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I fully agree with what LongtimeSpanking said above. I only mentored 2 college students but in general I sit down with the person and we discuss and come up with reasonable rules that work for her and in her situation best. I mentored them for a few years, online, and it worked very well in both cases. They did really good.

Hello Bha, what you are describing all sounds very familiar. I am also struggling with a lot of stress in my life and health issues that come from it. I luckily have an amazing mentor who supports me and provides structure and guidance consistently. It took me a very long time by trying different things to realize what could help me reduce stress in order to come up with reasonable rules that I can follow and that help. Once you figure out rules for yourself, the key is to stick to them. You need your mentor to be consistent and to hold you accountable at all times. I try to give as much feedback as possible, so that she can learn about me, knows how I am doing and also which discipline is most effective. I fully trust her and know she has my best interest in mind, always. This level of trust needs to build up over time. Pushing boundaries is completely normal, especially in the beginning of a mentoring relationship. Once you realize that he consistently keeps it up, that he is fully committed to the process, your commitment will follow. It needs full commitment from both to be successful. Nobody expects you to be perfect but he can only help you if you tell him what's going on. No, it's not fun getting in trouble and knowing there will be discipline but you still have to tell him - without your commitment this cannot work either. Both have to play their part. I wish you good luck that you will find ways and rules that help you reduce your stress. I am still struggling but it got much better in recent weeks since my mentor tightened up things and we follow a more strict approach these days with rules that help me a lot. If you want to discuss methods for stress reduction and better handling of it, just let me know (and feel free to send me a message). Good luck!

I'm very happy for you Katie! Congratulations :-) huggs

I think it's really great that you go there and thanks a lot for sharing this with all. All the best wishes!

I have to add that bratchick can really be very naughty sometimes! I know from personal experience with her *hugs* bratchick Happy for you!

Hi scorpio, an online mentor is supporting his mentee to reach her goals in the same way as a mentor who is living close does. The goals of the mentee are discussed first; he is there to help her reach her goals; rules are discussed and defined to help her get there, and in case of failure there are consequences that work as a deterrent and help her stay on track. The key to mentoring is communication and trust, there must be lots of communication and in my experience, in an online mentorship there is often even more communication than in real mentor relationships. It always depends on the persons involved of course. For online mentoring there is not only text chat. As soon as both get to know and trust each other, it is also possible to use voice and webcam to hear/see each other. Both can be used for punishments as well. Most new spankees mainly wonder how punishments are done in an online mentor relationship but there are lots of very effective ways and punishments. An online spanking can never be as effective as a real one, but for many new spankees it's a safe method to gather their first experiences, to see how they feel about it. In online mentoring many alternative punishments can be used in addition to spanking. Online spanking does not work for everyone though. However I had a few mentees in the past and for those who asked for online mentoring, it always worked surprisingly well and they made great progress to achieve their goals. If you have more questions, please just msg me.

Hi baby, I've always put my mentees in the corner to give them time to calm down... this always takes at least a couple of minutes... and then they can think about what got them in this situation and how to avoid it in the future. And for a spanker it's just nice to see a still standing, contrite young lady with a glowing red bottom whose attitude and behavior has changed completely due to the spanking... it also gives us spankers time to admire our work ;-)

Yes, what you are feelings is totally perfectly normal, I fully agree with what the others said. It's supposed to be that way.

Different variations of corner time... for instance having to pin a coin with the nose against the wall ...and it better not drops! (hands on head) or having to sit on a small wooden block (in the corner) A young lady once told me that she had to sit on a small wooden block after a spanking so that she stopped squirming in her seat. The block was not large enough to fully sit on but of a size so that it pressed fully into both sit spots hard, with rough edges e.g. 3" x 4" and 1" high. The higher it is, the worse it presses into the bottom, the worse it hurts. It starts being uncomfortable in the beginning but after about 5-10 mins it starts to hurt more and more... The evil thing is that if you sit still it starts to hurt more and more over time and then you try to move and shift but if you squirm around it just hurts worse and you end up sitting still again. If used after a spanking, it doesn't allow the sting of a spanking to go away. It can also be used for writing lines or essays....

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