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Proposal: Erotic Spanking Forum

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We originally had a forum for those with some sexual aspect to spanking. I think a lot of Spanking providers fall into that category, besides the obvious "Submissive" aspect of taking a spanking.

How do you feel about restoring the erotic forum - still keeping the rest of the board spank-focused-only, but allowing a place for folks to talk about their sexual sides?

Also welcoming other suggestions for the site and boards.

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Yes, I've been trying to find such forum for a long time!! I'm new here and I wasn't here during the time they had the forum up. Let's get the forum started back up again, please? I really have some deep feelings about restoring the erotic forum, and over all erotic spanking.

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Absolutely. Spankers and spankees are involved in many aspects of the activity. Some do it for discipline, eros, stress reduction etc. Personally I enjoy all of the above. Too often the activity is pigeon holed and the more diversity that is represented , the better. I say go for it

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Absolutely. Spankers and spankees are involved in many aspects of the activity. Some do it for discipline, eros, stress reduction etc. Personally I enjoy all of the above. Too often the activity is pigeon holed and the more diversity that is represented , the better. I say go for it

am in total agreement here. spanking, as hard as we may try, cannot be sliced so fine that no eroticism or arousal factor can be ignored

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Our former mod team were anti-sex talk, but like ya'll have pointed out spanking and sex do intersect. Figure it's time to make our forum more open to those who understand both sides... without letting this disintegrate into a spanking porn site of course.

I am mostly asexual, but there is certainly a "thrill" in getting what I know I need, and submitting myself to a spanking. And I have "thanked" a dom as it was only fair to meet their needs when they were doing me the great favor of meeting my emotional needs.

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Our former mod team were anti-sex talk, but like ya'll have pointed out spanking and sex do intersect.

I am highly critical of anyone who asserts that spanking and eros can be separated from each other. We can suppress erotic desires and such, but anyone who "preaches against the fact that CP and sex are close cousins" is simply trying to banish their own personal demons in an untruth. old saying I heard once: "what we deny and then criticize in others, is what we ourselves want to conceal and purge from within"

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at the risk of risque-eity, how did you thank this dom? and was this dom a male-dom or female domme?

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We all know there are many excellent sites on erotic spanking. Why dilute this site's purpose?

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We all know there are many excellent sites on erotic spanking. Why dilute this site's purpose?

It's not a dilution in any way, as there is already a busy thread about erotic spankings............and NO there is no dirty talk there, just people discussing it. Although I prefer to separate the two types of spankings, disciplinary and erotic, with some partners one may cross over to the other and back again - and it is those partners' decision as to if, how and when that might occur. Long term mentoring and discipline may very well present the basis for more than just turning a sub's ass red and sore.

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I'm all for it. :D Things have definitely changed around here. Some time back I had an erotic piece I'd written taken down & basically got run out of here for mistakenly believing there was room for that aspect on this site

I'm one of those Tops/Mentors/Disciplinarians who prefers to keep things orderly and separate. I spank for disciplinary reasons, and not erotic ones. However, and this is a large "however"............notwithstanding mine or anyone else's preferences, there is a place in this site for those like starcrossd and many others, who DO seek out and enjoy the application of spankings for erotic pleasure. It would be folly to deny that the buttocks are an erogenous zone. While both my subs and myself keep our erotic desires separate from our spanking activities, we are honest enough with each other to admit that the potential is there. Just as in spanking itself - which is an activity chosen and agreed to by consensual adults - erotic and arousing activity, attached to spanking, is equally a matter of choice.

Keeping the existing topic and threads in order and free of salacious crud is a community effort. I feel we are in agreement that graphic details need never be posted. All we need do is click on the report button to advise a Moderator, should any particular posting descend into more detail than is needed.

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I haven't anything against the erotic side. And I didn't say anything about the site becoming a porn site. It is a matter of being overwhelmed by erotic spankers, some whom feel the claim of non sexual spanking is simply another erotic fantasy.

There are SO many sites supporting the erotic side. They have the base to support both.

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i find it very helpful to know that spankings can be given for many different reasons. Personally i do need punishment and emotional healing spankings but i have also found spankings to be stimulating and yes have caused orgasms. Its important to know what being spanked is all about and on all levels it can affect you.

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It is a matter of being overwhelmed by erotic spankers, some whom feel the claim of non sexual spanking is simply another erotic fantasy.

There are those individuals who may use the impersonal avenue of online communication between strangers as an unsuspecting entry point to further satisfy & explore their own sexual needs as an ulterior motive . Correct. It can be overwhelming. On the flip, there are female spankees who also use spanking for the same purpose. Consensual activity through preference is acceptable. Minimize the potential conflict through Research, Communicate, then Verification to establish a good fit.

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