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  1. It think it depends upon what you mutually agree to. If I am working with someone who has a set of rules and she does something outside of those rules I don't feel that I can "force" a spanking on her because that would be non-consensual. If the offense is just something that irritates me, I don't feel I have the right to demand discipline. However, if it is something more serious, then we would probably both recognize that a spanking is deserved. In that case, I would suggest a spanking to see if she would agree. If she knows that her behavior was egregious and is sorry she did it, I don't think the case for a spanking would be too hard to make. Something like, "I want you to consider your behavior. Don't you agree that you should be spanked for that?" Then I would have consent. Most of the people I have interacted with are pretty honest with themselves when it comes to things like that. They may not want the spanking, but they may know that it is deserved.
    7 points
  2. GreyWolf's story #2. This was written in mid 2020, and is one of my more compact stories, coming in at under 1000 words. Old School Erin was careful to not let the screen door bang closed behind her, mindful of all the times as a girl her mother had chided her for doing so as she bounded down the front steps on her way to school. Her husband Andrew, waiting at the foot of the steps, was somewhat surprised to see her wearing a tartan skirt and a simple blouse. As she approached him she thrust a dark object into his hand, and he knew immediately to slide it into his front trousers pocket. She smiled coyly and they joined hands for their evening walk, something they had started in the first year of marriage. It was a great way to really share their day without electronic distractions. They had been married for two years now, and this trip to her home town was the first where Andrew could relax and get to know her family. There was still some chill in the April air, and the moon was low in the sky but offered some light by which to walk and talk. Erin said “Let’s go by my old elementary school. It’s a short walk, and I haven’t seen it in years.” Answering in the affirmative, Andrew began to understand as he fingered the object in his pocket. It was a smooth oblong about 8 inches long, very much in the spirit of a hair brush without bristles, and stained very dark with smooth polished finish. Erin has insisted on bringing it this trip, promising its use would be discrete. As they approached the old brick school Erin stopped and looked up at what was once an imposing structure to her. Now the century old building somehow seemed smaller, and quaint compared to her memories. Looking about she lead Andrew around the side, where there was a gate leading to the schoolyard in the back. Giving the latch a try, she was grateful to find it unlocked. Looking around once more they entered, quietly closing it behind. Heading around the back of the building, Erin saw that while much was new — the playground equipment, a well padded playing surface and the like — much had not changed at all. The fence around the back with the hedges and vines covering it more thoroughly than she remembered, the cornices and other protrusions on the building, and of course the concrete steps leading up to the double back doors all brought a flood of memories. Tonight she had one particular recollection in mind, something she had recounted to Andrew about the fourth grade. She had gotten into a fight with another girl, and just when she had the upper hand she found herself in the grips of one of the Sisters who ran the school. The punishment was immediate, with several swats from a ruler delivered right there in the schoolyard. That was the start of a long awakening for Erin. “Where did it happen?” inquired Andrew. Returning to the present from the fog of the past, Erin pointed to the side of the steps. Recalling the Sister pulling her off the other girl “She lead me by the arm over to the right side of the stairs.” Taking Erin’s arm, Andrew then lead her to the spot. “I had to lean way over with my arms out and hands on the steps” as she then demonstrated, looking over her shoulder at Andrew. Andrew glanced around again, his heart racing has he reached out and grasped the hem of Erin’s skirt, carefully raising onto her back. He reached into his pocket and withdrew the ebony paddle, looking again over his shoulder to be sure they were alone. Returning his eyes to his wife he noted both her very high cut underwear, and the fact that she was no schoolgirl! Erin now felt the cool evening chill on her exposed rear, and with it came a flood of fear and excitement. The moon was coming more into view now, and its light would illuminate her soft skin well enough to see what was coming. The first swat was somewhat tentative, but the second sent a chill up her back. The sound was surprisingly low, more like a footstep on a hard floor than the crack one heard inside. Andrew paused to look around one more time, before applying the paddle again, this time with increasing impact. As this continued, Erin’s rear began to bob and weave a bit. After another dozen he stopped for a moment and listened, but there was nothing but silence and Erin’s breathing. Commencing with the spanking he applied at least another dozen before she let him know her limit and he immediately stopped, slipping the paddle back into his trousers pocket. Erin turned to him and flung her arms around his neck. As she pressed her head against the side of his he felt just a bit of tearing on his cheek. Her skirt had fallen back in place, but he reached behind her and raising it rubbed her now hot cheeks with both hands. At that she hugged him even tighter and he pulled her hips toward his. No words were exchanged as hand in hand they continued walking about the schoolyard and back out the way they had entered. The moon had now risen quite a bit more, and the streets seemed brightly lit as they continued on their walk, with the world none the wiser, but their bond ever stronger.
    6 points
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  4. Hi all, not sure if this is the right forum to post in, but I am a 24 year old happily married wife looking for an experienced spanker to spank me. I'm curious if you think I have a spankable rear and what kinds of punishments I might be able to receive. Any tips for safety/privacy? Attached is a photo of my bottom.
    5 points
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  6. A few days ago, a FB group I had just joined reached their 1k follower mark. An admin there posed a challenge as to who would be up to receiving 1000 swats in celebration of their reaching 1000 followers. I then replied with "Me! Me! Me! Pick me! 🙋🏻‍♀" Well, the Local Uncle happened to read that and said he would be glad to give them to me...and turned out he was available. Here is my account on this session, which by the way, wasn't only to fulfill a challenge, but it was also a discipline/punishment spanking of sorts... He had me sit on his knee for a few minutes. Asked me if I was sure I wanted to proceed with the spanking. I said yes. He said, "There's one problem..." I gave him a questioning look and he added: "Your jeans are still on. They need to come down." I stood up. I took my jeans off, folded them and put them on the arm of the sofa. He took my hand and helped me over his lap. My spanking began over my panties while I was over his lap. First his hand. Then hairbrush. Then whippy rod.. Then the paddle. I asked, "Was that 1000?" He answered, "Not even close." He rubbed my bottom and would start again in that same order...from hand to paddle. When he stopped, I'd ask again: "It's been 1000 now, right?" "No, not quite." Then he pulled my panties down to just below my sit spot. And again in same order started with hand...and ended with paddle. Then I felt and heard him unbuckling his belt while I was still over his lap. He whipped me with his belt. After he rubbed my bottom...and also my back. Asked how I was doing...I was fine...sore bottom, but fine. Once more he used his hand and all the implements including his belt. He rubbed and patted my bottom...and resting his hand for a bit feeling the heat from my seat. He helped me up and had me sit bare bottomed on his knee. He held me close. I buried my face in the crook of his neck..his beard tickling my nose a little. I tell him Thank you. He says: "We're not done yet, little girl." I whined. He had me go grab a chair to bend over. He gave me about 5 last hard ones with the paddle. We hugged for a bit before he reached for his belt to slide it back onto his waist. I picked my panties back over my bottom and put my jeans back on. Sore bottom. Happy heart. I felt every bump on the road on the way home in his truck. Ouchiiieee!
    5 points
  7. 5 points
  8. Exactly who brought it up or how we came to even talk about it, I don’t remember anymore. But at age 15, a female friend and I discovered we shared an interest in spanking. It was me who first took the initiative to spank her. I still remember how we were very quiet and flustered about the whole thing as she slowly lowered her jeans in my bedroom. Nobody else was home. She was too embarrassed to lower her panties so she went over my knee with her white cotton briefs still covering her bottom. I also still remember how I very gently placed my hand on her bottom, the first time I had ever been so close to a girl, especially in such an intimate position. Her butt felt warm and soft and deliciously round under my hand. I smacked her gently, enjoying how her bottom wiggled in response. It barely stung. Our faces were much redder than her buttocks the whole time. Just as I was about to smack a bit harder, we heard a car pull up in the driveway and that was the end of our first careful spanking adventure. It was my mother who came home and she never learned we had been doing anything but our homework. A few days later, we met at her home for “homework”. We flipped a coin to see who would be the one getting spanked this time and I lost the toss. She mentioned she wanted to spank me on my bare bottom but I refused because I didn’t get to spank her on the bare either, the first time. We had a bit of a discussion about it with her saying that it was different for boys and me saying it wasn’t fair. In the end, we decided to let fate decide for us again. Another coin was flipped and I lost the toss again. I insisted we try for 2 out of 3 to which she agreed but again fate decided against me. I had to be bare. Mercifully she agreed that my underpants wouldn’t come down until I was over her knee. It was time. With slightly jittery hands I undid the belt of my jeans, the button and the zipper. I carefully lowered them to around my knees and positioned myself over her knee. She was seated on the bed so being over her lap was pretty comfortable. To my surprise, she didn’t waste any time! With a quick tug, she pulled my underpants down to below my buttocks. I was too surprised and embarrassed to say anything. I was also painfully aware of something growing in my nether regions which only added to my embarrassment at being exposed. Those first few slaps were the first I ever received from someone else. I had done some self-spanking before but this was different and arguably much better. I felt it a little but it wasn’t painful or anything. “You’re getting red,” she said and I could hear the smile in her voice. “Yes, of course,” I said. “Does it hurt when I smack you like this?” “A little,” I replied honestly. “Should I do it harder?” I both wanted that and didn’t want it at the same time. The question confused me, as I remember. My brain only came up with one answer. “If you like,” I said. I don’t remember her reply but I do remember that she liked it. A lot. She began smacking my exposed buttocks harder and now I really did feel it sting. She mentioned her hands hurt but that didn’t seem to stop her. I felt the heat building and actual discomfort setting in. No car pulled into the driveway to save me from my spanking. At this point my brain felt it necessary to remind me that she played tennis and that she was near the top of the leader-board for her age group. I began to see why! It didn’t take long before it really began to hurt and my hand flew back to shield my buttocks. Had she been an experienced spanker, this would definitely have caused problems for me but it stopped her. She was concerned if it had been too much or too hard. I was honest that it hurt quite a bit. She asked if it was enough and at that moment, I felt that it had been. She let me up and I noticed that mercifully any growth in my nether regions had gone. A check in the mirror showed me that my teenage buttocks had been reddened nicely and they were also warm to the touch. “You look very red,” she agreed and there was definitely a blush and a smile on her face when she said so. That smile was a sign foreshadowing how this relationship would develop but for now we were both inexperienced and just happy to have found someone to share our secret desire with. There was no internet back then and until we discovered by accident and luck that we shared this kinky secret, we believed we were alone with this strange desire. We were shy about exploring it and had to do it at times when we had sufficient privacy. Her first spanking was a bit of a let-down because we’d been interrupted but my first spanking was the opening salvo of many more exciting adventures. But that’s a story for another time.
    4 points
  9. The need for spankings is more common among males than we realize, but I believe that societal stereotypes cause many guys to feel ashamed of this need. For some, the shame is so deep that the need is kept buried. We're each wired differently, but I am attracted to men who offer the gift of submission. And, it truly is a gift. We can't force someone to submit to us. They can do so as an act and play the role, but I'm talking about authentic submission, which comes from the mind and heart. Authentic submission is a gift, and it's a precious one. I don't take it for granted. Furthermore, expressing this degree of respect and vulnerability does not make a male less of a man. To the contrary, I see it as a sign of inner strength to be that humble.
    4 points
  10. Arnica works wonders for bruises. I had a gyno appointment once when my butt was black and blue. I told my doc before she saw and assured her that it was consentual. She was and is supportive of my being a spanko.
    4 points
  11. Everyone's tolerance level is different. A spanking that would have one person in tears might have another person laughing. It is more about learning your partner than anything.
    4 points
  12. Yes a maintenance spanking is just what he needs. I think fact that she scolds him is a good sign. In our marriage since I have increased the severity of my husband maintenance spankings, the end result has decreased the number of punishment spankings. A regular weekly spanking creates a bond in a marriage. It has worked wonders in our marriage in which I control. MS L.
    4 points
  13. I am sure each person has their own individual idea of what they are interested in and why. But in general I expect it is more to do with basic human nature than social stereotypes. For me I think spanking triggers kind of a maternal tough love that is quite incompatible with any romantic attraction, and I would not be romantically attracted to someone needing spankings. But I think a lot of men would like to be spanked by a potential romantic partner. Then again my real life spanking experience has only been within the family which is coupled with a bit of fantasy outside that. So I am not sure what motivates people to seek real life spanking partners. It would require a good deal of mental and emotional energy to be a good disciplinarian, so if it is not done for parental love and not done for sex, I could understand why a disciplinarian might want to be paid.
    4 points
  14. Yes! We would love to meet you! Some of us would love to spank you! Some of us would love to be over your knee getting spanked by you! Some of us just want to know your spanking fantasies! All are welcome!!
    4 points
  15. In my opinion, a wedding night otk spanking and daily honeymoon spankings using a different implement for each day, would be a great way for an EE and ER to begin their marriage!
    4 points
  16. Well...I am a submissive servant wife who is spanked and disciplined. So...I guess we meet the dynamic combo of my consensual submission with discipline accountability. So...my submission goes pretty deep really...because I have complete trust in my husband's love and judgement. I know he would not tell me to do anything truly injurious or contradictory to our shared faith in God. I am also pretty much a masochist as well, and my husband is very much a strong dominant. So...a marriage made in heaven for some...lol...a nightmare for others...lol. So..."unique" means of "control" related to my areas of submission? I think "that" is the inquiry, right? Like I said...I submit in all ways, really. I am "his" in my heart, but being "his" does not cancel out my identity, if that makes any sense...lol. I guess I know what I mean, even if I cannot explain it well 🙂. But, I do not how "unique" these "controls" I submit to are...but here is what I throw on the table for you all. My clothing...completely controlled by him. Almost always conservative, always feminine. Undergarments, quite the opposite...lol. Often sexy, not even practical, but pleasing to him. He either picks or approves all my clothing purchases, and he either instructs or often chooses what clothing I will wear each day and for all purposes. I dunno...I do not hear many talk about this type of thing here, although it might be more prevalent than I realize. My health and fitness...very much submitted over to his control. This has been life changing for me, as "before" my husband...I had terrible health practices and was thin because of drugs and alcohol, but not strong and fit. He keeps me on task physically...and keeps me providing good nutrition for myself and our family thru cooking and meal planning. I am now so much healthier and fit than when I was 20, but I can tell you my husband and his sometimes "Marine drill sergeant-like" personal training style, coupled with that belt of his...has held me accountable to continue. Sexual fulfillment. I will not get graphic...lol...but submitting to his every desire...also pleases me as much, if not more. But...before my husband...in reality I was the "user" and "manipulator" of sexual partners solely to satisfy myself...and not concerned for my partner's pleasure. So...I really was a slut, and I was a very self centered prostitute. But now...I am still a whore, but only my husband's whore. I do still sometimes have residual "slut" tendencies...now and then...but he keeps them focused on him with his belt as needed. I also submit to his "guidance" and "monitoring" regarding my commitment to "spiritual disciplines" to grow in my personal relationship with God. I know some here might be repulsed by this, but this has been perhaps the most beneficial of all ways in which I have submitted to his control. Really, he is more like a "mentor" to me in this realm...but if he sees me growing lazy or inattentive to regular personal prayer, Bible-reading, attending worship, and participating in ways I can serve others for Jesus...he helps me stay or get back on track. That "sometimes" might get me the belt....which I have grown to appreciate even thru the pain, because it keeps me from digressing to the way I was before I came to faith in Jesus. But, please understand, I "want" to grow closer to the Lord and live better like He wants me to. My husband helped me find a faith far different than that which I experienced growing up, and I love my life now. So..he has never "forced" his religion on me, but I have gladly "chosen" it...really...because my husband was the first man I ever met who was strong and happy and kind and very true to his faith. I welcome his commitment to helping me grow and learn. I should also say...he has made it clear...if I should ever want to walk away from this faith for whatever reason....I can...without repercussion. But, honestly...I have no desire to do so....and I accept his belt taken to me when necessary to keep me focused on Jesus. I will say this. We have been together over 15 years now as a married couple. I do not get disciplined nearly as much for the above areas as I once did in the earlier years of us together. That is not to say I "never" get disciplined for issues related to those things, but far less than I use to get my hide tanned...lol. My biggest areas of challenge usually involve issues around... Anger management....minimizing waste...vulgarities in language...crankiness....loss of focus...safe decisions and behavior...acceptable house cleaning and chore performance....poor decisions....staying within housekeeping budgets...failures to communicate well or even seek to communicate....time management...and unwarranted complaining....being snippy or "smart-mouthed." The big no-no stuff...withholding info or things from him....being dishonest...being deceptive...not being a good mother...drinking without permission (I am a recovered alcoholic)...losing my temper with someone drastically in a way that is not helpful... I hope me sharing these things "might" help some of you in your dynamic...whatever yours might look like. I think there are many here who do not include "submissiveness" in their spanko...so this might not be of much value for you...I understand.
    4 points
  17. After a through spanking and corner time , writing lines is a very effective way of discipling your spankee. Each Sunday I assign 50-100 lines after his maintenance spanking, punishment spankings is a more extensive assignment 100-200. I find it makes my husband more humble and is a good extension of his spankings. Unfortunately he must finish his lines before I will permit him to watch football. Also these lines must be neat and numbered. Does anyone else use line writing?Do you as a spanker assign lines or do you as a spankee write lines ? MS. L.
    4 points
  18. Sorry for the break. I had asked my wife to spank me, seeming out of the blue. She waited for the punchline, nope that was it. She looked at her hand and said her arthritis and other problems make her hands fragile. Can I use the flogger and riding crop we have? YES MAM. I put them on the bed with a belt and a flip flop in plain view. Then I went to the hardware store. Maybe she searched how to spank while I was gone. I got back and I showered first. I waited in bed next to the implements thinking about what was next. She got done, dryed off and asked how we should begin. What a buzz. We were both naked and I put 2 pillows on the middle of the bed. I laid over the pillows and said I will let you know if it's too much. Face down ass up hearing her sit on the bed and pick up something. Whap it's the flip flop. Wow what a woman. She proceeds to beat my ass like an expert, the flip flop, belt, we're a blur maybe 20 of each, nice touch a little too fast. The flogger is a cheap novelty, that was next, she made it work well. I was writhing around a bit and some of the strikes made me grunt and jump. She asked if I was doing ok and I asked her if she had done this before because it was great. She didn't answer and picked up the crop. She rubbed the crop on my ass poking it between my cheeks and tapping my nutsack. I spread my legs inviting her in. She lightly cropped my thighs and said she was a little worried about me. I assured her I'm good so she says my ass is red. I ask her for a bit more. She cropped most of the places that weren't red along with several shots to the balls. I got up on my knees bending over more as she finished up. It was awesome and I told her so. We cuddled for a bit. My hard on was obvious the whole time. She gave me a blow job and I was done too quickly. Wow my ass was on fire which lasted 2 days. We have not spoken about is since. I want to play it cool for a while before I ask for another. What a woman.
    4 points
  19. I've sent hubby to work after being thoroughly paddled. I'm sure it makes his day interesting.
    4 points
  20. Spanking is very complicated for me...I've felt many of the things people talked about on this thread at different times... sometimes spanking is the most adult, erotic thing in the world for me...just thinking about it I've had orgasms...other times it's very intimate and caring but not really arousing...especially when I feel more childlike...or it can just be a light hearted, friendly game...or an embarrassing, painful punishment I feel like I need...or even a very transcendent, spiritual experience... it can be confusing because there are all these aspects for me...but I feel blessed to have experienced all these emotions around it...and that's why spanking is so special to me :)
    4 points
  21. When I was very new to the lifestyle maybe 19 or so, I was spanking a friend from college at a motel and in the early stages of the spanking when she was just getting vocal we had a knock on our hotel door that sent us scrambling, her to cover up and me to answer the door. It was the lady from the front desk who stated that although she was sure that the spanking was well deserved, we should try covering up the noise with the TV. She even suggested the Spanish tv channel because that has shows with a lot of yelling in them. For reference this motel room had a nice living room area with tables and chairs and a couch and then a back bedroom area. We were doing the spanking in the front living room area because the light from the window reflected nicely on her bare bottom (I was young as I said). We quickly realized that doing it in the bedroom area provided more sound cover. There is a follow up to this story, a few weeks later we went back to the same motel and the same lady was at the front desk. She smiled when she saw us and she assigned us the room at the far end, away from anyone else. It wasn't busy so there was nobody within 6 or 7 rooms of us.
    4 points
  22. Yes. On my 50th b'day, my wife had me in my b'day suit, over her knee, on our living room couch, when the front door opened, & in walked my mother-in-law. She stopped dead in her tracks, as she took in the scene before her, (I couldn't see her at 1st, as the door was behind me, so she was at the best possible vantage point, to see it all). I tried getting up, to cover up, but my wife was having none of that, telling me, "it's too late, mom's already seen me spanking you". Then my mil, shocked the hell out of me when she started laughing, saying "this is a whole different side of you markiee, that I've never seen before, but hope to see a lot more of in the future, & I too, want to wish you a happy b'day". And with that, over her knee I went. Now, I get spanked, (in my b'day suit), by both women, whenever they think I need it, or are just in that mood.
    4 points
  23. I've never been walked in on, but when I was growing up I went to see if a friend wanted to go to the park to watch a baseball game. As was normal, I went to the back door into their kitchen and through the window in the door I saw his mother bare butt over his Dad's lap kicking and getting spanked with the hairbrush she used on her kids and catching hell for over spending. She must have been there a while because her bottom was be.et red and her panties were kicked off. I watched for a few minutes in delight until it seemed to be ending and tiptoed away before I was caught peeking.
    4 points
  24. I've started writing a few short stories in my free time. Here is one of my first ones. An afternoon strolling of dogs leads to quite an interesting conversation with a chance stranger. The dogs have been bouncing off the walls all morning. The first snow fall drives them crazy. Guess it would be best to burn off some of their energy and brace the winter that's alright knocking. Finally after unpacking all the winter gear and getting the dogs leashes we take off and in snapping winds. My area has a few schools so there are lots of fields for them to play. Journeying to one of the fields I preferred since trees block some wind we crossed by a school, annoyingly my lil pup started barking at a teacher walking to her car. Her training was going fine but still was anxious around strangers. The lady noticed us and remarked “Well well well, isn't that a big voice for such a lil cutie.” “I am very sorry to have disturbed you ma’am , as you can tell I haven’t trained the little one enough yet.” The lady approached and of course the big voiced little hid behind her bigger sister and started wagging her tail uncontrolling. So much so her bum was shaking too. The lady said hi to both of them and gave them some pets. After some exchangers about the weather and the day she commented about the dogs “See , all nice, nothing scary here. You learn better than most kids.” We smiled at each other and I asked “Long day then?” “Children these days… No discipline at all. Not only are their parents letting them run rampant but I can’t discipline or scold them either. “She signed “It is it atleast nice to know, although saddening, that the next generation is worse than mine.” I chimed “What I would give to have some authority and capability to punish those brats” she remarked in a half smile. Haha, I’d gladly not be responsible for my own consequences again. She gave me an odd look. “How so?” “Well when I or well when everyone was young they didn’t need to think about the consequences of their actions because someone else would bare them or explain to them what they were. Then if needed someone would administer them. Nowadays, or well being an adult. I am fully responsible for everything. It is surprisingly time consuming if you are trying to make it in life. “Do carry on. I am intrigued about you query” I half laughed and proceeded to carry on, “Well I am doing a lot of self improvement and choice analysis. One of my main issues is adhering to the threat of consequences. Most of my everyday life choices like diet, workout regiment and so on are completely dependent on the consequence of being fat and health issues years into the future. Though those are powerful motivators they are far into the future and don’t impose immediate concern. In the mornings when I just wanna grab a muffin or skip the gym it doesn’t feel like enough of a threat or consequence to invoke a more or less kick in the butt response per say immediate punishments have.” Well I am very surprised to see someone so young have the self awareness and passion to improve. But why can’t you have immediate punishment? “Well… I guess it is because there is no one to administer. Not to mention there isn't really a way to punish a college student with ya know? I am freely financially independent from my parents so asking for their authority again is counterintuitive since independence from them and being seen as equals is both our desired results. Besides, do you expect a college student to accept child consequences like time outs, curfews or groundings?” “I suppose you are too grown up for some punishments but how about like a weekly consequence or a schedule consequence if not all goals are met, even just regular discipline would keep you moving forward on a consistent basis if applied without you having failures.” “I appreciated you entertaining me. No one else really in my social circles seem to think this deep or intently especially about this kind of issue. However, I do agree with you that it does not create a solution for who does it or what the consequence is. “Well I don’t have a person in mind at the moment but let's talk about the punishment first and see if a person emerges after that. “ “Very well, what ideas do you have?” “Since you are an adult with a life it can’t very well impede your life. So groundings, curfews , taking away your phone or computer doesn't serve you. It needs to be an brief but intense correction of behavior” “I agree , so do you have an idea?” I started rambling before she could get her next words out. “ It would need to invoke certain emotional responses. After all punishment are used as behavior modifiers” “Yes, those emotions would be similar to any punishment so what do groundings , curfews etc have in common emotionally? And then what emotions do punishments invoke” She added Well obviously punishments imply something I don’t want to have happen, that’s the threat aspect. Since punishments happen when you do something wrong. The aim is either to establish regret/guilt for the action.” “Good what else?” She demanded. I started to think she might be ahead of me in this conversation and has a conclusion already but is nudging me to it. “Well socially it is embarrassing. When you were little, if you got invited over to a sleepover but you were grounded some friends would make fun of you for either getting in trouble or not making it. So I guess an element of humiliation or rather shame and embarrassment. Although it would be able to have the social aspect anymore because it could affect employment opportunities” “So…” in response she started. “It needs to be something you are adverse to. Or at least scared enough so that it provides a healthy amount of motivation but not intrinsically harsh that you won’t accept it” I nod. “Something that is humiliating to encourage avoidance” I nod again. “Well I might just have the thing for you but you won’t like” “Isn’t that the idea?”I chuckled. She paused and looked me over again with an almost analyzing glare. “Well, it’s funny you didn’t mention a certain typical childhood punishment that supplies an answer to all your questions. Though you might be part of the generation that stopped that” “Spanking?” I asked. “Indeed” she responded almost seductively. “To be honest. I think my parents would’ve. If it was not for the matter of me being such a boring child.“ “You mean good?” “Nope, boring. My idea of fun was cleaning things up and organizing. Laundry days were the best. My favorite toys were a bag of marbles I could color sort and lining up hot wheels neatly. I was also a completionist. So in school I couldn't stop until my homework was done. So naturally, how to teach or discipline a kid that does that? My parents had their hands filled with a unique situation.” “I see that is certainly a puzzling personality but I would love to have some students like that rather than whatever is going on with them now. Anyways, are you interested in being spanked?” She inquired. “Well I guess it does check all the boxes. Something I would want to avoid but would accept. Certainly embarrassing being nude in front of someone else for the purpose of punishment. Then not to mention I definitely would rather not it be known to those around me. Lastly it is quick and not heavily impacting my day to day life. So yes, I would say I would. “ She had almost a sinister smile. “Good, here my number. Text me once you get home, well work out the details but I expect to see you tuesday evenings and saturday mornings” A bit taken back I sheepishly agreed “Yes Ma’am” “Have a good evening young man, I expect we will get along nicely” She continued on after a couple more pets for my dogs and I briskly finished our stroll. Once I arrived home I held the number she wrote down next to my phone slowly punching the numbers in and messaging her “Hello Ma’am we met earlier today. You mentioned we should work out some of the finer details” “I’ve been waiting for your text.”
    3 points
  25. Hi - Great question Chawsee! The hairbrush! Depending upon my ER’s approval of course since he makes all spanking decisions. I think the hairbrush is the epitome of the perfect domestic discipline instrument! I love the historical aspect, collecting them from antique shops and wondering who could have been spanked with them before. I love the added intimacy of being over my ER’s knee as the hairbrush is vigorously applied to my bare bottom. The kicking, bucking, squealing, and tears that ensue so my ER has to hold me tighter with a stern reminder to be still. Perfect for pj bedtime spankings since always kept near my bed. Versatile and easy to be displayed on my nightstand, sofa side table, kitchen cabinet or in my purse as a daily reminder of our roles and rules. A common household item so if visible, guests don’t automatically assume they are also used for my discipline. So many varieties to choose from! For this EE, definitely the hairbrush!
    3 points
  26. ER = SpankER ee = Spankee
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  27. Hi Spankalona18 - Just to clarify…this will be your first spanking with your new ER, and is it also your First Spanking Ever?! The following comments are based on the assumption this may be your very first spanking. If my assumption is incorrect then ignore: If this is your very first spanking, I agree with others that embarrassment is a key component of spanking and punishment, but for your very first spanking feeling emotionally comfortable as as a brand new EE is even more critical! The very first spanking impacts all your views about spanking in general and your role as an EE from then on! Also you will already be at your most vulnerable! The embarrassment that you are even being spanked and positioning yourself over his lap will be enough. For a very first time spanking I would not have any pics! You will be so heady after your spanking, taking pics that may be released all over the internet (and no matter what your ER says they probably will!) is not the best time for decision-making. Maybe for a later session when you know him better. Also you said humiliation (teasing) would happen? Humiliation can be very damaging during your very first spanking if your ER doesn’t have experience providing effective aftercare. He will need to bring you back to feel strong and whole again! Your very first spanking is not the time to be or feel broken! Again, my view is that if this is your very first spanking; the only goal should be for a sound scolding, punishment, and corner time. Levels of embarrassment and humiliation can be varied during future sessions. I suggest you wear whatever you feel is comfortable for your very first spanking. I hope your session goes really well! ChicagoLady
    3 points
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  29. Correct - looks like this afterward.
    3 points
  30. I’ve recently had stuck in my head (among other things) an image from a disciplinary video I watched once. But I think it could be an interesting position in a variety of scenarios. Ee standing. Bent at a near 90 degree angle. Hands against a wall. It intrigues me, because if your feet are far enough from the wall and you moved your hands, you would almost certainly lose balance. Cheeks are presented, but not overly stretched. And it also would put the backside at a near perfect height for the Er to spank effortlessly. With close or long range implements.
    3 points
  31. My thought would be that to work such scenarios into your evolving rules. For example, you previously had a situation of blowing off an appointment, which was a new circumstance. But it is part of the rules now. Similarly for other unanticipated misbehaviors. As people have said, he doesn't have a blank check to spank you for all inappropriate behavior even if you agree it was inappropriate. (Of course, you could consent if you liked). But in that circumstance you should write a new rule to govern the future. And, as Nicole suggests, as the relationship develops over time the new rule might be written more loosely to entrust him with more discretion. -Ex.
    3 points
  32. When she spanks you respect her authority to do so be careful not to demand she does it your way be vulnerable and tell her what you think you deserve without demanding it. I find myself wanting her to do it my way but if I get pushy about it she refuses. Unless she is pissed off enough to do it her way then she does not like the way it makes her feel when she is punishing me out of anger. The guilt she feels for doing so is not good and will hurt the marriage in the long run. I have made it clear to her that I want her to punish me when she is angry and should not feel guilty but it's a process that takes time. She has gotten better about spanking me over things that really anger her but she still needs time to process and prepare. When she does eventually spank me for it the guilt I feel is still there but not hers she knows I deserved it and when the soreness is gone usually the gult goes with it
    3 points
  33. It sounds so nice that your spanking has become such a natural part of your married life so that there is no need of a silly hide and go seek and besides this practice grants your wife the chance to punish you then and there.
    3 points
  34. I love that! If there were more naughty behinds spanked the divorce rates would be lower!
    3 points
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