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  1. Wanted say Thank you to a sweet friend, DunBenSpanked for all his help on this. Hugs dear friend. I’m posting this as a response to being contacted in private by different ee’s who tell horror stories of being abused and taken advantage of by the people spanking them. Because this is serious and appears to be happening more and more, I’d like to address the issues of Power and Control, as it relates to the relationship between ee's and ‘Er’s, before, during and after a session. As an ‘ee, you must keep in mind that while you may have a need and craving to relinquish control to someone, u
    51 points
  2. This is a guide I wish had existed before I got my first punishment spanking. I was very ignorant, and very terrified! I'm posting it here so I can link to it next time I see one of those "I'm going to get my first spanking--Halp!!" threads. If you want to copy and send it to a new ee or just post it somewhere, please go ahead. You don't have to credit me. So you entered into a power exchange relationship with someone. You agreed on rules and consequences. Maybe you thought those consequences would never come to pass, but here you are. Your top, dom, Daddy, or whoever you answer to
    30 points
  3. Over the last few weeks I've talked to several male spankees or seen comments being made by them. NO there is nothing wrong with you because you feel the need to be spanked. NO there is nothing wrong with you because you want your wife to spank you. NO there is nothing wrong with you because you want to be a male submissive. I've spoken with a few that seem to almost be ashamed (though it could be afraid) to admit that they have this need. They think that there is something wrong with them. They don't fully express their feelings to someone who could possibly fill that void for them. Wh
    24 points
  4. Hello, I am in Western NY and am recently single again. It has been a little bit of time since I spanked a man and am interested in exploring that part of my life again. I am your typical "girl next door", only with a hairbrush and a secret. If you would like to get to know me better, let me know.
    22 points
  5. It's not nude, or even a great pic, but there you go. My bottom.
    20 points
  6. When I am spanked it turns me on to be fully nude while my spanker is fully clothed. I think the embarrassment makes it more exciting for me. Does anyone else like this?
    20 points
  7. Not a great pic as I've had to crop it so other people aren't in shot. But yeah, that's me and my big bum!
    20 points
  8. Personally, I love submissive men. It needs to be pointed out that submission does not make a man a wimp. The men I personally know who are subs are very strong, powerful males in their everyday lives. In fact, it's often the most alpha men who make the best subs. They're so used to being in charge and handling whatever comes their way that they have less of a need to constantly prove themselves. These guys are confident enough that they're comfortable handing over the reins and letting someone else take the lead for a little while. That, to me, shows great inner strength.
    19 points
  9. I provide motherly guidance and discipline. I am safe and sane. I am fair but strict. This is strictly Non sexual for me. Only those who are serious please.
    19 points
  10. If he was a spankee he would be the best spankee of all time. I mean he would take one hell of a spanking, it be Yuge! CNN would try to say it was a light spanking, no implements, just hand, but that would be fake news, simply not true. Trump took the hardest spanking of all time, press secretary says he still cannot sit down, and he's tried. The republicans wanted him to have a warmup, they insisted, but he said no, bare bottom all the way. Couldn't resist
    19 points
  11. Debbie I met Debbie when I was in 9th grade. She was an awkward 7th grader, and just beginning to bloom into adolescence. She had a sparkle to her brown eyes and was friendly but not especially outgoing. We did time together in the junior high choir at the First Baptist Church in Dallas, where both of our families were regulars. We found out that we both lived in a fairly new neighborhood in North Dallas called Farmer's Branch. We became better acquainted on a choir trip to Austin one cold January day. We happened to sit together on the ride down, and after our recital at the U
    18 points
  12. Require the spankee to maintain eye contact with you during the lecture. End the discussion with something like, "Do you know what's about to happen to you? Why don't you tell me....." Make sure he/she uses the "s" word. It is painfully embarrassing for the spankee to have to look you in the eyes and utter, "You're going to give me a spanking."
    18 points
  13. We're in our mid 30's. Maybe closer to pushing 40 if I'm being honest. And we've been together since our early 20's. I've always had a spanking fetish. Every fantasy I've ever had has involved me getting spanked. I remember asking a boyfriend to spank me for the first time in my teens. Little taps. Other boyfriends gave a few wimpy slaps. A good spanker is seemingly impossible to find. I fully confessed my desires to my husband shortly after we married. Spankings. Real ones. Hard. For punishment, not sex. It's a weirdly sexual but not sexual fetish. I don't quite understand but
    18 points
  14. Just wondering how many people here are wired like me. I can't really get aroused without thinking about spanking. I am a spanko sexual. If my boyfriend wasn't a spanko then it wouldn't work out. Wondering how many other people here are like this?
    16 points
  15. Enough people have been asking about my new profile pic, so here you go!
    16 points
  16. SN Terminology and Definitions ● 24/7: A power exchange relationship that is in effect at all times. ● A/S/L: Age/Sex/Location ● ABDL: Adult baby diaper lover. Adults who role-play as a baby wearing diapers. The degree of it may extend anywhere from wearing diapers to wetting, and being seen/exposed in them. ● AFK: Away from keyboard ● Aftercare: The period of time, after a session, where special attention is given to the physical and emotional needs of the spankee. ● Age Play: A form of role play in which a participant assumes the role
    16 points
  17. Hi, I'm Georgia Cane, the "Miss Cane" in this Buzzfeed video and I just came across this thread. I'm so glad most of you "got" it. My intention was to demonstrate how traditional spanking discipline can benefit adults and the two women I spanked are producers who requested it. The next day, they both reported whether or not it worked. Thankfully, it did. By the way, the one in tears is not out of fear. It's because I'd said she didn't need to always be perfect. ?That's editing for you. Warm Bottoms
    16 points
  18. Put this up as my new profile pic earlier. Crap pic quality wise, but I've had a terrible week so why not post a pic for a compliment or two? 😋😋
    15 points
  19. What follows is the account of my first experience with being spanked to tears. Please read, enjoy, and comment if you'd like. ~LOTK EXPOSED I love lying in his bed. It is the most comfortable bed I have ever been in. It's comfort is part physicality...the perfect blend of supportive firmness, with a surface soft enough to sink into, making me feel cradled in a deeply nurturing way. The total peace and safety of his bed is almost magical...I imagine it's the way a baby bird feels in it's nest; totally unaware of the world that spins beyond its borders. The other part of this deep
    15 points
  20. My boys 'helping' me decorate the tree.
    15 points
  21. I had always been a very quiet, respectful, obedient little girl. But one day, when I was about ten years old, I really messed up. I disobeyed my mother, then lied about it. Daylight was just breaking as I headed to the barn to do morning chores. As I stepped out the back door, my mother told me to grain the bucks (male breeding stock of our dairy goat herd) that morning. I first fed and watered the horses and mules, then gave the does (female goats) hay. I would grain them later, when I milked them. The bucks, however, were in a pen of their own. I took them hay, but noticed that their g
    15 points
  22. I have been married to a vanilla non-spanko spouse for 20 years. About three years ago I confessed my desires to be spanked. Being the loving partner she is she tried her best to accommodate me even though I truly believe it made her very uncomfortable to do so. This summer I decided not to ask her to spank me for a while and see what happened. What happened was our relationship got better, we argued less, she was more attentive to me and overall a happier person. I think there were other factors involved in this as well, my commitment to being a better person and husband, some good advic
    15 points
  23. ONE... TWO... THREE.. you aren't listening.....lol For me personally, as a mentor, I rarely give a specific number of swats for an infraction. My experience, as Poison noted above, is that the mentee starts concentrating on the number of swats left and can use this to help them actually get through a spanking because they know that they just have to hang on until the number assigned is reached and it is done. A finite length of time has been defined in which the number of swats will occur. A great part of what makes a spanking effective is in NOT knowing when it will end. If a mentee has b
    15 points
  24. I believe anal play is a way of increasing submission and getting to the next level. I prefer to use a ginger root while I have my ee over my lap. As her anal juices mix with the ginger root it will burn inside her/his anus. That's when I like to ones on no movement for a solid 5 minutes across my lap. Once I pull it out I give a long hard hand spanking while rubbing the anus at times. It works well and gives the ER complete control.
    15 points
  25. The house has been a-flow with family for the past couple weeks. The man who died was a husband, a father to two sons, a grandfather to three, and a second dad to me (we were very close)-- so his passing hit me hard. And right after that, I lost a close friend over a falling-out. Two significant losses in one week was a lot to contend with, and I had put my own grief aside to be strong for everyone else. Finally, I needed to get away from our loving but crowded home and take some solo time for myself. There's nothing that does this for me better than a road trip, so I hit the highway for Darby
    14 points
  26. My bottom, ready as always
    14 points
  27. I might be the only one who feels this way but my heart just sinks when I log into the forums here on spankingneeds and see somebody new says something that can be summarized as this: Young female, desperate, needs to be spanked, I live here, contact me. Now assuming the post is real, and some of them are, it is followed by a stream of good and well-meaning people saying SLOW DOWN! However, when you go to the individual's profile you will see a list of men who have checked the profile and likely some have sent a PM. Now while this does not seem bad, many of the men who checked th
    14 points
  28. From a few weeks ago. I like posting pics on here so people see who i am. Again not a selfie, just a nice pic of me before going out for brunch with some friends. x x
    14 points
  29. My boys are two years old ❤️️.
    14 points
  30. This may not be spanking safety per say, but it's personal safety. We have all sorts of people come on the forum and coming from all stages of life. Depression has a very high statistic ---- and I wanted to break the stigma, for people that need help, and give them some resources. An online community (like SN) might not be the best place to post when your suicidal or in crisis. But we hope you find these resources comforting if your struggle. *hugs* We want you to get help!! Please let us help you by providing the following links Read This First Here is a forum for people to relate wi
    14 points
  31. As long as both of you agree BEFOREHAND, it is okay. To me, he crossed a line by fingering you without your prior (and I mean prior to the spanking) consent. That is something that should be talked about in advance. It may not have been an issue in your case but it is too easy to take advantage of an EE who is in a state of submission and who might go along with something they would never consent to in another situation. If both people have talked about it ahead of time and both people consent, there is no issue.
    14 points
  32. Actually didn't know how to classify this topic, specially since now is something I read everywhere and sometimes the concept it's not correct (my personal opinion). This type of relationship is not new, now it's more common but it has existed for years, the concept is not limited to submit to someone or to "obey to please", it goes beyond that misconception. This perhaps will be a very personal post, few know my story or general facts about myself. I am a submissive, I knew about it since I was a kid, and no, I didn't know how to label myself back then, I was simply happy by pleasing oth
    14 points
  33. There have been several posts recently that caused me to be concerned about the issue of consent when it comes to spanking and relationships that involve an exchange of power. I do happen to have some expertise on this particular topic. If you're not among the handful of forum members who actually know me, then you'll just have to decide whether take my word for that. Christy has an excellent post on the topic of Power and Control, and Spank_Mike_Hard recently posted about the legality of consent. This post is a continuation of those and reflects my thoughts on the issue of coercion. There ar
    14 points
  34. Now, where do I even begin to start? ...........I will always love being over a man's knee getting a bare bottomed spanking!! Here's my "perfect" spanking to answer your question MCGolden I come into the room, and you order me to take off all of my clothes, and fold them properly. Then, you pat your lap, not even saying a word. I follow your command, and slowly walk over to you and begin to start going over your knee with you guiding me over. You move me around in to the position that you want me in while I am both SO excited and nervous about what is about to happen!! You caress my bot
    14 points
  35. Not spanking related, just a selfie of little old me.
    13 points
  36. To give some background, I am a female who has been having some super fun spankings with another female friend. As a woman on this site, you get bombarded with messages from guys. All of them want to spank you. Can I get an amen ladies? It annoys the heck out of me when guys on this site tell me that it isn't sexual to them, and they just enjoy providing misbehaving girls with the discipline they need. Oh, and by the way, they always insist that the discipline be bare bottomed. Only because the discipline is more effective that way of course. It totally has nothing to do with the f
    13 points
  37. I'm curious if there is anyone here who is effected emotionally and sexually by the actual act or even just the thought of being spanked/punished? There have always been scenarios in my mind in which I envision someone becoming very emotional, perhaps even crying as they think about how much they deserve to be spanked/disciplined....and the intense arousal they are feeling as they think about this causes them to become intensely aroused. So there becomes this powerful marriage of intense emotions and burning arousal which causes them to masturbate feverishly. I love the thought of seeing
    13 points
  38. Don't always blame your Spankee when an implement comes up missing.... it might of just ran away on it's own
    13 points
  39. This type of question often tickles me because it can start quite a debate. Not everyone understands what a submissive truly is. Many tend to see us as a doormat, a quiet little mouse with no backbone, etc. It's so not true. When I started out in this lifestyle 28 years ago I was told that I had submissive tendencies. I didn't really know what that meant, but I immediately thought of some wimpy girl and I didn't like the thought of that. Luckily I had a good teacher. I found that I was a submissive. Back then I was very shy and kept most of my thoughts to myself, but over the years I have
    13 points
  40. So, I was asked by a friend to write up my experience of being spanked as an adult for the first time. I am a private person but he convinced me that this could be useful for others and I know it was the type post I was looking for when I first got on here. I'm not going to give a play by play but I'll share the general gist of things. I haven't fully processed my feelings but here are just a few jumbled thoughts on the process. The first thing I want to stress is to be safe and go slowly. At times when I would feel desperate, it was very easy to consider finding someone without going
    13 points
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  42. I ran across this quote and thought it worth sharing: "In the end, it's not about who broke your heart. It's about who mended it. It's not about the times you put your self esteem in the hands of others. But instead, the days where you knew your worth. It's not about those who let you down, but rather those who always held you up. It's not about the many people who desired you. It's about the ones who valued you. In the end it's not about all the times you were called beautiful, it's about all the days you felt it." - Unknown Have a great weekend.
    13 points
  43. This site has dramatically changed since I joined 5 years ago. It used to be a site where you could come and post real questions and get real answers. There was a strong sense of community and genuine concern for one another. It was also a place where administration maintained the site as strictly a spanking non sexual site. I became disenchanted when I was mentoring a person, that I found out had multiply identities on here, and on the sister site ST. Then there was the issue with chat! It became people's fantasy play ground, where no valuable interactions occurred. The minute you we
    13 points
  44. Most who know me on here know that I like adding pics of myself every now and then, so here's a pic of my outfit from New Years Eve! The lighting on my face is awful, but look at that skirt of mine! 😍😍
    12 points
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  46. Welcome to the site. I know many of you are new and looking for a spanking partner. I also know it probably took you a lot to join and say hello. So, congratulations. Now, assuming you are about to post a message that goes something like “looking for someone to blister my bottom in ny.”, May I make a suggestion? if you are a woman, you will get lots and lots of people telling you that they will drive to wherever you are and do whatever to you they want to do, but maybe not what you want done. If you are a man, you’ll probably be ignored. If you post this in the middle of a disc
    12 points
  47. I have been interested in spanking for as long as I can remember...it is a hard-wired part of who I am, and it is truly important to me. I love it, and couldn't change this about me if I tried (and I have, many times). Beneath whatever the context of it is, I love, crave, and need to be spanked. I feel incomplete without it. I absolutely believe that "spankos" and "vanillas" can have successful relationships. There are ways to make it work, depending on the individual situation, what each individual needs and wants, if both people are willing to compromise, etc., I know that I would not b
    12 points
  48. Lily-White Madeline sat with new nervousness fluttering in her belly. She had felt other types of nerves regarding her plans for today, but in this moment the sensation was all new. She watched Tom cross the hotel suite and close the shades. As the room plunged into semi-darkness, she reached a timid hand over and flipped on a lamp. He glanced over his shoulder at her, studied her a moment with his thoughtful brown eyes, then gave a nod. More nerves erupted inside Madeline at that compelling glance—at the utter authority in which he dominated the room. When he went to pull another set of s
    12 points
  49. I came across this today and it really struck a chord with me. Just thought I would share! "Sensitive people are the most genuine and honest people you will ever meet. There is nothing they wont tell you about themselves if they trust your kindness. However, the moment you betray them, reject them or devalue them, they become the worse type of person. Unfortunately, they end up hurting themselves in the long run. They dont want to hurt other people. It is against their very nature. They want to make amends and undo the wrong they did. Their life is a wave of highs and lows. They live with gui
    12 points
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