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  1. Maybe because we'd love to meet Ms. Christy?
  2. i agree with those statements...we should meet!
  3. Hmmm......too bad we are so far apart, sir!
  4. Thanks, Ms. Chawsee! i very much agree...and await Your paddles and straps...
  5. Although i wish a spanking radar existed, it doesn't for me and apparently not for anyone around me. A spanking radar could sure help and possibly lead to some associations and experiences. We've had a topic about wearing some outward symbol to indicate our interest, so i'd guess that most don't have the radar. Congratulations to those who have it and can sense fellow spankophiles. That must be a great blessing! Consider it a gift--i think those who have it are among a very few with the gift. It had never occurred to me that gays can detect other gays at 50 paces--interesting concept. Too bad spankos don't give off and detect the spanko vibe!
  6. For me, as a spankeeeee, i'd choose, if i may be so bold, our most celebrated Spanker...Ms. Chawsee! With paddles, and wide, leather straps... ...apologies to the guilty celebrity!
  7. ammon

    Acts of submission

    ...i'd guess that it could increase sting some...and for me, shaving seems to also show and increase submissiveness. How do Ers feel about it?
  8. ammon

    Acts of submission

    Have you noticed much difference in the pain or sting level from being hairless? Does it make you feel more submissive than otherwise?
  9. i'd guess that a lot more males want and need a paddling than Women...and that it's more important to the males to receive the paddling than it would be to Women... Since men are constantly on these kinds of forums seeking paddlings, it's likely that the men aren't getting paddled at home...
  10. SassyLittle...i hope You knew i was only passing along an article! i didn't come up with those ideas, and shouldn't get credit (or blame) fort them. Thanks...
  11. Yes, i’ve been in gym locker rooms after paddlings. The first time, i went the day after a serious paddling and clearly was still very red, marked, and probably bruised. i tried to keep my bum close to the locker or locker door, and walked to and from the showers with a towel wrapped around me. After that, i didn’t exercise as much caution. Generally, i think, men aren’t prone to look much or comment on each others’ anatomy. So i just acted natural. Another time, i went to the gym right after a good paddling (a different gym in the same franchise), and handled it the same way–a little discreet the first day, but not really afterward. The locker room wasn’t super crowded then. Had someone commented, maybe i could have just remarked, “yeah, a friend paddled me.” That could have led to embarrassment, teasing, telling, or worse, or possibly another paddling. A few months later, my Wife and i ran into a gentleman and his Wife at Walmart. He recognized me from the gym and commented that he’d seen me there several times, and asked how things were. Although he didn’t mention anything about a crimson bum, i really wondered if he remembered that or not. Unfortunately, i didn’t recognize him then or later. On the other occasion, i ran into some work colleagues on the gym floor. Oh well. Nobody commented on my very red, sore bum either time, as far as i knew. And another time, i arranged to meet an acquaintance at a gym and pool recreation center. In my bag, i had a couple of paddles. We waited until the coast was fairly clear, and changed in the family dressing room. He paddled me briefly before and after our swim. Overall, it was a good meeting and we enjoyed getting acquainted. On another occasion, after i left the open shower area and returned to my locker (also an open area), i turned around and glanced about the room. i didn’t have my eyeglasses on then, but i was sure I saw another gentleman in the shower with a very red bum. I only saw it for a second, but thought someone must have spanked or paddled him. Still, these occasions were quite rare.
  12. i think a couple of good paddles and a broad, thick, leather strap complement each other very well. The paddles can provide a deep, thuddy experience that will continue to hurt long after the paddling, and the strap can provide a very serious, sharp sting. Ideally, a Spanker would enjoy using both kinds of implements for a good paddling session.
  13. Since You’ve mentioned this before, Ms. NewEr, it sounds like You want to try it, and maybe You should try it. i agree that You may wish to reserve it for special occasions. Although i can’t comment on how well a punishment paddling right after a release may correct behavior, i can offer a few perspectives from my viewpoint. Keep in mind, though, that a punishment paddling with all excitement entirely removed may result in resentment rather than in remedying behavior, if that is Your only reason to paddle. As indicated above, a paddling on a male right after a release intensifies and multiplies the effect. Without doubt, Your spankee will focus on the punishment after a release. Though i've never experienced this, i'm certain it's true. After a release, i have no desire whatever for any kind of spanking or paddling (or anything!). Still, i'd like to submit to it under the right circumstances (which are evermore unlikely!!!). The ideal circumstances would include someone who has quite seriously applied paddles and straps to me on several occasions. W/we would have established an approach and an outcome. Surely i would know what the paddling sessions feel like, emotionally and physically. Then, we would both agree, as an experiment, that a paddling and strapping session should take place immediately after a release. We would both commit to that, and having committed to it, neither of us would back out. The release would be embarrassing, humbling, and maybe even a tad humiliating. After the release, i would really not want to submit to the paddling. We would have agreed that the session will be just as serious as the previous sessions, and a bit more and a bit longer than previous sessions. Having committed to the experiment, neither of us would back out--we would go through with it--completely. (On the other hand, i could still consider a paddling after a release, even without the ideal circumstances and history described above.) i think the experiment would indicate how much the paddling really hurts, how serious it really is, and how committed we (the paddler and i) are to paddling. i'd like to know how both of us felt afterward, and how it was different than other sessions. my guess is that i wouldn't want to repeat the experiment very soon afterward. i'd prefer to endure a similar, or increased, session to compare the two emotionally and physically, during and afterward -- for a similar paddling and strapping. i have a deep-seated need for serious paddling, day in and day out. In that context, i'd appreciate the opportunity to have to submit to the paddling even at that moment when i'd have no interest in it. i'd be submitting to a paddling quite similar to others i would have received previously, although slightly increased to ensure that it was not less than previous sessions. So, although physically it would be quite similar, i think i would feel different physically and emotionally. i'm curious what it would feel like and how well i could submit, and how much additional persuasion the paddler would need to provide to get me to the end. i feel like i submit to paddling and strapping, but after a “release,”, i'd need a significantly higher level of submission than without the release. It would be a challenge, and afterward, i'd likely be glad i met the challenge and learned the differences between the two settings. For me, allowing, or asking, someone to paddle me and cause significant distress, all the while i'm completely undressed and vulnerable while the paddler is completely clothed, requires that i submit--a lot. Accepting how much it hurts requires a lot of submitting. So, imagine the level of submitting after the "release!"
  14. Thank You, Miss Chawsee! The sooner the better; the more the better, the more often the better!
  15. Miss Chawsee, i'd welcome Your hard and fast paddlings...and the slow and hard ones, too! Congratulations on Your spanking escapades. i'm certain they were pleased with Your work...please continue! Glad to see You've returned... All the best to you, Miss Chawsee!
  16. This is probably the podcast mentioned above: https://www.spankopodcast.com/episodes/
  17. Another reason to seek a spanking and paddling is to submit. See this article: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/32486920/ and: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/myths-desire/202006/the-sexual-science-masochism-and-submission and: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/myths-desire/202006/the-sexual-science-masochism-and-submission and: and: and:
  18. For me, i always feel less stressed after the paddling than before or during the paddling. It's a good, calm feeling. Stress relief paddlings, like all paddlings for me, should be very serious, punishment paddlings and strappings.
  19. Thanks, Mr. Cavsalltheway. i hope we've provided some helpful suggestions. If you've talked with him several times already, and you have references from others, likely you have a comfort level and know enough to decide if he is an acceptable spanker for you. i'd guess that most men who get paddlings from men do so because like you, they cannot find Women to spank them, and finally decide to try it. The spanking need can be very compelling, and often overrides our preference in partners. So, you are concerned that you won't like it at all? hmmmm.... a few thoughts about that: 1. You won't know for sure until you try it whether it's acceptable to you, and if you don't try it, you will always wonder. However, you should be comfortable enough with the situation that it doesn't make you nauseous or feel it's revolting. If you feel nauseous about it or that it's revolting, now is not the time. Really, at 26, you are quite young, and if you aren't ready for it now, that doesn't mean you are ruling it out for the next 60 years. 2. If you end up not liking it at all, i'd say that would be great! Then, you will know you don't like it, and maybe you won't need to look for it any more. i wish i didn't need paddling in my life! That brings up another consideration and suggestion--if you can live without this, and if you haven't started down the spanking path, personally i strongly recommend that you avoid it entirely. The need for paddling has been a serious obstacle for me all of my life, and i'd prefer that you and others didn't have to live with this setback. Although a very serious paddling answers an ongoing need for me, it's been a plague for me. i'd say, stay away from it if you can, because it could be addictive. 3. As you read the forums, you will see that lots of people engage in spanking for fun and enjoyment. For many others, though, a paddling is not pleasurable, it's not enjoyable, it's not fun, and we don't like it. It can be scary. It may really, really hurt. In spite of all that, and as crazy as it sounds and is, some really, really need a paddling, and so we pursue it, maybe relentlessly. Liking a paddling may not be the reason we submit to a paddling, but again, if you don't like it, maybe you can give it up. i wish i could give it up! 4. If you seek a paddling for punishment, you don't need to be comfortable having a guy do it. And, you will probably find that it's a paddling, and not much more. You may acquire a new friend, and if he's a good person and good for you, that would be positive. If he's not a good person--stay away! You mentioned that it's a father-like spanking, and many seek exactly that. Make sure you're comfortable with that dynamic. i may be rare, but i would never want that kind of dynamic. If you are okay with it, though, you have another reason to meet this gentleman. Mr. Cavsalltheway, we wish you the best. We wish you success in your journey.
  20. Hi, NewEr, Thank You very much for the response and questions, and being okay with me suggesting another take on Your topic of paddling after a release. i hope the comments do generate thoughtful discussion. Although the opportunity for me to go through with the situation under discussion is very unlikely, and scary, i'd definitely submit to it. Why not start lighter than normal since the paddling will clearly be way more effective than i can anticipate, as You pointed out? Thank You for the opportunity to think about that and try to answer. Several reasons come to mind, and here are a few, in no particular order. 1. As an experience and experiment, if said paddling session were not at least as serious as other sessions (and i was suggesting a bit more), the comparison wouldn't be complete. Sure, if a lesser paddling seemed even more effective under those circumstances, we'd know that the release made a significant difference. However, i'd prefer to endure a similar, or increased, session to compare the two emotionally and physically, during and afterward -- for a similar paddling and strapping. 2. In concert with the theme of this website (Spanking Needs), i have a deep-seated need for serious paddling, day in and day out. In that context, i'd appreciate the opportunity to have to submit to the paddling even at that moment when i'd have no interest in it. As an example, in June 1992 my ex-Wife and i had a discussion and disagreement in which she accused me of actions i had not done and wouldn't admit to doing, for i would not lie. She knew about my paddling need but had no interest in it. However, right then, She asked if i wanted a paddling. i retrieved the paddle and undressed, and She provided the most severe paddling i've ever had, before then or since then. Although i had no interest whatever in a paddling at that moment, i simply and obediently submitted. It was excruciating at the time, and its effects lasted 3 weeks. i still think we made the right choice, and i'd submit to it again now if it were possible. i only recount that incident to indicate that i would submit to the paddling under the circumstances described in my last post above. i really would not want a paddling at that juncture, but it may (temporarily) fulfill a spanking need. 3. In the scenario described in my previous post above, i'd be submitting to a paddling quite similar to others i would have received previously, although slightly increased to ensure that it was not less than previous sessions. So, although physically it would be quite similar, i think i would feel different physically and emotionally. i'm curious what it would feel like and how well i could submit, and how much additional persuasion the paddler would need to provide to get me to the end. 4. Submitting--i always have to submit to a paddling and strapping, but under the circumstances we're discussing, i'd need a significantly higher level of submission than without those circumstances, i think. It would be a challenge, and afterward, i'd likely be glad i met the challenge and learned the differences between the two settings. For me, allowing, or asking, someone to paddle me and cause significant distress, all the while i'm completely undressed and vulnerable while the paddler is completely clothed, requires that i submit--a lot. Accepting how much it hurts requires a lot of submitting. So, imagine the level of submitting after the "release." Finally, why hesitate to post? i didn't want to hijack Your original question, and i hesitate to reveal how deep of a paddling need i have and what i'd "willingly" do. Some day i may meet other members of SpankingNeeds, and it will be unsettling to consider how much they know about me. i apologize for the long-winded response and perhaps answering way more than You asked!
  21. Mr. Cavsalltheway, since you've been posting about accepting a spanking from a guy for quite awhile, i think it's safe and accurate to say that you definitely want it. But should you do it? Only you can decide. We can tell you pros and cons, encourage safety, and cite numerous experiences. i've thought about responding previously, but this can be a touchy subject--and you are clear evidence of that. Apparently, you wonder what you really are, and what others may think of you if males spank or paddle you. i think you need to resolve those things for yourself. SN has had, over the years, many, many threads on males spanking males--please try to go through the General Forum history and check them out. i'm not sure, maybe you want us to reassure you that you are normal, or heterosexual, even if a male spanks you. i prefer that Women paddle me. i prefer Women nurses. i prefer Women dental hygienists. i really prefer Women massage therapists. Since most of my massages have been at a school for massage therapy, i often don't have much of a choice of what gender the therapist will be. Thankfully, >90 percent have been Women. However, 2-3 (or maybe more?) have been males. i would have preferred Women, and been more at ease with Women. However, the gentlemen provided a massage, and nothing more. And, i didn't end up wanting anything more. i think you'll find spanking is similar. After many, many years of pursuing a paddling, i decided to accept the possibility of paddling from males. Although i'd prefer Women paddlers, what do you think the odds are, realistically? So, a few men have paddled me, and the paddlings have been helpful. You've stated that romantically and sexually, you are heterosexual and not interested in men. You've declared that men don't attract you, except maybe for a spanking. Guess what? Getting a spanking isn't going to change that. From what you say, you do not have same sex attraction. So, as you said, discuss limits. The man who spanks you may be heterosexual, bisexual, or gay. Be clear that you are heterosexual, and that all sexual activities are off-limits. Take time to get acquainted with your potential spanker(s), and make sure they are honest. Remember, the vast majority of heterosexual men love Women, but we do not go around raping Women. Obviously, that is a great danger for Women, and many suffer that trauma. But the vast majority of us aren't rapists. So, i'm conjecturing, but i'd guess that most bisexual or gay men also are not going to rape you. i'm guessing that most will respect your limits. Beyond that, you need to know beforehand what your limits are, and stick to them. Someone may invite you to do something outside of your limits, but your answer will be an emphatic "NO." Keep your legs together. So, know your limits, discuss them, and stand by them. Plan an exit strategy, just in case somehow you are in a compromising situation. Leave some message, somewhere or with someone, where you are and what to do if you don't return by a certain time. The forums have lots of safety advice, and you should consider it. Don't allow restraints--that could put you in danger. Get a general idea or schematic of how the session is going to go, and what to expect. Discuss how long and hard the paddling should be, and when it should stop (such as with blisters, listlessness, or when you ask to stop). Use a safeword and call it off if it's beyond your limits. Make sure you are comfortable with the way the spanker would like to conduct the session, and that you are comfortable with him, and that he respects you as a person and civilly. Be aware of your surroundings. Check out the neighborhood either in Google or by visiting it before your session. You may wish to drop hints that someone knows where you are. Learn what you can about the spanker--his career, his family, his hobbies. Agree that both of you will remain totally discrete about the spanking. i hope that answers a few questions about what you should know before you go to a session. Also, realize that you will be scared. That's natural, because you're going somewhere to get undressed, get into vulnerable positions, be embarrassed, and get spanked. You might be very scared. Your legs may feel rubbery. But if you've done your homework and prepared mentally, you can go through with the spanking. If you have a gut feeling that something isn't right, stop, get out...don't get involved. If you get past all of that, and if you tell him you want a serious or hard or long paddling (instead of just a spanking), realize that it's going to hurt more than you ever could have imagined. Prepare mentally. On the other hand, if you just want to start with a spanking to see how it goes, that is fine, too. And, when you get home, you will be sore, but more than likely, you'll be glad you had the opportunity. You may decide to never do it again, or you may decide that it could be a possibility again. You said you know a guy willing to spank you. What are you waiting for? If he meets the qualifications above, perhaps you should seriously consider the spanking. Though i've had very, very few opportunities (i also don't look much), i don't think it's that unusual that guys spank each other for one reason or another (fraternities, birthdays, sports, fun, friendship). i really doubt that it's common, but i've heard of it. So, you know a willing guy? i'd guess that hundreds of guys on this forum wish they had such a friend or acquaintance. Instead of posting question after question about whether you should let a guy spank you, consider going through with it, and then coming back here to tell us about your experience and what you learned. Decide what is right for you, be safe, and don't look back--whatever you decide. Lastly, assess the risks and be sure you are ready to face them, whether you decide yay or nay.
  22. This topic has generated many interesting thoughts, ideas, and approaches. For me, getting a paddling is serious, and it always really, really hurts. i'm always a little nervous, even a little scared about getting the paddlings. Nevertheless, i always seek them! Because it's serious, and it's going to hurt, it's not sexual for me right before, during, or after the paddling. Even undressing in front of or being undressed by a Woman who is about to paddle me leaves me scared and nervous, and limp. i seek the paddlings for it to hurt a lot, and for the "power exchange," to submit to the paddling and to the person paddling. The paddlings seem to clarify and emphasize positions in a relationship for me. Miss SassyLittle and others have clearly asserted how and why a paddling on a male right after a release intensifies and multiplies the effect. Though i've never experienced this, i'm certain it's true. After a release, i have no desire whatever for any kind of spanking or paddling (or anything!). Still, i'd like to submit to it under the right circumstances (which are evermore unlikely!!!). The right circumstances would include someone who has quite seriously applied paddles and straps to me on several occasions. W/we would have established an approach and an outcome. Surely i would know what the paddling sessions feel like, emotionally and physically. Then, we would both agree, as an experiment, that a paddling and strapping session should take place immediately after a release. We would both commit to that, and having committed to it, neither of us would back out. The release would be embarrassing, humbling, and maybe even a tad humiliating. After the release, i would really not want to submit to the paddling. We would have agreed that the session will be just as serious as the previous sessions, and a bit more and a bit longer than previous sessions. Having committed to the experiment, neither of us would back out--we would go through with it--completely. i think the experiment would indicate how much the paddling really hurts, how serious it really is, and how committed we (the paddler and i) are to paddling. i'd like to know how both of us felt afterward, and how it was different than other sessions. my guess is that i wouldn't want to repeat the experiment very soon afterward. i guess this is a slightly different direction than NewEr started with. i was in doubt about posting something like this, but if it generates thought and discussion about spanking needs, maybe it was worth the risk. As always, please feel welcome to comment and counsel!
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