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Maybe you're not sure, maybe you’re a Spanker, Spankee, Switch, or another title (or even no title); if you want to talk about your role in this lifestyle and how it makes you feel this is a good spot.
Discuss your relationships and your adult spanking needs. These can be non-sexual, platonic, intimate or romantic relationships. Success stories? Frustration? Advice? Do you have a "Vanilla" partner? Struggling with understanding a Spanko partner? Do you need help discussing your needs with a family member, friend or medical provider? Discussions of your needs in a healthy and appropriate way. These are posts of "coming out of the closet" so to speak. Do not be ashamed of who you are.
This is a spot for talking about how we create the structure of our various arrangements. What works for you. Perhaps you don’t have a set of rules for your arrangement and that’s OK too. But do you have boundaries or hard limits you want to talk through? What implements make you tick?
Sometimes you just want to (or have to) tell other people about the punishment you got (or gave). Come here for commiseration, or as a way to process through your experiences. What punishments have worked for you? Which made you (or your partner) feel frustrated or resentful?
A lifestyle such as many of us live can be very lonely and frustrating at times.. Seek, give and support one another in this section. (Music, quotes, prayers, songs, etc, all welcomed!!) This can also be used to talk about our religion and our desires.
Decided to sit down with my wife and see if I could get her interested in spanking me once again, and she agreed. In fact, the next day she did exactly that. It was both painful and absolutely wonderful . . .
Atone - to make amends; to provide or serve as reparation or compensation for something bad or unwelcome
Atonement is the concept of a person taking action to correct previous wrongdoing on their part, either through direct action to undo the consequences of that act, equivalent action to do good for others, or some other expression of feelings of remorse.
One of the only times I think I need actual punishment is when I want to atone for some misbehavior that I feel truly bad about. Being punished has a cleansing effect - even without tears. Atonement, to me, isn't about speeding tickets or swear words or breaking arbitrary rules - it has to involve my attitude (being rude or hurtful).