How does a stress spanking compare with a punishment spanking. Is it less severe & how is it given?
... got me thinking about how I could describe the difference between stress-relief and punishment spankings, as I give and receive them. In this explanation, I recognize that I don't consider the very important differences in environment, soothing vs. lecturing talk, and the like - this only addresses the spanking.
A bottom has a "pain threshold," below which the pain is acceptable and above which the pain becomes agony and to be avoided. Also, as a spanking proceeds, that threshold of pain increases, so that a blow of a certain strength in the midst of the spanking will hurt less than that same blow at the start. Indeed, the concept of "warm-up" gradually raises the bottom's threshold of pain to better withstand harder blows later. Figure 1 shows this concept. Pain is indicated by the vertical position of a point; number of blows received by the horizontal. The threshold is low (but above zero) before the first blow ("1" in the figure); it increases with each blow, until it eventually reaches a ceiling (2 - "numbness?").
Figure 1: A person's pain threshold increases with the number of swats received.
The area above that pain threshold can be shaded and labeled "agony." (Figure 2).
Figure 2: Blue area above the rising pain threshold leads to AGONY!
Not only the pain threshold, but also the level of pain felt increases as a spanking proceeds. For a stress-relief spanking, the spanker slowly meters out the pain, increasing the intensity very slowly, so that the bottom's pain threshold is never exceeded (Figure 3). The separation between the accumulated pain of the spanking at any moment and the natural pain threshold at that moment is shown as (1), with the shaded area indicating pain from the spanking, always below the pain threshold. Eventually, the pain of the blows becomes maximum (at (2)), but never faster than the natural pain threshold increases.
Figure 3: Accumulating pain from stress-relief spanking (green curve and shading) is always below the bottom's rising pain threshold (blue line).
In a punishment spanking, the intent is to make EVERY swat exceed the person's pain threshold, causing agony and effecting lasting behavior change. Hence, even the first blow rises above the pain threshold, as do all others. The spanking is entirely in the region of "Agony" shown in Figure 4. That region, shown where the red crosshatch covers the blue shading, has been named by spanking science as the "I'll be good!" region (abbreviated the "IBG" in scholarly publications.) Indeed, one often hears of punishment spankings proceeding with little or no warmup. To maintain most or all of the spanking above the pain threshold, little or no warmup is used.
Figure 4: As shown by the red curve, the punishment spanking occurs entirely above the pain threshold, invoking the involuntary "I'll Be Good!!!" plea.
So in short, the skillful stress-relief spanker will read the subtle clues of his subject and constantly adjust his spanking to keep it below, but sometimes just below, the increasing pain threshold. The disciplinarian, on the other hand, will keep most of the spanking in the pain region, maximizing its corrective effect, while avoiding physical damage.