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My wife and I have somewhat of a cooperative DD arrangement. It's not that structured, or frequent. We spank each other a lot for erotic fun. I spank her on occasion for discipline, and she will sometimes, even less frequently, reciprocate. We've been married over 25 years. No spanking outside the marriage so far, and probably never.

I’m getting spanked Wednesday and it can’t get here fast enough.

Hello everyone. I guess you can just call me Strapper? I'm in the middle of my twenties, been in the military for a while (still am), and while I've enjoyed the excitement of exploring the dating scene in the few places life has taken me, I have finally resigned myself to the fact that a vanilla relationship will not and can never be the thing that satisfies me romantically. I've had these desires and this attitude towards relationships since I was very young and became more sexually aware of myself. While I've met a good number of women in the vanilla world who are open to idea of spanking, I

Hi folks. Just occurred to me that having a spanking fetish is probably the loneliest thing in the world. Is very unlikely that most would understand it. It's not something you brag about. It's something you keep hidden like the magazines under your mattress as a teenager. You can't get rid of them, you feel guilty about it, you'd be mortified if anyone found them... but it just doesn't seem to go away. I'm a married straight male who is devoted to my wife. I would never cheat on her and I have no interest in having a relationship with anyone else. But sadly after 20 years of hiding it, I came

you definitely are not the only person with, spanking needs who feels alone. At least you found this site, and you will find many of us feel alone. Sometimes just talking about it with others helps a little.

Sorry for the bad grammar or misplaced words. Voice to text ya know. Lol.

@Redlily I think your post is spot on. We've been working pretty hard at redesigning the guidelines and forum layout (almost ready for member review); and hoping that it creates a welcoming environment for all those in the lifestyle (and Spanko kinks). We can keep the niche of this being a site for motivational spanking, but there is room to allow other expression here too.

Careful not to drive too fast and get a ticket ;)

It’s good you’ve realized this about yourself early on. Looking back it has always been what I need/want and I truly thought of it for years always thinking something was wrong with me. I suppressed as much as I could and then eventually realized there is an entire world of us out there. Unfortunately I didn’t know early enough to make it a must in any relationship and I married a vanilla. I do love him definitely! But how I have tried to get him to understand and come into our world... It’s not really him though. Unfortunately I am torn a lot with trying to keep my needs in check. You’re very

I agree also about the care factor.

Hi,I'm Pete from the UK living in Greece. I am a spanking artist (and well into the subject of getting and giving a nice red bottom). Would enjoy chatting with other like minded people about ...welll all things spanking Spankred3d Artwork

I don’t chat often because I find it intimidating. For the most part, I just read what people are talking about. I only remember seeing spanking themed discussions a couple of times. Most of the time, people are just talking about normal things with people that they seem to know. It would be difficult to talk in main chat even if you wanted to do so. Within a couple minutes of being in chat, I am inundated with pms. I was talking to six people at the same time one of the last times I was in chat. There was very little discussion going on in main. I am one of those people that find it hard to

Welcome to the site!!! Check out the POWER AND CONTROL thread in the safety section. It's a great read. As others stated be safe, be patient, take your time getting to know someone etc. The basics are the most important steps. Trust your first instincts. Trust takes time. Talk, communicate and don't bare your bottom until the trust is there. Believe me, it's worth the wait!!!

Remember this, young lady?

L = Lo Siento "Lo Siento (I'm sorry)" said the sorrowful spankee from Spain to her stern Spanker.

This may not be spanking safety per say, but it's personal safety. We have all sorts of people come on the forum and coming from all stages of life. Depression has a very high statistic ---- and I wanted to break the stigma, for people that need help, and give them some resources. An online community (like SN) might not be the best place to post when your suicidal or in crisis. But we hope you find these resources comforting if your struggle. *hugs* We want you to get help!! Please let us help you by providing the following links Read This First Here is a forum for people to relate wi

OOOOOOOOOkay? So is the consensus that a spank n go approach isn't about adult discipline but rather about gratification? I personally don't see how spank n go can be about anything but gratification. Now another question and don't take offense but isn't it sort of like meeting a need by seeking out a prostitute? Is that a reasonable comparison? Would this also make the danger for both parties similar?

Rick, there are a lot of different opinions out there. Some people really are into the spank-n-go deal. Me, I would never choose that route. I am the poster child for caution. If I don't feel I really know someone, I will not even consider meeting with them. Also, they have to fit into my general philosophy of a disciplinary relationship. I am not interested in game playing, role playing, age-play, or any type of sexual relationship. I am also not interested in any kind of dominance or bondage. Anyone who tried to pull that crap on me wold find himself (or herself) "hurtin' for cer