Child of Light

@michgal.k - you haven't been bratting much! 

Hrmm, it could be a FEW years...... 

This might put you on the naughty list this year  

Consistency would be a limit for me. It would need to be, for me to follow certain rules.I think it's entirely possible to have a 'older sibling' dynamic; where they root on your relationship and are close - as long as your husband is ok with that setup. It will always be more intimate than a regular friendship, but for me a friendship needs to be a goal to develop or I don't get anything out of it. Even if it's making 10 minutes of space to speak per day. Friendships, just like relationships are work to maintain connection. If you're willing to commit to goals for a top, they need to be willing to commit to the baseline of communication! 

For me it needs to be a long built dynamic even if it’s platonic. I need to know that if I called about something going on in my life that they’ll always make reasonable space for me. A one off thing doesn’t feel right. 

This site is for everyone so your more than welcomed to talk about your desires here 

We are still working out some issues. And will keep posted when fully updated. 

They can go back to bed!!! 

It’s quite possible your inbox is full. 

This would be a great thread topic I believe the main responsibility of the ER is to help the EE with their goals and for the EE to follow intrusions (based on their limits). In these dynamics the EE's needs and health always come first. 

I thought Mich K don't do bedtimes? 

Maybe take your suggestions to PM?

You aren't staff, to say what is and what isn't ok for the site. (Site Owner) Thanks!

No one should have to apologize for who they are. If it offends some, so what?  

Why not? People can express their needs in many ways. Sometimes people connect religion within their needs. 

Congrats! 

Thank you!

Again, I really think this was all a miscommunication.  I’m glad to see you back! Despite this being owned by me, we do take ideas and proposed guidelines to be modified (as I mentioned in PM); and honestly a community thrives on feedback. It’s members who grow forums. 

@SpudStateSpanky, it was a misunderstanding. A staff member asked her not to present herself as if she was a moderator -- because she made a post, as well as a PM warning to a member she wrote up.

These are actions staff members do. Rather than tell members they could be kicked off the site, for violations, we asked her to tag staff, report post, use the Ask the staff button etc. This was not an unreasonable request. 

Members came to us confused and felt violated because Chawsee's name wasn't indication she was staff. We explained we where getting complaints. They weren't directed at her but at us, about what members felt was lack of transparency on site administration end.

Chawsee's intentions were well intended, she did not receive a warning, or anything of that nature. Most members that would have done what she did would have. But we knew her intent meant well.

There is nothing for Chawsee to be hurt over. If she is hurt, she might be honestly taking it a lot more personal than she needs to. This was a private matter that was now made public, which might make her feel embarrassed -- however she did not clearly state the whole story as it was. 

In fact, I explained in detail why members were paranoid, and that we knew what she was doing was in good intent, and thanked her for being so dedicated to SN! However, we do have an internal system that we moderate people (and a system); that isn't public, and would prefer members not do what she did. 

@ianl @F/m_Spanking_only @Bramblewine I explained above the miscommunication. Hopefully she comes back! 

@Spanksforthememories Again, if you read my post it was a misunderstanding!  Since she made it public, I outlined the issue above. 

Hopefully her emotions settle down and she realizes once re-reading no one was taking offense at her and that she is welcomed here. I encourage people to PM her to show her love and support. And to clarify, @wide_eyed we have never accepted donations on the site, so please don't assume that concerns brought to a member were due to the "contributions" another person who voices concerns make. We treat everyone equally here and just want everyone to be kind. 

It was a mistake in wording and I have clarified it with her in PM. A post she made, caused some members to think she was a moderator, which was concerning to some members that we didn't announce that and she wasn't labeled as staff. The offense wasn't -at- her but at administration, thinking we weren't being transparent.

We asked her to words things less like she was a staff member when pointing out guidelines (including not sending members PM warnings); instead -- tag staff, use the report button or contact us. 

Chawsee's posts and PM's came from determination from the heart, and she wanted to help make a difference for SN, and we appreciate that! We were just kindly letting her know that the wording was slightly aggressive and that the report button is a feature the moderators use to discuss posts, and to really go into depth. In a PM exchange I had with her, I explained why some members raised questioned and concerns --  because pre 2018 we didn't have much transparency (before I started adminning the site).

She is a welcomed joy here and brings great value to the site! We are sorry if she took away something different. We just want the members here to be kind and I think she does too ❤️ 

Again, politic posts do not belong anyplace other than the debate section. It is to be civil towards other members, and not logical fallacies. This is a spanking forum, not a politic forum. We allow debate in the debate section as an outlet. Please re-read our guidelines. 

We're re-coding the theme (or in general) but this should work for now