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  1. We need to be able to edit posts. I make frequent typos and it's starting to bite me in the A when I can't go fix it. I know it's on the To-Do list, thanks for all your hard work.
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  2. Attach D-rings to the cuffs and tie ropes to that. Then you can get yourself undone, if necessary. I asked the same question.
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  3. I've seen several discussions about this. You always need to have a safety release just in case. I would also say maybe a cell phone within reach just in case.
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  4. There needs to be a reason?
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  5. Wanted say Thank you to a sweet friend, DunBenSpanked for all his help on this. Hugs dear friend. I’m posting this as a response to being contacted in private by different ee’s who tell horror stories of being abused and taken advantage of by the people spanking them. Because this is serious and appears to be happening more and more, I’d like to address the issues of Power and Control, as it relates to the relationship between ee's and ‘Er’s, before, during and after a session. As an ‘ee, you must keep in mind that while you may have a need and craving to relinquish control to someone, u
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  6. Hi guys! I figured maybe it was a good idea to write a little intro, since I am new to the site. I'm Ria. I'm 27, from New York, and have been actively involved in spanking in one way or another since I turned 18. When I started out, I was very much a bottom only. Now, I sometimes switch with people I really care for. Bottoming is still my first love in kinkland, with a strong emphasis in discipline. I like over the knee, and spankings with wooden implements the best. I attend a few national spanking parties a year. Anyway, that's a
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  7. I told my husband awhile back that I would like to be bound and blindfolded, not necessarily for spanking (although that might be part of the experiment) but more as an exercise in trust, and a means to enhance tactile, olfactory, and auditory sensations. To give control to another, completely, secure in the knowledge that he would never take advantage. I guess he's been thinking about it, because in the weeks that he's been away on business, I've received several interesting packages from Amazon. Fuzzy lined restraints, a silky cloth blindfold, and a small leather paddle that's probably
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  8. Of course you can do whatever position you choose with restraints, if you are going for the spread eagle position, make sure to leave enough slack in the ropes or chains or straps you use to be able to easily reach the carabiner release on both wrists. This means you won't be stretched so tight you can't move at all, because you need at least several inches and preferably a foot or so of slack in the ropes to actuate the release and separate the carabiner from the restraining rope or chain. In that situation you want the carabiner positioned close to your hand, not your wrist, so it's easy to
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  9. I see. I was thinking something more spread-eagle, with restraints attached to the bars of our brass bed frame. But the carabiner idea sounds perfect for that.
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  10. Now that would be a unique experience! Vox without a voice!
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  11. Exactly. This works but keeps you restrained nicely and you can pull against them as hard as you want and they will not budge unless you intentionally open them. There are several other possibilities but you can buy D-rings or carabiners just about anywhere and they are very easy to open in an emergency. They also make restraint cuffs with velcro closures which are fairly easy to undo with your other hand. Also gingerlee's comment about keeping a phone nearby is an excellent plan, so you don't have to go looking for it in case you need it. Being restrained adds a wonderfully different
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  12. In other words, for being male. LOL It's an awesome place to be in, being spanked by the woman you love!
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  13. I get spanked because I ask to be spanked. My girlfriend loves me enough to attend to my needs and has gotten very good at applying our large collection of spanking tools to make me cry out and squirm. I think I am addicted to her spanking me and the feelings within me that are awakened by her doing so. Thank God for my spanking girlfriend!! 😊
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  14. I would get a big sub woofer and crank some AC/DC. If you can't beat them, (with a cane), join them! LOL
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  15. That's the best way to deal with noisy neighbors Saxophones might be worse though....I had a neighbor with one of those... It wouldn't have been so bad if he could actually play it...
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  16. I hated apartment living. Had some of the worse neighbors over the years. When the Landlord wouldn't do anything I'd bang on the ceiling with a broom or leave nasty notes on their car. It worked after a bit.
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  17. I've never heard of either band, but I think I should give them a listen on Spotify. I like both. Especially digging the lyric, "What's a wonderwall anyway?" I'm listening to Cypress Hill. For anyone who's been in a musical vacuum for 30 years, genre is classic rap. Appropriate for trimming one's harvest, and other tedious gardening chores.
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  18. Once a week to once every two weeks works well for maintenance, but it all depends on how often she's being spanked at other times for actual punishment. I agree that maintenance spankings can be less intense than punishment ones, but still must be hard enough and long enough that she gets the message why she's being spanked, namely for all the little things she does that wouldn't by themselves deserve a major spanking. I prefer to give maintenance spankings on the bare bottom but the two of you may discuss other options. It should at least be done over her underpants and never while fully dr
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  19. 'Self-pity solves nothing. It is an appealing way to avoid solutions and wallow in an addictive sense of helplessness. Events will never conform perfectly to our desires. Life is a teacher. Bad experiences teach us that we can survive bad experiences. Move forward.'
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  20. If they were women, I think they did the right thing. There is a fine line with family and friends that is hard to see until you are over it, and this is something that cannot be undone. It is possible though, for you to make friends with older women (if it a mom-figure you are after), that might fulfill this as oppose to having to get a girlfriend to do it. When you make friends with adults as an adult, even when they are from your parents' generation, the freedom to engage in this kind of activity is far less blurred. I wonder if there is a male family member that might be more wil
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  21. First off, there's no reason that a spanking couldn't use more than one implement. There's really no "right" answer. It depends on a lot of situational factors. And I believe that it will be a "game time" decision based on how things play out, not all of which are known ahead of time. Generally, though, I'd recommend use of the hand for the warmup period with perhaps some leather added in. After that, likely a lot more leather. I generally wouldn't recommend the use of wood (brushes, paddles) on a first spanking.
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  22. All cost benefit is heavily on the side of making haste slowy. Start mild and work up gradually. Consider the first time in particular as a practice/orientation event. -Ex.
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  23. Stay away from the dreaded evil wooden bath brush......
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  24. I find it really hard to limit myself to one genre. Planning to listen to a variety of acid house and techno this afternoon as I'm planning a dj set - at the same time I love classic rock as well so I've been reminiscing over vintage Rush, Van Halen and Motley Crue.
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  25. This is an interesting question for me. I enjoy getting spanked for fun. Sometimes I get “fun” spankings, but these days I get spanked for punishment much more often. My interest in spanking led me to figure out that I’m a submissive, which led me joyfully to granting authority to my partner, and here I am, getting spanked for behavior modification on the reg. It’s still fun, and extremely fulfilling, just more painful.
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  26. Stress relief and maintenance. Spankings make me a more pleasant and thoughtful person.
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  27. Another reason I have been spanked is that I just enjoy them and to have fun!!
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  28. I got spanked for peeping on the neighbor lady......
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  29. I mostly get spanked for fun and pleasure, but also like to roleplay for naughty little girl spankings too.
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  30. Nicely put and pretty much coincides with what I have been trying to preach to the newbies when I run into them. There has been an influx of younger women here lately and based on some of the profile photos, status comments, chat comments, etc. it's pretty clear to me that they're pretty much clueless as to the type of trouble they can find themselves in if they don't perform due diligence and take their time finding a mentor/spanker. And I've turned down would-be 'ees because of that. "50 Shades' this isn't -- it's real life where people can and do get hurt - physically and/or mentally -- f
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