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  1. I'm trying to dip my toes in the water a little bit on this huge interest of mine.
    6 points
  2. 6 points
  3. From the album: rude rumps

    Illustration of a memory from college...my first encounter with a spanko bf
    6 points
  4. I tried staying out of this post as Droo and CoL handled it nicely, but the more I read, the more disappointment I felt in this community. SN is a place for all of us to come to talk about and share our spanking needs, to discuss or share our spanking fantasies, to ask for advice, etc. It's supposed to be a safe place. A place we can feel comfortable with discussing our needs and not worry about judgement and ridicule or attacks by other members. Instead I am saddened and ashamed. The OP is new here and this was his first post. Did he find any security or welcome in the responses he got? No, he got ridicule, humiliation, judgement and more. Yes, he could have been more clear by stating this as a real life desire, role play, age play, etc. Being his first post he did quite well in stating it was an ADULT he was seeking, but everyone seemed to overlook that for the most part. I saw the words icky, disgusting, incestuous, pedophilia and non-con abuse. Not one poster gave this guy a chance to respond and clarify, they leapt on their bandwagon and tore him and his post apart. I guess everyone thinks that is ok because his desire isn't their desire. It's sad because the ridicule, judgment, etc came from some long time members who should know better. We are a community of mixed beliefs, desires, wants, needs, etc in that thing we do. It's rare you are going to find someone who wants the exact thing you do. Everyone is entitled to their opinion, but they are not entitled to ridicule, attack, placing a label on someone, etc. I know many here think they are all knowing when it comes to the spanking world, but I can tell you that all of us have a lot to learn, especially when it comes to others and their desires, wants and beliefs. Maybe you don't realize how common it is for ADULT children to be spanked by their parents, Aunts, Uncles, etc. It happens more than you know. I'm not talking about non consensual, I'm talking about adult children who ask for it because they don't know where else to turn or they still feel the need for it, etc. This does not make the parent a pedophile...it is not incest. We are talking about a spanking...not sex. I say this because I know 2 individuals in this situation. One is a male who went to his Mother/Father and asked them and they agreed (after he lost his spanking relationship) and another is a woman who told her parents about her lifestyle and what she was searching for. Both parents agreed to help her until she found something safe. Kudos to those parents for not making their adult children feel ashamed, humiliated, etc. I agree with many, this wouldn't be for me, but if it works for someone else and it's consensual....who am I to judge. Stop and think before you post in someone's thread. Don't go throwing accusations around when you have no proof. Try to remember that we are all adults and we all deserve some respect. If you don't like something you read...move on. Keep the labels (pedophile, incest, icky, etc) to yourself. If it goes against site guidelines or you are unsure if it's allowed....report it....just as Col and Droo suggested.
    5 points
  5. 4 points
  6. I guess the question I would have is WHY would you do this? If it is a sexual fantasy, then it's incestuous. If it is truly disciplinary, then it would imply that your adult offspring have some sort of developmental issue and I would question if spanking was the best approach for addressing their issues. Of course, for RL, I'd question the benefits of spanking in most cases anyway. BTW, I think the age of the participants is not the issue, it's the coercive potential of a parent-grown child relationship. I dislike my RL parents immensely and would obviously never submit to them now that I'm an adult. But if my Mom hits me, I won't be able to stop her. She has that much control over me still. Your results may vary.
    4 points
  7. 100% this. That’s the reason I stepped away from any kind of discipline relationship 14 years ago. A guy that kept pushing for less clothes and more touching. Now, I’m just looking to get to know people and maybe eventually a meet up. I have met a few nice guys, but most of the ones in chat give off major creepy vibes. If you want a female EE to continue talking to you, don’t ask what they are wearing, don’t ask for too many details about how she was spanked as a child, and don’t try to put her in the corner immediately or get her to call you. Don’t start scolding before you even know her. Maybe just play 20 questions back and forth and get to know each other. Ask what her favorite book is, her favorite foods, or hobbies. And if she nicely tells you it isn’t what she is looking for and she’s out, don’t continue to message and scold her for not talking to you! If more guys followed this, you would have more female spankees stick around. Thank you @Topspanker for saying this.
    4 points
  8. So then... you're telling white lies every time you put clothes on? Brush your hair? Look, I know you're not meaning to be insulting but words have actual meanings. You can't just make a wholesale "women lie more" and then when Summer pushes back say, "Oh sure, you're right. But women lie more." Should probably keep my trap shut but patronizing men rattle my cage apparently. ?
    4 points
  9. Hello everyone @Mystery Man did some board updates today to try to resolve some on-going issues and I'm working on modifying our current board theme.
    4 points
  10. Well being HoH and a wife who believes and spanks my husband,I would say you deserve your punishment. More men would definitely benefit from some quality time across our knees for being disrespectful. This is one area where my husband does not need training after all our years of marriage. I hope your roommate teaches you a lesson you will never forget. Ms L.
    4 points
  11. Hello all, We are still troubleshooting the chat refresh issue and sound not alerting and are working on it.
    3 points
  12. LauraAnne has hit on something, although it may be a tad extreme. I cannot understand anyone who is satisfied by just a spanking without the mise en scene (sorry no accent grave) of discipline. To me, the art of discipline is creating that environment so that the spanking is a part of the process, but not the whole process. As I have said many times before I want a woman to leave with a stinging behind but also a psychological sting. That's real discipline. All right, I'm off my soapbox.
    3 points
  13. Too late for Christmas, but this is what Etsy recommended for me. This recommendation is way more accurate than the ads I get on vanilla Facebook. 😆 *Image from MusgraveArtworks (on Etsy)
    3 points
  14. For me (a spankee), it is all about the Top's tone. If it is a serious discipline spanking, I will take it seriously. That doesn't mean I won't look back on it and find it fun or sexy - and I will more than likely still get wet / turned on during. But, I can still separate funishment from real discipline. Withholding spanking would be a deal-breaker for me. Other punishments could be included, though. I could have a dozen orgasms before a spanking and I will still get excited during. It doesn't matter the intensity or length or implement. Spanking - even just the thought - makes me excited. Nudity or other things like that don't work for me personally. I am not embarrassed by my body and I enjoy a bit of exposure. And with a regular partner... never embarrassed.
    3 points
  15. 3 degrees with a wind chill of -17. I may have to offer spankings just to keep people from freezing to death.
    3 points
  16. My personal rules - no bondage with someone I do not know really well and no hitting the fronts of my thighs (or anywhere else on the front of me). Do the things she has mentioned appeal to you? Are any of these things hard limits or potential limits? From a control perspective, bondage is not necessary to keep me still. I can keep myself still. Bondage, for me, is erotic only. As for the perspex paddle - it will probably be sting-y, but could also be thuddy - it just depends on the thickness. Good luck and don't be afraid to take it slowly. You need to be in command of yourself and what happens in the session - so only do what you are truly comfortable with. If it ends up not being a good match, then call the scene and leave.
    3 points
  17. Power exchange can be a wonderful experience, but I will personally never play without a safeword. Even if there isn't a unique one in place, "red" is an automatic immediate halt to whatever is going on, and that is clearly discussed beforehand. Always. It's not just about pain tolerance. What if you find yourself in respiratory distress? What if you have tightness or pain in your chest? What if you reach a point where you're nauseated and vomit and aspirate into your airway? What if you feel lightheaded and can't stop the scene before you lose consciousness? Is your ER going to be closely observing you throughout to make sure that you're safe? A large part of my job centers around assessing people visually for medical issues, whether they're speaking to me or not, and I've done this for a very long time. But there are a ton of issues that can arise that aren't readily visible, however experienced one may be. And regrettably, there's no guarantee someone will be ethical or truly concerned for the safety of their partner. A decent top/dom/er/human being would of course. But people dont wear labels explicitly stating their character. You're an adult, and you can make your own decisions, but from my perspective there is no situation in which the benefit of playing without a safeword outweighs the downside. My opinion, formed over a lot of years. Your call.
    3 points
  18. Because ageplay is a major part of spanking kink for many (many, many) spankos. We are working on a rules rewrite to provide clarity as to what is and isn't allowed.
    3 points
  19. It is not a requirement. I have suggested to the other staff that we should add it. I think it's a good idea.
    3 points
  20. The LOOK. The sound of him removing his belt. When he whispers in your ear in public..."wait til you get home young lady." Young lady... When he says in that tone...Look at me!
    3 points
  21. The main thing is that your relationship is working and maintenance spankings are being used in a positive manner. Also your husband as a disciplinarian must be given credit for your successful marriage. Even though you are left with a sore behind ,I am pretty sure his discipline he gives you is loving and fair. I am strict with my husband and criticized by some members of the forum for my discipline techniques, however we are both happy and have been married for a long time. Some marriages work quite well with one partner being in control.I know ours works that way and yours appears to be that way. Good post and continued success for you and your husband. Ms L
    3 points
  22. We've submitted tickets to IPB and working with our host. We've been upgrading to the latest IPB patches. Life has been hectic sure, but SN is still a priory for me.
    3 points
  23. I hope everyone has a nice Christmas, and keep warm and safe. Always the Best to all of you in 2022....
    3 points
  24. I really do like dropseat PJs. I never had them when I was little, but they were a big part of my spanking fetish since they seemed to feature in pop culture references to spankings. This particular pair (with the velcro) are super convenient. I can't claim any credit for the lovely matching color on the bottom. LOL
    3 points
  25. Been off and on this site for awhile, but recently had a career change that has located me primarily in Idaho, but with the options to travel relatively freely when I am not working (& when I am working). I have only ever explored my interests in spanking and discipline and such in the online realm but if I met the right person, I feel like I would be interested in exploring something in real life eventually. So, open to chat with anyone who doesn't mind me being inexperienced. Not exactly sure what I am looking for but I feel like I will know it when I find it.
    2 points
  26. Almost my entire family was sick with Covid, so plans were cancelled due to mass isolations. I don't have it, and it's unlikely I was exposed. We'll try and do a gift exchange in mid-January, it seems. So, I spent Christmas texting with a few spanko friends and playing Skyrim. On the upside, nobody in my family is a seriously ill. The worst so far has been complaints of severe body aches and a need to sleep for 10 or 12 hours at a clip. Given what I endured when I had Covid in late 2019, this indicates two things; the vaccines work and the virus itself may be weakening. Stay safe, everyone. We're not through this pandemic yet. I think the end is finally in sight, but it might be another 10 or 12 months until we get there. Please stay safe in the meantime.
    2 points
  27. Integrity and honesty are not gender-specific traits. ?
    2 points
  28. I don't think most women expect men to submit to them. I had honestly thought we had more male EE's being expressive of their needs here because of society issues towards mean being submissive is taboo. Non of this is "just part of being a guy" but it can be "just part of your kink" which is totally fine I've never dated a man that I wanted to do any of those things to.
    2 points
  29. Gang - be sure to differentiate between fantasies and actual discussion of actual school corporal punishment practices. Thanks.
    2 points
  30. ohhh, sounds amazing!!
    2 points
  31. Sorry that happened! As an EE, it’s so hard to tell an ER that the connection wasn’t there, or for whatever reason she didn’t want to continue. So could have been easier for her to just ghost you. Still sucks tho. Sorry.
    2 points
  32. Happy Holidays, Merry Christmas, and Bah Humbug to you all. You may choose which one best suits you
    2 points
  33. Consent is keyword. Without consent, it is abuse. Consent is the only thing that makes TTWD ethically allowable. Kink Shaming is never going to go anywhere, there is always going to be people that disagree with it. The same thing can be said for the LGBT communities etc, not just ours. Same sex marriage is allowed but some people still scoff and are repulsed by it etc. Kink shaming happens all over, just the other day my neighbor was walking her dog on a leash and the dog was tugging away, the lady told dog to stop doing that as it was just choking itself with the collar, i said stop kink shaming your dog. the LOOK i got when i said that made my day.
    2 points
  34. The Birch is formed from binding together twigs or rods to form an implement for Corporal Punishment. Originally a prime implement of punishment in English schools, it was prevalent from the Middle Ages till Victorian times when it was replaced by the Cane. The Birch remained an implement for judicial punishment in the UK till 1948, being retained in the Isle of Man till 1976. There are two distinct types of Birch, a brush birch and the Manx birch. The 'Birch' does not necessarily need to be constructed from the birch Tree, other types of tree can be used. The concept being similar to the switch in the United States. A brush birch consists of a collection of twigs with the severity being determined by the size and weight of the birch. This was type typically used in schools. The Manx birch severity is more determined by the length and number of rods used. Manx refers to the Isle of Man, this type of birch being used for judicial punishment on the island. It has been likened to receiving 3 or 4 cane strokes all at once depending upon the number of wands used. ============================================
    2 points
  35. And to elaborate my girlfriend was kicking and begging but she kept spanking then she did the same thing to me, opposite corners 1hr cornertime..it was real
    2 points
  36. There are also many people, including a diversity of ages, who wear diapers solely out of convenience or for medical/health related issues. While not ABDL, they like the comfort of the diapers and the sense of security they have with them on. Just as one example, I've known a number of women who choose to wear diapers while travelling long distances either by car or plane, and some who have issues with needing to find and use a public restroom. Some of this group who wear diapers regularly are also kinky, and into activities in the realm of spanking. So, it is perfectly OK if someone who needs a diaper for medical reasons, or prefers to wear a diaper for convenience or they are ABDL, either gets a spanking or is an authority figure that gives spankings to others. Their diaper should not be looked upon as being a distraction during a spanking nor should wearing a diaper prevent someone from interacting with them because of that fact. Diapers can be pulled down or removed just as easily as underpants can when the bottom needs to be bared for punishment.
    2 points
  37. As I am an ABDL, my view may be a little skewed. I too, usually, enjoy just using my diapers to the point where I actually prefer being diapered. Sounds like you enjoy diapers.
    2 points
  38. From the album: rude rumps

    Merry Christmas Spankos!
    2 points
  39. Yes! I am definitely all about personality. I don’t want to only talk to you when I’m in trouble. When we are chatting, I don’t want it to seem like you are only looking for reasons to punish me. A lot of older men push hard for phone calls, real life corner time and self spanking for pretty silly reasons. I want us to get to know each other for a while before we start any kind of discipline relationship. We will mutually agree on rules and their consequences at that point. I’m not going to call you Sir or Ma’am in the first email. That takes time, and will probably only be when I’m in trouble and know it. The rest of the time you need to be able to chill and just talk about stuff. So I 100% agree with @SpudStateSpanky on that. Show me your personality first. Then we can talk about the spanker part. Also, don’t lie. If you have never done it real life, I’m fine with that. We can start slow and figure it out. But don’t accidentally really hurt me because you are trying to be in control of a session. Check in, see how I’m feeling. It doesn’t make you less of a spanker to make sure I’m okay. (And to know the difference between a spanking hurting and someone in real, actual pain). So I don’t care about age, appearance, gender, height, etc. Just be a real person
    2 points
  40. Yes...my sister and I growing up...several times. And...as an adult me and my mother in law were spanked in the same room at the same time by our respective husbands a couple of times.
    2 points
  41. I'm just gonna throw out there that I think that a safeword should always be in place, regardless of the circumstances. And that this idea of "using a safeword makes the punishment less real" is a dangerous idea that should stay in fantasy, where it belongs. That said, it's most definitely not my place to tell others how they want to do their own dynamics/sessions and this is just my own personal opinion. So, I'm gonna drop in this video by Princess Kelley May on the subject of how to play without safewords which may give you some useful information on top of what people have already said.
    2 points
  42. I have been blessed to be in a very loving yet intense marriage with a man I have learned to trust completely with my well being and deep awareness of my needs. We have been married 14 years...and this type of trust does not happen over night. It is demonstrated and confirmed with consistency of action., not just words. We have no safe word and we are often very intense. But...we do have very clear and continully refreshed communication about our dynamic. I have never been in the "scene" outside our marriage, but I.cannot imagine the lack of a safe word agreement as being safe. I was a prostitute a few years before msrriage...and I know how things sexual within very non-committed partners can go beyond what someone's boundaries might be.mUseva safe word....at least until there is very deep and consistent trust earned.
    2 points
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