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  1. 9 points
    Hi! My name is Lauryn and I am a 20 year old college student who is still spanked. Growing up I was raised by my older brother who was a believer in the effectiveness in spankings, which he was right about because they definitely kept me in shape! He spanked me up until I was 17/18 years old so by the time I was an adult in college, I really missed being held accountable by him. I was surrounded by partiers and people drinking excessively which even got me in trouble with the school a few times, as I am not of legal age to drink. I was honestly a mess. My grades sucked, my attitude towards school sucked, I was getting drunk and trying drugs quite often and I realized that I really missed my brother and I really missed being held accountable and disciplined when I messed up. Fast forward to today and I live with my mentor who spanks me. My grades have never been better, I am much happier with life, and I haven't touched a drop of alcohol since the day I left the dorms. I would love to make some friendships on here and get to hear some of your experiences as well as share some of my own!
  2. 7 points
    Since challenges are all the rage right now, I'm challenging everyone who reads this post to go and add something to the About Me section on your profile. I have realized lately how frustrating it is to go into a conversation with someone and not know a single thing about them to help guide the conversation or know what you're getting yourself into. We don't need your life story if you don't wanna tell it, but just a little something to give people an idea on what kind of person you are (and maybe even something about spanking!) would be an amazing thing to see on more profiles.
  3. 6 points
    I was 19. I’m not going to say what for but it was deserved.
  4. 6 points
    *this is my favorite fantasy and is not a true story. I met a couple in their late 50’s on a spanking site. The Smith’s were looking for an adult “foster son” to come stay with them from time to time. They had raised 4 children who had moved away and were looking to recreate their parental positions. We had talked for awhile and had agreed that I would come to stay with them at their home for a week. During this time I would be treated as their son with chores, expectations, and of course, discipline. Even though I was 32 those would be the conditions along with a bedtime. The day finally arrived and they pulled into my driveway in their minivan. We greeted each other and I was told to sit in the back of the van. As we began the 4 hour drive to their home we chatted and got to know each other some more. I was very nervous but the environment was very comforting. As we drove down the highway we began to slow down and move towards an exit. At this time Mr. Smith began to talk to me in a firm manner. Mr. Smith- during your stay you may call us Dad/Mom or Sir/Ma’am- any disrespect, disobedience, or failure to meet our expectations will result with you having a blistered bottom. I assure you- after a spanking from either of us you will not be sitting comfortably for a week! Me- Yes Sir. I understand and will do my best to not disappoint either of you. Mr Smith- Very well. I will expect your complete compliance with directions from this moment forward. Do you understand? Me- Yes Sir. Mrs Smith- You may have noticed that we are pulling into this service plaza- we have found after raising our children that they would often get bored on road trips and begin to misbehave. Since then, before we left for any road trip we would spank each of our children as a reminder to behave. Therefore, as you our now our son you will receive the same treatment. Me- Yes . . . . a a a Ma’am (Van parks in far corner of service plaza) Mr. Smith- Your mother is going to come back and give you a spanking. If you give her any trouble I will bend you over the hood of the van and whip you with my belt until you wish you we’re never born. Do you understand? Me- Yes Sir 😔 (Mrs. Smith moves to the back of the van with a wooden hairbrush in her hand and sits down) Mrs Smith- stand up and stand in front of me. (I quickly move to comply trembling at the thought of my new father’s belt. Mrs. Smith unsnaps my jeans and lowers them to my ankles. She then hooks each of her thumbs into the elastic of my mandated tighty whities and lowers them to my mid thigh) Mrs Smith- (taps her lap) let’s go young man you know where you are supposed to be. (I kneel on the seat and slowly lower myself over her lap. She shifts me sideways to position my bottom to her liking, I then feel her palm resting on my right cheek.) Mrs Smith- Are you ready? Me- (meekly) Yes Mommy Wack!Wack!Wack!Wack!Wack!Wack! Spank!Spank!Spank!Spank!Spank! X25 Me- whimpers and wiggles and begin to cry 😢 Mrs Smith- Will you be a good boy doing our trip home? Me- Yes Ma’am! I promise! I promise I’ll be the best boy! Please stop. Please mommy! Mrs Smith- Well I believe that you will be but just to make sure I am going to give you 5 very hard swats with the hairbrush.After each swat you are to count and say “I will be a good boy”. If you fail to count correctly or not repeat your affirmation we will begin again. Do you understand? Me- Yes ma’am. Yes ma’am, I won’t disobey you. Mrs Smith- Please reach your right wrist up and give it to me. (I comply and she takes it and pins it to the small of my back. Then, takes her right leg and puts it over my legs locking me into my fate and perfecting her target) Swat! 1! I will be a good boy! Swat! 2! I will be a good boy! Swat! 3. . . . 3 I willlll bbbbbeee a good boy Swat! (Sobbing uncontrollably) foooouuurrr I I I will bee (sob 😭) a a a gooddd boy Swat! Fiiiiiiivvvveee I will (😭😭😭😭) beeee a goo goods bbbbboooy. Mrs Smith: Good boy. I hope that will remind you to mind your manners and behavior during our trip. Now Stand up. (I stand and she gives me a hug and pats my bottom. She pulls my underwear and jeans back in place and offers me tissues.) Mrs Smith- Now sit down as best you can and buckle up. We still have long way to go. (She returns to her seat and the van is started) Mr. Smith- I’m proud of you son for taking your spanking like a big boy. I hope to see that same behavior during your bedtime belt lickin’ from me tonight. Me- 😔😔😔😔😢😢 (the burn in my bottom begins to get hotter and I begin to tremble like a scared child) Yes Sir . . . . To be continued if you all like it . . .
  5. 6 points
    (ps. Apologies for any strange typos. I'm using my phone) So I've not been super active in a while... Hello again. I got busy with life and also... Connected with my local 'scene' for kink, and met some other spankos. My experience with spanking in my life has been fairly limited. I've had various low-key encounters (eg. Half a dozen swats that time or bent over the table for a few swats the other time etc). I recently met someone... Who I must admit I have a huge crush on... Who I was warned to "beware, she is VERY experienced at spanking" And last week gave me... Tbh the most thorough OTK spanking in my life so far (and left marks/bruises that are still visible today (4 days later)). She was incredibly sweet and patient about it. Vanilla brain thinks that sounds like a strange thing to say about someone spanking my butt. Spanko brain thinks it sounds perfectly sensible. ... And also, now I have a bedtime (boo!) ... And promise of further spankings. And part of me is like "what have I done" (but mostly in a good way). Anyway, thought I'd share my experience 😅
  6. 6 points
    I always use SpankingTube because, like you said, it's free and has a good assortment. Like you, my favorite to watch are more "just because"...a spanker and spankee engaging in a spanking together because they both just like it. That's my favorite because that's the type of spanking I enjoy personally, and what I would want in a spanking partner. I like watching content I can at least somewhat relate to. And while I'm not into being spanked as actual discipline myself, I do enjoy watching disciplinary spanking. Not family or school fantasies, or anything highly produced. Just a general real disciplinarian/spankee dynamic or domestic discipline between a couple. I think I like it because the spankings are a bit harsher generally, and I like harder play personally. And discipline videos often have zero erotic or sexual elements, which I much prefer. I just like to watch good real amateur spanking videos. No sexual acts or erotic tones, no plugs or figging or anything like that, no unnecessary nudity...that all kills the mood for me. I just love videos of good, old-fashioned, nonsexual spankings.
  7. 5 points
    Has anyone else noticed how many men describe themselves as alpha males in spanko forums? Of course this isn't limited to just spankos it's the same the world over. The over reliance on the term "alpha" often suggests the opposite to me. For instance take institutions like the police force or military where there is a strictly regimented structured. The ranks of course will be full of alpha males but what percentage 10 - 20% max? So mostly police officers and military men are followers not leaders - it'd disaster if they weren't. This doesn't mean that they are not tough, strong or reliable they are just not alphas in their day to day. In the real world so many more skills are needed to navigate our world than are needed in the animal kingdom. The term Alpha is limited in describing these skills and even less useful in being a completely rounded human being. If I were looking fro an ER I'd be looking for someone that can empathise, has integrity and is able to communicate - these aren't alpha qualities. So guys, chill with the alpha stuff this is not the stone age and we're not cave men.
  8. 5 points
    3 more pages...about being 12...feeling confused and overwhelmed...and a very bad incident I didn't talk about for a long time... https://spankingart.org/wiki/Rude_Rumps#Chapter_III
  9. 5 points
    When I was on the EE side of the paddle my mentor and her boyfriend came to visit me at my home for the weekend. One of the places I took them to eat was one of my favorite BBQ places named Corky's BBQ. It is a very famous BBQ place in Memphis, TN. I don't remember all the details but I'm sure I was being a bit on the bratty side thinking I was safe. I should have known better. When it came time to leave her boyfriend made a beeline out of the place. She grabbed me and spanked me all of the way out of the restaurant and through the parking lot. The next time I went to Corky's, I got some very interesting looks from the employees. The maitre d even winked at me. Very embarrassing! LOL 😮 🤣
  10. 4 points
    That is multiple questions in one and for a lot of it there is no real... good answer that I have seen. It all boils down to one thing... Everyone's different. Some people need just a few light pats and they will buckle into unstoppable tears. Others, you could whip them with the harshest canes and not a drop. Some people need mental aspects of a discipline added in, others can't take the first bad words tearing them down. Just because its no warmup, and begging... often those don't mean anything as you have seen, taking long spankings that are very painful. You have to find the thing that makes you let go of those emotions and let it stir in you. As far as how it will affect your relationship, that's something you're going to need to consider. Some people don't like being that way, others don't like seeing people taken to that level. If you're worried that it will bring you harm to your relationship, i would spend some time thinking about that and how this may affect you personally before you start trying to get someone to do this to you.
  11. 4 points
    I thought I would share a journal entry I posted to Fetlife: When I mention the “sweet spot,” some people don’t know what I’m talking about. It refers to the lower half of the buttocks – from the center down to the crease. So what is special about it? At least 3 three things come to mind. #1 – It’s where you sit and that means you’re going to feel it the next day. Isn’t feeling it the next day (re-living the experience a little) something that many spankees enjoy? Even crave? #2 – It is a safe area. When you are using implements, especially those that require skill to use, you may not always hit exactly where you are aiming. I have seen people hitting all over the place (even some people who were “experienced”). If you aim for the sweet spot and you hit a little high, you will most likely still strike the upper buttocks – good stuff. If you aim toward the top of the buttocks and miss high, you could strike the tailbone or lower back – bad stuff. People have bruised and even broken tailbones before with implements like paddles. If you aim for the sweet spot and miss a little low you will probably strike the upper thighs. Sure, that hurts. Oops, my bad... #3 – The nerves in the lower part of the buttocks are part of the nerve network that includes the genitals. For those who derive pleasure from being spanked this enhances the experience. A couple of other considerations: Positioning – if using the hand, hairbrush, small paddle, etc. then over-the-knee can be an enjoyable experience for both partners and it is easy to work on the sweet spot. It is certainly the most intimate position to spank in. For larger implements like paddles, canes, crops, whips, etc. I prefer a bent-over position – think spanking bench, bent over a sofa arm, on all fours with head down, etc. This makes the target available in a way that accentuates the sweet spot and minimizes the likelihood of accidentally hitting in a danger zone. Some people prefer a standing position (i.e. cross) for impact play – I have seen people injured in this position if hit high with a paddle, for instance. Proceed at your own risk. Wrapping – the sweet spot does not include the hips/flanks. If you are using a flexible implement like a cane or whip, the implement can “wrap” and contact the flank area. Most people do not like to be hit there – it is a different kind of “hurt” and not a good one. Of course, this is a generality – there are hard-core masochists who don’t really care where they are hit long as it hurts. Good for them. One last thing – if someone is positioned such that the sweet spot is displayed as the primary target area, then you are probably enjoying the view.
  12. 4 points
    I spoke to my partner, and was floored by her response. She said she is willing to try it and was very understanding even when I told her I want her to spank me really hard and to tears. We chose some household implements, including a heavy wooden spoon and a rubber/plastic one from a dollar store, as well as the strap I cut from my belt before I threw it away. I’m extremely excited and we went over some safe words and I told her to stop only when I use them not when I’m yelling ow or asking her to stop. I’m so grateful for this, it’s hard to explain but it means so much to me. She is so awesome. I can’t put into words how amazing she is. I was so scared to have this conversation.
  13. 4 points
    Hi, There are several references on here to Aunt Kay and the Disciplinary Wives Club (DWC), so I thought I would clear some of it up. This was a wonderful site that was active for many years, and Aunt Kay was a pioneer in F/m Domestic Discipline. Unfortunately, she died in 2018, and a bit before that she lost the URL to her Web site and it was taken over by an unscrupulous person who still runs it as a blog. Aunt Kay's husband, Tomy Nash, has his own blog which talks about his late wife and their DWC experiences. It is very poignantly written, as he misses his wife terribly. You can read it here: https://tomyswife.blogspot.com Before she died, Aunt Kay transferred over her materials to a new site, and it is still up and can be very helpful for couples considering F/m DD. However, Tomy is not managing it, so you cannot order materials or get a response. It is here: http://www.auntkaysdwc.com/ Before she died, Kay asked that people please use the above link and not go to the former URL that was stolen from her. If you do have questions about the DWC or Aunt Kay, you can contact Tomy directly at: Tomynash@gmail.com They were a wonderful resource and helped many couples. Tony P.S. Kay was also a fantastic artist. Here is own of her drawings as posted by Tomy on his blog:
  14. 4 points
    If I have to pull up my big girl panties and deal with it just one more time, the elastic will break and I’m really gonna show my ... !
  15. 4 points
    Lol, a pictorial representation of 'Spanking, fantasy vs reality '.
  16. 4 points
    It's not nude, or even a great pic, but there you go. My bottom.
  17. 4 points
    I am a very spoiled mamacita❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️I love my seeet girls.
  18. 4 points
    I have a couple of spanking fantasies. One in particular is meeting someone for the first time for a drink in a local restaurant. It's lunch time...not many people around. We are chatting and flirting but then I get a bit bratty and sarcastic with my answers. He gives me a look, but I continue anyway. After a few more of my sarcastic responses, and just as the wait person wanders up to the table, he tells me that when we leave he will be giving me a very sound bare bottom spanking for being such a brat. I laugh nervously thinking he's kidding. The wait person hears this but pretends to ignore it and I am blushing profusely. We finish up awhile later, and hoping he's forgotten his promise, we leave. He walks me to my car, then proceeds to get into the back seat. He tells me to get in and lie over his knee. I'm so embarrassed, because although the car is parked in a bit of secluded spot, people could still happen upon us and see. Nonetheless I do as I'm told. One side of the car is facing a very empty area and he leaves the door open on that side, so to give more room to stretch out a bit As he spanks my bottom over my dress, i'm wiggling and moaning. I'm embarrassed hes spanking me like a naughty little girl. He then pushes my dress up so it's just my pantied bottom and he spanks me for quite awhile until I'm squirming and my bottom is very warm. Just as he lowers my panties someone comes to park next to us - on the open side! He spanks me swiftly and much harder - and i'm wiggling and squirming and protesting and getting increasingly wet - all the while someone is watching. Turns out it's the waiter from the restaurant watching as my ass his being reddened and my pussy drips.
  19. 4 points
    Had you asked me this before I was married or early on in my marriage, I would have said I lean ER and would have had a hard time being submissive. But I eventually discovered my wife hated to be really spanked and put a stop to it quickly. And while she isn't really a spanko, she discovered she likes being in charge and putting me in my place when she thinks I need it. And I realized how much I've always I've always been turned on by strong women. Of course, I would love to get a chance to turn a female bottom pink, but I am perfectly happy in my role in our casual female-led marriage. I am no slave. We both make decisions, but we also both know that she has the final say, and can have me dropping my pants for a dose of her rubber paddle. She isn't overly strict - in fact I wish she was stricter - and I think it's had a positive effect on both of us. She feels more empowered. And I've learned to listen to her, appreciate her, and love her more than ever, We've been married for 26 years. And if you told me even 10 years ago that this is what our relationship would look like, I may not have believed it. But I couldn't be happier.
  20. 3 points
  21. 3 points
    Becka is going through a rough time and wanted to send her hugs.
  22. 3 points
  23. 3 points
    The line I typically use (other than to my nouro that knows everything) "I'm into BDSM and the marks are consented I'm sharing this with you because I believe that I can trust that you will keep my sex life out of my doctor appointment" --- they typically ask no more questions after that and a simple ok.
  24. 3 points
    Hello Folks, Looking for a local Spanker to keep me a good girl. My bare buns are itching to be rosie and sore!
  25. 3 points
    Because it’s fun and I like it
  26. 3 points
    The Start 9 (Spanked by my friend and this is not going to stop soon) The next day my mother told me she had a “surprise for me” and that “we would have to leave the house by 8 AM”. I was still real sore from the spanking and was not happy with how my mother was punishing me. So, I just told her “fine”. Well I did not get up on time and she came into my room and told me to “get up we must go soon”. I told her to “go without me and my bottom was too sore to go anywhere today”. She said, “no problem” and left my room. I did fall back to sleep and when I got up, I went down to the kitchen and she was sitting there talking to Joe. My stomach dropped. Stopping a foot into the room my mother said, “come here and sit-down young lady”. I knew that my very sore bottom was about to hurt a lot more. I went to sit saying “I’m sorry mommy I will go and get ready right now”. She said, “it is much too late and that we would have to wait a week before we could go”. She went on saying, “you have to learn that when I tell you, you have to do something you just do it”. And now Joe is here to teach you this lesson”. “Please mommy not so soon after my last spanking my bottom is real sore now”. She looked at Joe and just said, “Please teach her a lesson and don’t think about how red her bottom is when you start”. He moved his chair to the living room and my mother followed him he set the chair in front of the couch and sat down. My mother sat on the couch and called to me, “We are waiting young lady do not make this get any worse”. I started to cry and walked slowly into the living room and over to Joe, saying “Mommy please just give me a day to recover from the last spanking PLEASE?” And then she had me pull down my PJ bottoms. I knew that I was not going to get out of this spanking so crying I pulled them down and quickly got over Joe’s lap. My bottom was still red, but Joe wasted no time in spanking me and from the fist spank I knew I was going to feel this one for a week. I was crying and making promise after promise to my mother and even to Joe, but the spanking went on. And for the first time during a spanking he was giving me for my mother he lectured me a little. I was surprised by this, but I did answer him when he said, “when are you going to learn not to defy your mother”? and he spanked me harder waiting for my answer. “NOW RIGHT NOW I WILL ALWAYS DO WHAT EVER SHE SAYS ALWAYS. “and then my mother said. “OK Joe what do you think? Do you think she means it?” He stopped spanking and said, “Yes I do”. My Mom said OK give her 10 more hard ones and send her to the corner”? Send me to the corner what the hell did that mean? Well I found out after 10 awfully slow and hard spanks. He stopped and Pointed to a corner of the living room and said, ‘You go and put your nose in that corner and don’t turn around or come out till you are told”. I Picked up my bottoms and ran to the corner rubbing all the way crying and crying and crying, trying to step into my bottoms on the way, without success. I put them on when I got there and stood there embarrassed and crying. Joe left and my mother was talking to me while I was rubbing and crying in the corner. She said, “I want you to know that you will be punished whenever you earn it even if it is right after you have been spanked. This will help you behave better and avoid a Joe visit. “Do you understand me”? I cried the best “Yes I understand believe me I understand.” She let me stand in the corner for another 30 minutes. It seemed like days. And told me I could get out and go put myself together. I did not think I could face Joe after this spanking. And I had to ask my mother “why the corner time”? She said that it was, “Joe's idea to add to the punishment and give me time to think about being a bad girl”. I said to her please remind me to thank him. She laughed and said I will that is a good idea he will like hearing that from you.” I WAS KIDDING MOMMY” she said, “I wasn’t”. This was not getting any better and now I had to humiliate myself again in front of Joe. Thinking to myself the is embarrassing spanking by Joe is just getting more embarrassing, Do you want part 10 Readers?
  27. 3 points
  28. 3 points
    I once got taken to the woodshed by two female spankers. I was smiling ear to ear on the walk to the woodshed. Not so much on the way back. I deserved what I got for sure.
  29. 3 points
    Concur with advice about moiturizing the area; and arnica gel is a thing peole frequently use AFTER the sanking to reduce bruising But honestly, it sounds like just have a very sensitive and delicate bottom, I have an occasional disciplinee who is like that and I was downright alarmed the first time I have her over my knee: I had never seen anyone turn so deep crimson so fast. I stopped our first session early for fear I was doing actual damage (and this was a hand spanking!)...Luckily I was later assured that that was just the way she is and I shouldn't let it put me off. The point being: some bottoms are more delicate than others.
  30. 3 points
    I did! 3x over. I haven't been sitting easily but it's that good soreness that keeps a smile on my face
  31. 3 points
    I had a Dom fill a large wide bucket with cold water and ice. He told me sit In there For 30 seconds. After the 30 he helped me up turned me around and bent me over a table. He immediately applied 15 strokes with a crop!!! very very hard strokes. And yes, it’s much much more painful . I loved it!!!!
  32. 3 points
    I have rarely cried, but when I did, my disciplinarian made sure that I knew I had let them down and myself too, and had a long talk with me standing there before them in just my underpants or bare bottomed while I was forced to answer questions about my behaviour and listened to a scolding then spanked.
  33. 3 points
    Lol one of my co-workers threatens to spank other coworkers occassionally. I have been tempted to brat at her to get it to say it to me lol
  34. 3 points
    I came across this recently and got a kick out of it. Wanted to share, as it might bring someone else a laugh, too. Stuck it in my profile for a few days because I wasn't sure where to post it, but the daily banter section seems like the best choice. Wish I knew who the author, as I would credit him/her. Things You'll Never Hear in a Western Movie.... "I reckon I'll have me a half-caf double latte with a twist, in a dirty mug." ~ "Gentlemen, rather than get caught up in this mindless reaction, let's draw upon our feminine selves for a more intuitive solution." ~ "Can we postpone this duel till 12:05? I gotta use the little boys' room." ~ "Injuns! Quick, pull the wagons into an irregular dodecagon!" ~ "Y'know, Badlands Pete, it's just you and me tonight beneath this here romantic prairie moon. What d'ya' say we slip into our rhinestone gowns and have ourselves a little dance?" ~ "Let's see, hardtack and pemican-- that's 8 grams of fat, 7 grams of protein, and 2 starches." ~"That's him! That's the yella-bellied varmint who shot my therapist!" ~ "Hey Buck, do these chaps make my butt look big?"
  35. 3 points
    I think I would have come back early.
  36. 3 points
    Anybody else working on their NAUGHTY LIST😁
  37. 3 points
    The Start (my first spanking from a friend) Well this is where it all started for me. When I was in high school, I was still being punished by my parents with a licking. I was dating a boy that I liked a lot and he had a real close friend that we would double date with all the time. This friend of his was a bit of a bad boy and use to cut school a lot. He even talked my mom into call the school for him as his mother to cover for him. One day he came over in the morning and ask my mother to call him out sick and she did. I really did not want to go to school that day so I knew when my mom left for work, I could just come back home which I did. We listen to music and danced and had a lot of fun for most of the morning. Then he laid down on the sofa and I did the same on the love seat and we feel asleep for a while. When he woke up, he swatted my bottom hard and said time to go so that I would be out of the house when my mother came home. It was the perfect crime and I got away with it. But that swat on my bottom was a turn on for me and all I could think about for the rest of the day. After that I knew that the next time it would have to go much more than one swat on the butt. It was a week later that we cut school again. This was just like before my mom called him out and when she left, I came home, and we were alone to enjoy our day. I wanted him to do more swatting so for most of the morning I was a real brat. I did everything I could to get under his skin. Finally, he had enough and said, “if you don’t stopped breaking my balls I am going to spank you.” I laugh at him and told him he was not man enough. The next think he was sitting on the sofa and I was face down over his lap and he was spanking me harder that my mother ever did. I kept telling him to stop but I did not want him to. He kept it up for about 5 minutes then push me to the floor where I rubbed and rubbed my bottom. He had a huge smile on his face and said, “do you want to break my balls now?” All I said to him was “you are a Brut and a Bully.” He just said, “Yea I guess so but how is your ass doing?” As he kept smiling down at me. I told him “it hurts like hell” and “he said good job well done.” After my first spanking I knew that I wanted to do more playing with it. But my boyfriend at the time was not the right guy for the job. However, his best friend was the right guy and he proved it to me with the first spanking. What I had to do was get the spankings I wanted to experience without anyone finding out who I had doing it. A week went by and there were many times that the 3 of us were together and even 2 date nights with all 4 of us, and nothing was said about my spanking to either of our dates. My boyfriend had to use the restroom at the diner and so did Sue. That left me and Joe at the table alone. The first thing he said was “how are your buns”? I blushed and said, “just fine”. Then he surprised me and came right out and ask if I would ever break his balls again. Without hesitation I said, “Every chance I get”. He just smiled. I didn’t want to let him know at that time I was looking forward to him spanking me for it but I did say, “ go ahead and smile but You are not going to change how I am or treat you”. He said, “I see you are challenging me. Well I hope your ass can take it”. I said, “don’t you worry about my ass it is and will be just fine”. Just as we watched our dates coming back to the table and we did bring it up for the rest of the night. When I got home all I could think about was when we would be alone again and how I would get that 2nd spanking I so wanted. I did not have to wait long. The next day was Saturday and Joe came by to see if Paul was with me because he wanted to go and shoot some pool. I told him that Paul got called into work for the day and just left. He wanted to know if anyone was home. I told him my mother went shopping and my father and brother went fishing. He said with a smile on his face “Oh so you are here along”. My heart started to beat much faster and I said yes what’s it to you”? He just said let’s go inside and finish the talk we started last night”. I did not want to be to compiling to fast. I said “we said all that had to be said. There is nothing else to talk about”. Right then I know I was starting to back out even though I really want to just run inside and see if he would spank me. He smiles and then said, “I see you did learn your lesson about breaking my balls from your spanking and don’t want to get another one”. He was forcing me to let him in the house and I knew that if I did, I would get what I really wanted. “Ok if you want to go in and talk, we can go in and talk”. I got up went in and he followed. Once inside He just grabbed my hand and pulled me into the kitchen pulled a chair out from the table and pulled me over his lap. I yelled “you wanted to talk. I thought we were going to talk”. Just as the first spank landed on my bottom. I yelled out “THAT HURT”. He said “It is going to hurt a lot more before I finish. And he went on to spank me long and hard. I was yelling “I didn’t do anything to get spanked for. This is not fair. You said if I broke your balls you would spank me. I didn’t do that”. But the spanking went on and my bottom was not on firer and hurting. As I started to cry, he just said to me as he spanking the spanking “who can spank you when he wants to”? When I did not answer the spanking started again. I yelled out “You can, You can, YOU CAN”. The spanking stopped and he let me up and I did a real spanking dance rubbing my bottom the whole time. He sat there and watched. After I stopped dancing (But not the rubbing). I looked at him and said, “that was very hard for not doing anything wrong”. Rubbing, Rubbing, Rubbing. He looked at me and said, “did you want it to be a playful spanking. Or did you want it to be real”? I blushed real red lowered my head and just “real”. He said, “that is what I thought, and I wanted to give you just that”. I said to him “this has to be our secret please no can find out”. “So, you want to do this again” he said. I nodded yes. Once Joe agreed that it would be just the 2 of us that would ever know I felt better about moving forward with him spanking me. After each spanking he game me I had days of excitement and the most enjoyable masturbation ever. I wanted more of it, but I wanted to be careful not to get caught by anyone. School was over and Joe had a job as a lifeguard do the shore and I knew that for 2 months I would have to do without my new pleasure. This year joe got a lot closer to both my parents and he was good at fixing things at our house and my father taught him a lot treating him like the son he never had. I was still dating Paul and he had Sue that he had dated since they started high school. He had found time to spank me every time we could find time at my house alone (for me it was not enough) and they were real spankings long and hard but always with my cloths on. I can tell you he really made my bottom red and it would hurt for a day after. The day before he left to work down the shore, we had hoped that he would give me one last one to hold me over till he came back after the summer. That did not happen between my parents being home and Sue would not leave him get a foot away from her it was not going to happen. I was making the best of it and my parents had a surprise for me saying that they rented a house down the shore for 2 weeks. I was happy this is something we never did so it was a surprise. They told me that they had an extra room if I wanted to ask Paul to come with us. He couldn’t because he was working at his father’s store. But he would come down one night and stay the next day. Which was good with me. When we got down and I went to find Joe and he was on the beech watching the swimmers in the ocean. He said, “I see you missed me”. I just said “well one thing you do “. He laughed and took a break and we walked down the beech a little way. He said, “who are you with and will we find time to be alone”? I told him my parents and Paul would be here on Saturday night and all-day Sunday”. “My parents will go out most nights and we would have a lot of time to get down to business”. We made plans to walk the boardwalk that night. He came over to the apartment we rented at about 6 and talked to my parents for about an hour till they left for dinner and said to me they would see me in a few hours. We went to the boardwalk and they drove away, and we went right back to the apartment. Once we were alone Joe sat down and said, “I believe you have a spanking coming from the day I left”. I started to say something, but he had my arm and pulled me over his lap. Right away he started to spank me hard and fast and I was kicking and saying that I didn’t do anything to get spanked but the spanking went on for 15 minutes I was crying like a 10 year old when he finished. He let me up and I did my now normal spanking dance rubbing my bottom the hold time. He said that “I needed that as much as he needed to do it” and for me to freshen up so we can leave and go up to the boardwalk so my parents could get back before us. I did and we left. I was glad to be walking and not sitting while we talked. My bottom hurt bad. As we walked, I told him how sore my bottom was and he just said, “did you want it real or just a play spanking”? Real is all I know but God my bottom was hurting. We ate and walked then he walked me back to the apartment and He said goodnight to my parents and said he would see us on the beech tomorrow. The next morning Joe came to our apartment and surprised us by taking us to breakfast. I was still very sore from the spanking he gave me the night before and could not wear a bathing suit because my bottom was so red, I had to put long shorts on. The 4 of us went to a pancake house he knew, and it had wood chairs at the table with no cushion on them. I know he did it on purpose. I was moving around the whole time and he smiled every time he saw me trying to get comfortable. He went to work, and we went to the beach. My father asks me why I was not in a bathing suit and I told him I didn’t want to get too red on the first day. (If he only knew just how red I already was). By the end of the day we were planning dinner and they ask me if Joe would be joining us. I told them I didn’t think so. We went to dinner and they wanted to go to a movie, But I just wanted to go back to the apartment, so I didn’t go with them. When I got back to the apartment Joe was sitting on the porch. I stood there and he said sit let’s talk. I sat and still feeling his spanking from the night before. He asks, “How did you like the chairs at the pancake house”? I said, “you did that on purpose”. “Yes “he said. “That was not funny I could ware my bathing suit because my bottom was still so red”. He was laughing at me and I thought about some smart remarks that I could say to him but knowing he would take me inside and spank me again I keep my mouth closed. And he knew it. We were still on the porch when my parents came back, and he said goodnight to everyone and left. The next day my bottom was much better and the color was normal so on went the bathing suit and we went to the beach and I burned bad that day and that ruined the rest of the first week and some of the 2nd week. Joe told me I was going to be spanked for getting so sunburned. I knew it was going to happen as soon as my sunburn stopped hurting. Well 2 nights before we left My parents were going out just the 2 of them for the night and I was left alone and waited for Joe to come by. When he got there, he said “are you ready?” I said, “let’s sit here and talk first”. We did and about an hour later I got up and went inside and he followed me in. He took a chair from the kitchen table and sat down and tapped on him lap. I walked over to him and went over his lap. He got a good hold on my and ask me if I was ready. I said yes and he spanked me much slower than he ever did before for the first 5 minutes and then stopped. I thought WOW I am getting off easy. Then he went back to spanking me as he normally does. And I think it hurt more from the warmup he gave me with the slow spanks to start. I started to cry and promise not to get sunburn every again, but the spanking went on. After what seemed like forever, he stopped the spanking and said, “you know this is going to be the last spanking I can give you till school is going to start”. “So, do you want me to stop”. I had to say, “Yes that my bottom was on fire and it was going to hurt for days”. He let me up and I did the spank dance and rub. We talked about 30 more minutes till I stopped crying and wanted to go to bed so he left, and I went to bed. We all hung out the last couple of days till we left and by the time we were going home my bottom was back to normal. After I was back home again I was a little sorry I did let Joe give me just a little my spanking that last time but I knew once school starts again I would be spanked as much as I wanted. And I was Right on. After the summer things got back to normal. I was still dating Paul and Joe was still dating Sue. Joe was still spanking me from time to time, so life was fine for me. My father wanted to do some work on the house and Joe was helping him. It was major work making the basement more living space and it was going to be a long time before it was finished. Paul did not like working with his hands, but Joe loved it and was good at it. His father would come over sometime to help. The home remodel was going well when my father had a heart attach and passed away to every one’s surprise. Things sort of changed after that. My mother was lost I was lost, and the house was a mess. Joe father came over one night an offered to finish the remodel and My mother was grateful and he took over with Joe. He would come over 2 nights and work with Joe and show Joe what to do till he could come back. It was always more work than Joe could do. Joe was at the house just about every day after school now and the 2 nights his father was there, so I saw Joe a lot and without getting spanked once during this. One day after school Joe came over and we talked about weather or not I still wanted to be spanked. I told him “more than ever”. He knew that my mother was not going to be back for an hour so He took me over his lap and gave me a hand spanking till I was crying but it was not that it hurt so much but that I just needed a good cry and this was a way to get it done. As he spanked me, I think he knew that I just needed to have a good cry, so he did not talk during to me, he just spanked and let me release. When he stopped, he told me to go and fix my face before my mom got back and he went to work in the basement. That spanking was special to me. It started to get me back to a normal place that I wanted to be. But things would change just after that day. Paul’s father got a job in another state and had to move right away it was a big job and making a lot more money and they left. We kept in touch, but it was not going to be easy. Every time I was in a missing Paul mood, I would make sure to do something to Joe to get spanked and that would really help me out. When he came over my mother had to run out to a store, so I knew we had time to get me the spanking I needed. He went right to work and ask me where my mother was, I told him “it was not of his business and just get back to work”. He looked at me and said, “Oh really”. I knew I would get the spanking now and boy was I right. H took me by the arm to the kitchen and over his lap and the spanking started after about 2 minutes my mother walked into the kitchen saying, “What the hell is going on here”? He stopped and I jumped up, I was so surprised I could not answer her just wanted to run out of the room. Joe said, “I was missing my father and how he would punish me so when she started to tease me I just wanted to give her what she needed”. My mother looked and me and ask if this was true? I just nodded “yes” not knowing what a right answer should be. My mother took me back over to Joe and pulled me back over his lap saying “ I agree you need this and bad” “Joe go on and spank her hard but do it the way she got it from my husband”. And she pulled down my pants and panties. I wanted to die saying “NO MOMMY NO MOMMY NOT LIKE THIS”. My mother told Joe “spank her hard or you will no longer be welcome here”. For the first me Joe spanked my bare bottom and it was humiliating and embarrassing and painful. But he spanked and spanked and I yelled and yelled but the spanking went on till I was a crying mess and my mother said I had enough and for me to go to my room we will talk later. I ran out of the room. She asks Joe to leave and to come over tomorrow after school and to talk about this. He left. She came to my room for our little talk. I was in my room crying and feeling so embarrassed and humiliated when my mother came in. She looked at me and ask, “How long has this been going on”? Not wanted to tell her the truth knowing it would be worst for me I just said, “since daddy died”. “Are you 2 having sex?” she wanted to know. “No, no, no mommy”. “Is Joe going to tell me the same thing when I ask him?” “Yes, mommy we never had sex not even kissing”. She went on to say “Since you father died, I knew there was going to be times that you would need to be punished. And I was going to ask your Uncle Fred to do it for me”. Uncle Fred is my mothers’ younger brother and a brick layer and real strong and I sure it would not be something I would want. He lives about 90 minutes away so it would be days I would have to wait till he would have time to come over to punish me. She went on to say, “He is very busy, and I don’t know if he would even agree to do it”. I did not like where I thought this was going. Mom went on to ask me, “How does your bottom feel’? “It hurts bad he really hit me hard and long”. “Well he spanked you as hard as your father ever did and I could see that you did not like it”. I am going to ask Joe to take over for your discipline when I tell him you need to be punished”. “NO MOMMY WHY CAN’ T YOU DO IT? NOT JOE PLEASE NOT JOE NO MOMMY PLEASSE NOT JOE”. She was not going to change her mind. “With Joe giving you your spankings when you earn it should have you on much better behavior”. I was begging her to change her mind and I mean begging and trying to convince her there had to be someone else. I say pleas ask Uncle Fred to do it He is much stronger than Joe and will spank me much hared and make the punishment more meaningful.” She just shook her head no and then said, “I will talk to Joe tomorrow and explain to him how I want this done. And if does not want to do it then he will no longer be come over here anymore and I will get someone else to finish the work your father started”. I knew Joe would say yes to my mother. He is going to love spanking me bare when my mother tells him to. This is going to be so humiliating and embarrassing. I was laying on my stomach still trying to talk my mother out of this plan of hers but she said, “It would be Joe unless he said no. I buried my face in my pillow and cried my eyes out from my sore bottom to knowing that Joe would now be spanking me for my mother. This was my first spanking that Joe had given me that I did not masturbate. The next day at school My bottom was still sore but all I could think about was the talk my mother was going to have with Joe. When I got home from school my mother was in the kitchen and she told me to call Joe and tell him to come over she wanted to talk to him. Again, I begged her not to do it with Joe and I mean BEGGED. She just pointed to the phone. I started to cry, and I made the call. Things got even worst when Joe got to the house. I let him in, and I started to go to my room. When my mother said, where do think you are going? Come right back here and sit down”. She wanted to have the talk with Joe in front of ME. I could not believe this was really happening. We all sat around the table and My mother said to Joe,” I ask this same question last night to little miss RED BOTTOM. Are you to having sex?” “No never”. She went on to ask him, “how long have you been spanking her”? I was really worried here but he just said, “Not long, really, just after your husband passed”. ‘And he said never on the bare bottom like you had me do yesterday”. I was relieved that he answered like I did. My mother then said to him that she now knows that I am going to need to be spanked from time to time and that she wants him to do it for her. I thought he would fall off his chair. I was crying to myself embarrassed to have to sit there and listen to them talking about my spankings. It was a bad day for me. She went on to say, “ I will tell you when I need you to spank her and You will do it here right in front of me and always on her bear bottom like yesterday. You will spank her till I tell you she had enough, and you are not ever to spank her if I did not Okay the spanking. Do you understand”? He looked over at me I just looked down at the table crying and I heard him say “yes”. This was going to change my life and I did not think it was for the better. The next day Joe came over to work on the house it was almost finished, and his father was coming to finish the electric and we had to hire a Plummer to get the last of it done. My mother was happy about the house, I was talking with Paul everyday by phone at least once a day and most days more. And I was on my best behavior since my mother’s talk, I really did not want Joe to spanked me with my mother watching. But that was about to change when Joe came over and said he had to talk to me. I thought it was about him spanking me, but it wasn’t. He told me that he some bad news about Paul. He told me that Paul knocked up a girl at his new school and all the parents got together and they are going to get married. I started to cry, because I always thought Paul and I were going to get married have 2 kids a boy and a girl and live happily ever after. I ran to my mother crying and she did the best she could to calm me down and she was real good support she understood just how I felt. Joe left so that we could have the house to ourselves. My mother even let me stay home from school the next day, it was Friday and it would give me 3 days to get hold of myself. Joe and his dad finished the basement. And my mother wanted to pay them something, but neither would take any money. Monday came along and I was not in the mood for school, but my mother said I had to go. I wanted to just quit school and I told her that and she said no way get dressed she would drive me. I was moving slow when she came in and said to me, “do I have to have Joe come over”? That put a slot of speed and I was ready in record time. Once I got to school everyone knew about Paul and I got a lot of stares as I the day went on. And I snapped at one of the teachers about some homework I did turn in and he sent me to the principal’s office. Who called my mother about cursing out the teacher about not doing my homework. My mother told him she would take care of it and I would apologize to the teacher in front of the class tomorrow. When I got home from school Joe was there sitting in the kitchen with a smile on his face. My mother asks me, “do you think that you would not get spanked for this?” I made my second mistake and said. I don’t care.” My said to Joe, “Do you think you can make her care?” He said he would “TRY REAL HARD”. My mother took me by the arm and right in front of Joe she pulled down my pants and my panties came down with them and she put me over his lap and told him to “spank her as hard as he could she has a lesson to learn.” And he did the sound of that first spank was loud and it hurt and there was going to a lot more to come. My mother just sat down and watched. After about a minutes I was started to cry and my mother said to Joe, “ Good you keep spanking her like that and she will get the message”, It felt like my bottom was on fire and I was begging for him to stop. He was not stopping. My mother said “I will tell when you had enough. You had this coming for some time, and I am going to make sure you get a good spanking that will last a long time.” I was begging and promising to be good and I will not do anything wrong ever again. But the spanks kept coming. My mother said “Now Joe hold up a minute. Now listen to me young lady. Tomorrow you are going to go into your classroom and apologize to your teacher in front of the class.” “Yes, mommy Yes Mommy” “Joe give her 10 more hard ones” which he did over my protest. Joe stopped after the 10 spanks. My mother said, “are you going to behave like a lady at school and every other place?” “YES, YES, YES,” “Joe 10 more just like the last 10.” He did and I begged and promised again. I had long since kicked off my pants and panties, I was naked from the waist down when my Mother said to “let her up”. He gave me one more spank and let me go. I got up and did a real well spanked dance and could not stop rubbing my bottom I knew it was a show, but I was really hurting, and modesty was out the window. My mother thanked Joe for doing such a good job and said she would let him know if he had to teach me this lesson again. I was crying and saying “NEVER, NEVER again I promise “. My Mother said, “we will see I hope you mean it.” I was just standing there hopping and rubbing my bottom when my mother said, “Girl put your clothes back on aren’t you embarrassed to half naked in front of Joe”. The real answer was at this point being embarrassed was the last thing on my mind. I just wanted to stop the hurt. I did put back my pants and panties and Joe left incredibly happy with himself I am sure. The next day Joe came over just to tease me I am sure. He asks me how I was doing and how my bottom felt today. I wanted to give him a real smart answer but the way my bottom felt I decided to just answer him with “Joe it hurts like hell and it will hurt for days.” He was smiling and wanted to know what my mother thought about the spanking. II told him she seemed to be very happy that you spanked me that hard and she did say that you would be the one she would call on if I need to be spanked in the future. He was still grinning, but he asks me,” How do you feel about that?” I told him “I am not happy about him punishing me for my mother. And that what we did before was enough for me it hurt, and I did have to be half naked for the ones you always gave me. He wanted to know,” How did your father do it?” I blushed and said always bare just like yesterday. That is why my mother pulled down my pants so it would be as I got from my father.” Just then my mother came inf rom the store and said “Joe glad you came over. I wanted to thank you for the great spanking you did yesterday and let you know you now have that job. If you want it.” I wanted to die all over again. My mother was humiliating me it was so bad. Joe look at her and then at me, I was shaking my head no trying to get him to say he didn’t want that job. Fact chance of that. He just said to her” if it is going to be like that you bet, I want to do it. ” Now the 2 of them were having a conversation about me. HOW I WAS TO BE SPANKED. WHEN I WAS TO BE SPANKED. They were talking like I wasn’t there. I start to walk out of the room because I so embarrassed, but my mother told me to stay. She said, “You come right back here and sit down. You have to hear every word of this, so you know just what is going to happen when you earn a spanking.” She went on to say, “I really hope that when you hear how you are going to be punished you will try even harder to avoid them”. I sat down on a very sore bottom wiggled a lot and just looked down at the table not believing this was happening to me. Then I heard something that made me feel a little better. My mother told Joe,” Now Joe you are only to spank her when I tell you she has earned it. There is no exception to this. Do you understand Joe?” He quickly said, “Yes”. My mother asks me “Do you understand all this girly”? “Yes” I said. She wanted to know if I had any question. I said, “no I just want to die.” “You brought this on yourself now you will have to deal with it. And remember if you are too embarrassed to be spanked by Joe then behave and he won’t have spank you”. I got up and went to my room. Later that day Joe called and said that he was going to miss me breaking them for him and, him spanking me to get back at me. But that the trade off to spank me bare was worth making the change. I told him how embarrassing it is to be bare like that in front of him with his spanking me in front of my mother. Then he said to me, “Who else would you want it to be? The next day my mother told me she had a “surprise for me” and that “we would have to leave the house by 8 AM”. I was still real sore from the spanking and was not happy with how my mother was punishing me. So, I just told her “fine”. Well I did not get up on time and she came into my room and told me to “get up we must go soon”. I told her to “go without me and my bottom was too sore to go anywhere today”. She said, “no problem” and left my room. I did fall back to sleep and when I got up, I went down to the kitchen and she was sitting there talking to Joe. My stomach dropped. Stopping a foot into the room my mother said, “come here and sit-down young lady”. I knew that my very sore bottom was about to hurt a lot more. I went to sit saying “I’m sorry mommy I will go and get ready right now”. She said, “it is much too late and that we would have to wait a week before we could go”. She went on saying, “you have to learn that when I tell you, you have to do something you just do it”. And now Joe is here to teach you this lesson”. “Please mommy not so soon after my last spanking my bottom is real sore now”. She looked at Joe and just said, “Please teach her a lesson and don’t think about how red her bottom is when you start”. He moved his chair to the living room and my mother followed him he set the chair in front of the couch and sat down. My mother sat on the couch and called to me, “We are waiting young lady do not make this get any worse”. I started to cry and walked slowly into the living room and over to Joe, saying “Mommy please just give me a day to recover from the last spanking PLEASE?” And then she had me pull down my PJ bottoms. I knew that I was not going to get out of this spanking so crying I pulled them down and quickly got over Joe’s lap. My bottom was still red, but Joe wasted no time in spanking me and from the fist spank I knew I was going to feel this one for a week. I was crying and making promise after promise to my mother and even to Joe, but the spanking went on. And for the first time during a spanking he was giving me for my mother he lectured me a little. I was surprised by this, but I did answer him when he said, “when are you going to learn not to defy your mother”? and he spanked me harder waiting for my answer. “NOW RIGHT NOW I WILL ALWAYS DO WHAT EVER SHE SAYS ALWAYS. “and then my mother said. “OK Joe what do you think? Do you think she means it?” He stopped spanking and said, “Yes I do”. My Mom said OK give her 10 more hard ones and send her to the corner”? Send me to the corner what the hell did that mean? Well I found out after 10 awfully slow and hard spanks. He stopped and Pointed to a corner of the living room and said, ‘You go and put your nose in that corner and don’t turn around or come out till you are told”. I Picked up my bottoms and ran to the corner rubbing all the way crying and crying and crying, trying to step into my bottoms on the way, without success. I put them on when I got there and stood there embarrassed and crying. Joe left and my mother was talking to me while I was rubbing and crying in the corner. She said, “I want you to know that you will be punished whenever you earn it even if it is right after you have been spanked. This will help you behave better and avoid a Joe visit. “Do you understand me”? I cried the best “Yes I understand believe me I understand.” She let me stand in the corner for another 30 minutes. It seemed like days. And told me I could get out and go put myself together. I did not think I could face Joe after this spanking. And I had to ask my mother “why the corner time”? She said that it was, “Joes idea to add to the punishment and give me time to think about being a bad girl”. I said to her please remind me to thank him. She laughed and said I will that is a good idea he will like hearing that from you.” I WAS KIDDING MOMMY” she said, “I wasn’t”. This was not getting any better and now I had to humiliate myself again in front of Joe. Thinking to myself the is embarrassing spanking by Joe is just getting more embarrassing,
  38. 3 points
    Mamacita's been working overtime! Told her to take the rest of the week off!😁
  39. 3 points
    Correct. We don't discuss the pros and cons of parenting styles here. I'm locking the thread. Those wishing to resurrect the literally ancient debate as to how kids today are horrible and they weren't when when he hit them more can take it up at more appropriate forums.
  40. 3 points
    I was 15 when I was last spanked my father. Panties down, over his knee. I was MORTIFIED.
  41. 3 points
    I am new to the site, but hello anyway! I'm in a domestic discipline relationship and have been for 14 years. It's really one of the greatest things that's ever happened to me. I hope you do find your someone one day that you can share this type of relationship with as well! It's so fulfilling!
  42. 3 points
    The verdict is in! I had the talk with her today and showed her some of the reading materials. I also told her about this site amd that I had a membership on here. She's not sold on it, but does understand that this is how I am and there is nothing that can change that. The good news is, she's OK with me coming on here and exploring the topic and having a place where I can talk about spanking all I want, as long as I'm not actually doing it with anyone. It's not 100% my ideal situation, but it is a big weight lifted off my shoulders.
  43. 3 points
    For me, videos have to be real. By that, I mean real people, not actors. The spankings can be for discipline, maintenance, or just for fun. As with @Amethyst_Moon I don't care for spankings where sex or genitals are the focus - for me, is about the spanking and there are plenty of places to watch porn if I choose to. The spankings can be short and hard or longer scenes that are less intense, as long as they are genuine. I hate what I call "fake" spankings where the ER is barely hitting and the EE is acting like they are dying. I don't care much for costumes etc. because, again, that makes the video look like it is staged. I enjoy M/F, F/F, and F/M, not into M/M. I also don't like spanking "compilations," with short snippets of different spankings because as soon as I start to get into it the scene changes. I'm not big on slow-mo either. I don't spank in slo-mo so I find it hard to relate to that. I prefer implements to the hand because I don't take the hand that seriously. My favorite implements include paddles, switches, straps, canes, and love the rare vids with a birch rod. I'm not wild about bath brushes and hairbrushes and don't like slippers/sandals. Spankingtube is nice because it is free, but there are too many commercial videos there to wade through. There is also lots of free content on Xhamster, Spank Bang, and other adult sites. If someone is aware of personal pages, blogs, etc. where people post their own vids, please share with us. 😀
  44. 3 points
    Oh yeah! I LOVE to spank guys. I'm technically a switch, as I enjoy both roles immensely. The only man I've ever submitted to was my former-husband, with whom I had a switch partnership. But I do thoroughly enjoy getting a man over my lap and practicing my table tennis skills on his glorious tush.
  45. 3 points
    SN Terminology and Definitions ● 24/7: A power exchange relationship that is in effect at all times. ● A/S/L: Age/Sex/Location ● ABDL: Adult baby diaper lover. Adults who role-play as a baby wearing diapers. The degree of it may extend anywhere from wearing diapers to wetting, and being seen/exposed in them. ● AFK: Away from keyboard ● Aftercare: The period of time, after a session, where special attention is given to the physical and emotional needs of the spankee. ● Age Play: A form of role play in which a participant assumes the role of someone of a different age. Typically, the submissive partner will assume the role of a very young (and hence powerless) child. For those who engage in this activity, it is the powerlessness aspect of childhood and the inherent power imbalance between an adult and a child, rather than the childhood itself, that is appealing. ● Age Regression: When somebody reverts to a child-like state of mind. ● Authority: The power to influence or command thought, opinion, or behavior. ● BBL: Be back later. ● BDSM: Bondage and discipline (B/D), Dominance and submission (D/s), Sadism and masochism (S&M). Used to refer to any consensual activities or lifestyles between adults which include some or all of these things. ● Bondage: The practice of tying, binding or restraining a partner. ● Bottom: A person who receives a spanking in a situation which specifically excludes a power exchange. ● Boundaries: Personal limits that are put in place on how far you are willing to go in a particular area. ● Brat: Someone who is intentionally uncooperative, sarcastic, silly, etc to gain attention or a submissive who may refuse to obey a dominant's commands, tease or taunt the dominant, or engage in other activity intended to provoke a response, often a punishment response. ● BRB: Be right back ● Bump: Entering a response whose sole purpose is to bring the thread back to the top of the list. ● Butt Plug: A sex toy intended for anal stimulation, consisting of a flared dildo, usually quite short, with a wide base, designed to remain securely in the anus until removed. Sometimes used with spanking as part of a punishment. ● CDD or Christian Domestic Discipline: Domestic discipline using biblical support. ● Collar: A symbol worn by a submissive partner, given by the Dominant, to show a long term deep commitment, love, devotion, etc. It can be in the form of a collar, necklace, bracelet, tattoo, etc. ● Consensual Non-consent: A mutual agreement where the lead partner is able to act as if the submissive partner has waived all consent. Complete consent is given beforehand, with the understanding of it being a permanent arrangement under most circumstances and without knowledge of future actions. (Limits, etc. have been discussed before it is given!) ● Consent: Granting permission. ● Contract: A document written up by one or both parties outlining the relationship, expectations, rules, etc. ● Control: The power to influence or direct people’s behavior. ● D/s or Dominance and submission: A set of behaviors, customs, and/or rituals involving the submission of one person to another in a session or a lifestyle. ● DD or Domestic Discipline: The practice of fully consensual corporal discipline/punishment between two competent adult partners in a relationship, usually in the home. ● Disciplinarian: A person who enforces or advocates discipline. ● Discipline: Any activity in which one person trains another person to act or behave in a specified way, often by enforcing rigid codes of conduct or by inflicting punishment for failure to behave in the prescribed way. ● Dom Drop: A sudden feeling of fatigue, irritability and/or depression because of plummeting good mood, endorphins and adrenaline dissipating. ● Dom-Space: Similar to sub-space. The intensifying of what is going on in a session. Heightened senses. A mental bonding with their partner. A mental mind set of control and power. (Each Top has his own definition) ● Dominant/Dom: A title given to a man on the controlling and decision making side of a power exchange relationship. He leads, guides and protects the submissive partner. ● Dominate: To assume or exert control over; to take psychological power over. ● Dominatrix: A dominant, usually female and often a prodomme. ● Domme: A title given to a woman on the controlling and decision making side of a power exchange relationship. She leads, guides and protects the submissive partner. ● EE: An abbreviation for spankEE ● Endorphins: Naturally-occurring opiate-like chemicals produced in the brain, in response to pain, which block pain and can produce a euphoric sensation. ● Enema: The act of introducing water or soapy water, into the bowel or lower intestine, often by means of a nozzle inserted into the anus and connected to a liquid-filled bag or bulb. Sometimes used as a form of punishment. ● ER: An abbreviation for spankER ● Fetish: Formally, a non-sexual object whose presence is required for sexual arousal or climax. Informally, anything not generally considered sexual which arouses a person Many feel it’s anything of or relating to BDSM in general. ● Figging: The act of inserting a “finger” of peeled ginger root into the anus to create a burning sensation. Often used as a form of punishment. ● FLR: Female led relationship ● Hard Limits: A limit which is considered to be absolute, inflexible, and non-negotiable. No means No here. ● Implement: A device used to spank with. ● IRL: In real life ● Leather Butt: A term used to describe a butt that has become stiff or leathery to the touch after a spanking. ● Limits: A boundary, which may be set by a dominant or a submissive, or spanker or spankee, which specifies a point past which any activity will not go. ● Little: One who takes the role of a submissive younger person in age play. ● LTR: Long Term Relationship ● Masochism: The practice of seeking pain because it is pleasurable. ● Masochist: Someone who feels pleasure from receiving pain. ● Master: A male dominant, usually in a TPE relationship. ● Mentee: A person who is advised, trained or counseled by a mentor. ● Mentor: A more experienced or more knowledgeable person who helps to guide a less experienced or less knowledgeable person. To give advice or train. ● Mistress: The female equivalent of a master. ● Munch: An informal social gathering of people interested in spanking (or BDSM), usually in a public place such as a restaurant, for the purpose of meeting other like-minded people and socializing. A munch is generally a low-pressure gathering without overt BDSM or spanking overtones. ● Naughty: Disobedient; badly behaved. ● Negotiation: The process of discussing and determining the practices and boundaries of the relationship. ● Newbie: Someone new to spanking or BDSM. ● Nonsexual: Not involving sex or sexual activity at all!! ● NSA: No strings attached ● OTK: Over the knee. A style of spanking in which the dominant or top is seated and turns the submissive or bottom over his or her knee so as to spank the bottom. ● PE or Power Exchange: A situation where two people consensually and voluntarily agree to a power relationship in which one of them assumes authority and one yields authority. This relationship may be for a predetermined time, or indefinite. Relationships based on indefinite power exchange are often referred to as TPE relationships. ● Power: The ability to act or produce an effect. The possession of control, authority, or influence over others. ● Prodomme: A female dominant who earns money by dominating her clients. ● Protocol: Any defined, enforced code of behavior which a person is expected to abide by. ● Punishment: A penalty imposed for wrongdoing, failure to behave, etc. ● Rituals: A set of actions typically performed for their symbolic meaning. ● RL: Real life ● Role Play: Any activity in which the people involved assume roles or identities different from their own and act out a scenario. ● S&M or Sadomasochism: Any activity or practice involving the inflicting or receiving of pain. ● Sadism: The practice of inflicting pain because it is pleasurable. ● Sadist: Someone who feels pleasure from inflicting or causing pain. ● Safe Call: A practice sometimes used as a safety measure when meeting a new partner for the first time. The safe call is a prearranged telephone call made to a trusted friend at a specific time to let that friend know that everything is okay. ● Safe Word: A predefined "code word" which a spankee can use to stop a spanking if it becomes too much. This helps in a situation Safe Callwhere the word "no" might not actually mean no. (like when it hurts, but you don’t want it to stop!) In such cases, for safety's sake it's often helpful to have some word that does mean "no," and is a word unlikely to come up otherwise. ● Safety Net: A group of people who come together to provide meaning, support, ease, safety and security to each other’s lives. ● Scene or Session: A specific period of activity. ● Slave: A submissive, usually in a TPE relationship. People who self-identify as "master" or "slave" often see dominance or submission as a cornerstone of their identity, an essential part of who they are as people; this self-identify may affect and inform almost every aspect of their lives. ● Soft Limits: Something you are wary of and don’t want to try at this time, but might be willing to try in the future. ● Spank: To strike on the buttocks. ● Spanko: Someone who is into the spanking lifestyle. ● SSC: Safe, Sane and Consensual. A code of conduct which holds that any activity between adults is acceptable as long as it is safe, sane, and consensual. ● Sting: A sensation of quick, sharp pain. ● Sub Drop: A sudden feeling of fatigue, irritability and/or depression because of plummeting good mood, endorphins and adrenaline dissipating. ● Submission: The act of giving up control. ● Submissive: One who assumes a role of submission in a power exchange relationship. A submissive is a person who seeks a position of or occupies a role of intentional, consensual powerlessness, allowing another person to take control over him or her. ● Submit: To give up power or control. ● Subspace Symptoms: Detachment, or feeling like you’re in “another world”, a deep feeling of calm or well being, Extreme relaxation or floppiness, a deep sense of pleasure, slowed responses to stimuli or commands, difficulty speaking, feeling dizzy, giggly, or high and time dilation. Some call it a trance-like euphoria of overtly intense emotions. ● Subspace: That very special place the submissive, masochist or spankee enters when he/she reaches a natural chemical high and/or change in mental and/or emotional balance of the brain chemistry, and state of mind. The sympathetic nervous system responds to BDSM because of the typical inclusion of pain and pleasure. A release of the natural chemicals epinephrine, endorphins and enkephalins contribute to drug inducing emotions. These chemicals are a part of the fight or flight response which stimulates a morphine-like result. Best achieved when total trust is in place with his/her Dominant partner, and one totally immerses themselves in an intense scene. ● Switch: 1. One who can change roles, being either Spanker or spankee at different times or with different partners. 2. A thin flexible green branch of a tree such as a willow tree, used for striking people; similar to a cane. ● Tawse: An instrument used for striking or whipping a person, consisting of a thick, heavy leather strap which splits into two or three parallel tails at the striking end. ● Thud: A sensation of heavy, dull impact. ● Top: One who administers a spanking to another person but does not have psychological control or power over that person. ● Topping From the Bottom: When you simultaneously adopt both roles. This could be in the form of giving commands, refusing requests or moving to control the location of impacts during a spanking. Generally, it is frowned upon to try to force the Dominant’s/Spanker’s hand to do something they do not wish to do. ● TPE or Total Power Exchange: A relationship in which one person surrenders control to another person for an indefinite duration, and in which the relationship is defined by the fact that one person is always dominant and the other is always submissive. ● TTWD: This Thing We Do ● Vanilla: A word used to describe people who have no interest or involvement in Spanking or BDSM.
  46. 3 points
    It seems like you are unsure of male spankers. This is just a thought, since your partner is open in relationship seek a female spanker. Let her turn that butt bright red then go home to partner for sex. He may see just how turn on and wet you are from the spanking that your next one could be from him. He may also like seeing your butt red.
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  49. 2 points
    I’m going to talk about something that’s been in my heart. I guess I would just appreciate some feedback of any sort. But really, I just need this off my chest please. I’m not even sure if I’m the right group for this sort of thing 😭 but here I go. So a thing happened in the past. It was a misunderstanding type of thing but it made me decide to end the dynamic between me and my mentor. He was my mentor for 6 months before I started college all the way until my first summer after my first year of college. Then bam, it ended during the summer. Zoom past the ending of such a dynamic by about 3 months. We finally have a decent conversation about it and hash out what all transpired. All ends well, but no more dynamic, (all my decision) just a friendly friendship instead. That’s the back story. Before we hashed things out, I was back in college for about a month. As summer was coming to an end, I promised myself that my second year was going to be different. I was going to be responsible as hell. And I was doing so well for that first month of August (ie just being able to manage my time well and just myself in general) then everything got super hard, and I started my old ways of putting things off and just altogether not taking care of myself well. What’s currently come to my mind, is the coincidence of the timing. When we hashed things out, I was still doing very good with myself. Flailing in style, but still being able to push myself to do what I needed. I’m just a little worried that because I’m remaining friends with my old mentor (ie just sending memes and playing videos games) that I’m slowly falling back into my old headspace of desire for structure. Our dynamic wasn’t anything special. I just used to ask permission for everything. He never cared much about things like my schooling. Only about safety with parties and people. That’s one reason why I didn’t want to try the dynamic again. I didn’t want that same old song. Even so, as I’m flailing with my studies, I can’t help but crave for someone to care as much as I do about my behavior with myself. Things that I told myself before this scary overthinking fear thing was that for the first month of college my class was really laid back and there was more time to get things done. (My university isn’t the average school. We have a block system and only take one class per month) Then the second month‘s class was a little more intense and this current month’s class is super intense. But I can’t help but feel like I’m going crazy. I don’t understand why I’m falling back into my old patterns of procrastination and I don’t understand why I crave for someone to help in force structure when I was doing so great by myself for that first month, and I don’t understand why my brain is bringing in my old mentor but current friendship into the mix of extra ness in my brain. I just don’t know how to stop the destructive way in which I’m doing things, and it bothers me that I keep assuming that a spanking would help me in any way. I am 21 years old. I have a friend who is 20 years old and she is SO good at taking care of herself and her responsibilities. I am so scared because I don’t understand why I am hindering myself in such a way. I know what I have to do, I know what I’m doing is not okay, I know that I’m in college for a reason, and I don’t understand why that isn’t reason enough for me to stop my bullshit antics and get with the program. I’m a little extremely upset. And I only blame myself of course. It hurts that a part of me is blaming my spanko part of myself. Whenever I am not meeting my personal desires of excellence, all I think about is “maybe a spanking would help” but that’s literally such a pointless thought. I want my mind to be able to just work with my heart, and just fuck! I don’t know what to do. It seems the duh type of answer would be JUST DO WHAT YOU GOTTA DO BITCH. But yeah, I rambled a lot but that’s basically what’s all in my mind while I’m about to pull this all nighter for something I put off. I just needed it OUT of my mind. I keep whining and whining about the predicament I put myself in while working on my homework, and it’s pissing me off. Sorry if this sort of thing that I just put down isn’t allowed. I’m sorry if it bothers anyone, but thank you spankingneeds in general for being a place for me to be able to be open and true to myself. Let me know if there was a better place for me to comment such a long little discussion type of weird thing I just did.
  50. 2 points
    I like the phrase "warm your bottom" for a spanking. And if belts, straps, or something similar is used, I always call it a whipping. It just sounds a little more intense to me, and I just love it for some reason.
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