I am tied up this week so next is better--Oct. 9 or 10?
As to position, OTK is nice for the spanker but difficult when both are plus sized. I have pulled up a chair to an ottoman or couch, where the 'ee presents their bottom, sort of semi OTK. YOur desired implements are fine. Do you have any of your choice?
I like to spank as the 'ee wishes to be spanked with their preferred implements.
Some 'ees want to feel like they have given up control completely.. That's what I meant by dominated.
I usually like to talk to a person to be sure they are not just lookee loos. I'll have to think about no phone call. Let's keep on touch.