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  1. I think there may be a number of reasons why people seek this out. 1. Some people are not as organized as others and if you are not organized it is more difficult to manage your life. I have helped people set clear goals, with a schedule, and helped them stay focused when necessary using both positive and negative (spanking) rewards. 2. Adulting is not always easy and some people just like to have someone else in the ring swinging with them. 3. Some people are naturally submissive and feel more "whole" when they have someone to help direct them. 4. There is an element of sexuality associated with spanking that some people crave. It might be just as effective for your mentor to take your phone away for a few days, but we choose spanking as our preferred "consequences" when they are required. 5. Some of us just have a fascination with spanking that is part of our make-up and it will never go away. I'm sure others have their own reasons, but these are things I have observed over the years. "What do I lack to not be able to be self accountable?" You are certainly not alone. Many people have a lot going on in their heads and it makes it difficult for them to break things down into small enough pieces to accomplish them. Once someone gets overwhelmed, getting motivated to do something about it becomes increasingly difficult and they don't know where to start. Example - I have a friend who let her house get totally out of control. Every room was a disaster and she asked me to come over and help her get it cleaned up. I told her it's pretty simple - we start in a corner of the garage and work our way out. What she wanted to keep, what she wanted to donate, and what went out to the curb. then we moved to the next room. Two days later, the house was spotless and she has kept it that way ever since. But there was no way for her to see her way through the clutter t get started. Although we were spanking partners, no spanking was required for this, just someone to help her compartmentalize things. I don't know you, so I don't know if helps answer your question.
    3 points
  2. So here's the thing: every adult struggles with self-discipline, motivation, and accountability at different times, in one way or another, everyone. I don't care how successful someone might seem, they're still not perfect with self-discipline. The difference between us and the rest of the population is we are really into spanking, so naturally we're going to think of that as one of the very first things to try to get more control of ourselves and our lives. It's not really that different, though, from vanilla people who use other methods to try to accomplish the same end. Yah, wanting disciplinary spankings is unusual among the general population, but there's nothing wrong with being different and wanting what you want. So long as it's safe and consensual, I wholeheartedly support bringing one's dreams into reality. Besides, externalizing some of the internal pressure and getting the support of accountability can really make life easier.
    2 points
  3. Fair, and for those of us with ADHD, some things are extra hard. I just wish spankings didn't help, I guess. Cuz I feel like a lame little kid when they are deemed necessary. My mentor is also a friend and respects my limits and the practical limits of online mentorship of a single woman. So from all I know, I judge it healthy. I just wish it didn't help. I hate needing any kind of help. Fucking despise it. ( Yes, I have a mouth on me...)
    1 point
  4. I have asked myself these identical questions many times since I decided to stop repressing all this about 3 years ago. I think Spanknutt and Ruby have pretty much covered the answers I have come up with. I have incredibly high standards for myself, including self-control, and often over-perform, overdo things. When I let myself down, I feel a lot of guilt. I am in charge all the time in my daily life. I take care of everyone around me. Accountability, realistic boundaries and standards, and catharsis (being able to truly let go) help me feel more at peace and happier. A partner who is trustworthy and who cares deeply about me makes a big difference in my life.
    1 point
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  6. So, if it helps, it helps? It's just another tool? And if it means using a tool on my own bare butt when someone deems it needed, then that's what it means?
    1 point
  7. I almost Always apologize before or after. As in..."I am sorry that it has come to this but this is going to hurt you more than it's going to hurt me" "I'm sorry that I had to do it but it was for your own good ! !"
    1 point
  8. Being able to just let go and react naturally is a powerful thing.
    1 point
  9. I am very self-disciplined and good at holding myself accountable... yet I still want to be accountable to someone else in a disciplinary dynamic. Accountability is important to me and it helps relieve some of the stress when I have someone to help me with that. I don't need that dynamic - I want it. It may be that you are not lacking in something, but that spanking fills another type of need - to be cared for and guided, to feel more secure within set boundaries, to have expectations to meet. If you are a spanko, then the sooner you accept yourself completely, the easier it will be to recognize your needs and desires. I love all types of spanking - erotic, roleplaying, discipline, funishment, stress relief, just because. I am also an athlete and like to keep myself fit and healthy; accountability-based discipline is a tool that helps me meet those goals.
    1 point
  10. Of course it's ok. Some people go to therapists for help. We just do a different kind of "therapy." Now, I'm not suggesting that having a spanking mentor is a replacement for therapy for people who need that, but I think you know what I mean. Also, many women working in fields where they have to be "in control" all day want to hand the reins over to someone else when they get home. That is not unusual at all.
    1 point
  11. I think my wife is much better at running the household than me. She's strong and assertive and she lays down the rules I have to follow and she enforces them. I don't get away with anything and that's a good thing because I've become a much better person and husband.
    1 point
  12. I'm curious, do you have a way to get yourself free if something were to happen to him while you are restrained? I have always used a false tie, safety snap, etc. when doing restraints one-on-one. Something to think about.
    1 point
  13. Just perfect as compensation for a missed deserved spanking.
    1 point
  14. I get quite aroused during sessions. Especially when my Disciplinarian is scolding me something fierce. And oh my goodness...when She begins smacking the Jokari against her palm....that's extremely arousing. I remember during one of my earliest sessions going on 20 years ago now, my spanker was letting me have it verbally. I mean, that, in its own way, was a severe spanking. Just the way she'd loudly tell me "Ohh....I've had it ...I'm going to....WHIP.... YOUR....BUTT!!" Talk about a serious erection ☺️
    1 point
  15. Hi! I'm new at this commnunity. I'm a fm spanking videogames and comics developer. I really want to share my work here, but if takes more than a week to get a simple image approval, it's really discouraging. Is this how things work here? Thanks.
    1 point
  16. hmm. Note to self.........🤔 Replace serpentine belt. Stop by Auto Zone. Pick up 1 serpentine belt. Keep old, worn serp belt for future use. 😁
    1 point
  17. Ten is a very low number, just saying. Of course it would hurt even worse over just cotton underpants or on the bare bottom, which is how I would be applying it. Thank you for verifying what I was thinking though, that this would be a very intense implement to use!
    1 point
  18. You're probably one of the only people on earth who plan to use that to spank someone with, and there are a lot of impromptu spanking tools out there! It doesn't sound like a bad idea, though most people likely don't have a spare one just lying around.
    1 point
  19. It would be like having sex with a family member. My mind just can’t conceive it.
    1 point
  20. Yup, it’s like not wanting EVER to hear about your parents’ sex life. Just can’t go there.
    1 point
  21. if I reach back, my husband just grabs my hand and pins it at my lower back. He understands that it is a reaction to pain. He might swat my thighs a few times but that's about it. I wouldn't get an extra or more severe punishment for a genuine reaction.
    1 point
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