[(M56), has anyone helped their issues with ADHD with a routine spanking sessions?]

Please don't use spanking as a substitute for actual treatment for ADHD. That is not a smart idea.

[Would you like to LISTEN to spanking stories?]

This sounds like an interesting project to work on.

 

[OneRedBottom/Discipline Domestically - Introduction!]

Welcome, I love your videos, I am really gad you have joined the site. It's an amazing site that is spanko paradise.

[How Important is physical attraction to your decision to engage with spanking with someone?]

As a mentor it doesn't matter. In a relationship it matters a lot, I definitely want a cute bottom to spank.

 

[If your Significant Other lied to you. Doesn't matter what the lie was. What implement would you use to correct that behavior.]

This is possibly the biggest violation of trust she can commit. No discipline is appropriate for this. 

Run away. Fast, and don't look back. 

[Who takes down your pants and underwear or panties before a spanking?]

I swear I have answered this question before, but I guess not on this specific post.

 

I take the pants and panties down.  This has been the case in 99% of the spankings I have given. The only times I didn't have been for trigger related reasons. 

 

[Unplanned witnesses]

When I was very new to the lifestyle maybe 19 or so, I was spanking a friend from college at a motel and in the early stages of the spanking when she was just getting vocal we had a knock on our hotel door that sent us scrambling, her to cover up and me to answer the door.  It was the lady from the front desk who stated that although she was sure that the spanking was well deserved, we should try covering up the noise with the TV. She even suggested the Spanish tv channel because that has shows with a lot of yelling in them.

For reference this motel room had a nice living room area with tables and chairs and a couch and then a back bedroom area. We were doing the spanking in the front living room area because the light from the window reflected nicely on her bare bottom (I was young as I said).  We quickly realized that doing it in the bedroom area provided more sound cover. 

 

There is a follow up to this story, a few weeks later we went back to the same motel and the same lady was at the front desk. She smiled when she saw us and she assigned us the room at the far end, away from anyone else. It wasn't busy so there was nobody within 6 or 7 rooms of us.  

 

[Spanking and intimacy]

Welcome,

 

The answer is simple, if both consenting adults want the spanking to lead to other things (including sexy time) than it can/will.  If one or both doesn't, then it shouldn't because consent is everything*

 

*I am ignoring CNC relationships here because the consent is given as a result of the type of relationship both parties are in.

 

[Is Spanking Sexual?]

As a spanko for me, yes it's sexual.  Spanking is my number one kink/fantasy.  It is the most frequent "adult video" that I watch.  

 

That above being said I think it's important to point out that spanking doesn't have to lead to sex, and it can be done in a completely non-sexual manner to a female mentee and still be something that turns me on when I think about it. 

 

Spanking doesn't replace sex for me, but I find that spanking enhances sex.  Anal for example is better when the bottom is red and sore.  

 

I truly define spanking as sexual and as a fetish for the simple fact that I have to have it in my life.  I can't deny who I am or that I enjoy spanking women. 

 

 

 

[Partner not into Spanking anymore]

You saying you are wired this way tells me everything about your happiness. I would (as a fellow spanko) NEVER stay in a relationship where my spankings needs weren't getting met. I would be miserable and I wouldn't tolerate it.

 

It's not fair that he pulled a sudden switch on you like this (unless the reason is outside of his control such as medical), and you definitely shouldn't tolerate it.

 

That being said I wouldn't suggest you cheat on him by going outside of the relationship without his approval either. The fact that you are willing to go to such lengths, the fact that you are wired for spanking should tell you something about how you feel about your relationship currently.

 

I urge you to sit down with him and explain again your needs and that you are willing to go to any lengths to get them met including ending the relationship. I am sure you love him, but that love can easily turn into resentment at being trapped and unhappy. Life is too short for that.

I wish you the best of luck.

[Thigh spanking?]

Thighs are fair game usually when I spank. Of course all limits are respected.

[Hello]

Greetings from Nashville, I hope you enjoy your time on this site.

[How Far Down?]

If left up to me I take them off. But, as long as the bottom is bare it's not something I would have an issue with if a spankee wanted them at their knees.

[Spanked in the backseat of a car.]

I have given spankings in the backseat of the car. It works out well.

[Catfished by another member on this site!]

5 hours ago, Zhal said:

That might make me consider FetLife again too.

It definitely has improved the site.  Getting verified also helps you talk to people.

4 hours ago, OhRedhead said:

The verification process used on Fetlife would be great here too.  I just completed it a few months back and it seems solid. I imagine that will make catfishing much much harder. Won't do anything for ghosting though.

Yeah, I would like to know the people I spoke to here are real from the jump. It's easy to find out, but I think it would improve the site. 

[Catfished by another member on this site!]

Audio and video chat helps a lot with proving who you are talking to. Also on FetLife they have a verification process to prove people are real. Maybe this site should consider the same.

[Still looking for discipline in nashville]

I am also located in Nashville and I can host.  I mentor so it wouldn't need to be one of discipline either.  

[Public Swats for spankees]

14 hours ago, Redwombutt said:

Why is it that when someone brings up a topic about public spanking, so many people act so prudish? Life is too short to be so stuck up, live a bit, have fun, be proud of who you are. My wife often gives me a good whack or two if I act up in public and nobody ever says anything. I may have said something she didn't like, as I am very anti political correctness, (as most Aussie men my age are), and a good laugh is a good laugh. Have fun and live life.

For me it's about consent. As in unless you at some sort of party or event, nobody in public consented to watching you be spanked. You are forcing your kink on them.  

 

 

[South Florida spankee]

Welcome, I used to live in your area.  

[How has spanking someone benefited you? ... or, how have you benefited from having someone spank you?]

It helps me with my stress. Also as a spanko I can't not spank, the urge is not something I can control or even want to control.  Spanking puts a smile on my face.  Because I also enjoy helping people I knew that mentoring was natural for me to do because it covers both bases. 

 

 

[New graphic novel - adult spanking experiences]

This was amazing and my favorite so far. Can't wait to see more.

[Links to Audio clips of scolding/spanking]

Here you go...

http://corporalpunishmentblog.com/?cat=74

 

 

 

 

[Spankos]

There are spankos all over Tennessee, depending on where you live.

[Being spanked as an outlet for someone’s stress]

This definitely works as a spanker. I know I feel a lot better after I give a sound spanking.

[Does spanking really improve behavior?]

Spanking alone doesn't change behavior. HOWEVER, spanking combined with a willingness to change and the needed support to bring that change about, can indeed change behavior.