DougK

I guess I fall within E. I'm verbally oriented, so most of my fantasies are replaying/embellishing something I've read (either erotica or something from an online spanking forum). Occasionally I will go to C, remembering/embellishing memories of past spankings.

Honestly, I'm not sure which is appropriate either!

I've been a member of SN for well over a decade. I don't remember if I did an introduction way back when, but I figure it's time to do a new one anyway, as my circumstances have changed. I recently separated from my wife of almost 25 years, and spanking is a big component of that. We met, way back when, through the spanking community, and spanking (both erotic and disciplinary) was a key part of our relationship. But, after a few years, we discovered that disciplinary spanking really wasn't for her, and as time has passed, she's had less and less interest in erotic spanking as well--while span

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I think this depends a lot on what you've agreed to with him. Have you agreed that you will follow all his orders, without discussion? If so, then you need to really make an effort to do so. But don't assume that you *have* to agree to something like that, just because he's your disciplinarian. Especially here, with it being a new relationship. You both need to be comfortable with the dynamics between you, and it's perfectly reasonable--in fact, desirable--that you both set limits on what is, and is not, included. Personally, I can't imagine giving an order like that to somebody I was jus

Dang, I was heading down the wrong path. The closest I could come was Gargantua and Pantagruel, with the Queendom of Whims, but then couldn't find any place named Whims...

I understand where you're coming from. I'm a private guy by nature, and it was just compounded by the fact that spanking was disapproved of by society (at least that was my perception). Although I'm far more relaxed about it now, when I first started exploring my spanking interest I was terrified of anybody finding out. This was way back in pre-Internet days, so I didn't even have the option of anonymous Internet discussion. When I first sent away for some spanking material, I went and rented a PO Box in another part of town because I didn't dare let the postman know, even though the envelope

To really get the traditional hairbrush feel, you might want to go used--whether it's Goodwill, antique store, hip "retro" store, eBay, etc. You might find a bargain, or you might have to pay serious money, but you can end up with a brush that is solid and well suited for spanking. Ebony hairbrushes in particular are available this way. Years ago I even found a true ivory hairbrush that way. As it turned out, that one was *too* solid for spanking most people--it was almost like using a piece of stone--but it was still pretty and looked threatening. The ebony hairbrush I have is also a formidab

I don't think rubbing is necessarily a "soft and sweet" touch. For example, I will sometimes do this when changing implements. After a hand spanking, when I'm going to start paddling, I might rub the bottom with the paddle for a little bit. It's not comforting, but instead I think it helps (with some ee's) build the anticipation/dread of how much more the paddle is going to hurt. Similarly, although I've rarely done this myself, I know some er's will do a vigorous rub if they think the ee's bottom is starting to go numb; the rub can help resume circulation and de-numb the bottom, making the re

I'm inclined to agree here, at least in some cases. Of course, every relationship is different, and I don't think one can make general decisions that apply in all cases. For example, one could argue in some cases that it isn't actually a good relationship if they can't mutually come to an agreement about how to meet his needs. In other cases, though, if this is really the only issue between them, going outside of the marriage may be exactly what they need. I actually went through something like this some years back. At the time, I was available as a disciplinarian, and I was approached by

I posted this in the Seniors club and received no answers, so I'm going to toss it out to a wider audience... For the first time in a very long time, I'm in a position to start thinking about the possibility of a domestic discipline relationship. But I have to wonder whether it's realistic to look for that with a woman of an age similar to mine (around 60). I've seen a lot of posts from men that age (and older) who are still actively interested in spanking and discipline (as both ee's and er's), but few from women. That makes me wonder whether women also maintain the interest. Although I

For the first time in a very long time, I'm in a position to start thinking about the possibility of a domestic discipline relationship. But I have to wonder whether it's realistic to look for that with a woman of an age similar to mine (around 60). I've seen a lot of posts from men that age (and older) who are still actively interested in spanking and discipline (as both ee's and er's), but few from women. That makes me wonder whether women also maintain the interest. Although I certainly hope that's the case, I could easily understand if most women either lose interest, or no longer feel phy

I have to say, my BS meter is sending out alarms here. I guess it's *possible* that this situation is real, but it seems really unlikely to me that this came out of the blue, and the parent then magically right away found SN for the first time, joined, and thought it was appropriate to ask advice here, on a spanking site full of people that he/she doesn't know. With no mention of whether spanking was used in discipline previously, and then asking questions about undressing. And no explanation of why, with him working, he's not paying the fine himself. Again, maybe it's real, but I doubt it.

I don't think safewords are a must, but I also don't think they're worthless. Here's a very long post on the subject that I wrote over 15 years ago, but I this is still dead on. This post was directed to DD relationships, but I think the same reasoning applies to other spanking situations: The use of safewords is a complicated issue, in my opinion. Many people think a couple should always have a safeword, but many others feel like an important part of the trust and submission involved in DD is the acceptance of spanking without a safeword. Personally, I've come around to the point of view

I mostly agree here, and it's one of the scariest unknowns about this whole thing. Nobody really has any idea whether a vaccine will work, or how long it will last. I think most of us would be happy if a vaccine turns out to give protection for a year, so we'll get our annual covid shot. But if it only protects for a few weeks, I'm not sure how many people will sign up to get shots every other week. We really aren't going to know any of this until phase 3 trials are complete, and even those trials probably won't give a great answer as to duration of protection, simply because they're too short