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Wish you were in Montana.

I wish I could find such a place. I would move there in a second. Probably a lot less selfish, entitled, angry people than what we have here in the U.S.

Exactly. One day at a time is all we can do. Good to see you too, Jenna!

I've been into spanking for as long as I can remember and actively seeking a domestic discipline relationship as the spanker for what seems like most of my life. I was raised a Christian, kind of grew away from the Church but never really from God and am working my way back to Him now. I always wondered whether God made me the way I am or if that's just something I rationalized to myself to justify being a spanko, though I constantly feel like God made me this way because there is someone out there who needs what I have to offer. I not only believe in domestic discipline but also spanking for therapy, stress relief and pleasure in the bedroom. I don't know if the woman I'm looking for is here but I pray to find her and the search remains seemingly eternally elusive. If you're out there and you're here, please let me know!

I'm a Christian too and I spent so much time wondering if my spanking interest is okay or not because I not only want to provide discipline for someone, it also excites me and turns me on. I've never been able to shake the feeling that God made me this way for a reason, like there's someone out there who needs what I can provide, though I haven't found her yet. The Bible says God sees into your heart and knows you better than you know yourself so I've always taken comfort in the knowledge that He knows what my intentions are. I just wish He would send me my other half.

Thank you, Chawsee. I'm originally from Alabama but whether it's there or here there never seem to be any fellow spankos around. Glad to know I'm at least not alone up here!

I've been a member here for years but have been inactive for a long time due to my crazy life but I'm back, reintroducing myself, and looking for a partner. I feel like I've been searching for a special type of relationship all my life and I often think about just giving up and settling for a standard "vanilla" relationship but the truth is I would be miserable and would feel like I'm living a lie so here I am trying again, no matter how fruitless the search seems to be. I am a 41 year old male seeking a woman for an old-fashioned taken in hand/domestic discipline relationship. This is something I've known I wanted since I was a teenager. Something about spanking has fascinated me since I was very young but I was never given such discipline and as I grew older I felt I missed out on something important and I've wanted ever since to provide it for someone who needs it. I am a calm, patient man, slow to anger but I do not like sassiness or brattiness or drama or rudeness to others and I will spank and spank hard to correct those missteps. I believe very much in aftercare and will always apply that after you've been across my lap. I am a highly sensitive personality so I feel things more strongly than most. This means sometimes the world brings me down hard and others tend to think I'm antisocial when in fact I have so much going on internally that I often disappear into my own head. I am a Christian man and I strive to live by the principles Jesus taught. I don't always succeed but I do try. As for the woman I'm seeking, I want someone who is empathetic. Who cares about others and goes out of her way to do what she can to help others. I study bears independently and write about them and so I spend a lot of time outdoors and in the mountains and I want someone I can take to my favorite wilderness spots and teach her to see what I see. I also study Russian history and culture and write about it from a political perspective that is very different from what one hears on the nightly news, so I want someone who is intellectual, curious about the world around her and eager to learn more about it. If I had to be very picky, I would like a woman who was spanked by her father and who wants her husband to continue providing that discipline but at the very least I want someone who believes in spanking and understands the value and the benefits of being put over the knee. Please be drama free and spiritually minded. I do prefer someone younger than me because it fits the dynamic but similar age is okay. Please understand that spanking means more to me than just discipline. I also believe in utilizing it for maintenance and therapeutic purposes. I view it as one of the greatest expressions of love one person can give to another but I also enjoy it for play and for sex and would like to explore that as well. I don't care where you are located or what country you're from, if there's a rare, amazing woman out there somewhere that this describes, please feel free to message me and let's talk!

Darn. Right after I move away from Alabama...

It is definitely a turn on for me. In fact, it's wired heavily into my sexuality. I'm able to control it though and would never pressure a female spankee into anything because of it, including insisting she be spanked bare bottom. If that's what she wanted, then that's fine. If not, that's also fine. I don't think I would get anything out of spankings with other guys. Aside from it being a turn on I also find something very emotional about it and I develop an emotional bond with the spankee. With another guy it would just be empty for me.

Painfully lonely.

This was horrifying to read and I'm very sorry you had to go through it. There was no justification at all for what he did to you and most men and spankers are not like that. Spanking should never be used as to vent one's own frustrations. I agree with the other comments that you don't have to walk away from what you want because of this guy. Don't let him take it away from you.

I also prefer simple bare hand. There's a greater sense of intimacy and connection with the spankee.