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  1. Hi Guys, How is everyone? Are you having a challenge you'd like to talk about? A question, maybe? Comments? Please chime in and share with us an update. Male spankees are a special class of men, and I'd like to hear how each of you is doing. Kindly, Chawsee
    6 points
  2. There was a quick comment and brief discussion, made in Chat tonight about Women of a certain age being less sought out and it made me think of this post I made on another site so I thought I would repost here. Understand that I believe age is really irrelevant when it comes to dating, friendships and particularly this lifestyle. Age has nothing to do with maturity or things you may have in common. Age is not the overriding component of attractiveness. As Satchel Paige once said..." Age is simply mind over matter...if you don't mind...it don't matter" What I am putting down here isn't about one group of Ladies over another it is simply discussing the merits of Women over 40 for me. I am blessed that I am able to play with such a diverse group of amazing Women. Now, I am known as a serial 20 something dater and player...guilty on both counts, but what people fail to see is that I have a number of Ladies who are friends, play partners and such who happen to be, what my Daughter once described as "age appropriate" for a Man of my advanced age. So, I wanted to point out a few things that we all should appreciate about Women of a certain age: It is nice to have to discuss anything that doesn't require me saying...'ask you your parents they will know' I adore a nice well rounded mature Woman's bottom over my lap Your lifetime of rich experiences informs so much about how you respond to attention and affection I don't have to go to the Hip Shit for Dummies book to get your sense of humor I don't have to talk to you in 140 characters or less to hold your attention You know enough to understand how to hold me up when I'm falling short The amazing vulnerability to present yourselves in a culture that values youth with such dignity and class is intoxicating But honestly, grace and beauty are not exclusive to one age group or another. The fact that Ladies over 40 come to us with such richness is a benefit. The courage and self-awareness it takes to say to everyone that you are as vibrant and sexy and desirable as anyone magnifies your beauty. I remember I had a professor in college who was 41, she was tall, full figured, with whisps of gray hair and she was amazingly sexy! And who incidentally, out of frustration to my laziness learning my lines for a play, did actually put me over her knees and spanked me. That type of Woman still holds a great amount of power for me. As a Man in my 60's I understand the pass we get over Women when it comes to aging. People think we get more handsome with age, our paunch is overlooked, and the balding or graying hair is waved off. Women don't get that pass and it is a shame. The fact of the matter is that as we are all living longer and taking better care of ourselves, we are holding onto our looks. And we aren't saying stupid shit like 40 is the new 20...no it isn't 40 is 40 and looking damn good! And so does 50 and 60 and 70. Just my little note...and thank you Lady of a certain age friend, who is one of my favorite people here, for being so amazingly cool!
    5 points
  3. Nicely said, @CaliSpanker53. Thankfully, I haven't experienced any prejudice due to my age, but that's probably because I'm a spanker here, rather than a spankee. I'm sure that from the viewpoint of many male tops, younger gals would be more desirable. But you've expressed your feelings about this intelligently and honorably, and you've earned my respect. Your points are valid ones, and they are the same reasons why I appreciate older male spankees, as well.
    5 points
  4. I would not display the sign because what happens between two consenting adults in the privacy of their own space doesn't need to be broadcasted to the world at large. Even if the EE was fine with people knowing what was going on behind that door, you still have to give consideration to the fact that people might feel creeped out or imposed upon by knowing such intimate information. Some things are TMI. Similar to a couple having loud primal sex in the room next to you and the hotel has paper thin walls and rickety floorboards ... you might feel a little cheapened and icky having unwanted front row seats to such a private intimate event.
    5 points
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  6. The next spanking I'm administering is scheduled for February 2022 with a fellow SN member who's been a friend of mine for a long time. It will be an honor to finally meet in person. We've waited a long time for this.
    4 points
  7. I can't tell you how many times I've heard variations of this exact desire. A spankee doesn't want to be in control. He wants to know that something frightening and painful is going to happen to him, and there's absolutely nothing he can do about it. That nervous excitement seems to be a big part of the draw, eh?
    4 points
  8. It would be fair to say that we bonded a bit more closely for having had that conversation. We do need to work on it some more. Altogether, I am very happy to have a wife who disciplines me over her knee. Will we get back to the times when she would abruptly end an argument by telling me to fetch her hairbrush and while I’m at it, bring a chair into the living room? I sure hope so! Step by step leads to steady progress. I’m doing my part, I can tell you that much!
    4 points
  9. Yes, the gift card scam is a bad one. A man attempted that with me on a dating site in January of 2020. He asked me to buy him $200 worth of gift cards (two $100 cards or four $50 cards), scratch off the strip on the back of them, and email him photos of the number beneath. Oh hell no!! This is a good time to warn our friends that if anyone on the internet asks you to buy them gift cards, this is a huge red flag. Cease all communication at once (after you tell them where the hell to go!). @Geoffreaux, I hope you can feel comfortable opening up a little and sharing with this group. That's why we're here, to support each other. You're amongst friends.
    4 points
  10. I would like to offer my thanks for all the hard work that is going in to sorting the site out. Yes its frustrating yes its inconvenient but we can live with it to get this great site back up and running again. Please be patient and remember how much you enjoy the site
    4 points
  11. Moderators are free to express how they feel. There is a feedback section for a reason. I understand that its frustrating the site isn't working properly (trust me; it's not as simple as what we've put out; and it's been stressful for myself and @Mystery Man) - but we are doing the best we can given the situation.
    4 points
  12. Admin is aware of the problems. There is no need to come back every few days and complain. The problems aren't their fault. As stated, it's the server and software company. It's not an easy fix and they are doing their best. It's being worked on daily. This site is offered to everyone for free. It's ad free. There is no one locking out members and asking for money every couple of months, which is happening on other sites. Admin offers this site so we have a place to share and talk about TTWD. No one is entitled to this site. Saying "We've all put up with it" is a slap in the face to those offering this site.
    4 points
  13. I'm a 34 woman from New Hampshire anyone looking for a daddy Dom .. I hoping to find someone..
    3 points
  14. Actually, Kiko, it's more common than one might imagine. That duality is common. Lots of ppl who are in positions of 'power' in their daily lives end up wanting to give those reins away in their private lives. There is no such thing as a 'typical' ee. They all differ and learning how to interact with them is the beauty of being an er. There may be some common things they share, if they are subs, but each one has their own needs, desires and process of how the deal with giving their submission to the er that they choose. When it works, it's like magic and feels that way for both.
    3 points
  15. I actually enjoy sharing my real life experiences being disciplined as submissive servant wife to my husband. I do not know exactly why. lol...there is much strangeness about me I do not understand. But, my husband says it is fine for me to do this. I find it personally somewhat arousing for me to kind of relive some of my less routine, more intense spankings/discipline scenes with others. I guess it makes me feel like you are witnessing it. This really took place last Wednesday afternoon, as I describe it. My husband previewed this and said he felt I captured most of it very well. So...here it is.... I struggle to handle my husband's occasional business trips. I do not know why, but his most recent two day and two night trip seemed to set me on edge more than the same trip had a couple of months prior. As usual, he had given me a very detailed list of items to pack in his luggage bag...making it as simple as possible for me. I had packed everything as listed the night before, except those,personal items he would need to use in the morning before heading out the door. For some reason the morning of his departure, I was more irritable than usual, and nothing seemed to be going well as I prepared breakfast for my husband and daughter. As the bacon grease popped onto my hand, I let out a screech accompanied by a vulgarity. As time seemed to be running out, I let the pressure get to me too much, and I became short and snappy with both my husband and our daughter! I did not realize how bad I was at the time, but later in the day I realized how I had acted. And...to make matters worse, as I was going about my chores that morning after my assigned my workout, I discovered my husband's smaller toiletry bag....with things like toothpaste and razor and deodorant....laying on bathroom counter. It was always my responsibility to place that in his luggage bag after he had finished...always. But, obviously this time I had forgotten because I had allowed myself to become so disrupted by my "bad morning" panic and mouthy outbursts. I immediately called my husband when I realized my shortcoming. He was not aware, as he had not yet unpacked his bag in the hotel room...he was still working with his clients and seemed disappointed I did not choose to call him later in the evening, rather when I should have known he was busy with clients. So, later that evening he called me back. It was then he informed me his prescription medication was in that smaller bag. My heart nearly stopped when I looked and confirmed such was true. This made my omission more urgent and detrimental for my dear husband. Being the calm man that he is, he did not further chastise me, but assured me he would take care of it and not to worry. He knew I was already beating myself up over this. So, he just told me he would call a local pharmacy to see if he could just get a couple days dosage...and we would deal,with this more when he got home. I knew what that meant, and I also knew I fully deserved whatever the punishment he decided to give me for this. I found out I had caused him considerable inconvenience and did take him away from some of his work with the clients he was working with...a no no for me and totally unacceptable. He had left for his trip early Monday morning. He returned home early Wednesday afternoon. He had texted me my clothing assignment that morning... which was one of his current favorite dresses on me and sexy under things. So, I was thinking he would take me first thing upon arriving. Maybe he would have me do a little strip dance for him and then be inside me. I guess I was hoping. We had not made love since that past Saturday. So, that was 4 days...a long time without sexual satisfaction for us. I was hungry...and knew my insatiable husband was too. I was kneeling on the floor in the entry foyer as he walked in the door....to greet him.I was so glad to see my man. He had me stand and immediately embraced me in his arms as we kissed deep,and long...and he just held me. It felt so,good. He spoke gently to me...about missing me...about how he would have me..but then said..."but first"....and went on to say he must first "deal with our problem". He went on to explain how much trouble I had caused him, how I had disrupted his work...how he was so disappointed with my behavior and loss of self control...and how disappointed he was in the example I was setting for our daughter. I had no argument...guilty as charged....and felt absolutely deserving what I had coming. He then informed me we would deal with "this" in the basement. He walked me down to the basement...a simple environment of cinder block walls....a laundry area...a simple shower area...and a place where I had been given many spanking, paddlings, and whippins. He had me lose the dress...no dancing...just leaving me standing before him in just undergarments....full cut white silky panties....snug white silky wireless bra....white garter belt holding up,white hose....me wearing platformed sandal like shoes. No words. He would do his talking on my hide. He lowered chains hidden in the ceiling joists....attached the leather hand and wrist cuffs tight on me and then the chains...and cranked them up slowly until I was on my tip toes. Then came the tight restraints securing my ankles together...and my legs together tightly just above my knees. He then ran some short bungy cords,from my ankle cuffs to pop up eyelets in the floor...so I would not move my legs up...or any other way for that matter. I was taut, my calves tight as I was on tip,toes in my shoes...to avoid dangling by my wrists. He took off his shirt....which I love...but which also kind of signaled I would be getting it hard...and hugged me as he so gently but firmly spoke to me. He explained he was going to whip me like a woman...and I had better take it like a woman...and learn how to control my panic like a real woman should. Then...again...a long detailed lecture on how badly I had behaved and performed that bad Monday morning of his departure. His voice and his eyes....intense and serious...I could not escape them...nor my accepted responsibility and rightful punishment for my actions. He pulled down my garter belt and hose...all the way to bunch and dangle above the restraints above my knees...baring my skin on my upper legs completely. Next, he pulled my panties down to join them, baring my bottom completely. He walked away, and grabbed his nasty leather belt from its,hook on the post...and positioned himself beside me. My fear at that moment won...as I saw him with that belt doubled in his strong hand....and remembered how it had felt many times before. No more talking. He laid the belt hard on my bottom....lash after lash...the sound echoing off the cinder block walls and concrete floors. After just a few slashes my resolve to not cry out..to not yelp..to not screech or cry out...was totally dissolved. He continued to relentlessy whip my bare bottom skin and legs with flurries of slashes...only briefly interrupted by shouting my misdeeds or admonishing me how I gotta learn...gotta do better....how disappointed he was in me. I could not escape that belt...only twist ever so slightly. Each stroke brought swaths of fire across my legs and butt cheeks...sometimes licks of burning fire in my bottom crack...and the underswell of my cheeks. He was covering every inch with red stinging pain. I had turned into a blubbering bawling mess....and he changed his position. Now he was standing on my other side...and my memory kicked in. Nooo...I blubbered as the first hard flurry of strokes came. across the fronts of my bare skin upper legs...until they too were aflame with firey stinging swaths....from above my restrained knees to just below my pubic bush. Then...he walked to my other side...this time cupping my left breast in his hand...and slapped the a single layer of the belt across my bare upper back 5 or 6 times. The new sting was so unexpected.. I screamed in agony...and then came 4 or 5 more streaks of fire. He kept saying...ya gotta learn nicole. .. you know better....ya gotta learn.... I was crying...blubbering...pleading.....gasping...a total mess...and he finally stopped...allowing the belt to dangle down from his hand. He was breathing hard from his exertion in whippin me. Then...his hand...hard and fast. The belt had dropped from his hand to,the floor. He cupped my pubic bush with his left hand...and spanked me hard and fast on my poor raw bottom cheeks with his other hand....hard smack after hard smack of more fire as my mouth emitted a constant stream of screeching yelps and sobs between sucking air in with gasps...and trying to plead stop. He took me beyond...and I found myself...strangely exploding in arousal and...came. Totally unexpected...a confusing but an amazing blend of painful...pleasure. He held me long in his arms, letting me cry it out in his bare chest...still in my bonds, although he lowered me to be fully planted on my feet. He had pulled my bra down to bare my breasts for his pleasure and mine. It took me quite some time to calm...for my sobs and crying to finally cease...but he was patient and gentle. He did not take me then. I so wanted him to. But, my punishment had taken time and he needed to go pickup our daughter at school. He released me to fully re-clothe myself and prepare dinner for us. I was exhausted...my legs felt like rubber , but I felt such release and forgiveness from my guilt....and felt so very loved. That night...before bed...he finally took me deep....as I rode his strong erection to ectasy....cowgirl style.
    3 points
  16. We're in our mid 30's. Maybe closer to pushing 40 if I'm being honest. And we've been together since our early 20's. I've always had a spanking fetish. Every fantasy I've ever had has involved me getting spanked. I remember asking a boyfriend to spank me for the first time in my teens. Little taps. Other boyfriends gave a few wimpy slaps. A good spanker is seemingly impossible to find. I fully confessed my desires to my husband shortly after we married. Spankings. Real ones. Hard. For punishment, not sex. It's a weirdly sexual but not sexual fetish. I don't quite understand but that's the way it is for me I like the before and the after, not the spanking itself. At least not when receiving. But you can't get the before or the after any other way. He obliged the best he could. Finally I had some marks. Lovely bruises. Sitting sore for a day or two. One time I even cried. But it never amounted to anything consistent and that's what I wanted. A DD lifestyle I suppose. Sometimes I'd get angry and frustrated. He's so much larger than me, by a foot and about a hundred pounds. He just looks dominant. Intimidating even. He should be dominant. But deep down I knew that wasn't the case. Because I ran things. Our household. Appointments. Finances. Outings. Everything. So I gave up. He couldn't even spank me unless I told him to. Disappointing I guess but there's porn. Even most of that isn't right though. Oh well, nothing I can do about that (but read on, there is!) Fast forward a decade or so to get right up to the present. Or the very recent past if you want to be specific. My husband and I had been quarling every night after I got home from work. (We work different shifts). The house wasn't getting picked up. We have young kids, it's hard, I know. But when he comes home from work the house is in order. When I come home it's a disaster and there he is snoozing away leaving it for me the next day. So this is the fight we'd been having for weeks. Maybe months. I'd start bitching at him until he got out of bed and picked up. I tried telling him so many times how important it was to me to have the house in order. Not perfect, just not a disaster. I became a nag and he resented that and just started tuning me out. I resented him too I started thinking about how he comes across as so dominant. And I don't know what made it finally click but my husband is not dominant. Ignoring me, Rudeness, Snottiness and Laziness aren't dominant traits. They're immature and unacceptable. And begging for a spanking. If anyone should have known that it's me. How could I have been so blind for all these years? My husband is a brat. I texted him while he was at work and told him that I was going to spank him. He balked. No, no, he would spank me for the mere suggestion. Again I told him I was going to spank him. That I was tired of the messy house. That he was tired of the nagging. That I didn't like the nagging myself. I was going to spank him and after it was over and done with it would be a win-win situation for us both. A clean house for me and no more getting bitched at for him. He agreed but said he was going to spank me 10x what ever he got. I reminded him he has always had my concern to discipline me if I need it and that won't change but I was going to spank him because he deserved it. I promised I would go easy on him and use only my hand... this time anyway. He's kind of a baby. When he got home I shut the curtains and told him to drop trou and bend over the arm of the couch. My husband who towers over me, who can be such a (dearly loved) asshole, who put up such a fuss in our texts over this, did exactly as I instructed during a blink. I didn't even get to see it. And so there he was, just like that, bare bottom in the air. I've never seen a view like that before. The porn I watch is of a female bottom because that is what I relate too. But okay, I can do this because I know exactly how it should be done. I've been imagining the perfect technique for decades. Just never did I think this is how I would experience it. I started spanking. Not too hard at first, mostly just stinging. I increased the intensity and he said "Wow, OK" which doesn't mean a lot to you but I know my husband and I knew he was expressing his surprise at how hard I was spanking him given his earlier threat of spanking me 10x harder. (That he's yet to make good on and I doubt he ever will) He stayed in position better than I've ever been able to but his hand came back a time or two. Any place he managed to rub got some extra attention. I put some focus on his sit spots and made sure he was getting rosy all over. It was kind of cute. I really didn't expect to be turned on. I was just about to finish up but he reached around to try and smack my ass. He shouldn't be feeling so playful during a punishment. I know enough to know that the top of the thighs are quite sensitive so when he did this I dodged and started spanking him there. He bucked and exclaimed that he's never spanked me there before. Well, he shouldn't have done that. Once he started to behave again I gave him a few more all over and let him up. And up he was. I let him know that next time there would be more, that from now on what he just got would be the warm up. That I'd not go so easy on him ever again. But that being said I'm a big believer in kissing and making up, no details there. I talked to him about it the next day, about how I wanted to do this as a from now on kind of thing. He first said that I shouldn't get used to it. So I told him how much I enjoyed spanking him. And even though it embarrassed him I told him I knew he enjoyed it too. And it's true. And it's something I never would have expected from either of us. Not once in all my years have I ever had the desire or thought to spank someone before. Not once has he ever expressed a desire to be spanked. But really I just had to say it again and he gave in all too easily to be anything other than a dead giveaway. I think he can see the difference it made too even if he doesn't want to admit it. There's no shame between us. And we both know how much he needed it. Heck, I almost can't wait until he needs another one. Fortunately (or maybe unfortunately?) he's a good sub. Our home has been kept in order while I'm at work. I had given him a couple other spankable offenses to start with and he's minded my word to the letter. His attitude towards me has totally changed and our interactions are different in the best of ways. I feel like all these years he just needed to be spanked even more than I ever wanted to be. So here I am, a bottom who became a top and I definitely like the view.
    3 points
  17. Oh my goodness, you should! I often wonder, if I came across someone wearing a shirt like that, would I have the gumption to say anything. I hope I would. Just a simple, "I like your shirt" would be enough to convey, "I'm a spanko, too," don't you think?!
    3 points
  18. There's a T-shirt I've been tempted to order. It's light pink with gray lettering that says "I Spank Naughty Boys!" While I normally opt for subtle clothes that aren't particularly attention-grabbing, I'd enjoy wearing this one to a few select places. There's a casual breakfast cafe in the area, and I've reasoned that such a blouse might help bring a fledgling spankee or two out of hiding. I'd also don it on hiking trails. But honestly, those are about the only two places I'd wear it.
    3 points
  19. Hi Redbtmboy! Thanks for joining us and posting how you're doing. I somehow feel that there may be hope for your wife. She did say that spanking is "not her thing," but it seems, from what you've said here, that she's hesitant because she doesn't know what to do. If there's a spanking video from SpankingTube or xHamster that resonates with you, you might share it with her (perhaps while you two are cuddling?). Just a thought. It may or may not be the right approach for you. And always praise any effort in the right direction, no matter how small. Doing this for YOU should always feel good to HER. And if/when you do succeed in getting her to spank you, it helps if you're thankful to her, helpful, and well behaved for a few days afterwards, so that she sees the positive affects this has on you and the relationship. Best of luck, and keep us in the loop.
    3 points
  20. **Thread Warning Everyone has different kinks/ needs. There is no reason to purposely [without consent] be mean; or put down other peoples fetishes/ desires [as long as they are with a consenting adult]. Do not shame anyone for their kink, fetish, sexuality, or their identity. This is a safe place for people to discuss those matters. When educating people on terms and etc - you don't need to make someone feel dumb for not knowing a term existed. -------------------------------------------------- From BDSM kink sites - ---- There are a lot of 'made up' words in fetish world to describe how you feel.
    3 points
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  22. Just thought I'd see if I can still log in here to offer a "hello" to any of our old friends from yesteryear. For those curious or familiar, Miss Bam (MissB) and I are still together, still engaged and still in love more then ever. It's been ten years since I found Spanking Needs, created a profile as "2bSpanked" and wound up making new friends and chatting with an intriguing woman name MissB. Happy to say that in addition to landing that intriguing woman, several of the friends I now consider to be family. I hope this is an inspirational "happy ever after" update for those who remember. peace Dun Ben (aka "2B"
    3 points
  23. Thank you for trusting us with this, Tom. Perhaps @GaryMcKee would be willing to share with us some of his communication tips for discussing this challenging subject with a loved one?
    3 points
  24. Feel free to jump in and share with us, Geoffreaux. One thing I've noticed about this Male Spankee Support Group is how approachable and down-to-earth everyone is.
    3 points
  25. Several years ago, I had the pleasure to watch a wave of orgasmic excitement over take a dear friend. The wave of excitement and a following climatic wave were exclusively the product of a disciplinary spanking. Situation: A dear and trusted friend and asked me to help her achieve relief from several events which were weighing heavily on her conscience. A date was set, my friend was first scolded, then properly spanked, and sent to the corner for reflection. During the corner time I witnessed interesting squirming complete with soft sounds of pleasure. The Standing party was admonished to focus on the recent correction. A few moments following the verbal correction, I found myself, taking the standing party by the earlobe and directing her position once again across my lap. The second spanking was quite sound and in keeping with the topic of the discussion. Resulted in my friend kicking, balling, squirming, and yes experiencing a wild orgasm over riding the pain of a hairbrush spanking. Indeed a remarkable event. I stopped the assault of the down swings of the brush, and watched. She was held across my lap after her trembling subsided, only to witness the rise and fall of her well spanked cheeks, move in rhythm to the coming and breaking of the second wave.
    3 points
  26. Welcome to the site! With an introduction like that I'm sure you'll find plenty of stimulating conversations here. Also, @Chawsee, that emoji is amazing lol
    3 points
  27. Looks like some tempers might be flaring, so let me make it clear that I'm not complaining, I'm offering feedback on the current user experience in the hope it can provide assistance to CoL, MM and anyone else working on this issue. The site is running better. The main page loads more quickly and I've gotten good response times both on PC and my mobile. I haven't pinged out trying to land on the main page for at/near 48 hours. The profiles are still a bit sluggish to load. No issues with pulling up discussion threads, but I'm still seeing things hang a bit when trying to reply to threads. So the hard work that the admins have been doing is showing. I don't really use the chat system, so I can't comment on that. Again, I'm stressing that I'm not complaining; I'm offering feedback on the user experience for whatever help it might provide to the folks working on the issues. Thanks for all of the hard work. When these problems started, I was going to ask if you had the ability to run a DB performance monitoring tool or not. I know the hosting service might not grant that level of access. I held back because I didn't want to come off as presumptuous, though. If you can run such a tool, and if you're looking for a freeware utility, then I'll be happy to follow-up with MM directly to see what options may be viable.
    3 points
  28. Hi Chawsee and everyone, Ive received very few spankings from my wife over the last few months. She threatens a lot but rarely follows through. And Ive yet to feel the belt I bought earlier this year. I guess what is most frustrating is that her spanking me seems to be based totally on her mood rather than my behavior. I even reacted a little angrily to a quick spanking she gave me last week since it seemed so random. Ive never done that before. I'm usually grateful. I guess I should take a page from Gary's book and tell her how I've been feeling. But I feel like we've had these conversations in the past and they went nowhere. Thanks for listening, Tom
    3 points
  29. Well, my relationship with my husband lasted 15 years and we were friends since high school. He was my spanker during that time. My current relationship has been 10 years. He was my spanker and Mentor first and then my boyfriend. We met on this site and he's the love of my life. My heart and soul. His spankings are just what I need. He knows me well and anticipates my needs before I do. I'm 51 and I don't see spanking leaving my life any time soon. Thanks to Miss Clairol....I am not gray!!! Haha.,,,
    3 points
  30. My last spanking was 3 weeks ago He held me down and paddled me hard. I had some marks and soreness for a few days....and some wonderful calming. He's been out of town so I am overdue. Things finally get back to normal this weekend. I've had a major upset in my life in the past couple of weeks and I am ready to release some stress and tears. I'm also ready to be held in his arms. Just being with my boyfriend makes life better!
    3 points
  31. @Drooaygah I just wanted to let you know I appreciated and respect and also glad you feel you can freely express change needing to happen with the site. Communication of what was going on was a must. And you helped remind me of that. So, for everyone confused the last few months - I am sorry for not being more transparent on the work we have been doing [and struggles]. But we have not given up on this site. I love this community, and it's were I found myself at. And so honored to help run her. Sometimes when everything add's up and you're having a lot of anxiety you don't know how to put into words what is going on.
    3 points
  32. I don't see the need to speak to us in this manner. Members are providing feedback on the site. If you do not wish to get feedback from users of the site, and would not like any assistance, then simply state as much. There is much expertise available from the users here, and sharing may produce a solution. I suspect, based on my observations using the site, the solution is simpler than you are making it. However, I have told others not to offer advice since, as you have show here, input is treated with hostility.
    3 points
  33. We’re in the process of updating that version. That theme had to be re-written by scratch.
    3 points
  34. I think that is so interesting that some people have " spankdar"! I truly wish I had instead of wondering while I was in a store, or party etc... Maybe we should wear wristbands, blue for spanker, yellow for switch, and red ( naturally) for spankee. Any color combination would work, but think of the sly grins when shopping...etc..lol
    3 points
  35. @HTXswitchguy, welcome to SN! You sound like an intelligent and well-rounded fellow who has the potential to be a blessing to our forum. We're always in need of quality content. In the meantime, it sounds to me like you need to be taken to task! Ha! Again, welcome.
    3 points
  36. I stood in front of the desk, awaiting her verdict, nervously. She spoke. “Because this is your first time, I shall to let you off with a warning” A wave of relief. “Now bend over the desk, please.” Gulp. “But Miss… you just said you were going to let me off with a warning???” “Yes, dear.” She picked something up. “This is the Warning Cane. Bend over.” Heart sinking, I did. Taptaptap. Swish. Thwack. Oww. Tap. Swish. Whap. Oh, oh, ouch. Taptap. Swish. Whack. Ohhhhh gosh. “Stand up” It hurt to stand. “This will be your only warning. Next time it will be: six smacks, with the Naughty Girls’ Cane, on your bare bottom. Do you understand?” Sniffle. “Yes, Miss.” “You may go.”
    3 points
  37. Crying can be a wonderfully cathartic and healing stage to reach, so it's certainly desirable. But it's the wrong place to put the focus. Crying that comes from severe pain alone has little cathartic benefit. Rather, it has the potential for inducing trauma. Beneficial tears are emotional in nature. They tend to emerge when the EE has deep trust for his/her ER and feels secure and cared for. Therefore, the best place to put the focus is not on "producing tears," but on deepening the trust between spanking partners. When a spankee feels love, security, and acceptance from his/her spanker, and is then given the opportunity to release all the stress, shame, guilt, etc. that they're carrying, this is when tears do their magic.
    3 points
  38. Remember, some of us have no interest in men who AREN'T spankees! I'm one of those individuals, a dyed-in-the-wool spanking fetishist who has zero desire to spank other women. So thank God for you guys!!! Remember, to some people, spankee men are the cream of the crop.
    3 points
  39. Here's one I found and modified
    2 points
  40. @Chawsee I did the iron palm for several years and it does work wonders but In theory arthritis is an inflammation of the joints. It could be possible that repeated hand spanking could cause it. However everyone hand spanks differently and I believe that’s main factor. If your a glance off mainly using fingers and joints than it could be highly likely to develop. I’m an entire hand person so it’s more equally distributed and I would surmise it wouldn’t. I was just pm’ing some one earlier and was telling them about how EE’s numbers skyrocketed during pandemic. i had met a few who had buns of steel bigtime fitness gals and after a daily spanking for each of them for almost a month my wrist and joints were clearly not happy and my hands are steel as well. I ended up having to revert to a strap for about a week and after almost 30 years of being an ER, that was a first for me. I literally couldn’t use my fingers and it wasn’t a muscle injury, the joints were grinding etc. so honestly in just my opinion I believe it could cause it.
    2 points
  41. Tom, if you're willing, would you please keep us updated? Maybe share what worked or didn't work, even if it's just a small frustration or triumph. The thing is, what you're going through is something that so many married EE men (and women) can relate to. Sometimes it just helps them to know that they're not the only ones. You have a simple, honest approach, a way of telling it as it is. This adds a certain value to your contributions.
    2 points
  42. Gary, thank you for your kind words, sweet friend. I am proud of you for talking with your wife openly about your needs. Even the most in-tuned disciplinarians benefit from hearing what you need, and hearing it from you. I call this "going deep" or having a "heart-to-heart." Did you feel more bonded with her afterwards? Such honesty tend to have that affect. Consider yourself blessed that you have this strength. Good work! ⭐
    2 points
  43. They are working on the site and doing their best to get things straight. Have some patience everyone!!!
    2 points
  44. Yup, this habit has brought me more than my share of regret. So you know what I’m saying. Remember this about disciplinarians... Still water runs deep!
    2 points
  45. Whoa! I'd have to agree with you. I would be most interested in topping this one. Where has he been hiding? I've never seen this guy before.
    2 points
  46. August 2019...am i overdue??
    2 points
  47. There is only one celebrity I have ever thought of as far as a spanking partner. Richard Gere. There is just something commanding. He can be smiling one minute and look so firm and commanding the next. I think he'd be a great spanker. No preference as to implements.
    2 points
  48. OMG thanks @Naugthybabydoll I am so excited you guys are talking about this!! I am one of the hosts. It is called spankopodcast. You can search for it on most podcast apps or listen at SpankoPodcast.com. What is your favorite episode? What do you want to hear us talk about next? We are always looking for feedback!
    2 points
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