i strongly prefer long paddling and strapping sessions in which the Spanker requires that i be totally unclothed throughout the paddling session. i wouldn't feel comfortable if the Spanker were any less than fully clothed. For me, this combination of attire isn't sexual, although it could be minimally sensual in some aspects. Additionally, i sense that full nudity is different for men and Women, in many ways. As others have expressed, for some the fully-clothed Spanker and fully-unclothed spankee may not add to the dynamic or the vulnerability of the experience. For others, this dynamic is important. SN members will likely always have different perspectives on clothing.
We may not agree with another's perspectives, and we may not understand his or her perspectives. Unique circumstances, identity, socialization, nature, nurture, mindsets, and needs all affect the perspectives of Spankers and spankeeeeees. Although perspectives differ and our own understanding is limited, i hope we can respect others, respect the validity of individual circumstances, and treat others with dignity. For me, right and wrong clearly exists in many areas. Similarly, many areas have room for a broad range of experience, preference, and needs. Often, someone can only see or fathom his or her own perspective, and expresses it as if it's a universal truth. That can lead to unneeded contention, animosity, or even alienation. Don't we have more than enough of that in politics? i hope that at SN, we can respect and value one another, admit room for differences of opinion and need, and treat each other accordingly. When we express personal preferences, let's consider thinking of them as personal preferences rather than universal absolutes. Stating preferences as personal may go a long way toward avoiding unintended misunderstandings. (i mention all this now based on this topic and many others in our forums that stir ill will among those who should remain friends, and friendly.)
For me, the fully-clothed Spanker, fully-unclothed spankee adds a lot to the experience and what i need from the experience (which is unique for everyone). For me, this mode increases and emphasizes the Spanker and spankee roles, submitting to the Spanker, the vulnerability, the control dynamic, obedience, and maybe some embarrassment. i also seek and need very serious paddling. While others may not relate to any of these needs and preferences (among many) or understand them at all, they are important to me. i accept and respect that others' preferences are very often completely different than mine and i hope they can fulfill their needs to the fullest. When a Spanker and spankee have contrasting expectations, hopefully they communicate about it appropriately. i bet that much of the time, they can still meet on mutual grounds and participate in a mutually beneficial and fulfilling experience. Unless an area is specifically off-limits, the participants may even be able accommodate some differences and still have a meaningful and memorable experience. As an adult, all of my paddlings have been from fully clothed Women and men, while i've been fully unclothed. That has been important to me and provided beneficial experiences for me. However, if that is impossible or distasteful for a Spanker, i'd still welcome the experience. We could still find a lot of common ground and develop a meaningful experience and relationship. After all, a very serious paddling is very important!