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obafgkm last won the day on September 22 2016

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  1. As with any other spanking topic, the "answer" to the original question will have as many options as individuals. For me personally, "getting rid of it" might seem a little extreme. If the original intent was to ask it one has gone "cold turkey" or simply lost interest, I am sure that examples exist, just as it does in the treatment world with "chippers." Those are folks who overindulge in the drink at some period in their lives, usually while younger; yet never develop an addiction problem and taper off their intake as they age. My needs have certainly evolved from the times when I was in
  2. Denver is a good spot for spanking and other BDSM activities. They have several active groups on Fet. Good luck.
  3. I guess, with what I see here, it's a lot more risky and perhaps less effective than trying other routes. Virtually every community has some sort of real-life spanking group, and we manage ours on Fetlife. Actually, I am in a rather remote area, so our group is more generally "BDSM" with a smattering of spankos, but if you're close to any major metropolitan area, have you considered trying to meet someone at a "spanking event"? I've attended events in multiple states, and the atmosphere often resembles a "standard party," if there is such a thing. Many of the groups have long-standing memb
  4. Many folks are drawn to "new" or otherwise "exotic" activities because they have a certain "allure," or otherwise represent something that has (up to the time they actually realize their "dream") existed only in their mind. It's like when you're younger and are just waiting to drive for the first time. Or your first kiss. Or your first job, paycheck, or car. The focus isn't always on only the actual event itself, but it's emotional, symbolic, or realistic representation for the individual. One example I've used in our local group's discussion is essentially the following: "I need spanking
  5. There are plenty of spanking groups in your area. Enjoy the search!
  6. First, great to see you back here!!! Time for another road trip! As far as the conversation goes, "non-relationship seeking" interactions here on SN might as well be taken with a grain of salt. We have men posing as women, perhaps some women posing as men, and the list could go on and on; so I guess in the context of the question, the answer is no to the first one. Since that is no, that eliminates the second one, but I do think that people, just as what sometimes happens in real-life, can say things cloaked in anonymity that they would never say face-to-face. If everyone we
  7. Good advice from the two above. Nothing should ring more loudly than a "gut feeling."
  8. Try maybe ten minutes, tops!!! LOL
  9. At one point, we had 43 in chat tonight. It might have been higher if I missed some entering/exiting. I wonder what the record is? It was nice to have some actual conversation. Hopefully, when we're at 15 or so, people will continue to bring up discussion.
  10. St. Louis has several large overall BDSM groups, and I am sure that within some of the bigger ones (their four largest have over 1400 members each), a spanking subgroup or culture must exist. Usually, the leaders of such groups are decently versed in guiding someone new in the right direction. Good luck - I sure wish I was in an area that populated....
  11. I'd slip an "always" in between the words "Someone" and "needs" in the above post.
  12. You're such a swell guy, DarkSteven! Hope to engage in some more dialogue and fun before too long. I retired - LOL.
  13. LOL, some people must have WAY too much free time!!
  14. Many groups use Fetlife to organize, publicize, and get there information out. One can use it as an adjunct, or possibly even directly, to find a spanker. As DarkSteven mentioned, there are many spanking groups which put their information there. Good luck.
  15. There's SANE, "Spanking Around New England," which looks like about the biggest NE spanking group. Good luck!
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