I might be the only one who feels this way but my heart just sinks when I log into the forums here on spankingneeds and see somebody new says something that can be summarized as this:
Young female, desperate, needs to be spanked, I live here, contact me.
Now assuming the post is real, and some of them are, it is followed by a stream of good and well-meaning people saying SLOW DOWN! However, when you go to the individual's profile you will see a list of men who have checked the profile and likely some have sent a PM. Now while this does not seem bad, many of the men who checked the profile have zero posts or community interactions. I am not saying lurkers are bad but in this case, it is suspicious. I am sure our admins also perk up in this situation.
But my heart sinks. A vulnerable person just advertised to some good and some not so good people they were vulnerable and willing to take a chance. I work with a lot with manipulative people in DC and in corporate America....and if needed I can play with the best of them. I know I could manipulate the situation to where I could gain trust and then violate that trust. I don't, but I am sure others on the web do.
So please be safe out there. Take your time. Slow down. I get desperate too. If you read some of my other posts I am no saint. I know what it is like to become irrational and "act out" or just want something so bad safety does not matter. But all that did was get me in trouble. Don't make decisions out of fear, anxiety, manipulation, or a drive to do something at all costs. There are good men and women on here that will spank you. But the good ones will take time to get to know you, they will normally be active in the community, and they will help you - NOT HARM YOU.
I also feel that in light of all the news coverage here in the US and even on this site. If you are assaulted speak up. I understand the legalities may not be in your favor, unfortunately, but if nothing else it is a warning to others. Even if it is just a PM to the admins, a few people you trust, or one person to speak for you. Please say something to somebody. Those of us who see spanking as more than a selfish interaction for ourselves will back you and be supportive. Please speak up to somebody honestly and truthfully. If you get really desperate PM me and I will listen.
RESPECT - ok, I have been accused of being a smart @$$ more than once in my life. But I can guarantee you that as a person I respect you. Many people on this site are the same way. When engaging a new ER or setting up a session make sure they respect you. Don't compromise because you are desperate. You do not want to end up in a situation where you are desperate for something from somebody who does not respect you.
For all the guys out there (sorry if I sound sexist but I am going with the most common case) - Respect and help people who are desperate. There is a song out right now in the Country genre about "taking a drunk girl home". Take a minute and listen to it. If you are a good ER and not just wanting to do something because you watched too much spanking porn, take care of the EEs out there. Especially the ladies, HAVE RESPECT. Make sure you are in this for the right reasons.
Ok – Rant over.