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Nothing to do with spanking...lol...but it does involve kicking someone's butt...lol. Yesterday I was making a coffee run for two friends while doing a free massage clinic in a soup kitchen in a large city a couple hours from our rural home. A man come out from behind a dumpster and demanded my purse and "everything I had on me." Well, he had a small knife and was very nervous, and actually smaller than me. I threw my purse a couple feet away and pretended to take off my wedding ring, and then my martial arts training kicked in. As he bent I kicked his face, then grabbed his arm and swung it around and behind him, causing him to drop the knife and I heard his shoulder crack as I jerked it high and hard up and behind him. I then kicked him in his man parts and gave him two hand heel punches...one got his eye, the other his nose...which I found out later I broke. Fortunately, a couple not too far away saw the whole thing and ran to my rescue, but he was actually writhing on the ground and not going anywhere. The couple had called 911, and the police were there in no time. My hand is a bit sore, but physically I am ok. It was a huge traumatic emotional thing for me, however....and "after" it was over, I broke down in my mother in law's arms. But, today I am better. It was the first time I got truly violent since my arrest that sent me to prison, and I had not felt that rage rise up since prison....so it scared me to realize it is still in me. I could have really hurt this guy, but my husband's martial art training always emphasized self defense...which came to my mind as I was ready to go in to really hurt him...but realized he had. been neutralized and he was no longer a threat. I was worried the police would see my past record and arrest me again...but the witnesses saw everything and explained it...plus...a nearby security camera caught the whole thing to collaborate my story. What a relief! So...guess I just felt the need to share this...with my friends here. My husband started training me in his Korean form of karate early on in our marriage and I made a black belt level...but since then I just practice now and then...occasionally assist him in training a group now and then, and do some occasional sparring. I am so thankful my husband taught me these skills...and feel like the effort paid off yesterday big time. My husband was proud of me, but also not happy that I put myself in danger foolishly. I was by myself in a bad neighborhood, whereas I could have asked for someone to accompany me. I also did not take my cell phone with me. So...yes...my husband said he would give me some time to settle down from the experience...but I could expect a good hide tanning for my poor and dangerous decisions. Inam not looking forward to it, but I totally I agree I need and deserve whatever I am gonna get from him. I guess I want to encourage you all to be careful and avoid being alone on streets, especially in bad areas....and consider taking some self defense training. It may one day save your life! Turns out the man was 20 years old and a drug addict. I hope this will actually be the beginning of a turn around for the better in this young man's life.

I'll bet you have. I just hope that you were convinced by what followed not to do it again.

I would very much like to visit your and your husband’s coffee shop. You got any of those chocolate chip cookies baking there? Now, if I can just get @Chawsee to come with me... 🤫 😎

Right on! Glad you taught him a much needed lesson and got out of there safely. He’ll never forget the day a lady kicked his ass! 😆 🤣

I have only cum once DURING a spanking. Almost always after I am spanked. IA few times I have been required to cum BEFORE being spanked. That made me understand why my non spanko childhood friends who were spanked feared it so much!

Start a new subject. It should be interesting, and I will no doubt be roasted for it.

This is such a good question... but, what do you consider to be topping from the bottom? I have been in situations like StrictGent where I have had to guide a new Top. The headspace was different and it was just fun / exploratory spanking. I also think it is important to differentiate between TFTB and having limits. Have I ever TFTBed? Definitely. Sometimes overtly and other times through bratting. In a disciplinary relationship, I try to avoid it, but it happens.

I don't know why some on here think I kinda misbehave and I'm not a good boy or a good "little" boy 😈 and need a helping hand (spanking) sometimes for alleged misbehavior? And, no I don't need any reminders to help me remember to behave or be a good boy either. 😇 Hairbrushes can be used for their intended purpose that they were originally developed for, and that was to brush hair.

Old school wisdom never gets old @Chawsee! You've already gotten lots of great ideas and theories, but my guess is that all the answers you're seeking are locked up inside your partner. You mission then, is to figure out a way to release them - and when it comes to that we're all wired differently. Some people can handle and appreciate a direct approach "HEY, what's the deal? Why can't I spank you?". Some people need a much gentler approach. If I had to guess (and purely a guess) somewhere at the root of this is a trust issue, and that might not have anything to do with you directly. Most of us have emotional and psychological baggage eventually - your partner may have baggage holding them back from fully embracing your relationship. Did you ever ask someone to do you a favor, and you could tell from their response that they really didn't want to? At that point most of us would just say "forget it" because a gift from a reluctant giver really isn't a gift. It could be something as simple as her being insecure about the possibility of you doing something you don't really want her to do. Lastly, maybe there's a creative benefit to inviting her to take part in this forum - she might find out she's not alone and may see a solution where she hadn't in the past. Good luck!

I have never smoked, but when I went to the football in Scotland, I always liked the smell of a cigar or a pipe. That was when you could smoke in public, so a long time ago. It may have had something to do with being outside and just being part of the ritual - wrapped up against the cold, a mince pie and a cup of bovril at half-time and the friendly banter between opposing supporters. Least favorite smell has always been cigarette smoke. I have no idea why, considering my favorite smells!

Welcome and thank you for the reminder of the scary, nervous, excited feeling to finally be among others who do what we do! Suggest you spend lots of time poking around in Spanking Safety and Advice section of the forum. Also, if you find someone that you feel like you might connect well with, you can search their content and contributions here to get a better feel for them, and it never hurts to get personal referrals and recommendations (at least not until you're across their lap that it! 😂 ) Buena fortuna!

Haha. No, I never miss out when I'm at a coffee shop! Are you kidding? Coffee shops are a little slice of heaven on earth. The lovely soft lighting, the pretty artwork on the walls (usually nature-inspired here in the mountains), the delicious smells, the cozy ambiance, the friendly and cheerful folks behind the counter, the hot chocolate and fresh baked goods....

Hi dre4mgirl. I tried Mexican hot chocolate once. It wasn't my thing. I love pure, intense (quality) chocolate, unadulterated by cinnamon. I won't even add marshmallows, nor peppermint at Christmastime, because to me, those additions ruin perfection. Just straight, rich chocolate... haha. 😋 But that's just me. 😉