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  1. I reply to every PM I receive, and nearly all of them have been respectful. A very few individuals I've had to set boundaries with, but this has been the exception, rather than the rule. I suggest setting standards for how you conduct yourself. How one speaks in their posts silently conveys what they are likely, and not likely, to tolerate. It's subtle, but as a general rule, we read each other more accurately than we realize. So any tasteless or crude comments are likely to draw those kinds of responders. (Not pointing any fingers at you, just stating a general rule for all of us.) And it's p
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  2. It would have been very hard to find another mentor: for me it was worth waiting. Also he took a very sensible line with me. He certainly caned me, and soundly! But he also recognised that I had had much more opportunity to offend during that time plus lacked the guidance that a moderate correction can give; thst short,sharp shock to check behaviour before it becomes a serious matter. So he showed a degree of understanding and leniency while still sending me away with a well-striped and smarting botty.
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  3. Thank you for your perspective. It’s helpful to hear those thoughts, as it’s easy to get caught up in my own needs. I don’t want to contribute to his stress, that’s for sure.
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  4. Thank you so much @Chawseefor the warm welcome. Thank you to everyone for the warm greetings. I really appreciate it. I am sure everyone here understands how isolated I have felt in terms of TTWD. I can’t believe I have connected with a group of people who understand! I don’t know about intelligence, but I am outspoken and direct, so I have learned over the years to assess and understand the situation before I open my big mouth and perhaps be misunderstood or worse, offend someone. So, I am reading a lot of what is here and a lot of the ‘About Me’ in people’s profiles. The are a bunch of
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  5. TRUE GRIT. The original 1969 movie with John Wayne and Kim Darby, not the 2010 remake.
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  6. I agree. A tidy bed is a comforting maternal space for a spanking. A couch would work nicely too, if it's long enough that the spankee can stretch out his legs without being cramped.
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  7. I can't speak for your dom, but I will offer this thought, which comes from personal experience as a top. Being a responsible disciplinarian is A LOT of work. Being a mentor is even more work. If you are leaning on him heavily, you are adding to his workload. You have a part to play in this, as well, and it's not just "trying to be good and understanding." YOU are responsible for your own behavior. He can help motivate you with both guidance and positive and negative reinforcement. But in the end, he is not responsible for the behavior of a 44-year-old woman; you are. And he should be seeing r
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  8. I like the formality of the spanker sitting on a straight backed chair but from a practical point of view with me being a wiry six foot metalhead type I appreciate that's not always easy. I've had a few bedside spankings as an adult and find that it's a well made tidy bed especially ones with blankets and sheets rather than a duvet it can still give me that slightly formal domestic discipline feel I enjoy.
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  9. Thank you - that’s exactly how I feel about it. I’m going to try painting again. I’m no good at it but it’s just something I can zone out doing.
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  10. Because when we were conversing back and forth on the topic of rituals, positions, etc., you specified a preference for OTK in a straight-backed chair.
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  11. Actually don’t humiliate anyone unless that’s what they’re into and even then respect limits.
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  12. LOL. It hasn’t worked so far. 🙄
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  13. Exactly if your profile, married makes no mention of looking for play partners, states married, etc. Yet some persist in believing that you are just sitting anxiously awaiting the opportunity to spank a complete stranger. rant off
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  14. I believe as women we get more personal messages then men. Ms L
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  15. I don't like it when people launch right into an overly personal string of questions. I respond to everyone who messages me... even if my response is "sorry, not interested." But, you should not feel compelled to respond to someone who creeps you out.
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  16. Methinks I’m off the hook. Ms. Chawsee was logged in last night and I don’t think she saw this thread. 🤫 Score! 😁
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  17. I appreciate that, part of being a good guy is being able to apologize, so my opinion of you (not that you should care!) only goes up. [I will say, I'm now quite tempted to request of Chawsee that for your next appt with her, she make you count... 🤣]
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  18. You’re right, and I respect this. Chawsee has nailed me plenty of times for my language. Sorry bud.
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  19. @Bramblewine , @StrictGent, Didn’t mean to hurt your guys’ feelings. I should have preferenced that the reason “Thank you Sir/Ma’am, may I have another?” feels dumb TO ME is because it’s straight out of the movie Animal House. There are probably other sources too, but that’s where I remember it from. I have a hard time equating the spanking scene in that movie (or any scene in that movie) as something I wish to follow. Now granted, I wasn’t adverse to the movie when I was a teenager. My buddies and I thought it was a blast. And how disappointing to later learn that college wasn’t qu
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  20. Well, specifically you said: "'Thank you Sir/Ma’am, may I have another?' is so dumb". It's not dumb, you just don't like it. But I don't think of you as a judgmental person, not at all, I think I was just trying for a reminder about how careful we should be with language. Hey, I'm a writer, I can be picky. But no harm done, like I said, I have information from a reliable source you're one of the good guys. :0)
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  21. Hey, I never said you can’t do that. It’s just not my thing.
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  22. Didn’t judge the people. Judged the act and stated that I wouldn’t choose a spanking partner who requested this act.
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  23. Nope, no counting here. I think the whole “Thank you Sir/Ma’am, may I have another?” is so dumb that I wouldn’t choose an ER who demanded something like that. Good grief.
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  25. In a D/s CNC with rules there are definitely times I feel differently than my Dom on a consequence and dread the [punishment] spanking. I submit because it’s my dynamic, and what I’m OK with.
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