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Everything posted by MrBottoms

  1. a contemporary translation of "genuine anger", for the most part, might be a " significantly increased, yet controllable, level of dismay" or rather "an extremely high, tho' manageable, BP surge" šŸ˜
  2. b/c it's the "Seat of Understanding" Point A [bottom] to Point B [brain] = the shortest distance between 2 points. šŸ˜‰
  3. Initial "emotion" is the reason there is First a verbal "discussion" regarding an incident. Whereas it might be a one-way or two-way discussion to recover from my initial reaction to a particular incident, sometimes regarded as "an extremely high level of dismay" [massive BP surge šŸ˜], which allows for an emotion level [BPšŸ˜] to return to normal. First, for listening to the "other side". Second, to allow for any such out-of-control interference to Cool Down & to run its course. And then, "Believe me" there will be the appropriate consequence.
  4. Each individual and each "challenge" is personally & individually tailored. The goal is to overcome the habit in question. Habits, along with the level & longevity of the habit, is considered & then entered into the course of modification. All rules are negotiable, within reason of course, and at the sole discretion of [me šŸ˜] the disciplinarian.
  5. In a disciplinary setting, the best safe-word I've ever found is to Pay Close Attention to what's going on [physical & verbal cues] from beginning to end, and even after that. After all, it is quite possible that someone in distress just might not be able to use the appropriate safe-word. If it's other than disciplinary, then Go-for-It.
  6. There are occasions when & where safe-word on any level would apply. However, I have not encountered one of those occasions. Safe-wording has always been discussed during the "getting acquainted" phase but that's as far as the discussion would lead. My complete attention is focused on verbal & physical cues throughout the disciplinary process. Thru a number of years & encounters there has never been an unfortunate incident which either side neglected or regretted.
  7. "One is to serve the Other", which is biblical. Not merely opinion.
  8. The "sit spot" : aka "Brat's" premium target area for the intended "applied psychology". It is the area just below the apex of the buttocks and extends down to the top of the thighs. Or in layman's terms........the area which you use to "sit upon". Thus. the area which provides the Most Cushioning. šŸ˜‰
  9. A full explanation & sincere apology (Maximum remorse & contrition wouldn't hurt) from you + the appropriate discipline (which would impress upon you Not to ever repeat) to follow should be sufficient reparation of the momentary & without forethought breach of trust.
  10. I almost Always apologize before or after. As in..."I am sorry that it has come to this but this is going to hurt you more than it's going to hurt me" "I'm sorry that I had to do it but it was for your own good ! !"
  11. hmm. Note to self.........šŸ¤” Replace serpentine belt. Stop by Auto Zone. Pick up 1 serpentine belt. Keep old, worn serp belt for future use. šŸ˜
  12. Back-sliding is quite natural & quite common when left unsupervised, especially habits which have been developed or sustained over a long term. There are varying degrees to which a habit may actually get resolved. Long term habits take longer to reform b/c long term habits require long term attention. Tho' they can be completely resolved when "tended to" for as long as it takes.. the habit will simply disappear eventually. It comes down to "replace one [bad] habit with a [good or at least neutral] habit. The habit did not develop overnight, so therefore it can not get fixed overnight. The same habit most likely strengthened to an overwhelming dominant control over time. It then becomes an overwhelming "force of habit", a natural form of expression in the case of language usage almost to a frustration level until it has reached an "out of control" stage. The unfortunate element of the language equation is that same habit didn't start out that way. The same habit began as "a choice" Or I usually refer to as ....an "error in judgment" and then culminated from there.
  13. I will be Blatant here. It's not only abusive manipulation. It's Sophomoric & Adolescent.
  14. depends on the issue being dealt with, and also My Mood & what I intend to accomplish. Sometimes it's simply the ol' fashioned "Bend Over, Grab your Ankles & Stick that Bottom Out" Tho, I'm flexible. Other times it's over a chair, couch arm, mattress, any supportive position, etc. Or just plain Over My Knee.
  15. "do you want this to ever stop? ........ get those hands away" usually defines the moment.
  16. Yes, they do. Tho' the desire to stop must be an integral part. It's essentially a Desire but Lacking in the Willpower dept.
  17. 50+ years, 15 years which have been active online And with multiple Repeat encounters, I suspect that I have probably not been "doing it wrong" šŸ˜ If they had not felt the initial "need to overcome a behavior choice" which was the idea to begin with, it is highly Unlikely that the connection would have materialized. šŸ˜‰
  18. Harsh is probably a judgement call But I've had to make certain a few times that it would be Difficult & Quite Challenging to Sit afterwards, comfortably that is, a few times. A Direct Result when ever there has been a case of....... "Stubborn-Itis"
  19. Nudity on any level has never been an issue or pref with me. I have paddled many a hiney over a variety of clothing items, as it is commonly a "come as you are". . Whether on the bare or over any type of clothing, as any level of modesty is always respected, my intent as always is to "get to the Bottom of it". Tho' I will add that I have yet to meet a young lady who would negotiate a strong preference to clothing covering as a specific potential deal breaker, thong being the exception.
  20. "Grip Here Firmly in case of Frustration" [painted on handle] Just about sums it up. šŸ˜‰
  21. Rattan over bamboo, as a wood choice, is essential. Bamboo is worthless from my perspective. Bamboo can split & cause injury. Practice is also essential. Find an object to practice on, a pillow or mattress, clothing on a hanger, Or anything which is able to handle/absorb impact, is perfect for such occasion. I will warm up/practice on a pillow to perfect my aim to the level of confidence if I haven't used the cane in awhile.
  22. I always let the paddle [or choice of implement] to do all or most of "the talkin' " for me. All verbal discussion or discourse, including any appropriate scolding along with sufficient opportunity to plea a defense, is available prior to the choice of disciplinary action.
  23. There is always a "disciplinary Understanding" [consent agreement] established, which has already been negotiated throughout the comm phase prior to beginning of the actual disciplinary sessions. Everything is "above board", cards on the table, etc". Any particular 'she" knows what-to, and equally what-not-to, expect. Clarity avoids any & chances of misunderstanding. In addition, there is always sufficient time to present a "defense argument" [verbal plea] to change what is most likely going to happen. [tho' it usually is not successful šŸ˜‰ The running result is "No Surprises".
  24. a "true" 'nilla cannot be converted. Ain't gonna happen. Nor can a "true" spanko be converted to 'nilla, which also cannot happen. If there is a conversion, then the 'nilla or spanko wasn't "true" to begin with.
  25. I have made all of my paddles. A few other implements have been purchased, you know, for Posterior, I mean "posterity" sake.
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