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  1. Hi everyone! I’m a looooong time lurker, and I finally decided to make an account and introduce myself. I’m Tessa, and I’m about to move to Cincinnati. I’ve been interested in spanking for as long as I can remember, but I’ve never been spanked! I’ve dabbled I’m self-spanking, but I’m not sure it’s really my thing. I’ve thought about trying to find a spanker for a while now, but never had the courage. I’m hoping to change that now! i have next to no experience in spanking, so I’m looking for someone who is willing to work with a newbie and have patience. I’m not even totally sure what
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  2. That happened to me in 1992 in a Hawaii. We were honeymooning in Hawaii and my husband said, we would never see anyone on the beach ever again. He had been spanking me while dating for 18 months both erotic and punishment spanking. I was spanked on my wedding night and most days of the honeymoon. We actually stayed at the Cocco palms Motel the setting of the movie "Blue Hawaii" with Elvis. Most spanking weren't too bad and my bottom made a fast recover. But one afternoon he said, "I am going give you a good spanking then we going out for a walk on the beach wearing this new suite"
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  3. I much prefer a smooth-backed, double-sided, hairbrush-style paddle to an actual hairbrush. I prefer anything to an agony-inducing, bottom-blistering bathbrush.
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  4. I have always wanted to see that - a punished bottom on public display. That story woke me up better than a cup of coffee. 😂
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  5. I have had this fantasy of making my wife remove her pants and then go to my friend and ask him to borrow his belt and bring it to me for her spanking. Now, I would never actually do that and she would probably run out the door naked from the waist down before she would ask someone to provide a belt for her ass to get whipped with but hey it's fantasy.
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  6. I don't think that you are crazy and you are not the only one. During my 20's, my life was very stressful, for a multitude of reasons which I'd rather not go deeply into. I craved the pain of a severe spanking constantly and the release was only temporary- like I could be spanked harshly in the morning and want another one in the afternoon. Luckily, I had a Dom who got it- he had his own personal demons and a very stressful Govn management job. He also knew how to beat me soundly! He had concerns because I'd be badly marked and want more. He devised a plan that he would spank me several t
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  7. I was conversing with someone online recently who told me of a very awkward situation they found themselves in. It was a guy who had recently been engaging in spanking with a woman he has known for around 3-4 years. He's the ee, and she's the er. She asks him to come over and meet some of her relatives. So he does. She introduces him as a friend. Then, later on, he says something, playfully of course, that sounds smart assed. She responds playfully, "was that a smart comment, young man? Looks like someone earned themselves a trip out back and let's not forget, there is a bar of Ivory soa
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  8. Do you have a favorite public or witnessed spanking fantasy? Mine is to throw a tiny tantrum at the grocery store (always the frozen food section, for some reason) and to get a swat or two in the store, and a little scolding or warning, before being escorted out for a much longer spanking. Or, a hissy fit at Walmart (or other big store) and a full spanking in a deserted aisle or dressing room. I am always respectful of vanilla consent for public spanking situations - which is why I say "fantasy" - but let's suspend the idea of consent for the moment.
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  9. If you didn't have a dirty mind you would have said carpet.
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  10. Switchwithme. With the greatest respect having read another recent post you sound in deep distress about a traumatic assault that has happened to a friend. Doesn't matter it happened in the spanking world or not, just as if you had a broken leg you need a professional to help diagnose and put a plaster on it to help you then get on with your healing. It's not being weak, it's not being dependent, if you walk round on an injury without getting help it gets worse, and when it heals it heals wonky. You are looking online for a connection that took you years to create in real life. Speak to someo
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  11. For years I really enjoyed the perfect spanking world. It was something I enjoyed with friends. People I loved and adored. And who felt similarly. We went to the mattresses for each other. I saw some of these people married and buried. I saw their kids come up. Grow up. All the things of life come and go. The joys and struggles. Really horrible losses. A lot of fun. Love. A lot of love. The spanking thing wasn’t our whole life. Our lives included it. It was never a scene or a lifestyle. It was something we did. We explored it. Talked about it. Like everything, we took it seriously— and no
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  12. Okay okay I am appeased. That's a five dollar word.
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  13. Bivouac is that better @AfterGeometry
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  14. I rather like that idea of your wife taking your temperature, I am making a note of that. A little added humiliation goes along quite nicely as you both are getting your spankings across our knees. Good post Gary. Ms L
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  15. The hyphenating kind of mimics the drawn-out ritual many of us so enjoy about spanking.
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  16. I forgot Richly-merited, bouncing-and-bucking, open-handed, stiff-palmed, and smooth-backed( hairbrush)!
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  17. I think the kicky-kicky is one of the best parts of an old-fashioned, over-the-knee, time-honored, (hyphen-hyphen!)bare-bottomed spanking well-applied!
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  18. A little preview for the 100th page of my graphic novel...and my birthday really is next month
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  19. I agree that he was smart to get out. Not because she was apparently outing herself to her family--that part is up to her--but because she was also outing him without his consent. And doing it after they'd discussed discretion, which, it sounds like, included an agreement that she wouldn't out him. That right there is betrayal.
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  20. Self spanking does absolutely nothing for me. But being spanked is still about the sensation. I won't disagree that there's a psychological element in it, but it's not really about being dominated, for me. It's something else. Similarly, I find partnered sex with someone I really want much more enjoyable than masturbation, although there, too, sensation has a lot to do with it.
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  21. What a great topic! I feel exactly the same way. Since i have been unable to find a disciplinarian, paddling myself is what keeps me sane. But i do notice it’s in times of great stress where I’m more “crazy”
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  22. I can be very stoic. This was my MO for 5 years with my first 2 disciplinarians, who really could dish it out. Nowadays I let my guard down and emote. More satisfying for this old boy. 😂
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  23. I am just very clumsy! Oh, look! I tripped and the big paddle went into the garbage. My bad.
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  24. To me that would take mortified to a whole new level. The fantasy however is intriguing. @Redwombutt you're a lucky guy.
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  25. Being told to get a paddle and bring it back to my wife before being escorted to the bedroom for a pants down walloping while everyone at your dinner party listened is enough for me.
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  26. I hope you don't take offense to my answer as I mean it only by way of trying my best to help. I think you might benefit from some therapy, to process what you are feeling now and to unpack the guilt that you clearly feel related to your role (or lack of role) that night. It seems like you have come to a kind of spanking-related existential crisis point. You have been traumatized by what happened, and it may be negatively affecting more facets of your life than just spanking. Again, absolutely no offense intended. Having worked a long time with victims of PTSD, I mean only to help.
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  27. This is sort of a trigger issue for me. A friend was injured because she was struck when she was unable to respond and thus use a safe word. So a non-negotiable line is responsiveness. I won’t play with anyone who is unresponsive. I never thought in my life this would have to be a hard line, but I guess it is. I wouldn’t hit an unresponsive person. That’s not my worry. But from this comes several other lines I won’t cross. I will only play with somebody with dialog through the spanking. I won’t spank a drunk or drugged person. Related to that is agency. I really can’t play if t
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  28. Yes I have made my husband pull the car over and receive a spanking from me on more than a few times in our years of marriage. One is probably the most memorable because this was the first of having to pull a car over , where I had to administer discipline. I requested when were dating that he would pick me and my girlfriend up every night after work at 11. I was training him early in our relationship. I expected him to be on time also. Well this particular night he pick us up and got a flat tire.H
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  29. 2 more pages...really sad ones https://spankingart.org/wiki/Rude_Rumps#Chapter_V But happy stuff is coming...and the next page will be...100!!!
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  30. I agree, very good, but another that stands out is a birching in the 1986 movie, Lady Jane staring Helena Bonham Carter, Cary Elwes and Patric Stewart. Helena's character, Jane is given a horrendously savage birching.
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  31. Blue Hawaii was the first really good spanking scene I ever watched.
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  32. Tank staring James Gardner from back in the 80's. The local corrupt sheriff spanks a prostitute.
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  33. It honestly depends on my spankee. The only discomfort I want in that situation is from the spanking itself. Love otk in all it's forms, so typically I just go with whatever works best. Generally otk on a bed is great, support for the upper body while the feet are on the floor. Usually start with the spankee over the lap, but I'll often transition to over one leg with the other used as a lock if she gets too squirmy;). Sometimes go otk with my partner lying right lateral, around the left side of my body pressed against my back. A lot of this depends on body type, pre-existing conditions etc as
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  34. Using a high stool to make the spankee dangle in the air can be fun too.
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  35. As many of you are aware, the Spanking Needs Lounge (SNL) went mobile in order to serve all the different locations that spankos on spankingneeds.com are found. I spotted the truck on the road this morning doing its rounds. Looks like it make a pick-up and things were getting hairy, because the truck was listing to the side a bit. Calm down, guys! Don't want an accident! That would be so embarrassing.
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  36. Same here, with my Naughty Niece. She was insatiable at the height of our spanking relationship and even though she'd gotten a weekend of spankings, on the trip home, she wouldn't stop picking at me, so I pulled into a rest stop, sat in the middle of the front bench seat of the the pickup truck I owned and bared her bottom for a sound hairbrush spanking. I think a trucker must have seen us and got on the radio to describe what happened, as all of a sudden, a semi pulled right up next to us and as he was pulling up, the passenger was looking into my truck windows, where he got a good view of
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  37. That would be quite accurate as my memory serves me
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  38. Ok now this is getting scary because I have actually spanked someone in a rest area in tennessee
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  39. Did you spank me once in a rest area in Tennessee? Yes, I have had this happen a couple of times. Once in Tennessee and once or twice in Georgia. In the rest area it was near the car at a picnic table. In GA it was in the car on the side of the highway. Good times.
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  40. Do you think that is her husband standing behind them?
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  41. This is a strange world where fantasy and reality overlap, sometimes in beguiling ways. Many of us, particularly men, I think, have a worrying tendency to see what we want to see rather than what is actually there in front of us. As with all things in the virtual world, it pays to have one's guard in place, but also to be prepared for real surprises! This I know from happy experience. Decide what we want from our time here and then live by those aims, preferably with all brain cells actively engaged! It's a great place with a potential to be very beneficial from time to time. So nice
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  42. Not crazy! I can relate. I keep a lot inside, and spanking is a way for me to let go. It unburdens me and clears my mind. It’s an emotional release; a break from real life stress. I tried and failed at self spanking. I just couldn’t get there on my own. Sure, I felt the warmth and sting when I spanked myself but I was also focusing on administering the spanking. However, when I’m with a spanker in an intimate space, that I know and trust, I can lose myself in the moment. I focus solely on the physical sensation. Afterwards. Life is good. As you said, feeling better
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  43. Do whatever floats your boat. Life's too short not to fulfil your desires and fantasies. Restrained and caned sounds good, I think I'd personally forgo the audience! Not sure how you find a "quiet" audience but if there's a will, there's a way😀
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  44. “ I don’t care how old you are, you’ve had this coming for a good long time...!”
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  45. I'm just not wired that way. Not for dominance/submission at all, really. Neither role. I enjoy being spanked. Beyond enjoy: it's as much of a need for me as sex. But even that doesn't go with the trappings of D/s, or any variant thereof, for me. I'm not into being ordered around, and I'm not into ordering anyone else around. I'm not into submissive gestures, given or received. I don't want to make all the decisions for another person, and I don't want decisions that rightly are mine made for me. Like @Child of Light says, this is like asking me to change my sexual orientation.
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  46. Never mind if Han shot first this is the new classic Star Wars scene I wish they'd filmed..
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  47. There can be so many reasons for people why they love to spank/be spanked, and even if for the same reason, each situation is very unique. The question is why you want to know why you're like this, or experience feelings about it... You can give your mind a hard time to solve the mysterious puzzle but I guess the answer will never come. Do you know why someone likes classical music and hates hard rock or vice versa? Do you know why you like pizza more than anything else? Or why you love dogs more than cats? And so on... It's about acceptance of the fact that at least you experience this n
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  48. I always do, but not with the spankee present. I pray in solitude beforehand and allow time to listen for guidance.
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