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  2. The Study

    1. General Spanking Discussion

      Discussion area for all those needing to give or receive spankings.To find friends or a Spanking Partner please check out our Meeting Hall section to see which best fits your needs.

    2. Spanking Safety and Advice

      This is the place to share advice and safety tips for those that may be new to the lifestyle or a refresher for those who have been around a while. 

    3. Roles

      Maybe you're not sure, maybe you’re a Spanker, Spankee, Switch, or another title (or even no title); if you want to talk about your role in this lifestyle and how it makes you feel this is a good spot.

    4. Relationships

      Discuss your relationships and your adult spanking needs. These can be non-sexual, platonic, intimate or romantic relationships. Success stories? Frustration? Advice? Do you have a "Vanilla" partner? Struggling with understanding a Spanko partner? Do you need help discussing your needs with a family member, friend or medical provider? Discussions of your needs in a healthy and appropriate way. These are posts of "coming out of the closet" so to speak. Do not be ashamed of who you are.

    5. Spank Me, Oh Yes! (erotic)

      Forum for those who have a sexual interest in spanking and being spanked. You can be both emotionally AND sexually attracted to the belt or paddle, so here's your place to talk about it.

    6. ... In the news

      Spanking Therapy and Spanking in General in the news.

  3. The Foundation

    1. Creating Structure/ Guidelines

      This is a spot for talking about how we create the structure of our various arrangements. What works for you. Perhaps you don’t have a set of rules for your arrangement and that’s OK too. But do you have boundaries or hard limits you want to talk through? What implements make you tick?

    2. Reflection Circle

      Sometimes you just want to (or have to) tell other people about the punishment you got (or gave). Come here for commiseration, or as a way to process through your experiences. What punishments have worked for you? Which made you (or your partner) feel frustrated or resentful?

    3. Inspirational Box

      A lifestyle such as many of us live can be very lonely and frustrating at times.. Seek, give and support one another in this section. (Music, quotes, prayers, songs, etc, all welcomed!!) This can also be used to talk about our religion and our desires.

    4. Our Health

      A place to talk about our emotional, physical, and sexual health -- without being judged.

  4. Meeting Hall

    1. Daily Banter

      Got something to share that is unconnected to spanking discussion? Talk about it here.

    2. Polls and Surveys

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    3. Regional Directory

      Find friends and connections. This is not a sexual posting section.

    4. Local Groups and Events

      Post your event idea's and your local events you have planned. 

    5. Pen Pals/ Online Dynamics

      If you are looking for online only please post here.

  5. The Library & Media Center

    1. Music, Paintings, Photographs & Videos

      Post all your art here. Please keep it tasteful! :)

    2. Writing Desk

      Fictional and non fictional writing. An outlet for your creative side of spanking, or life experiences, Stories, poetry. etc. Share it!

  6. The Game Room

    1. Forum Games

      Chatty fun. Good old time-wasting fun stuff!

    2. Role Playing Discussion & Recruitment

      For discussing role playing and recruiting participants for a role play of any sort (including age play and ABDL that includes discipline).

  7. The Outside World

    1. Debate Section

      Controversial subject matter. No flaming! NO DEBATES ABOUT CHILDREN!!!!

    2. External Links

      Links to other websites of interest to our community.

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    1. 1. Favorite Spanking Position?

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  • Recent Status Updates

    • badboyotk47

      8 years ago today I lost my mother...I really think she is happy to see that I got remarried and she would have loved my new wife.  I miss you and love you Mom!...Rest in peace!..We'll meet again someday!!
      · 0 replies
    • Zhal

      Lost my job on Tuesday, over something I should have prevented. Nice to know that my former employer wished they could have given me a lighter punishment.

      I also enrolled at Ross Medical in their Veterinary Assistant program. While I have filed for Unemployment, I am also looking for additional help to pay my bills. So I set up a GoFundMe page: https://gofund.me/7faa5393
      Thank you for any donations.
      · 0 replies
    • michgal.k

      So, was watching my BRAT TV looking for brat appropriate shenanigans.  Need fresh ideas. Turns out my fellows nurses had plenty of GREAT ideas. 
      · 0 replies
    • rubyredd

      For around nine months I was in a disciplinary arrangement with a long-time friend. We were spanking friends in our early 20s and regular friends, too. When that relationship ended abruptly, I felt an overwhelming sense of loss - almost akin to abandonment. Tops (ERs) are under a certain amount of pressure in that position - because within the agreement they have obligations to their partners - fairness, honesty, consistency, and so on. One of the things that I needed most was constancy - which, I think, can be difficult for many Tops to maintain long-term. 
      CONSTANCY - to be dependable; enduring.
      What happens when a spanking partner is not dependable or is inconsistent? When s/he "disappears" or doesn't reach out or doesn't consistently enforce rules? Have you ever been "ghosted" by a spanking partner? This question really applies to both Tops and bottoms. 
      I have chatted with several EEs who felt that sense of abandonment. And have seen a few posts about it, as well. It isn't always a final ending, but long periods of silence or limited contact - that can be damaging, too. Thoughts? Can a person be a "good Top" if they are not truly dependable? 

      · 6 replies
    • Pats112383

      Anyone locally in the northwest nj area that's looking to spank or be spanked, chat about spanking experiences and such,  please feel free to message me 
      · 0 replies
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