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Child of Light

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  1. I added on the “brat” title for you! 

  2. I broke my ER. Back on the injured list for M. MARY 🤨

  3. I broke my ER. Back on the injured list for M. MARY 🤨

    1. Child of Light

      Child of Light

      This might put you on the naughty list this year :P 

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  4. What traits do you look for in a disciplinary partner?

    As a bottom / spankee, I know that I have to be honest about my needs and my behaviors. I have to be willing to adhere to the guidelines set up for my benefit and growth. When it comes to discipline specifically, I want a partner who can be consistent and firm, but understanding. 

    I have decided to start looking for an accountability partner again. It has been quite a while since I have put out any feelers, but it never hurts to try. 

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    1. Child of Light

      Child of Light

      Consistency would be a limit for me. It would need to be, for me to follow certain rules.I think it's entirely possible to have a 'older sibling' dynamic; where they root on your relationship and are close - as long as your husband is ok with that setup. It will always be more intimate than a regular friendship, but for me a friendship needs to be a goal to develop or I don't get anything out of it. Even if it's making 10 minutes of space to speak per day. Friendships, just like relationships are work to maintain connection. If you're willing to commit to goals for a top, they need to be willing to commit to the baseline of communication! 

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  5. What traits do you look for in a disciplinary partner?

    As a bottom / spankee, I know that I have to be honest about my needs and my behaviors. I have to be willing to adhere to the guidelines set up for my benefit and growth. When it comes to discipline specifically, I want a partner who can be consistent and firm, but understanding. 

    I have decided to start looking for an accountability partner again. It has been quite a while since I have put out any feelers, but it never hurts to try. 

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    1. Child of Light

      Child of Light

      For me it needs to be a long built dynamic even if it’s platonic. I need to know that if I called about something going on in my life that they’ll always make reasonable space for me. A one off thing doesn’t feel right. 

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  6. I originally came to this site in an attempt to return somewhat to my DD roots. I've been living an M/s, D/s, and CNC lifestyle for so long, that something about connecting in the DD space again felt appealing. Having spent some time going through this site and having some conversations, I'm not sure it's the right approach for me. I think those other lifestyles are more in alignment with me and that my desire to return to DD was maybe more nostalgic that what I really desire. It's something I'll have to consider in greater detail. 

    1. Child of Light

      Child of Light

      This site is for everyone so your more than welcomed to talk about your desires here 

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  7. I haven't been able to login for several days get error message EX1114.  SpankDiscipline

    1. Child of Light

      Child of Light

      We are still working out some issues. And will keep posted when fully updated. 

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  8. Heads up ee's. Screenshot_20220430-120323_Chrome.jpg.e452a5d99274ba80c4470e841c0ddd54.jpgSpring is in the air and the ERs are waking from hibernation 

  9. Apparently I am not getting all of the DM's you may have been sending me so I apologize if that's the case.  I am not ignoring anyone.  Please feel free to post on my wall for now and I will reach out to you when I can.  Thank you for your understanding.

    1. Child of Light

      Child of Light

      It’s quite possible your inbox is full. 

  10. What do you think are the primary responsibilities of each person in a disciplinary relationship / mentorship?

    In another post, @Chawseeshared some wise words about disciplinary relationships (sorry, folks - I really don't like the term "mentor"): "Being a responsible disciplinarian is A LOT of work."

    Over the years, I have discussed this issue with both Tops and bottoms - regarding the nature of responsibilty in disciplinary relationships. What are your thoughts?

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    1. Child of Light

      Child of Light

      This would be a great thread topic :) I believe the main responsibility of the ER is to help the EE with their goals and for the EE to follow intrusions (based on their limits). In these dynamics the EE's needs and health always come first. 

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  11. Any other Brats up waaaay past their bedtime? Doing anything fun/ mischievous? Plotting my next most excellent prank(s). ?

  12. The new faith based profile photograph isn't appropriate on an adult site.

     

  13. The new faith based profile photograph isn't appropriate on an adult site.

     

    1. Child of Light

      Child of Light

      You aren't staff, to say what is and what isn't ok for the site. (Site Owner) Thanks!

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  14. The new faith based profile photograph isn't appropriate on an adult site.

     

    1. Child of Light

      Child of Light

      No one should have to apologize for who they are. If it offends some, so what? :) 

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  15. The new faith based profile photograph isn't appropriate on an adult site.

     

    1. Child of Light

      Child of Light

      Why not? People can express their needs in many ways. Sometimes people connect religion within their needs. 

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  16. Congratulations to badboy and his beautiful wife. Hope you are both very happy. That's one way to make sure you both get lots of spanking activity during a pandemic?

  17. AG digs your new profile pic !!! ?

  18. Dear Friends,
     
    You are appreciated from the bottom of my heart for your outreach. The kind, thoughtful messages you left here, and the emails that flooded my inbox, blew me away. I couldn't believe it. I had always hoped that I was contributing well, at times questioning myself and forever striving to improve the quality of my content. I am most honored. I knew this was a good group, but you folks are exceptional.
     
    It was never my intention to take something private and "make it public." This is why I kept the announcement of my departure very brief and mentioned only one essential detail, to explain my apology. I shared this because you mean a lot to me, and I didn't want to just leave SN without explanation. You deserve better than that. It was Child of Light who made her side of the story public knowledge, in great detail. I therefore believe that I have an equal right to share my side of the story. 
     
    Admittedly, I had a hard time believing that people had complained about me because I told one snarky poster that personal attacks aren't permitted on SN and that he needed to follow the site rules and guidelines if he's going to post here. I need to point out that I said this to him only after I had already contacted a moderator and nothing was done about it. The response I later received was that they "let people be adults and work it out on their own" before getting involved. Okay, now I understand their approach. I was merely trying to prevent SN from becoming another forum where people making scathing remarks to each other because such behavior is tolerated. Where this is allowed, it can spread like wildfire.
     
    I appreciate Child of Light clarifying publicly that these alleged "complaints" were directed at the site's leadership, not against me personally. She did tell me in a PM about members' lack of trust because of past management. Yet I didn't connect the two. In the messages I had received from the aforementioned moderator, it felt like these complaints were against me
     
    For the record, there was no PM "warning" to another member. I merely personal-messaged somebody here to explain that certain types of photos are not permitted. This member responded to my PM and took said photo down immediately. I thanked him promptly, and that was the end of it. It was drama-free and there were no hard feelings. I did share with this particular moderator, as a quick heads-up, what had happened, along with a copy of my brief PM. So I was naturally appalled to read about this private, innocuous message being pointed out as a public example to others of inappropriate behavior. 
     
    All this aside, I believe that Child of Light is a good person, as are the moderators here. Their jobs aren't easy, and they provide a terrific platform for people who are into adult spanking to meet one another and share their experiences and insights. It is my understanding, too, that Child of Light has made great improvements to the site from what it used to be. She is gradually building up a trustworthy leadership base that didn't formerly exist. Most importantly, though, this is not my forum, it is theirs, and they have the right to run it as they see fit. Please don't allow what happened here to taint your trust in the forum's leaders. This was my issue; it doesn't need to be anyone else's. They're doing the best they can, and with two new mods onboard to help out, things should become even better. 
     
    Thank you again, friends, for your understanding and support. 
     
    Most Sincerely,
    Chawsee
    1. Child of Light

      Child of Light

      Again, I really think this was all a miscommunication. :) I’m glad to see you back! Despite this being owned by me, we do take ideas and proposed guidelines to be modified (as I mentioned in PM); and honestly a community thrives on feedback. It’s members who grow forums. 

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  19. Goodbye Friends.

    Moderators informed me that they received several complaints about one of my posts from a few days back. I apologize for saying something that distressed so many members of our community. That was honestly not my intention, and I apologize. I cared a lot about SN. I hope I contributed honorably otherwise while I was here. 

    Kindest Regards to you all,

    Chawsee  :rose:

    1. Child of Light

      Child of Light

      @SpudStateSpanky, it was a misunderstanding. A staff member asked her not to present herself as if she was a moderator -- because she made a post, as well as a PM warning to a member she wrote up.

      These are actions staff members do. Rather than tell members they could be kicked off the site, for violations, we asked her to tag staff, report post, use the Ask the staff button etc. This was not an unreasonable request. 

      Members came to us confused and felt violated because Chawsee's name wasn't indication she was staff. We explained we where getting complaints. They weren't directed at her but at us, about what members felt was lack of transparency on site administration end.

      Chawsee's intentions were well intended, she did not receive a warning, or anything of that nature. Most members that would have done what she did would have. But we knew her intent meant well.

      There is nothing for Chawsee to be hurt over. If she is hurt, she might be honestly taking it a lot more personal than she needs to. This was a private matter that was now made public, which might make her feel embarrassed -- however she did not clearly state the whole story as it was. 

      In fact, I explained in detail why members were paranoid, and that we knew what she was doing was in good intent, and thanked her for being so dedicated to SN! However, we do have an internal system that we moderate people (and a system); that isn't public, and would prefer members not do what she did. 

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  20. Goodbye Friends.

    Moderators informed me that they received several complaints about one of my posts from a few days back. I apologize for saying something that distressed so many members of our community. That was honestly not my intention, and I apologize. I cared a lot about SN. I hope I contributed honorably otherwise while I was here. 

    Kindest Regards to you all,

    Chawsee  :rose:

    1. Child of Light

      Child of Light

      @ianl @F/m_Spanking_only @Bramblewine I explained above the miscommunication. Hopefully she comes back! 

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  21. Goodbye Friends.

    Moderators informed me that they received several complaints about one of my posts from a few days back. I apologize for saying something that distressed so many members of our community. That was honestly not my intention, and I apologize. I cared a lot about SN. I hope I contributed honorably otherwise while I was here. 

    Kindest Regards to you all,

    Chawsee  :rose:

    1. Child of Light

      Child of Light

      @Spanksforthememories Again, if you read my post it was a misunderstanding! :) Since she made it public, I outlined the issue above. 

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  22. Goodbye Friends.

    Moderators informed me that they received several complaints about one of my posts from a few days back. I apologize for saying something that distressed so many members of our community. That was honestly not my intention, and I apologize. I cared a lot about SN. I hope I contributed honorably otherwise while I was here. 

    Kindest Regards to you all,

    Chawsee  :rose:

    1. Child of Light

      Child of Light

      Hopefully her emotions settle down and she realizes once re-reading no one was taking offense at her and that she is welcomed here. I encourage people to PM her to show her love and support. And to clarify, @wide_eyed we have never accepted donations on the site, so please don't assume that concerns brought to a member were due to the "contributions" another person who voices concerns make. We treat everyone equally here and just want everyone to be kind. 

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  23. Goodbye Friends.

    Moderators informed me that they received several complaints about one of my posts from a few days back. I apologize for saying something that distressed so many members of our community. That was honestly not my intention, and I apologize. I cared a lot about SN. I hope I contributed honorably otherwise while I was here. 

    Kindest Regards to you all,

    Chawsee  :rose:

    1. Child of Light

      Child of Light

      It was a mistake in wording and I have clarified it with her in PM. A post she made, caused some members to think she was a moderator, which was concerning to some members that we didn't announce that and she wasn't labeled as staff. The offense wasn't -at- her but at administration, thinking we weren't being transparent.

      We asked her to words things less like she was a staff member when pointing out guidelines (including not sending members PM warnings); instead -- tag staff, use the report button or contact us. 

      Chawsee's posts and PM's came from determination from the heart, and she wanted to help make a difference for SN, and we appreciate that! We were just kindly letting her know that the wording was slightly aggressive and that the report button is a feature the moderators use to discuss posts, and to really go into depth. In a PM exchange I had with her, I explained why some members raised questioned and concerns --  because pre 2018 we didn't have much transparency (before I started adminning the site).

      She is a welcomed joy here and brings great value to the site! We are sorry if she took away something different. We just want the members here to be kind and I think she does too ❤️ 

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  24. I am an atheist and anti-theist, my convictions are so adamant that I got the symbol for American Atheists tattooed on my shoulder.
    I love LSD, it is the TRUTHand progressive democrats are enemies of the state and should be sent to political reeducation camps. 

    1. Child of Light

      Child of Light

      Again, politic posts do not belong anyplace other than the debate section. It is to be civil towards other members, and not logical fallacies. This is a spanking forum, not a politic forum. We allow debate in the debate section as an outlet. Please re-read our guidelines. 

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  25. It would appear that there is no logon option in the tablet/phone version of the site. I've tried android, which doesn't work ... haven't tried ipad/iphone devices.

    1. Child of Light

      Child of Light

      We're re-coding the theme (or in general) but this should work for now :)

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