumes or taking romantic spaghetti baths and to each their own but I don't want to hear about it in mainstream culture or listen to adherents whine about how it deserves acceptance and normalization. Given that I feel that way about spaghetti baths, I think it's only fair to be consistent with spanking. In general I just think expressions of kink should be private. You don't need to have society accept you for you to accept yourself.
  2. Hopefully you will get some kind of apology or explanation for her erratic behavior and unkindness towards you. But as is more likely with deranged people you meet on the internet, nothing is ever their fault. I suppose you won't be contacting her again to find answers. Sometimes curiosity overrides my sense of self preservation. Is it wrong for me to think this situation is rather amusing? She shows no regard for your feelings or health and accuses you of not being able to walk up a hill (if she actually believed you were not in good enough shape to do this, the decent thing to do would be to implore you not to try instead of vitriolically egging you on), when it is she herself who huffs and puffs up the hill.
  3. People asking for that kind of thing are probably fakes themselves
  4. How dare you suggest different nationalities have different cultures and therefore sometimes differing emphasis on some values! Jk My experience with French working people is that they take their leisure time VERY seriously. That thing that happens where it's the weekend and your boss asks you to come in on Saturday? Doesn't happen as much when French people are involved.
  5. If I were to mentor a girl for a long period of time, like all four years of college, I could imagine giving harder spankings/using stronger implements as the girl got farther into her studies and more became expected of her. Perhaps for a girl straight out of high school, we could begin with just hand spankings, but by the time she is a senior, she could expect a thorough hairbrush spanking for the same offenses that got her hand spanked before.
  6. Both people need to be humble and gracious to each other. I practice DD with my girlfriend and there are times we disagree over whether she should be spanked. We have an understanding that the final decision is up to me. She is humble and would accept my decision to spank her even if she disagrees. I also have a responsibility as the dominant partner in the relationship to be gracious to her and consider her opinion earnestly. I trust her and never assume she is trying to brat her way out of punishment she's earned. So I pretty much never go through with spanking her if she disagrees. The rare times I spank her anyway, she trusts in me as the decision maker on such matters.
  7. Look at the comments. "Any woman that needs a spanking can give me a call" LOL
  8. I think it's good to get to know each other first. It's a big responsibility to be in charge of the relationship, you've gotta make sure he's capable of leading before you give him the reins.
  9. I don't know but I don't want to find out lol. I do not want to know what my parents or other family members are into.
  10. I wouldn't expect most people you talk to, clergy or otherwise, would understand. If you're not wired to need spanking in your life, you probably won't understand if someone confides in you about their need, and you're likely to identify it with BDSM or sexual deviancy. If you talk to a priest or pastor they would probably caution you against it.
  11. She told her friends about your spanking fetish? That's horrible.
  12. I don't know how common it is for spankees to "test" their spanker. But when you spank someone for non-disciplinary reasons, there's often some element of fantasy and simulated non-consent. When you're just starting to do that with someone you don't know very well, it's better to err on the side of caution as you have been doing. While it's unfortunate the person you were with was actually wanting you to spank them, it is better than the reverse situation where they were actually just wanting to talk about the situation. By not immediately jumping into spanking, you are showing that you are a level headed person and giving them good reasons to trust you.
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