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  1. Hello my name is Heather aka CanadianGal! I decided top finally join as my husband has become more active here and sure sounded exciting. 57 year old married gal that is a life long spanko and luckily so is my hubby. We both grew up in the spanking era so likely has something to do with it. I am primarily a spankee but have also given a few. My favourites usually involve a role play and a classic old fashion OTK spanking with hand or back of a hairbrush - "yikes my mothers"!! I am very much into fitness and yoga and 5'9". Looking forward to connecting and chatting with other spankos! 🥰
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  3. How do you prefer to be spanked over the knee Dangling over 1 knee dangling over 2 knees legs free legs trapped resting on something
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  4. oh my that is a great psychological technique! I dont use a belt with huge force, but I do enjoy the cracking sound it makes when you bend it in half and tightly jerk the ends away from each other to give that deliciously sounding "CRACK"... if the spanking/belting was going to happen latter that night, I might leave it laying in a very conspicuous place (like the kitchen or dining room table) where she might see it throughout the day or at least when leaving in the morning and coming back in the evening... and if no one else was around, I'd be sure to CRACK it as soon as I got home... that sure got the Pavlov's dog-like reaction of immediate butterflies and nerves crashing through stomach, and the little hairs on the back of her neck to stand straight up!
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  5. My sister and I laugh at those T-Shirts that say I am a Wooden Spoon Survivor and say Where are ours that should say "I survived my mother's hairbrush"!!
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  6. I’m am starting to turn as a bi spanko. I have considered being spanked by a male but the terms would be different I think to expect it. Like I would have to have the mindset that I’m a sissy or something like that.I can’t believe I just said that
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  7. All of this. Except, I would bring it up before getting into the more serious dating relationship. Why build a foundation on lies and secrecy?
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  8. I am relatively open. Most of my old friends know - people I served with in the military, friends from high school (practically everyone really LOL); two of my co-workers know.
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  9. several of my sister in laws know she is spanked, but only a couple know many details , and of course others I spank too. our daughter knows, and I think my son suspects or knows too, but not sure. A couple cose friends as well. We are fairly open about it , so like talking about it discretely whne w can.... you never know when someone you joke or talk with might be into it and become a friend.
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  10. Hi there I am a newcomer to the site, 58, from the UK. My interest is in mild CP and I am keen to learn more and make new friends.
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  11. I quite literally do this type of stuff regularly. If she shows up at the pool on a hot day, and someone asks about it, pool ledges are very hot. I’ll have her sit on it for a minute or two, as soon as we get there that way the vanillas think it just sunburned her butt. Works every time. Just plan ahead and for every contingency. Warms her up more and is extremely difficult to sit still. Makes a GREAT secondary punishment. when doing that though I usually aim pretty high with a soft implement, that way most of redness is covered by her swimsuit, makes it more believable. @rubyreddyou are correct that vanillas shouldn’t be exposed to it without consent. I learned this the hard way once but have no regrets. See when I was younger I was very ruthless towards vanillas that talked trash. I knew a few hardcore masochists, and they didn’t like trash talkers either. We used to play a game We called “around the room.” we would bring a few vanilla trash talkers over to my place. Rules were simple. Between them and us was the door. Rule #1- who’s going to reach there limits first, them or us. Last group standing wins. Rule #2- they get to pick the implement I used, thing they didn’t know was they were selecting from preselected ones. They were always eager to pick one too. This is usually where it set in “like oh my god there actually serious.” Played that game 3 times, guess who the reigning champs were. Turns out one day the college deans son was in the room. Needless to say We both got booted. No worries though we transferred to another one following week, but we never played that game again, and haven’t since. DONT SCARE THE VANILLAS! Bad things can happen. You might get away with it once or twice, but that one time will get you.
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  12. I think its a great idea around other SpankO`s, but I would not like my parents or vanilla people and children seeing your cute crimson bottom. But at a spanking event it would go over very well.
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  13. First rate title but the rest of it is pretty meh. I do like the emphasis on being calm though. I doubt it's from another era. My guess is sometime within the last 20 years. Although maybe now in the internet age that qualifies as way back when.
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  14. All of this. Also, I don't believe vanillas should be exposed to kink without consent - as in, I shouldn't bring them in as unwilling participants. I would hate for someone to misconstrue my marks (a sign of caring or love or sensuality) as abuse. But, no... even as a spanko, I wouldn't want to see this at the gym.
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  15. I think it's a hot idea. Having said that, I don't think it's a wise one. If someone were to report it, there might be problems. In North Carolina, for example, there is no such thing as "consensual abuse" so even if you were to explain to law enforcement that you agreed to it, it's technically against the law. Yes, law enforcement would tend to turn their heads on that, but I'm not sure you would want to go down that road.
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  16. Thanks guys, that's all really helpful and will feed into my thinking. To be honest, Bramblewine and Dunelman are probably right that it may be too much for me. Bramblewine - yes, it's the second. An idea for me to think about. He's never forced me down any route I didn't want to take (he handled the baring issue really well and has always been good around implement choice, positions etc). Longtimespanking - good point re what others might think.
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  17. I absolutely love this photo and your daughter's wisdom in choosing it for a writing assignment. Over the years I have required a confession, done in a kneeling position, from many of the women who are submissive to me, typically at the outset of a punishment session. We do review behavior and a multitude of contributing factors and issues. I believe it is an important part of starting an emotional cleansing process and catharsis which is further facilitated by the actual punishment itself, which normally follows immediately after the confession. With other women who have asked to be accountable to me from a distance rather than in person, I have sometimes required similar confessions done on their knees while they think about what they need to report, which thus facilitates my assigning a punishment for them to do on their own. As a disciplinarian I often choose to increase the reality of the confession by requiring her to humiliate herself as part of the confession. She may either be stripped naked, or have her wrists and ankles restrained while kneeling, or both. She is to understand the level of shame she brings to herself through her behavioral issues, and doing it in that manner makes her much more aware.
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  18. LOL -- A little Hump Day humor
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  19. An immediate spanking teaches the best lesson but is often not practical, so it is made clear to me that I am going to get spanked later for what I did. The anxiety of waiting is then part of my punishment. I don't really need any reminder like your husband's belt trick to keep me mindful of the spanking I'm going to get! Often I have difficulty thinking of anything else and can't keep my mind on what I'm doing. Usually I will be spanked as soon as we have the house to ourselves, and if she is out or busy but no one else is home, her big paddle will come out of the bedroom drawer and be left on the kitchen table or in the living room for me to see. Then she'll come home with groceries and as soon as I've helped put them away, she'll sit on a kitchen chair and pull down my pants, or she'll finish whatever she's doing and sit on the living room couch to spank me. When I see that paddle I know I'll be spanked as soon as she's ready!
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  20. 856556242_TurkOnTheProwel.mp4
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  21. ** Thread Lock This thread is quite honestly really not OK. I'm leaving this up as an example thread for members to read the guidelines. Firstly, my thoughts on this - 1. You are coming on here to explain how you are trolling on other kink-related sites and bragging about it. 2. You admit to sending images of yourself that include nudity and from what you hint at genitals (FYI: even though I agree 'donations' are wrong) You do NOT have the right to sexually harass people and come to SN platform bragging about it - that is illegal). We will not tolerate illegal activity being bragged about here. We promote consent. This is not consent. 3. People tend not to want to talk to you when you sexually violate them (see my above explanation). 4. Than after that for your own satisfaction you re-messaged this women to try to get her to spank you? ----------------------------------------------------------------------------- In this thread alone you manage to break the following rules: 1. Spamming [you created a thread here about making this thread] 2. Link Sharing [this is not the proper sub-forum to share a link of another site on] 3. Harassment [as stated above] normally we do not moderate off SN however you brought an event from another site ON to SN which mades it different. 3. Nudity Writing, Photographs and Videos ----------------- Last but not least do not PM myself or any member of the staff asking to be "disciplined" for your behavior on our website. Note: I have to put this out there because we've had a few members try to beg us to online discipline them for breaking the TOS when we nicely alert them to the guidelines. And with what you said to the women above I wanted to make it crystal clear. We run a forum and moderate it. We don't 'discipline' people. Doing so is unsolicited and unwanted (and not our job). Quote from the guidelines:
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  22. Lol we did that... But the house is at the front and I think the people across the street can hear me when I start carrying on... 🤣. We can hear the wife when she goes on a rampage so I'm sure they have heard me hollering... Also... They BOTH need a spanking. Sheesh.
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  23. No, there are absolutely NOT more male spouses than female spouses who are being spanked by their partners. There are not many things in life I am absolutely certain about but this take feels pretty solid to me.
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  24. Helped administer a birthday spanking this past Friday, actually.
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  25. surprised on her birthday in front of guests
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  26. something like this you mean
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  27. It all depends on the people involved, of course, but I had that exact same experience a few years ago and it was amazing. Highly recommend 😊
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  28. Happy Almost Birthday to you! 🎁 🎂
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  29. Interestingly enough, I've given a few birthday spankings, but never gotten one myself.
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  30. My friends are mostly spankos so it is rare that anyone escapes it, even if it has to be delayed. Sometimes though, the ERs find someone to volunteer to take theirs.
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  31. Think most of us here have done what I call the spankers dance I have I could dance for for the royal ballet on occasions?!!
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  32. 1 CORINTHIANS 13:4-8 I guess the easiest way to start this off would be to define what love is - our whole universe and way of thinking depends on it. A child who does not develop and keep a secure attachment by 12 months will be adversely affected for the rest of their lives with Attachment Disorder, it can also slow the progress of the brain developing so these children often have Learning Difficulties as well as at times physical developmental delays. Its a little like both the wind and the Holy Spirit; we can't see it, can't hear it but we feel it and see the effects. It is something we cannot control, something we crave, something we need and something we strive for. So how does such an integral part of human existence compare with a lifestyle of dominance and submission, leadership and obedience and couples with defined roles? 1) Love is patient. I guess in any form of relationship, whether that be parent/child, romantic, friendships, professional or mentorships, we live by a certain 'give and take' custom. Patience in it's simplest form is using tolerance to pick your battles without becoming frustrated and anxious, compromising. I have struggled a little where this comes in with a CDD relationship as the HOH can just spank when she annoys him right? When she's out of line or breaks a rule - she gets her tuppence and he can take this out on her butt and vwala....but how does this work the other way around? What happens when he is in the wrong, when he is rude, arrogant, undermining, unfair or just an ass? However this is in no way the point of CDD in any form, this is how many vanilla people looking through the peephole see it, but really it's so much more. I feel that the man has to use so much more patience and tolerance as he knows he can give consequences but is tied by his responsobility to be honorable, fair, and use it as discipline to stop the behaviour repeating itself as opposed to revenge or relieving his great annoyance. How much more responsibility goes into this, how much more self discipline when the only accountability is himself? Patience therefore in any DD relationship is central to the working of the relationship. Tolerance of each others personality and quirks yet building each others strengths. The man has a responsibility to use this patience to discipline in the right manner and the woman the responsibility to help him work through his faults. 2) Love is Kind. Kindness is something we all learn by being loved, by watching those around us. In our early years we learn to be generous by sharing our toys and later food, we learn to be friendly in nursery and school - figuring out how to make friends and what is and is not acceptable friendliness. Later in life we learn to be considerate of others and develop a sense of humanity. 3) Love does not envy, jealousy and envy are often confused, see God is a jealous God but not an envious one. Jealousy is being protective of what you have (we're Gods creation and he doesn't want to lose us; envious non the other hand is always looking at other people and wanting what they have. Jealousy is in healthy to a certain extend very healthy, we do naturally want to protect what is ours. Jealousy in a relationship contains 3 parties, the third unwanted party can be a person, idea or thing. Love does not envy though, it is not the green eyed monster never contended with his lot. Envy is always looking for that green grass, yet the grass is green where it is watered. We need to be jealous over our relationship and not let envy become that third party, we need to protect and nurture what we have, learn to truly love it and cherish it. 4) Love does not boast. There is a real key difference between being boastful and being confident. Being confident is God's treasure in our successes. We are able to look at our work, ourselves, our achievements and celebrate them aside from what anyone else does. We are not threatened by the successes of others, our successes are able to stand on their own. This is especially important in DD, as we want to build each other up, enhance each others achievements, celebrate with them without being threatened by them. Boastful on the other hand is needing to be the best, having so much pride in our work that we don't want anyone else coming out on top. That in any form of relationship is unhealthy, but in one where one party is more in control of the environment, it can turn ugly quickly. We need to watch ourselves and where our mind takes us with our achievements, are we building others up or tearing them down? 5) Love is not proud. My mom always used to say to me 'pride comes before the fall, and the higher you are the longer you'll fall'. I always struggled with this concept a lot and always felt so bitter that she was belittling my accomplishments. It is a saying that really wrecked my confidence. Pride is a really good emotion in small doses, we should feel satisfied with what we have, what we've done, who we are and who we are with...this becomes negative when that pride is a selfish endeavour. Pride in the right context is having self-respect, but can become more like boastfulness as well. 6) Love does not dishonour others. Honour is respect, a central part of the DD life, it even makes up one of the 4 D's. We may not like decisions that are made, people we come across, people in our lives or at times ourselves, yet because we are loving beings we are already bound by the laws of LOVE, which may be brotherly, friendly, parental or romantic love, but love is love. 7) Love is not self seeking. DD is just not a lifestyle where ourself comes first, both parties put the others needs before their own - thats just how it naturally works. When one becomes self seeking the whole structure fails from the ground up, we cannot be looking after our own wants, needs, welfare and interests before the other. When the man does this it borders on abuse as discipline is first and foremost to release guilt, deter behaviours and teach respect; when it becomes about anger, revenge or even just without any consideration for her, it becomes a one way street to hurt and failure. When she just thinks of her own needs, wants and creates a character to achieve her own way, she is draining his abilities, emotions and needs for her own pleasure. She is creating a toxic environment that will eventually suffocate in selfishness. We need to be building up each other, caring for ourselves so we can care for others. 8) Love is not easily angered. The difference between abuse and discipline is often quite simply how it is done. IE - done in anger for revenge or to release frustration = abuse, done in complete calm, stable frame of mind and to release guilt and deter behaviour = discipline. When we truly love someone we try so much harder to watch our words and actions around them, we are more tolerant and are not led by emotions. From my own experience as a child I do struggle more with emotions, and I do lose my cool, however I know that this is a problem and is something that I try to contain or find other means of expelling it, I am not content with it and realise how it affects others. 9) Love keeps no record of wrongs. This is one area where any DD relationship just trumps Vanilla completely. Most are drawn to this life as they feel that need for accountability in their life. Accountability is also the thing that brings on discipline in many forms, but once this is complete we feel a sense of relinquishment of guilt and we know the record has been scratched. We are able to move on knowing our man has punished us and moved on. By experience I know that in a vanilla relationship (parental and romantic) when issues aren't dealt with they are regurgitated over and over, used to guilt trip and manipulate; really not a healthy way of living - but this isn't God's way, He wants us to find freedom. 10) Love does not delight in evil but rejoices in truth. In short, we are not to set our parter up to fail, we do not create temptation that causes them to do wrong. We rejoice with them when they succeed, building them up not pulling them down. 11) Love always Protects. I mean, another one of the basis for DD right? We are in this to protect each other, in different means and forms - but protect all the same. The 4 D's fall into this really well (read other blog post), Disobedience, Dishonesty, Dangerous behaviour, Disrespect...they are all around remaining safe, maintaining ourselves and building up a better person. Though the man isn't generally spanked in a CDD relationship he still follows the D's and leads by example. 12) Love always trusts. Trust is a HUGE concept and something that I massively struggle with. There are so many aspects of this relationship where the breaking of trust would just be so detrimental to it. I cannot list them all as we'd all be here all day, but the two that stand out to me personally are as follows. I have never understood the concept of pushing limits, I figure that if I get spanked it's because of my behaviour, I need a man that will spank me to a point where he knows the message has been taken in, the guilt has gone and the repeat of behaviour is deterred. If he doesn't know where to stop without me needing to use a safeword, I do not trust him to have me in an incredibly vulnerable position, physically and emotionally. The man needs to have a sense of trust that his woman will own up to her actions without him needing to seek everytime. He cannot be there watching her 24/7 so she needs to trust him enough to tell him both her successes and failures, knowing that he will only react in her best interest and that she has only enhanced his trust in her through being completely honest - and trustworthy. In this lifestyle, we do live in secrecy. I know in my own case, certain people finding out would literally ruin me,,,,and the career path I have chosen, as people living on the outside just don't get our way of life, they see it as a form of abuse. We therefore need to be trustworthy with our words, actions and not acting out in revenge or anger. Love always hopes, Love always perseveres. We don't give up at the first struggle, we learn to love, learn to be with each other, learn to nurture each others qualities and we water the grass where we are not always looking over the bridge. LOVE NEVER FAILS
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  33. "They all laughed when I said I was going to be a comedian - they're not laughing now" - Bob Monkhouse ( UK comedian )
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  34. omg that's horrible...just ;like at cracker barrell the last time I went there they didn't have their paddles in the gift shop anymore
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  35. These stingy little buggers are great for warmups. Where do you even find them these days? I saw some at a truck stop gift shop on my road trip to North Dakota a week ago, but the paddles were plastic(!!) in an array of pastel colors. They're marketing to children with the switch to plastic in colorful hues, while simultaneously squashing our adult fun. We had OTHER plans for that toy! 🙄
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  36. I have a couple layers of limits. One is physical. If I end up physically injuring somebody— then I have failed as a spanker. I don’t mean being left red. Or perhaps even blotched or bruised. Or welts. I mean— hurt. One knows it when one sees it. Broken skin, etc. I feel I have failed as a spanker as so much is psychological and about the relationship... that I have failed to connect at that level and am forcing it with sheer force. The other is psychological. I don’t want to injure somebody mentally or emotionally. If instead of release and peace I’m getting terror and fear— then I feel I am way off. Of course people are scared of their punishment. Might feel butterflies in the belly. But again. One knows it when one sees it. If I am giving a person anxiety, terror, something that haunts and frightens them— no. And the other is social. I don’t want to manipulate or force a person into discipline. If I am twisting somebody to receive a punishment through manipulation, then I have something missing in the disciplinary relationship. I am not trying to build hatred and resentment in a person. Also, I don’t want to be twisted and manipulated. Particularly outside of my hard limits. Or to habitually get out of a spanking. That’s just me.
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  37. I think that those that I have spanked have been most embarrassed having had to hold a position while standing in the corner before and/or after a sound bottom-warming.
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