I tried staying out of this post as Droo and CoL handled it nicely, but the more I read, the more disappointment I felt in this community.
SN is a place for all of us to come to talk about and share our spanking needs, to discuss or share our spanking fantasies, to ask for advice, etc. It's supposed to be a safe place. A place we can feel comfortable with discussing our needs and not worry about judgement and ridicule or attacks by other members.
Instead I am saddened and ashamed. The OP is new here and this was his first post. Did he find any security or welcome in the responses he got? No, he got ridicule, humiliation, judgement and more.
Yes, he could have been more clear by stating this as a real life desire, role play, age play, etc. Being his first post he did quite well in stating it was an ADULT he was seeking, but everyone seemed to overlook that for the most part. I saw the words icky, disgusting, incestuous, pedophilia and non-con abuse. Not one poster gave this guy a chance to respond and clarify, they leapt on their bandwagon and tore him and his post apart. I guess everyone thinks that is ok because his desire isn't their desire. It's sad because the ridicule, judgment, etc came from some long time members who should know better.
We are a community of mixed beliefs, desires, wants, needs, etc in that thing we do. It's rare you are going to find someone who wants the exact thing you do. Everyone is entitled to their opinion, but they are not entitled to ridicule, attack, placing a label on someone, etc.
I know many here think they are all knowing when it comes to the spanking world, but I can tell you that all of us have a lot to learn, especially when it comes to others and their desires, wants and beliefs. Maybe you don't realize how common it is for ADULT children to be spanked by their parents, Aunts, Uncles, etc. It happens more than you know. I'm not talking about non consensual, I'm talking about adult children who ask for it because they don't know where else to turn or they still feel the need for it, etc. This does not make the parent a pedophile...it is not incest. We are talking about a spanking...not sex. I say this because I know 2 individuals in this situation. One is a male who went to his Mother/Father and asked them and they agreed (after he lost his spanking relationship) and another is a woman who told her parents about her lifestyle and what she was searching for. Both parents agreed to help her until she found something safe. Kudos to those parents for not making their adult children feel ashamed, humiliated, etc.
I agree with many, this wouldn't be for me, but if it works for someone else and it's consensual....who am I to judge.
Stop and think before you post in someone's thread. Don't go throwing accusations around when you have no proof. Try to remember that we are all adults and we all deserve some respect. If you don't like something you read...move on. Keep the labels (pedophile, incest, icky, etc) to yourself. If it goes against site guidelines or you are unsure if it's allowed....report it....just as Col and Droo suggested.
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I tried staying out of this post as Droo and CoL handled it nicely, but the more I read, the more disappointment I felt in this community. SN is a place for all of us to come to talk about and share our spanking needs, to discuss or share our spanking fantasies, to ask for advice, etc. It's supposed to be a safe place. A place we can feel comfortable with discussing our needs and not worry about judgement and ridicule or attacks by other members. Instead I am saddened and ashamed. The OP is new here and this was his first post. Did he find any security or welcome in the responses he got? No, he got ridicule, humiliation, judgement and more. Yes, he could have been more clear by stating this as a real life desire, role play, age play, etc. Being his first post he did quite well in stating it was an ADULT he was seeking, but everyone seemed to overlook that for the most part. I saw the words icky, disgusting, incestuous, pedophilia and non-con abuse. Not one poster gave this guy a chance to respond and clarify, they leapt on their bandwagon and tore him and his post apart. I guess everyone thinks that is ok because his desire isn't their desire. It's sad because the ridicule, judgment, etc came from some long time members who should know better. We are a community of mixed beliefs, desires, wants, needs, etc in that thing we do. It's rare you are going to find someone who wants the exact thing you do. Everyone is entitled to their opinion, but they are not entitled to ridicule, attack, placing a label on someone, etc. I know many here think they are all knowing when it comes to the spanking world, but I can tell you that all of us have a lot to learn, especially when it comes to others and their desires, wants and beliefs. Maybe you don't realize how common it is for ADULT children to be spanked by their parents, Aunts, Uncles, etc. It happens more than you know. I'm not talking about non consensual, I'm talking about adult children who ask for it because they don't know where else to turn or they still feel the need for it, etc. This does not make the parent a pedophile...it is not incest. We are talking about a spanking...not sex. I say this because I know 2 individuals in this situation. One is a male who went to his Mother/Father and asked them and they agreed (after he lost his spanking relationship) and another is a woman who told her parents about her lifestyle and what she was searching for. Both parents agreed to help her until she found something safe. Kudos to those parents for not making their adult children feel ashamed, humiliated, etc. I agree with many, this wouldn't be for me, but if it works for someone else and it's consensual....who am I to judge. Stop and think before you post in someone's thread. Don't go throwing accusations around when you have no proof. Try to remember that we are all adults and we all deserve some respect. If you don't like something you read...move on. Keep the labels (pedophile, incest, icky, etc) to yourself. If it goes against site guidelines or you are unsure if it's allowed....report it....just as Col and Droo suggested.
