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  1. I will always have a physical, uncontrollable reaction to being spanked. But, I have had punishment spankings that did not turn me on (mentally) during the act. Afterwards, though... definitely.
    7 points
  2. Just a quick story. Last night I was texting with a spanko friend. I wasn't multitasking on my phone, wasn't switching between screens or any thing. He said he had spanked someone at a club. I asked "did you enjoy spanking that girl in front of an audience?" and hit send... It somehow went through to my mother! I just stared in horror for about 15 seconds... Then showed my hubbs, who looked as horrified as I felt lol. In less than a minute she simple sent "?". I told her "just ignore me, my phone is apparently up to shenanigans" and she left it alone. Still, today when we took her
    7 points
  3. A little grainy, but this is a screenshot of a corner time video I made last fall. Do you have a preferred way to do CT?
    6 points
  4. Yesterday I had to go to court For an injury related issue. (Juat mediation between myself and employer, not on trouble) Anyway... I have to approach the judge to show him my scars up close and we are chatting and laughing and he is wearong an orange bow tie with sharks on it. I tell him I like his tie and he says "Thanks, I Have a matching belt... Wanna see?!" "Yes, yes I do!" I enthusiastically reply.. And I swear to God the judge stood up and opened his robe to show me his matching orange belt. So that is my story about how I Went to court and got to see the judges belt. 😂😂😂
    6 points
  5. Ms. Bee Your family can’t hold your hand or even see you through doors of glass. I was so lucky to have met you, Watching and caring for you before you pass. you were the best of my shift every night, i had such hope that every thing was going to be all right. Your lungs were on fire, and you were struggling for air, Was I able to comfort and show i did care. Watching you suffer caused a pain within my heart, People just does see I am falling apart. When I get dressed for work, for me it’s not just a job, When I lose another patient, it’s in my car that
    6 points
  6. I have made no secret that my disciplinary partner decided to end our relationship - and the main reason for sharing that is to be able to work through my feelings in a spanko space. My vanilla friends wouldn't understand the spanko intricacies and my closest friend was also my disciplinary partner, so that leaves me without an avenue for deeper discussion outside of SN. I am grateful to those of you who have shared your own struggles and provided guidance or kind words. I have had a few Tops reach out to me about filling the disciplinary void -- specifically working with me as a mentor
    6 points
  7. I am a big fan of aftercare. I need that time to come down from the experience, get back to reality. I’ve also found it’s a time when I’m most open and vulnerable. In those moments I’m all about TLC. The routine varies depending on the connection with my spanker, sometimes it can be more physical. However, cuddling, some conversation and a cup of tea have often helped me regain balance after a spanking.
    5 points
  8. 5 points
  9. Had some special *brat* PJ'S made. Whacha think? Taking orders 😁😁😁😁😁😈
    5 points
  10. I disagree with the original premise here. I for sure don’t get spanked often enough, but that’s due to distance and Covid. If my disciplinarian and I lived under the same roof, I have no doubt my need would be met regularly. Just because I crave spankings doesn’t mean they’re not hard enough. When they’re happening, I wonder if I’m going to be able to take it. It hurts like hell and I reach a point of panic, desperate for it to end. But afterwards I feel de-stressed, cleansed, forgiven and deeply cared for, that she cares enough about me to discipline me. It’s the anticipation beforeha
    5 points
  11. Initiation of the spanking is important to me, too. I have never really talked about that before.
    5 points
  12. I could never be spanked "enough" - even if I were spanked every day. The idea of what constitutes a hard spanking varies from day to day. A handspanking is fun and feels very domestic - and can be wonderfully relaxing. Maintenance, for me, would need to include an implement of some sort - hairbrush paddle, strap, or the like. Even a hard punishment spanking is not going to leave me in tears, so I am always fascinated when people are able to cry from a spanking. Someday maybe I will again. I never feel like a juvenile during a spanking - I feel like a grown woman who is getting
    5 points
  13. I wrote this for a different purpose originally, but I think it explains my interests and preferences really well in a way that would satisfy a curious visitor to my profile. Anyway, I'll preface this by saying that I like to earn my spankings. I mean, let’s be realistic, there’s more than enough questionable, problematic, even potentially dangerous behavior that I partake in as a student to bring out the paternal instinct in just about anyone. There’s no shortage of lessons to be learned. That’s how I’d like a spanking session to start, really, by addressing that I’ve simply taken the b
    5 points
  14. Lower half of my bottom to the top of my thighs. I mean, "like" is a matter of context, you understand.
    5 points
  15. She's not comfortable even being bared for a spanking so now she should strip completely naked? Sounds like natural progression, right? She has a discipline relationship and only a Dom/ ER, who is doing this for his own selfish interests is going to insist that a woman should be naked. It's a discipline spanking which last time I checked involved her bottom... not her entire body so no need for nudity. And for your information, not every man who enjoys the naked female form is interested in spanking. Shocking, I know, but vanilla men like nude women too.
    5 points
  16. we do this at the airport garage every time we fly. park on the highest level, away from everyone else, with a view of the city. in the back seat, pants down, and he just wails on my bottom. makes for an interesting flight!
    5 points
  17. Yes yes and YES!! This is one topic that pops up around here from time to time and it just vexes me, to be honest. Why on earth would anyone ask a BLOOD RELATIVE to do something of a sexual nature with them? I don't get it. The very thought of if makes me cringe. I mean...are there not other, non relative adults that one could ask for a spanking? Shoot, have the non relative spanking partner play the part of mom/dad. But for crying out loud, to ask an actual parent for a spanking? Ummm.....NO
    5 points
  18. To me this means that it's not fun and games. No warm up, no safe word, no rubbing or squeezing, just a get down to business bare bottom blistering. The recipient is going to be put into distress, it's going to hurt and it is up to the spanker to decide when it stops. Minimal scolding, extra swats for too much wiggling. And you should definitely remember you got a spanking the next day when ever you sit down.
    5 points
  19. My first Dom, who I had over a decade long spanking relationship with, started as a friend. I did something reckless and he said some-one should spank me for that. I made a sassy comment and he did just that- spanked me😂 You never know so take all opportunities you get. Like you said you get a good laugh at the least😀
    4 points
  20. Helpful topic! I actually asked @sassylittle a similar question in chat one night because I was curious. It is interesting to learn more about other spankos and what they like or dislike. Talking to her has helped me better understand the littles in our group. I am a brat (sometimes), but not a little. At this point in my life I am a 42-year old woman with bratty tendencies, but I never feel like a child and I don't regress in any way. I don't associate spanking with childhood or anything like that. Spanking, to me, is very much an adult activity (yes, we are all adults - I am using the
    4 points
  21. Some days I just long for a man to see that when I’m grumpy or sad, or sassy and out of control that a spanking would make me feel so much better and I would much more likely behave if this were done on the regular. To be pulled over his knee and have him warm my bottom and then to pull my panties down so they are just below my bottom, to remind me who is in charge and that I’ve been a naughty girl. And to give me a long, hard spanking on my bare bottom until I can behave like a good girl again. And then to have me stand in the corner with my panties down and my naughty red bare bott
    4 points
  22. Since it is difficult in everyday life to know who else shares our interest, maybe we should wear plain, but distinguishable wristbands...lol Blue for spanker Yellow for switch Red ( naturally) for spankee Imagine the looks in the supermarket or in an elevator!
    4 points
  23. My wife and I have a 22" inch oak paddle with no holes (your basic big frat paddle). It is reserved only for discipline, and not for amusement. I think Spanknutt said it best, regardless of the implement, it depends a lot on how severely it is applied. We use it at what I would describe as "punishment" levels, meaning it hurts like holy-hell in order to get the message across and bruising is part of the deal. The typical penalty is 10 heavy swats. Admittedly, I do not have to put as much energy into it as my wife, as she is a lot smaller than me, but she can definitely mess me up with tha
    4 points
  24. And how long do you think that relationship will last? It doesn't matter if it's a FLR or MLR, that is selfish and will lead to a lot of resentment. That's only going to work if the submissive partner is a doormat or has very low self-esteem and it's abuse. If you want a very toxic relationship, go for it but if you want a healthy and happy one look for some-one who leads with love and not 100% control. Men and women who want that level of control are abusers, not loving partners who want the best for each other.
    4 points
  25. I am going to go against the grain here and discourage any sort of release before, during, or after (until several hours later, at least). Strip the scene of its sexuality as best you can. Spankos get turned on before a spanking - it happens and should be accepted and not become a source of shame - but that is no reason to allow him to orgasm. It might be more effective to encourage the erection and then prevent the orgasm.
    4 points
  26. Raise your hand if you need an attitude adjustment today.
    4 points
  27. Asking for a spanking and being told I've earned one are two totally different dynamics for me.
    4 points
  28. As a spanker, what I am thinking about when I spank, is more about what the spankee is wanting or needing. No matter if it is a erotic spanking like I give to my wife or a punishment or stress relief spanking like I give to others, I am always thinking about the spankee completely. I watch the reactions, to see if the spanking is having the desired effects, watching thier butts making sure the spanking covers the whole area and stays within the "spanking" area. I watch their vocal reactions, as well as physical reactions, to see if what I am doing fits what they want/need. Some I spank cann
    4 points
  29. I didn’t. Biggest mistake of my life. Now that I’m single again, I would find a way to disclose my need for spanking, and wouldn’t settle for a woman who was turned off by it.
    4 points
  30. One time I sent a photo of some canes to my friend Colleen. Oops, I have two friends named Colleen. Wrong one...
    4 points
  31. Sometimes the lesson is to choose yourself this time.
    4 points
  32. I feel this! A few people have got them and they would definitely recommend them
    4 points
  33. Didn't say they were exclusive, just trying to save future embarrassment when some tries to talk spanking to an off duty cop lol
    4 points
  34. 4 points
  35. I think there will be as many spankos as ever. I hope spanking will evolve, across cultures, into something seen as an act for consenting adults only, NOT to be inflicted nonconsensually on children. Considering how many spankos there are already who were never spanked as kids (and how many kids who were spanked do not grow up to be spankos), it clearly doesn't require spanking in childhood to make one. I also hope it won't be anything people feel a need to hide in the closet over.
    4 points
  36. A nondescript buzz intruded harshly into the almost complete silence of the small bedroom of the equally nondescript semi-detached house that Simon Bagnall had converted into his ‘office’, although it might better have been described as his ‘playroom’, since it was the place to which he often retreated from his busy daily life to indulge himself in one of the small number of pastimes that occupied his spare time. To the visitor, it was a scene of unfathomable clutter. To Simon, it was a perfectly-ordered place, if unconventionally so, from which to manage the administrative side of his life an
    4 points
  37. It can be quite astonishing, even terrifying, to look back and realise how long the spanking bug has had me in a grip that is tight enough to make Covid look a grade A wuss! One of the most valuable lessons I learned was that there is absolutely no point at all in trying to work out why I dedicate so many hours to a pastime that once scared the living daylights out of me. What I do know is that, at some point, I realised that it wasn't just the spanking that made me tingle, since spanking on its own can be quite dull and boring from my perspective, but it was the people with whom I
    4 points
  38. Here I am at nearly age 50 muddling through Final Fantasy 14. Given that I grew up on Pitfall on Atari and Donkey Kong on ColecoVision, I must say, I am not the worst White Mage. But, my interest surely peaked as I was trying to prepare myself for the next dungeon when I saw an upcoming skill which peaked my interest - Disciple of the Hand. Sounds about right.
    4 points
  39. It' s always the older ones who claim they don't do social media etc... then you find out that they are on every social media site out there! They put us youngsters to shame... like I have hardly any social media. They LOVE social media hence why they are on every site. Maybe it's a ploy to gain sympathy. If an older person tells you that they don't do social media, don't fall for it... they are lying to you😂 I have met several people too. Chat in main, contribute to the forums then people will know who you are and what you are about. If you pm women: Don't do Hi babe, nau
    4 points
  40. It is absolutely normal. My body's reaction to ANY spanking is the same - I "get wet" - and it does happen every time. It does not matter why or how I am being spanked. It could be a severe punishment spanking that I do not enjoy at all, but I still get wet. I am a spanko. Spanking, in general, just turns me on. That does not make punishment less effective for me, but I learned long ago that spanking is my sexuality and I can't help what happens.
    4 points
  41. Guess mine must be the unicorn he actually does a good job at it. Of course knowing he will be having an appointment if he doesn’t might help as well.
    3 points
  42. I have a feeling some-one's trying to tell me that I need to quit porn. BDSMLR has gone to pot and newtumblr is pure torture. Sign up for a STRAIGHT BDSM blog and 50% of my feed is leather clad, hirsute "men" doing unspeakable things to "p" boys ( yes, big sis I used the p word!) If that's not enough, after complaining, now I have 100 yro, naked Great-GrandDaddies nailed to a cross, chained up to pony traps and other nonsense. They have the audacity to tell me that 2 videos, I liked are out of the wow range. To me, the shit they are filling my feed with is out of the wow range! What's a girl g
    3 points
  43. Have you gone crazy, Rick? If I was you I'd go back to your old approach... not sure how many women are going to gravitate to this one. Smart women know to stay away from crazy, old men😂
    3 points
  44. For anyone interested discussed some rules this evening as well as other punishments that may be used. It was a very open discussion and felt comfortable discussing everything. I’m truly lucky. Maybe I’ll keep updating this thread if anyone is interested.
    3 points
  45. No, no. This is how it's going to go: You behave, and you'll get a hand-spanking as a reward. Keep that as a future goal. In the meantime, remember me telling you just recently that you're on thin ice? Again?? You just fell through... When I see you, you will be getting your ass paddled.
    3 points
  46. As for some members seeing the gift of submission as controversial, I don't know anything about that, nor have I been aware of any such vibe here on SN. Perhaps I'm just out of the loop, and I'm fine with that. But for me, I definitely see the spankee's submission as a gift to the spanker. Just today, while I was at work, the thought came to me, "Some of us enjoy spanking others. How incredibly lucky we are that there are those who volunteer and want to be spanked! Is that incredible, or what?"
    3 points
  47. When I was spanking as a single man I loved to use a plug as a way to embarrass my spankees. It is truly amazing how being instructed to spread their cheeks as something is inserted rectally tames even the most hardened brat. I loooooooooove anal play. But as a spanker with a partner any anal play that my spankee would experience would have to be self inflicted, which is also a very innovative method of humbling someone who needs to be taught a lesson. Being instructed to penetrate yourself anally while your spanker watches is a powerful tool. I also especially love spanking couple
    3 points
  48. I cover the entire butt. How could any part of such a masterpiece be overlooked?? But I do have some rules in place: I'm careful to not strike above the gluteal cleft, in the kidney zone. Big no-no. I remind myself to avoid the hips and the tailbone. When hand-spanking or paddling, I alternate left/right. When belting, the end of the strap travels the fastest and the farthest, so a right-handed spanker will tend to mark up the spankee's right cheek more than the left. Walking from one side of the spankee to the other side half-way into the session prevents this and gives equal attention to bot
    3 points
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