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  1. Had you asked me this before I was married or early on in my marriage, I would have said I lean ER and would have had a hard time being submissive. But I eventually discovered my wife hated to be really spanked and put a stop to it quickly. And while she isn't really a spanko, she discovered she likes being in charge and putting me in my place when she thinks I need it. And I realized how much I've always I've always been turned on by strong women. Of course, I would love to get a chance to turn a female bottom pink, but I am perfectly happy in my role in our casual female-led marriage. I am no slave. We both make decisions, but we also both know that she has the final say, and can have me dropping my pants for a dose of her rubber paddle. She isn't overly strict - in fact I wish she was stricter - and I think it's had a positive effect on both of us. She feels more empowered. And I've learned to listen to her, appreciate her, and love her more than ever, We've been married for 26 years. And if you told me even 10 years ago that this is what our relationship would look like, I may not have believed it. But I couldn't be happier.
  2. A heavy rubber paddle (like the truro terror my wife prefers) produces a wicked sting with thud, but it doesn't bruise as deeply or easily as wood. It definitely gets the biggest reaction out of me with the least amount of effort on my wife's part. Wonder why she likes it so much.
  3. I agree with @tearyaftercare. I used to think the bathbrush and heavy wooden paddle were the worst, and then I bought my wife a Rubber Paddle called the Truro Terror. And it is just that. It is definitely the most painful implement I've felt. It doesn't bruise as easily as a bathbrush or paddle, however; so the effects don't last as long. It has become my wife's favorite implement.
  4. If you are on iPUN, what is your username? Mine is Tom
  5. For me it has evolved as I've grown older and gotten to know myself better. I have always been attracted to female behinds and always have a strong urge to smack them. I love to have a bare female bottom to smack and rub and play with. Because of this, I used to think of myself as more of a spanker than a spankee. As I developed my obsession with more serious disciplinary spankings, I learned about another side of myself. My vanilla wife hates to get a real spanking but was willing to try spanking me. I began to realize how much I needed that. And we both realized that her being in charge was something that was good for our marriage and a turn-on for both of us. Looking back at our personalities and relationship, it makes sense. I have always been the more laid-back, easy-going, and lazy type while she's the one who gets things done. Now she has a means for motivating me to get things done. 🏏 She says she can tell when I'm getting to the point where I need a good "ass whoopin". I get more of a smart mouth and a cocky attitude and she knows it's time to knock me down a peg. After one of her ass whoopings, I am more humble, more relaxed, and more focused on pleasing her. It took us almost 25 years to get to this point, but I think we've found a place that really works for us. She's more empowered, and I'm more attracted to her than ever. Unfortunately, she been hinting that I'm due for one of her ass whoopins very soon.
  6. Great story that was well written. I love the details. Any chance your going to treat us to the story of when she used that brush on you and reduced you "to a whimpering boy"?
  7. For me, it's catharsis. The spankings I get from my wife are punishments, so I want to feel truly sorry for what I have done to earn the spanking -- not only while the spanking is happening, but long afterwards. I want my wife to feel satisfied that I have learned my lesson and will work to do better. I want us both to feel like we've "cleared the air" and can begin again, closer than ever. That can only happen if I get it a full force, long punishment spanking that has a lasting impact.
  8. My story is similar to David although there wasn't one event that suddenly transformed my wife into "French vanilla". After years of her trying to spank me (she quickly made it clear that she hated being spanked), me giving her things to read, buying different implements, trying to set up different scenarios and structures for spanking, she came to realize that she liked being in charge. That turned out to be the key. She decides when I deserved to be spanked and she is much more enthusiastic about it. I'm not sure whether she gets any more of a "thrill" out of spanking me, but she certainly seems to enjoy it a lot more. And loves to take me down a peg or two.
  9. Thanks for sharing, Chawsee. I don't think I've ever heard the fantasy of a female spanker before. Seems like it has touched on the fantasies many of us switch and spankee men harbor. I think the line us forming already. I hope you have the stamina to keep up. 😉
  10. Hi, Welcome. I'm in Bucks County too. Maybe we can chat sometime. Tom
  11. Nice to see other spankos from the Philly burbs. I'm in Bucks County.
  12. What was your therapist's thoughts on all this? Does she see a spanking fetish as a psychological "problem" that needs to be cured?
  13. Great questions! I would say any relationship where the female is dominant would qualify as an FLR, but most people would also consider some form of discipline or control being administered by the female as part of the definition. And for those of us on this site, that discipline would have to come in the form of spanking used to establish and maintain the female's authority. Like you, @BottomSwitch, my wife was always the more dominant one in our relationship. Now that she has added spanking as discipline her dominance and authority has grown. Would love to chat with you sometime.
  14. Looks like you worked out the exact solution that Jillian Keenan claims is the only way this can work. But since getting spanked outside the relationship is not something my wife will allow, I wonder if it can be worked out some other way.
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