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  1. This is a complex question. Putting aside the communication answer, I would say that personally it would depend on the relationship. This is assuming full consent in both situations because without consent no spanking happens. As a mentor I would never spank a mentee without their explicit agreement. If we couldn't agree on why they were getting spanked I wouldn't do it. At that point it's clear we have had a misunderstanding in what the rules are. And that needs to be talked about. However, as an HOH in a relationship I would do whatever I felt was best after listening to w
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  2. You are the same as me. A younger guy or a couple of years older just wouldn't feel like a Daddy. I do know people who have made a younger or a same age Daddy work thou. I'm not looking for a Grand-Daddy so there has to be a cut off point😂 I envy people who can make it work with a Daddy closer to their age group... gives them much more choice than what I have! Plus, I have other needs that work against what I'm looking for. Glad that you've managed to find solutions to get around the age issue😀
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  3. Something I've acknowleged about myself as a spanko is that there's one aspect that makes the experience a genuine one for me. This is never planned but I always tend to resist just a little when the time comes to have my bottom bared. Sometimes I'll complain a little or throw a small tantrum. I'll get extra swats/strokes for that and I submit through the rest of the spanking but there's something about that which makes it feel more authentic for me. I'll always let my spanker now I have a tendency to do that and wouldn't excessively brat but I do enjoy playing with defiance a bit.
    3 points
  4. For me it would depend on who the spanker is to represent, a parent/uncle/aunt I could see being much older than me (this was my thinking when I was younger) like 20 - 30 years older - A parent to close to my age just would not feel right. Now that I am older almost 50 myself, the age is not as different because 30 years older now would bring them near 80 - so now I look at it like step-parent, that way the age can be closer (even younger than me) and since I do have an aunt only 3 years older than me, a closer age works for aunt/uncle also.
    3 points
  5. ... I would suspect “putting some of this type attitude on display” helps the spankee / spanker relationship. By showing this type of simple defiance, a spankee can help a spanker better understand how to develop and sequence a session for the optimal benefits .
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  6. I just had my very first discipline spanking! Nothing too crazy, just a hand spanking finished off with a few strokes of a hairbrush. I feel so much better, though. Maybe this is the right community for me!
    2 points
  7. HELLO TO EVERYONE : WHO IS A MEMBER OF SPANKING NEEDS. I HAVE JUST JOINED WITH MY WIFE PERMISSION.I AM A 66 YEAR Old SPANKED SUBMISSIVE HUSBAND. IN OUR ALMOST 20 YEARS OF MARRIAGE I AM GIVEN A SPANKING OVER HER KNEE ON A WEEKLY BASIS. WHEN WE FIRST DATED MY WIFE ACCIDENTALLY FOUND OUT ABOUT MY INTEREST IN SPANKING, SHE WAS MORE THAN WILLING TO SHARE MY INTEREST AS LONG AS SHE WAS GOOD TO BE HOH. WELL MY WIFE IS VERY STRICT, AND MY BEHAVIOR IS REVIEWED EACH WEEK AND I ALWAYS GET HER STINGING PALM APPLIED TO MY BARE BOTTOM ON A PARTICULAR MAINTENANCE DAY, A PADDLE OR TAWSE IS ALSO ADDED IF SHE I
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  8. Physical condition aside, no one is too old to be spanked.
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  9. Spankers having “absolute authority” is fantasy. Try to live in reality people. You’re not a God. The only spankings spankees should get are the ones they know they deserve and agree to.
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  10. I agree with @DeepThinker. Whether someone is 20 or 70, I’m more interested in an emotional connection. Starting a friendship, developing an understanding, mutual respect, trust, good communication. Something that is comfortable, grows naturally over time and can be both meaningful and stimulating. You’re never too old @Oldbrat :).
    2 points
  11. Guess it depends on what type of spanking and the waiting time. A punishment spanking I hate waiting for so yes, that's worse than the spanking. Other types of spankings excite me and I look forward to but waiting too long is just frustrating. If I had my way I'd be getting spanked several times a day. Punishment spankings I do my best to avoid getting and luckily haven't had very many in my adult life. I much prefer pleasing some-one that doing things that get me punished.
    2 points
  12. I don't have an age limit. It just depends on the person and the interaction.
    2 points
  13. What you have to say should be considered. On here and in regards to spanking. The fact is, even if your relation ship is cnc, what you're saying should be taken into consideration. I think that learning to voice a differing opinion or request is a special submissive skill. If you really feel it is an unjust punishment and will harm your relationship, you do your Dom a disservice by not speaking up. You take the full decision making power away from them. Once you speak up, then They can decide if they still want to punish you for getting into that situation, or just because they feel like
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  14. Hi there boy, There is really no general point of view possible here. Everything depends on the type of relationship you have and the agreements you made together as well. This is not about a TPE situation like some couples do have in the bdsm life style, and even then... What's most important if such a situation occurs is communication! The Dominant should not immediately start saying he/she is disappointed or so, but ask the submissive/spankee why they think there is no good reason for punishment. There can be several. One rule is a holy rule and that is that you never ever, no mat
    2 points
  15. I am serious. Ladies How Old Is To Old? How old is to old to spank or be spanked by? How old is to old to seek a relationship where there is a Simple Loving, Sincere, Honest communication, Fully Negotiated Boundaries, CDD, DD or Spencer Spanking Plan Long Term Relationship that has a Monogamous, Non Sadistic Nature. Maybe these are a dying desire for the ladies. Maybe Older Fellows That aren't subs or nor Masters are just to old of an ideal partner. How Old Is To Old?
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  16. Hello everyone! I'm atxbrat, better known to the real world as Kina. I just joined a while ago, and I'm doing my best to navigate the site. Here's some info about me! I'm an 18 year old college student with a nearly lifelong interest in all things spanking/domestic discipline. Now that I'm old enough to legally be exploring this side of me, I'm really glad to have found a new community that seems to be as welcoming as y'all are! I attend the University of Texas based out of Austin as a social work major, though I'm not sure if I want to go pre-law yet! Some of my (non-kinky) interest
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  17. No, I'd need some-one who lived in Tx or visited on a semi-regular basis.
    1 point
  18. I think this is a hard one and why clear communication is important. I like consensual non- consent arrangements but i'd expect clear rules before agreeing to take it to that extent. If a spanker/Dom/ Daddy is too lazy to set clear rules/ boundaries, in the relationship, then they shouldn't be in that role. We need to know what we can and can't do or else it's not a fair or even a workable arrangement. Rules can be changed, over time, but there should always be communication so that the bottom knows the expectations. If they break them then they should submit to the punishment. If I
    1 point
  19. Great question and one that, if answered in the affirmative, ought to appeal to her direct, Type A, no-nonsense personality. Certainly worth a try.
    1 point
  20. To make it realistic at least 16 years older than me. Ideally 25 years older max. I like to play hard which isn't common in DDlg. I'm looking for a part-time Daddy but want it to be monogamous... I don't want a Daddy who is playing with anyone else. That would be easier to find if I was looking for 24/7. Preferably, I want to mix the hard-play with sexual. I don't want it to be role-play so it needs to be realistic. I regress and like somethings that littles do but don't have the common likes like watching cartoons etc. I'm just an unusual little and don't really fit in, in the convention
    1 point
  21. On the rare occasions I have been on the receiving end in a role-play scenario, I have always included a bit of defiance. Earning extra swats for your behavior definitely makes it more real.
    1 point
  22. So as a parental spanking, what age would be best for you? And if you do not mind me asking, what are the other needs that work against what you are looking for?
    1 point
  23. I agree I often do the same with my wife, sometimes take down her panties and spank her bare they pull them back up for more spanking over them, In my case I like the way her bottom look or i presented in a nice pare of panties, and "making" her take them down or pull them back up. or doing it myself, just adds to the control part of the spaning too.
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  24. Bedtime schmedtime! No bedtimes for me!!!!! Gonna stay up ALL NIGHT and brat to my hearts desire. 😎
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  25. Spankopodcast.com is out there friends of mine are the hosts.
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  27. They seem few and far between in the spanking world. Maybe we need a spanking site that's just for honest people with morals.
    1 point
  28. I think that I'm Demi-sexual too. I can't do one-night stands and can't abide the throw away, fickle culture of what can only be described as "cheap sex." I need an emotional bond, trust and the knowledge that I'm not being used for some " quick fuck!" I'm too deep and intense for that and far from fickle. If I like some-one enough that I want to be sexual with them then they are special, to me, and I need that to be reciprocated. Doesn't do my spanking needs much good because they are all non- sexual and finding men with my morals and standards seems to be near impossible!
    1 point
  29. Welcome to the site, Gary. I too am spanked by my Dominant female. Our FLR with DD household is over 12years old now. Message me if you would like to chat.
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  30. Absolutely. There have been days when I couldn’t wait for the spanking to actually begin! It can be such a mind-fuck watching the hours slowly tick off. Tom Petty said it best - “The waiting is the hardest part.”
    1 point
  31. This might sound odd and I wouldn’t do it with a spanker who doesn’t like it but I enjoy bratting. Overall growing up I was a well behaved kid. In hindsight I wish I’d been a heck of a lot naughtier. Roleplay spankings in particular are a chance for me to explore that side of my personality.
    1 point
  32. Hello All - 37 year old male here, Washington DC area. I'm usually the spanker, though every so often I like to give up control and feel the sting of a belt or paddle on my backside. I'm looking for a female spanker or disciplinarian in the DC area. Whether a one-time or ongoing thing, I welcome the opportunity to connect and see how things develop. I favor a more domestic discipline-oriented arrangement, but open to something that is more fun. And happy to switch, if that's something you'd like. Either way, it starts with a pleasant conversation and goes from there.
    1 point
  33. HAPPY BIRTHDAY 🎂 to the most knowledgeable, down-to-earth and kind-hearted disciplinarian I know. Since your actual birthday is February 29th and you’re a leap, I’m not sure if you celebrate on Feb. 28th or Mar. 1st? But it’s befitting that such a special soul was born on such a special day. Um, you do know that you’re due (or shall we say long OVERdue!!!) for a birthday spanking, right? I personally would love to see such a spectacle. 🤣 Any brave man here who thinks he can tackle the feat of spanking Miss Chawsee and live to tell about it?? 😂😂😂
    1 point
  34. Some girls seem to live their lives cautiously, perhaps sometimes too much so. They always check to see that the door is locked, that the alarm system is on, and that they park under bright lights. They are the kind of girl who walks about with her arms tightly folder across her chest, as if she’s a castle with the drawbridge up, the portcullis dropped, and the defenses on the ramparts; indeed, as if she’s wearing a sign saying, “Not interested, go away.” Then there are girls like Keira. Keira grew up the kind of girl who takes chances almost as a man does—a reckless, foolish man. One of
    1 point
  35. @Oldbrat Good job I can't sell you my mother then... she is dominant so hardly think she'll take to kindly to being the spankee. You can buy mail order brides... not sure that I agree with the ethics of that but it doesn't stop some men! I don't want to share a Daddy either... I'm " only child" material. No Daddy is going to need anyone else because I'm more than enough to keep him real busy and occupied. If he wants more than me then he isn't man enough to be my Daddy😛
    1 point
  36. If your parents are over 80 don't fall for this trap! I can see where this chancer is going with this🤣 @Oldbrat If my mother wasn't married, I might have considered selling her to you... she's 65 and sure would be up for the FLR stuff! Looks like I have the pick of the non- billionaire older men. Hmmm, maybe I should get myself a harem of them seeming as no-one seems to want them😛
    1 point
  37. When I was spanking as a single man I loved to use a plug as a way to embarrass my spankees. It is truly amazing how being instructed to spread their cheeks as something is inserted rectally tames even the most hardened brat. I loooooooooove anal play. But as a spanker with a partner any anal play that my spankee would experience would have to be self inflicted, which is also a very innovative method of humbling someone who needs to be taught a lesson. Being instructed to penetrate yourself anally while your spanker watches is a powerful tool. I also especially love spanking couple
    1 point
  38. I'm ambitious😂 I know perfect match would be asking for too much but near-perfect sounds reasonable, to me. What's the point of having a Daddy if he doesn't match what I need? I'm a take it or leave it kind of girl and certainly don't do things by halves- I'm all or nothing🤣 He'd need an assessment from a cardiologist too because I'm a little wild and intense... would hate to kill the old Daddy😂
    1 point
  39. Very good points by all! Like others have mentioned... just be patient and be understanding. It's not easy for either side at times to expose our unique interests like being spankos at times. I think there are some great folks out there with like interests. Some have been hurt or are extra cautious and it just takes time. However, once both feel comfortable with each other the fun to be had by both will be worth its weight in gold! 😉
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  40. Seems like you need to become a frequent flier, in the hairbrush club. Hard to dispute results.
    1 point
  41. Enough!!!!! Statements like this on this site needs proof. Due to the nature of this (and you publicly reporting this); we looked into the matter; and you just slandered someone for your own agenda. You and that member have not spoken privately on forums or chat system on SN. I'll be furthering this conversation in PM (as you've been breaking several TOS and guideline issues). But since you slandered someone publicly, I needed to correct the statement. This is a lie and not tolerated here. Lack of honestly shows lack of integrity. This is a huge "red flag" and heads up to the
    1 point
  42. The you must be a pussy😂
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  43. Do sometimes you feel that thinking about spanking can become almost all consuming ? It's been quite awhile since my last experience, and I've found that unless my mind is engaged in some other thing or activity my thoughts drift towards spanking. Of course much of this is purely fantasies. But non the less it something that sometimes concerns me.
    1 point
  44. For me it depends on the situation and the people. I spank some that want it on bare only. Others like to have at least some covering, sometimes just to preserve their modesty, (so other private parts do not show) One guy I spank wears a jock strap to keep his junk covered but still have bare cheeks. Others like starting over pants, then going to undies, and then to bare. So I do whatever they are comfortable doing
    1 point
  45. @HubbyWishes my advice is to sit down with her and make a time for a serious talk. Explain to her how important getting a spanking from her, would be to you. She told you she doesn’t want to hurt you. This is actually I would say a very good sign. She doesn’t seem to have an aversion to the act of spanking but instead of bringing you bodily harm. My wife was initially worried about causing bruises. I told her how yes the spanking would physically hurt but it’s something that emotionally makes me feel better. I would also explain how the butt is a padded part of the body, so there is re
    1 point
  46. Both people need to be humble and gracious to each other. I practice DD with my girlfriend and there are times we disagree over whether she should be spanked. We have an understanding that the final decision is up to me. She is humble and would accept my decision to spank her even if she disagrees. I also have a responsibility as the dominant partner in the relationship to be gracious to her and consider her opinion earnestly. I trust her and never assume she is trying to brat her way out of punishment she's earned. So I pretty much never go through with spanking her if she disagree
    1 point
  47. A person is only as dominant as their partner let’s them be.
    1 point
  48. I think it differs depending on why there is a disagreement. If it is "I didn't do it and I am an honest person who doesn't lie to get out of punishment" then the Dom should recognize that. If it is "I don't want to be punished for that" then I think they should accept the punishment this time after respectfully stating their case, and then rework their contract.so that they don't get punished for things they don't think they should be punished for. For instance, you could have it so you only get punished for breaking specifically spelled out rules, that you both agree on in advance.
    1 point
  49. I am not active on fetlife. But I lurk. I like some of their social functions and how it was suppose to be a kinky Facebook. I dislike anything sexual and a lot of the photographs of people on the site were of genitals and that is the last thing I want to see when trying to talk about my spanking desires. With that said weeding out that -- there are some pretty good spanko communities on Fet.
    1 point
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